This is a past that I have never mentioned or wanted to mention. It is buried in the darkest place deep in my heart, but I suddenly want to uncover this scar with my own hands
In the past two days, I saw an 11-year-old girl who was misunderstood and couldn't bear the pressure. Finally jumping off the building to prove her innocence. I also saw that a boy from junior high school was charged for protection and was beaten to kneel down and begging for mercy. I couldn't calm down for a long time
I hope that as parents or those who are about to become parents, you can read this article seriously
I am a girl with physical defects from birth. When I was a child, I was really inferior because I was ugly. People around me didn’t like me. In fact, this is the reality of this world. Even children like to play with good-looking people. When I was in junior high school at the age of 12, I was often ridiculed and bullied by the boys in our class. At that time, I was most afraid of getting off get out of class and taking physical education classes
Because after more than ten minutes of breaks during class, I was the focus of their entertainment. They often gathered together to laugh at me, and gave me various nicknames, and even the boys sat on the table. Call me "Ugly Girl"
When I was in physical education class, no one was willing to stand beside me. When the teacher lined up in the order of height and shortness, if a boy was forced to be with me, he would become the laughing stock of those boys
So in that half a year, I was basically crying every day, I was very afraid to go to school, I dare not live in the dormitory, even if I walked for nearly forty minutes, I would rather live in my aunt's house, walk for dozens of minutes every day to school
I often ask for leave but not to go to school, I have to take leave during my menstrual period, and I have to take leave wherever I feel uncomfortable, and I have to take leave. I have to not go to school. I didn't have to cry
Later, I really didn't dare to go to school, and I didn't dare to tell my family the reason. I dropped out of school on the grounds that I didn't want to study
my parents had no choice but to agree to stay at home and not go to school. I won't talk about what happened later
Actually, I want to say that those days were really hard. When I was a teenager, when I had the strongest self-esteem, I would really be covered in my heart once I encountered these things. This is why the 11-year-old girl was eventually forced to jump off the building?
Back to the topic, I want to say that as parents, we must pay attention to the physical and mental health of our children, especially after the child goes to junior high school, and we must communicate with our children in time. Even if it is a small matter that happens to the child in school, we must pay attention to
, just like that 11-year-old girl. If her parents knew about this earlier, communicated with the child in time and helped the child solve the problem, it would not cause tragedy
, many of our parents do not pay attention to the physical and mental health of their children. In order to make money, many parents make their children left-behind children, some adolescent children begin to become extreme and withdrawn
I know you will definitely say, what can you use to raise children without money? Those things are just special cases and will not happen to me
Indeed, money is very important, no one will ever think that money is not important, but what is the purpose of making money? It’s not just to make parents and children live well, to create a better material foundation for children
I actually oppose a fluke mentality, just like Tesla’s out of control has many lessons, but some people still think they will be the lucky one, just like not long ago, Jimmy Lin got into a car accident because of Tesla got out of control. This time someone got into a car accident because of Tesla’s out of control
so some people always have a fluke mentality until When things happen to you, there is no room for regret, so we cannot always ignore many problems. One day, you will become someone else in the mouth, right?
So as parents, we must learn to pay attention to changes in children's thoughts and behaviors, clear and adjust in time. Even if we are working outside, we can call our children every day to ask what happened to them every day. How to deal with these things
In fact, each of us survives in the world and encounters some unfairness. Things and evil people
We cannot ask the world to treat us fairly, we can only cultivate a strong heart to deal with the unfairness and evil in this world
After I encountered these things that year, I took a leave of school for a year. Later, by chance I went to school again. Because of these mistakes, I met my current husband, had a beautiful relationship and then successfully got married. Now a family of three is an ordinary but very happy life
Because I have experienced it, So I will work hard to become a qualified mother, pay attention to my daughter's physical and mental health
I can't help her avoid the ugliness of this world, but I will tell her how to face it. I think this is the best secret to pass the level as parents
Finally, I want to say to those who are as unpretentious as me, have physical defects and inferiority complexes: Each of us is an apple that God has bitten. The reason why we have defects is because God particularly prefers us, so we bite it hard and live a good life. You deserve the best everything!
