Once had such a street interview:
Host: If you give you ten million, you will not touch a man in your life, would you like?
Interviewed: No! Not willing.
Obviously, is just a joke , but in a country like China with a long history of 5,000 years, the traditional concept of men and women affects every generation. Whether in ancient times or today's society, the concept of being married to women is still deeply rooted in , until a woman named Ye Haiyang appeared, breaking this secular concept in a certain sense.
bravely breaking a new path alone
In 2017, Ye Haiyang has already had a very successful career. At this time, her parents will no longer worry about her livelihood, and their attention will naturally be focused on getting married and having children. Because Ye Haiyang was 29 years old at this time, .
Once a woman reaches 30 years old, she is already at the age of worrying about marrying. In the face of her parents' nagging, Ye Haiyang also thought of finding a man who is good to him to marry, but none of the men she met really likes her. they only want to pay for money .
Until Ye Haiyang mustered up the courage to tell his parents about his idea of doing artificial insemination . After getting his parents' consent, he firmly boarded the plane to the United States.
After selecting an Ivy League graduate, , the sperm of a mixed-race man from four countries, , she sat on the operating table, and there was no anesthetic in the whole process. Ye Haiyang witnessed the small white thing entering her body.
Until December 16, 2017, A new life completely broke into her world .
She looked at the little life in front of her and shed tears of excitement. Because only she knows that in order to give birth to the little life in front of her, she has experienced many strange visions and external pressures. It was not until the moment the child was born that she realized that it was all worth it.
Most of the outside world's eyes focus not on how courage Ye Haiyang has to do such a thing, but why Ye Haiyang did this? She is not interested in men? or have you been deeply hurt by a man? Or have mental problems?
However, Ye Haiyang is not only mentally healthy but also extroverted, is also the successful person that most people desire to be .
Ye Haiyang grew up in Changchun, Jilin. There are no boys at home. Perhaps it is the decadent concept of favoring boys over girls. Ye Haiyang has been dressed as a tomboy since he was a child. In addition to her poor family, her parents instilled in her mind that she should study hard since she was a child, thus shaping Ye Haiyang's independent and strong character.
After graduating from university, Ye Haiyang began to live in a drift in Beijing. She was a fledgling cottage without funds and connections, so she could only live in a cheap basement. may be a prejudice against her neutral personality and dress-up . Ye Haiyang did not get a good development opportunity in Beijing.
But with a keen sense of smell, she accurately seized the business opportunities in Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai with the connections and resources she accumulated in Beijing, and established her own cosmetics factory. Her value in quickly exceeded tens of millions of . Ye Haiyang, who has always focused on his career, naturally does not have much emotional experience.
Ye Haiyang, like most successful people, after their career success, the material basis that money can satisfy is no longer her pursuit. At this time, she suddenly felt unprecedented loneliness. Like many people, she longed for a love and a family.
So Ye Haiyang began to devote her energy to love, but objectively speaking, whether it was Ye Haiyang's strong personality or neutral dress, she never met a man who truly loved her. Over time, she also began to numb , but in the face of the oppression of her physiological age and the urging of her parents, Ye Haiyang felt at a loss for the first time.
Until her male friend appeared, a road that had never been imagined unfolded towards her. The male friend was a single father who raised a daughter alone. Ye Haiyang once said in an interview that when his daughter said goodbye to him at the airport, her daughter said: "Mom, thank you for your hard work.”
This scene not only touched Ye Haiyang's heart, but became more determined to have a family. , but how to build a family without a partner? So the idea of artificial insemination came to her mind.
But in our country, only legal couples can undergo artificial insemination surgery . Ye Haiyang then went to the United States to spend a lot of money to perform the surgery, making herself a mother.
Facing the sarcasm on the Internet
The waiting process For Ye Haiyang, is undoubtedly a double torment of physical and mental , her weight grew from 120 kilograms to more than 180 kilograms. This terrifying weight and various physical discomforts made her anxious. During that time, she often wondered whether she could return to her former appearance after giving birth to a child.
Every time Ye Haiyang went to the hospital for prenatal check-up, the mother she saw when she entered and exited had a man with her. , she subconsciously looked at her empty side, and felt a little lonely inexplicably. Faced with the strange eyes she cast at her, she could only choose to escape. In the long run, she suffered from depression .
