Can psychological counselors beat children too? of course!
I beat my son once when he was four years old
because he sprinkled flour all over the living room. I saw my blood pressure soaring, and shouted and rushed forward and slapped him hard without saying a word. I could feel each stroke raised high and falling heavily, and at that moment I was simply blown up.
After a while, I calmed down, and then I began to reflect: "What happened just now , why did I hit the child?" Looking at the pile of psychological materials in front of my desk, I couldn't help but smile bitterly.
After a while of reflection, my mind cooled down. I quietly pushed open the door and saw that the young man was cleaning seriously.
I quickly walked up, touched the child's head and said, "Look, my father also has unreasonable times and has a bad temper. I just saw you sprinkle flour and was so angry that I rushed over and beat you."
My son heard me say this, tears flowed out. While making gestures and gestures, he said to me, "I sprinkled a little from the beginning. I wanted to clean up, but I didn't expect that the more I cleaned up."
My son felt even more guilty when he said this. We adults often take it for granted that children will only cause trouble and will only cause trouble for themselves. However, we have never thought that it is very likely that children’s original intention is not like this. Sometimes the consequences seem to be bad, but the starting point of children is good .
You may ask: "Even psychological counselors can beat children, so what's the use of learning psychology in ?" In fact, understanding some psychology knowledge cannot guarantee that we will not make mistakes, nor can we become the "perfect parents" in the eyes of others, but it can help us reflect and remedy in time after realizing that we have made mistakes.
Whether in parent-child relationships or in intimate relationships, we will experience some setbacks. These setbacks will not only not hurt each other, but on the contrary, they will make this relationship more bearable and vital. Whether in the eyes of children or in the eyes of lovers, the real you are always more important than the perfect you .
Author: Teacher Shuhui
A practical psychological counselor who concentrates on counseling
A non-famous psychological counselor who does not act in front of the client,
But you can be a psychological counselor who can be used to be a gem
A psychological counselor who often has some weird theories,
But you will penetrate into your heart a non-famous psychological counselor
In short, it is a psychological counselor who is the most unlike a psychological counselor.
(accepts ground & network video consultation)
Author | Shuhui
Edited | Qingyu
Picture source online, the copyright of the picture belongs to the original author
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