I have many guesses about wealth, assumptions, if, possible. I have also had a lot of insights and summary in the past two years. I have sorted out the things in my mind and don’t know if the answer is the correct one. I will write it down first.
At first, everyone's pursuit of wealth may be different, but in the end it seems that they are the same again.
At first I wanted, then I wanted, and finally I had endless desires.
Make money, make a lot of money. My initial purpose of making money was actually from my father. Before I was a rich man in the eyes of my relatives. After entering junior high school, my family gradually declined, and my dad never accepted this reality. He seemed to know, but he didn't want to know.
My dad is very proud of his appearance and likes to listen to nice flattering words the most. He graduated from the second grade of elementary school and made good money in the 1990s. In the popular saying now, if people cannot make money other than cognition, they will lose money by luck.
My father and brother and sister are 8. My family was the poorest in the past. My mother told me a lot about things like this, and no one talked about family affection with you at that time. After getting rich, the relatives gathered around, and they were full of family affection. The relatives needed help, the relatives needed care, and the love for each other. We were all a family. . . In the context of
, he inevitably stayed aloof, and all kinds of good-worry and flattering words made him feel that his family must be led by him to take off. He began to take on all his responsibilities, and he had to take care of everyone's affairs, or even forcibly. But kindness does not mean doing good deeds. In fact, no one in such a big family said good things, he has always been the role of the family sucker.
Gradually, in order to maintain the face in the family, my mother started to borrow money everywhere (my father wants face). Once my cousin got married, and the family only had a few hundred yuan. My mother went out to borrow a few thousand yuan and got together to give her gifts to her cousin. Of course, this gift must be given to the highest in the family, just to make others say that he has money and face.
The days of suffering from face and suffering have not lasted for long. I started working and came back every few years. After all, it may take several months or even a year of hard money to pretend to be face. In fact, relatives and friends all know that he has no money, but he himself thinks that others don’t know. I feel like Mr. Shu, pretending that I don’t know
Someone asked him to spend money and would say that he couldn’t afford it, so he could only choose a cheaper one. When it’s his turn to treat him, others will say that you must be different. If you have money, you don’t care, and you will do it according to the expensive ones. I know that my dad is so proud of his face, and I always hold his words against him like this, but in fact, I laugh at my dad behind my back.
Does my dad know? It seems to know. But I don't seem to know. Continue to go out to work, save money, come back to pretend to be face, and work again, which is a vicious cycle. Although I was young, I was not blind and witnessed his glory and embarrassment along the way.
During this period, another elder in the family was even more thorough than my father, and he went bankrupt and was in debt. Once, a relative contradicted me in front of everyone and asked me, the elder in public: Do you think you are still the same as before? ? At this time, I made up my mind that I could not let my dad get to this point. My dad couldn't stand it in his heart
When this elder was rich, I was still young, but I respected him very much from beginning to end. He hasn't come home for several years. Last month, he came back from another place for something. I made a special trip to treat him to dinner and told him that if you need help at home, I would call me. This is from my heart, because I really can't bear it when I look at his age.
He was a little uncomfortable, after all, relatives have been hiding from him over the years. Maybe I didn't expect that I was still the same as before, and before I left, I patted me and said: It's you. I understand what he means, I understand.
As a teenager, I can see my dad’s embarrassment, why doesn’t he understand? I tried to wake my dad up countless times, trying to tell him to see the reality clearly, but every time I failed. I told my mom, my mom will always say one thing, you are still young, you don’t understand.
At this time, I began to want to make money in my mind. The purpose at that time was actually quite simple, very simple. Making money allows my father to have face and not let others look down on him or play tricks on him. After all, as a son, I felt very uncomfortable.
I remember very clearly that one year during the Chinese New Year, my father gave his relatives a gift of 10,000 yuan, but that year he and I didn’t even have money to buy new clothes. He was wearing a green military coat. Someone asked him how he wore this? He said that nothing else is not as warm as this. I was embarrassed at the time. The next day, I couldn’t pay the insurance money for more than 400 yuan. I asked him if he had it? He sat on the sofa and lowered his head, holding it in for two minutes and told me that he had no money. . .
When I was in the first year of junior high school, my grades were among the top three in the school. But at that time, I was already thinking about making money and had no intention of going to school. At that time, the local housing price was only 2,000 yuan, but I often kept making thousands of dollars in my pocket, and I made it myself.
