When I was a child, I learned a poem in a Chinese textbook, Pushkin 's "If Life Deceives You". "If life deceives you, don't be sad or anxious! You need to be calm in melancholy days." When I was mechanically endorsed, I realized that "there is a beauty in the book", which connotates simple and substantial truths.
The one who can calm down in melancholy days is an amazing person, such as Li He, the eldest son of Li Shuangjiang .
Li Shuangjiang's son
When it comes to Li Shuangjiang, you can almost instantly think of a word "no security in the evening". But Li Shuangjiang's "unpreparedness for his later years" is not because of himself, but because of his son Li Tianyi . Although Li Tianyi's scandal seems to have passed after many years, how could the Internet have no memory?
After Li Tian's accident, Li Shuangjiang's figure running around for his son was both sad and angry.
Li Tianyi is Li Shuangjiang's youngest son, and Li Shuangjiang and his beloved will have a child late. Li Shuangjiang was spoiled for this son. As long as the son wanted, Li Shuangjiang held everything he wanted, so Li Tianyi was spoiled so much. But if you do something wrong, you have to pay the price for it, so Li Tianyi was also subject to legal sanctions.
In fact, many people don’t know that Li Shuangjiang has two sons.
Li Shuangjiang's eldest son is Li He. As we all know, Li Shuangjiang has two marriages, yes, Li He is the son of Li Shuangjiang and his ex-wife. Li Shuangjiang's ex-wife is named Ding Ying and is a dancer. Their union is a standard sister-brother relationship, because Ding Ying is 5 years older than Li Shuangjiang, but they fail to grow old together.
Father's love is not only missing in childhood
When Li Shuangjiang and Ding Ying divorced, they were already household names who sang the Spring Festival Gala stage. Ding Ying's remarks such as Li Shuangjiang were also infinitely amplified because of the gap in their careers, but what everyone doesn't know is that their roles were originally reversed.
When Li Shuangjiang and Ding Ying met Wei, however, only Li Shuangjiang was the only one who "wei". Ding Ying was born in an art family in Xinjiang. His family has a deep foundation in Xinjiang and is not comparable to that of the poor boy Li Shuangjiang. When they first met, it was Li Shuangjiang who beat Ding Ying.
Later, Li Shuangjiang and Ding Ying fell in love. Relying on the support of Ding Ying's family, Li Shuangjiang made great progress in work, and they naturally entered the marriage hall. I thought the birth of "love crystallization" would make this relationship stronger, but it is obvious that there is love between Li Shuangjiang and Ding Ying, but not much.
Li He has lived a life without his father since childhood. He seems to be used to having only one mother in life, but the child's self-esteem is always easily hit. He will also think: Why can't my father be by his side like other children's fathers?
Li Shuangjiang is undoubtedly selfish. He left his wife and children in Xinjiang and went to Beijing to work hard on his career alone. It can be seen that Li Shuangjiang's family was not ranked first in his heart at that time. Perhaps Ding Ying has seen through the cold and cold world over the years and people's hearts seek benefits, but Li He lacks fatherly love at a young age, which is a lifelong regret for him.
Until the news of his parents' divorce came, Li He seemed to be relieved. He felt sorry for his mother for many years and it seemed that it would be fine if it ended.
Parents are not divorced in a fashion and father and son are not close. Li He's lack of fatherly love after his parents' divorce seems to be even more for sure. The identity of father disappeared for many years in Li He's life.
Choose calmness in melancholy days
Many parents are worried that divorced children will be affected and their personality development is not sound, so they will persist even if the marriage is in name only. Little do you know that good family education can allow children to view marriage correctly and still establish a correct outlook on life. For example, Ding Ying educated Li He very well.
Li He went abroad, staying away from the troubles caused by his family, and embarking on the road of studying. After returning to China, Li He became more calm and low-key.Perhaps it was because Li Shuangjiang had been absent from Li He's life for too long, and Li He didn't bother to use the banner of "Li Shuangjiang's son". With his own efforts, he was successfully admitted to the Beijing General Political Department Song and Dance Troupe.
Li He finally embarked on the path of art like his parents, but changed his identity as his parents in front of the stage and became behind the scenes. He will implement the four words of calmness and low-key throughout his work, and his reputation in the industry will be getting better and better.
This son, who is not valued by Li Shuangjiang, has transformed into a wonderful appearance that Li Shuangjiang could not have expected.
The most difficult thing to give up relatives
Li Shuangjiang is now old, and the accident of his youngest son Li Tianyi has hit Li Shuangjiang hard. At this time, Li He's appearance undoubtedly brought Li Shuangjiang new vitality.
Li He took the initiative to take care of his father, and Li He also took good care of his stepmother. Li He and Li Tianyi are half-brothers. If you want to say how deep the relationship is, it may not be possible. What can make Li He stand up at this moment is the relationship that cannot be given up with his father and the not-so-deep relationship.
When Li Shuangjiang became ill due to Li Tianyi's incident, it was Li He who was taking good care of him in front of the bed, and it was Li He who comforted his father over and over again and again to cheer up in the difficulties. Li He did not resent his father that only had his younger brother but no himself. He still looked at the world with kindness, which shows that Li He was really well-educated.
Li He's mother Ding Ying may know Li He's desire for fatherly love and his complex feelings for his father Li Shuangjiang than anyone else. So Ding Ying did not stop Li He from taking care of his father and even his stepmother, which shows that Ding Ying is a woman with a strong ambition and pattern. No wonder Li He grew up so well.
Family education is the basis of growth
Contemporary society, "volume" seems to have become a weather vane. Parents were afraid that their children would lose at the starting line, so they enrolled their children in various classes since childhood. Although it is a bit harsh, it is also a means for parents to cultivate their children's abilities. But good education is much more than that.
Good education must not only be cultivated in ability, but also be instilled in morality. There are also reasons why ideological and political education can become the mainstream. Morality is the basic guiding idea for a person to behave in society. It is difficult for people with misconduct to behave properly. Li Tianyi is a negative example.
In contrast, Li He faces many problems while growing up, but he can find an outlet in adversity, spend his energy on serious places, and eventually become a person who contributes to society and supports his family.
It is not difficult to see how important the importance of family education is in the child’s life.