"If I had known that you were a ghost, I should have strangled you to death when you were born."
This is cruel enough. Can you guess who said it?
This is what a student said to me more than 10 years ago, and it was his mother who said this.
"Your mom is so cruel? No, every time you make a mistake, the head teacher calls you and rushed over to cure you afterwards. Isn't it your mom? I seem to have never seen your dad before, and it is your mom who comes to the parent-teacher meeting every time, right?" I asked relentlessly.
"Teacher, you have observed it very carefully. My mother is just a sarcastic and slandered, but I won't listen to her nonsense." The tall and handsome guy who was indifferent to was saying with a smirk.
"That's right, fortunately you didn't listen to her nonsense, otherwise, there would be another unjust soul in this world." I said jokingly. What appeared before my eyes were those poor children who ran away from home or jumped from a high building from a bridge under the destruction of their parents' language.
Many parents think that I am your parents, I give you a gift and clothing, and I am not taking it for granted? They are not even afraid to speculate on their children with the worst malicious intentions, nor are they afraid to slander, insult them, ridicule or insult them with the most vicious language. They also call for giving their children more exercise to enhance their ability to resist setbacks.
It’s a pity that things went against your wishes. Under your long-term language violence, many children have been seriously violated and damaged mentally and psychologically. They are lonely, depressed and even committed suicide to express their anger and resistance towards their parents. In fact, no matter how capable and glorious parents are, if they fail in their children's education, the hope of a family will be gone. How can you be happy?
There is a little girl over four years old who always makes mistakes because she is too slow to do her homework and is always beaten and scolded by her parents. One day, she cried and said to her mother: "I don't plan to come to your house. I just came to see if this is suitable for me. If I had known this, I would not have come." After hearing this, the mother covered her face and was in pain. Only then did she realize how deeply the harm she had caused to the child.
It is true that "hoping your child to become a dragon, hoping that your daughter will become a phoenix" is the common wish of Chinese parents, but every child has his growth cycle. Isn't it good to accompany his children patiently and enjoy the happiness they bring to you? If the child makes a small mistake, you will curse or sarcastically. Can he accept it? Think from the perspective of others, if your boss treats you the same way, can you handle it?
It is fake to say that parents don’t love their children, but they think they are sounding the alarm for their children, but those who are quick to speak do not know that the harm of verbal violence to their children may be more serious than beating them. What's the point of regretting it when the disaster is caused?
"If you don't have such a cruel heart, don't say such cruel words." This sentence is not only suitable for parent-child relationships, but also for couples, friends, and even all interpersonal communication.
"I was really blind at the beginning and actually married you, bastard." After a woman quarreled with a man, she always left such a harsh word.
"You are not a good guy either. If I hadn't picked you up home, you would have been afraid that no one would have wanted you until now." The man did not show any weakness.
you and me, until the end of the fight, the woman was clamoring for a divorce. The man also wanted to save face and said, "If you leave, you will leave, who is afraid of whom."
However, when he arrived at the Civil Affairs Bureau, the man began to regret it. After all, this woman is a little ruthless, but she is good at housework. Men are always lazy and leave their wife, so they are afraid that there is no place to eat. So, I secretly called my buddy, so-called emergency rescue.
The woman originally wanted to scare her husband, but she didn't expect that this guy would actually come to the Civil Affairs Bureau with her. She didn't know what to do. Fortunately, her husband's buddy arrived in time.The other party seemed to have a layer of honey on his mouth, praising the woman heavily, and scolding the man fiercely. After all, the couple kept silent.
"It will be boring to act again." When the woman told me this story vividly afterwards, I was stunned and asked, "Are you saying true or false? Haven't your relationship always been good?"
"Why are you lying to you? It's just that family scandals should not be made public. I was embarrassed to tell you before, and you didn't know me at that time. Today I was having a happy chat with you and thought you could be told to you as a joke. After that, my husband and I never quarreled again." Feifei said shyly.
“是啊，没那么狠的心就别说那么狠的话。”我拍了怕她的肩膀，笑着说，“我倒觉得你和你老公还真是绝配。”
“是有不少人这么说”，菲菲朗声大笑，这才是她真正的本色。
The father of modern adult education in the United States Dell Carnegie once said: "If you are right, try to make the other party agree with you gently and skillfully; if you are wrong, admit it quickly and enthusiastically. This is much more effective and interesting than arguing for yourself."