Slowly discover that small cleverness cannot change the fundamental problem by making small money. I began to look forward to the outside society and wanted to make a lot of money in big cities. I dropped out of school and went out to work in the second semester of the second semester of junior high school. Where can I go to the big cities? Shanghai! Going to his cousin in Shanghai.
I found a job in Shanghai to hold plates. It was 1,500 yuan a month. I just worked for a few days. One night, I won more than a thousand games with the chef. At that time, I was excited to call my dad and wanted to use more than a thousand to buy two foot baths for them. I saw it in the boss’s shopping magazine and happened to buy two for them (I was still reading shopping magazines at that time, unlike online shopping now).
My dad scolded me and doubted life.
How much money do you have?
Are you called money?
Can I count on you in my life?
Can I spend your money in this life? . . .
He may still be angry with me. After all, I suddenly dropped out of school due to good grades. I can understand
But at that time I scolded me for at least three years, and I couldn't bear it mentally, and the scolding broke down. I spent money in the past three years, and no one thought, because I felt that this little money was dispensable to my family. It's a daze and it takes at least three years to get out
Adults always say, don't worry about anything else, just go to school well. But how can the family situation not affect the children? In the family background at that time, to be honest, I couldn’t learn at all, so I just wanted to make money, make big money, and make big money quickly.
After making money in society, I gradually realized that my views on wealth began to be different.
I just started making money because I was trying my best to maintain my father’s face. I find ways to help all kinds of things in my family, but I can help but not, because the phone calls my dad. My dad gave me instructions that I should do it, and that I should do it with a sense of face and pomp.
During those two years, I was really tired and under a lot of pressure. I often drank a lot of wine alone at night, and no one said anything in my heart. Sometimes I tell my dad that it’s difficult, but my dad always says one thing: You’re difficult, you deserve it, don’t tell me. But at that time I really didn’t think about anything else, just thinking that I could make a living every day, and I made money just to give my dad a face!
9 I went back to my hometown to visit the grave during the Chinese New Year. Standing in front of my grandma's grave, I couldn't hold back my tears. I wanted to tell my grandma about the things I had been suppressed for so many years. I just had an idea in my heart, but I couldn't hold back. Everyone around me was stunned by crying, thinking that I had encountered a "person" when I went to the grave.
met several elder brothers in society. With their guidance and education, I gradually figured it out that my understanding of wealth is also changing. At this time, I began to realize that my previous thoughts were wrong.
Real ideas change should have been last year, during the Chinese New Year last year. My dad has arranged my itinerary full, and essentially pretending to be faced everywhere. I feel so tired and annoyed, why hasn't anyone understood me? No one asked me for my opinion, except for the instructions, and my dad's phone call arrived every day without waking up.
I told my wife that I will not give anyone any face in the future. I am too tired and no one has ever considered me. I will be myself in the future. I will treat whoever treats me well. If family affection is bound to me, I can no longer follow my father's old path.
The real freedom is to do nothing if you don’t want to do anything. I began to say no to my dad's face arrangement. He scolded me in front of his family, and my dad said, "The wings are hard, right?" Disobedient, right? I find you have been too arrogant in the past few years!
That day was the third day of the Chinese New Year, and this time my dad woke me up. I have been doing this for so many years before, and I have received this evaluation. To be honest, I was very upset. I drove the car and slapped myself dozens of mouths along the way, asking myself if I deserve it?
My wife kept pulling me. At this time, I looked at my wife. I figured it out and understood it completely. This is the person who loves you. You make money not for your dad's face. Make money to make better life for your family. You must know who is good to you.
I will be good to anyone who treats me well. I will no longer let other reasons kidnap me, because people who are truly good to you will understand and considerate you. He doesn't understand you, why do you have to consider him to compromise yourself?
But from the beginning to the end, I never really blamed my dad from the bottom of my heart, just because I felt sorry for them. After all, now they have to pay for his "face". I can't be as obedient as before.
People should figure out what the essence of pursuing wealth is? If you find that while pursuing wealth, you will be more tired and more uncomfortable. Just stopped and thought about it, is there something wrong?
Now I think that on the road to pursuing wealth, it should not be more tiring and harder. It should be happiness and willing to think it through. Because when you think that you can make money and make people around you live better, there is no hard work, only happiness, willingness, and even more motivated and more successful.
This is my original intention for wealth, and what I think is the essence of wealth now.
