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As the saying goes, " disease enters from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth."
Whether a person can speak directly affects his future and destiny.
Smart people don’t know how to say these three words.
Don’t say complaining
Psychological research points out that people who often complain will gradually change their brain structure, forming deep-rooted thinking habits, and finally becoming a "chronic complainer".
People who have long complained, the nerves responsible for problem-solving and cognitive functions in the hippocampus area of the brain will be damaged, and people's memory and adaptability will be reduced.
Your habits determine your destiny!
In the book "The World Without Complaint", the author introduces a kind of fish called " blind-eyed fish ".
There are several varieties of so-called "blind-eyed fish". Adult blind-eyed fish are five inches long and have almost no color, and only one of all varieties has eyes.
So, why do most species of blind fish have no eyes?
According to scientists' speculation, it may be because of changes in mainland plates or waterways many years ago, they were trapped in caves and could only survive there.
Because the cave is very dark, blind-eyed fish cannot see anything. After a long period of adaptation, these fish gradually adapt to the life of the cave.
can protect the color of the fish from the sun, and gradually retreats. In the darkness, the eyes gradually lost their effects.
When a person no longer uses his brain to solve things, he is used to complaining, just like a "blind-eyed fish", he loses its eyes and color.
Complaints are the poison of a happy life.
complaining may give you a temporary vent of your emotions, but it cannot solve any problem.
If you are unlucky, you may complain and cause more trouble to yourself.
As the saying goes, one thought is heaven, one thought is hell.
There are more than one side of life. When you encounter setbacks or many difficulties, try to see the good side and then work hard to develop in a good direction.
Please remember: should never be a "blind-eyed fish" hiding in the dark, thus losing the glory that life should have.
Don’t talk about other people’s gossip
There is a saying:
"If you want to live happier and happier, you should fully inhale fresh air from your nose and always close your mouth."
Buddha said: You cannot say it, you cannot say it, and it is wrong to say it.
The disaster comes from the mouth, and no matter how many resentment and contradictions are, they cannot do without this "mouth".
My friend Xiao Li is doing sales at the unit and has good performance.
However, when he selected sales managers in the unit, he was the first in performance, but he was not selected.
It turned out that once I worked overtime at night, Xiao Li chatted with several colleagues about the sales manager's gossip, saying that the manager is a bit stereotyped. The incident of
later reached the manager's ears, and the manager had an opinion on Xiao Li.
Later, Xiao Li learned through others that the manager was going to leave the position of sales manager for him.
The ancients warned us that "three people become tigers". Don't say what you shouldn't say, because you will never know that others are enemies or friends.
Control your mouth, and you will control your career and keep your blessings.
Don’t say big talk
There is a German proverb:
"Those who speak big talk will never be a great practitioner."
big talk is easy to say, but things are difficult to do.
Once, Zilu talked about his hometown, Bian, and said there were two brothers there.
The boss shouted Bian Jing, the family is rich, but he is very stingy and treacherous.
Once, in order to deceive the servants into doing more, the boss said to them: "As long as you are willing to work hard for me, each person will be rewarded with 50 guan at the end of the year!"
As a result, the servant who worked hard for a whole year only got 5 guan.
The second child is Bian Wu, and he also likes to brag.
One day, he asked Old Man Liu in the spring and said to others: "Old man, in Bian, my courtyard is the largest. Standing at the door, I can't see the courtyard wall clearly. If your daughter marrys me, she will enjoy endless wealth and glory."
In fact, after Old Man Liu's inquiry, Bian Wu is actually a prodigal son.
After his parents passed away, he had basically lost all the property he had. Now, there are only three empty rooms left, not even a yard.
After talking about his hometown, Zilu asked the teacher Confucius :
"Some people are easy to talk big, but they don't fulfill their words or are not responsible. What does the teacher think about this?"
Confucius replied:
"If you don't say anything, it's difficult to do it."
means that it's even more difficult for people who are good at talking big.
In life, there are always some people who like to have a broad sky but are unwilling to do what they are at hand and fulfill their promises.
They live in the world weaving of lies and eventually tie themselves up in their own cocoon.
As a person, when his words and deeds are consistent, he will do what he says. Otherwise, if you lose your trust in others, you will not only lose your heart, but will also become a laughing stock for others in vain.
Being a human being, start with speaking well.
does not say complaining, does not gossip, or says nothing.
Being a person has a ruler and speaking in moderation. Although blessings have not arrived, misfortune has been gone.
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