Qian Zhongshu In the book " Besieged City ",
There is a passage about the love of an old man, which is very realistic:
If you are a teenager and reach the age of returning to your mind, you may love you as stupid as crazy again.
The old man is in love and is said to be like an old house on fire, and it is impossible to save him when he is burned.
Compared with young people’s extramarital affair, they have to hide and fear of being discovered.
The old men cheated on each other, and seemed to be more "shameless" and didn't care what the people around them thought.
Even if things are causing a lot of trouble, they insist on continuing to cheat. What do these old men think?
The extramarital emotional case of an old man handled by the Blue Party before can reflect a lot of the psychology of cheating on a man.
In this case, the cheating man and his original wife are both in their sixties, and their grandson is already in elementary school.
Because the son and daughter-in-law both go to work, the child is taken care of by the old couple.
Usually the original wife is responsible for cooking at home, and the cheating man goes to school to pick up and drop off the child.
It was when I was picking up and dropping off, I met my grandmother at the child’s deskmate and started an extramarital affair with Sunset Red.
This old and third husband has just passed away less than three years ago, and the relationship between the two has been not very good.
plus the few years after the mistress passed away, she felt uncomfortable and her temper became worse.
So the person is gone, and the mistress is relieved and starts to let herself go.
I feel that I have suffered most of my life and I don’t have to compromise myself anymore.
Even if the children disagree, she will go on blind dates one by one.
is still in his own community, and he has an ambiguous relationship with the old man dancing square dance with him.
The point is that the old man's wife is still there, although she has not cheated in a substantial way.
But when the old man's wife finds the mistress's daughter, her daughter is also embarrassed.
Finally, in order to make the mistress do something, don’t always think about the useless ones, so that she will be taken to her home.
thinks about picking up and dropping off the child and helping with housework. If you are busy, you won’t have any trouble.
Unexpectedly, something happened. This shows that people who want to be mistresses and cheat cannot bear it.
Once you have this idea, no matter how people around you find a way to control them, they will always find opportunities.
And the sunset love between the two people can't stop once they start, and they are extremely passionate.
even went to check in a hotel, not far from the child's school.
As a result, I was caught by an acquaintance. After taking a photo, the original wife learned about this extramarital affair. After
was discovered, the cheating man and the man were unwilling to break up. In order to continue, the mistress moved out of her daughter's house.
rented a house in the original wife's community to facilitate a tryst with the cheating man.
The cheating man also said that he and his mistress had a true relationship and he also quarreled to divorce his original wife.
The original wife told Lan Fang that she was not reluctant to part with that "old thing".
, but I can’t afford to lose this person. The mistress doesn’t care about her children, and she doesn’t care about how her grandson will behave in school in the future.
She can't ignore it, so she wants to deal with this matter in a low-key manner, so she can break up with the cheating man and the mistress.
I didn’t expect that the man who cheated was unwilling to do so. She couldn’t figure out what the man who cheated was thinking.
This cheating man is 60 years old and still cheats, and is still so passionate. It is mainly caused by these three psychology.
The first kind of psychology, compensation psychology.
Many old men cheat on each other out of compensation. Who should I compensate for
? Of course, he was compensated for himself, feeling that he had suffered so many years of grievances.
To be honest, most of the older generation live a hard life, and most of the time they get married is working to make money, support their families, raise children, and adopt parents. Most of the wives married by
are not because of love, but through blind dates, because of the right fit.
will naturally feel wronged. When you reach the age of not needing to think about others, you will start to want to compensate yourself.
cheating on the mistress, experience love, obey your own ideas, and ignore others, is a way to compensate them.
The second mentality is to give up.
Many cheating old men like to say this when they are persuaded by women to end their extramarital affair.
"How many years can I live, what reputation do I care about?"
At this age, they can clearly feel that their bodies are constantly aging.
They are constantly moving towards death, and they feel that they are already a broken jar.
cheating can make them feel passion and more vitality.
So even if they are discovered, they will hold it. It will not be worse than doing nothing. This is the idea.
will prompt them to continue their extramarital affair, not afraid of what others say, it is already a broken can, not afraid of you falling and beating.
The third type of psychology, revenge mentality.
A man in his sixties has been married to his wife for thirty or forty years, and has definitely been a long-standing grudge.
are all couples who have been together for ten years, and they will have tens of thousands of times, and they will have the urge to strangle each other to death.
So couples who have been in their thirties and forty years have countless urges to strangle each other.
The source of cheating is the resentment that the cheating man thinks is the resentment buried in his heart for many years.
Their extramarital affair may not be enjoying the passion of the elderly, but may just be to retaliate against the original wife.
I want to see the original wife regret it, but I am not good enough to them, just to see the original wife in pain.
So how can a sixty-year-old man cheated on him, how should he solve his extramarital affair?
The best way is to drag it, don’t worry about it for the time being, and indulge it for a while.
Because of this age, the relationship between a cheating man and a mistress can easily fade.
In addition to the original wife's obstruction and the children's opposition, there is actually nothing that can stimulate the relationship between the two people to go further.
Two people will be out of breath when they take two extra steps and cannot have any romantic dates.
Even if you go to live together, one will do housework and the other will watch TV. At most, you will have similar interests and choose a square dance.
But do they dare? They will just hide in the room and live the same boring old age life.
Because I broke up with my children, I couldn’t even enjoy the joy of family.
No one stops it, only the ordinary life of two elderly people can torture them even more.
They will choose to break up and end their extramarital affair by themselves.
Finally, Lan Fang wanted to say that the sixty-year-old man cheated on him, and it was indeed like an old house was on fire and it was hard to extinguish it.
But the same is true for the passion of a sixty-year-old man, like an old house with nothing to burn.
Not long after, the rest of the wood was burned out and it would naturally stop.
If you encounter an extramarital affair and don’t know what to do, you can follow the Blue Party and send a private message to talk about your situation.
I am Lan Fang, an emotional mentor who tells the truth and does practical things.
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