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s Doubt, will the child be born successfully without a father in ? How should the child tell her the fact that he has no father after he is born? Will his body become fat and yellow like most women? How will the people around him view themselves?
Various problems fill her mind all day long, but looking at her growing belly, she can only be responsible for her choice. It was not until God gave this gift to her that gift to her that that all these worries were solved.
Ye Haiyang sat on delivery bed and looked at her daughter, thinking of the small white dot at the beginning. Only then did she realize how great life is, and the maternal nature in her heart was also She was inspired to . She abandoned all her worries and just wanted to raise her own children well.
Ye Haiyang named her daughter Doris, means that her daughter is the best gift in her life .
Starting from January 14, 2018, that is, Doris just had just finished his month, Ye Haiyang continued to share her daily life with her daughter on Weibo, and witnessed Doris' growth with everyone. Although most netizens sent her blessings, , there were also many accusations and criticism messages.
For example, "How can a woman raise a child? It's too selfish to do this. , a child like this, must not be sound in his mind when he gives birth to ! "
" just to buy sperm just to want a child. It's too selfish to do this. "
" Such people have a lot of money and have nowhere to spend it. It is better to spend it on than to buy sperm to find a husband to marry . It is not possible without a man. "
These words with strong personal prejudice deeply hurt Ye Haiyang's heart , but fortunately, Ye Haiyang looked up and saw only the cute Doris, and the parents who understood and supported her. She became more determined in her inner thoughts. She wanted to give everything she could to the girl in front of her who called her mother.
The child who grew up in the watermelon
Ye Haiyang is not a person who is persistent in fantasy. Of course, she also considered that her daughter was growing up and saw that her friends around her not only had mothers but also fathers, and Doris would also be like all children , ask That question came up: Mom, where did I come from?
Ye Haiyang certainly can't tell her that you don't have a father, you bought it from your mother.
She once imagined that her father was in the army and was in foreign countries and had no time to go back to visit her, but Ye Haiyang thought about it and thought that this reason was just a deception and harm to the child.
There was a moment when Ye Haiyang was dominating his many choices in his life. The voice of self-doubt appeared in his heart for the first time. Did he do something wrong? But every time this time, her mind would think of the words "Mom, thank you for your hard work."
She thought, no one in this world stipulates that single women cannot raise children, and there is no such incomplete truth that life without a father is incomplete. She has heard stories from friends around her. There are many parents who are domestic violence and divorced due to emotional conflicts. Is their lives really beautiful and complete?
What Ye Haiyang can do is to give her a happy family. Since she can be a mother, she can be a father! She also imagined that one day, Doris said to herself, "Dad, thank you for your hard work." Then everything she suffered was worth .
Later, Ye Haiyang shared a picture online. In the picture, Doris stood in a huge hollowed-out watermelon, covered with watermelon seeds , and Ye Haiyang stood beside her. She once explained in an interview that the purpose of doing this is to take out this picture when Doris grows up, and when she asks her where she comes from, she will tell her that you are grown from watermelon.
The sentence is full of the bitterness and helplessness of a single mother. She can only face it with a smile like in the picture.
Great maternal love
Ye Haiyang's only hobby is extreme sports , but this kind of exercise is generally accompanied by certain risks. After having Doris, Ye Haiyang decided to give up this hobby under the persuasion of his family. The greatness of a mother is that she is willing to do anything for her children.
Doris likes the city of Shenzhen very much, so Ye Haiyang moved the company directly to Shenzhen. For a period of time, Ye Haiyang put down his work and took care of his daughter wholeheartedly. However, at this time, some unfriendly voices appeared on the Internet .
Someone commented that Ye Haiyang's approach was too doting Doris, and would train her to become a spoiled and rich-worshiping girl , but Ye Haiyang responded strongly, knowing how to educate children, and giving Doris different educational methods at the right time.
Not only that, Ye Haiyang will write a letter to Doris every once in a while . The contents of the letter include her life insights as a veteran, guidance on Doris' future life, and cultivation of Doris' moral concepts. She weaves a "creed" that will accompany Doris throughout her life in the most delicate and sincere language.
The most memorable thing is: "When you encounter something happy, I will hug you tightly; when you encounter something sad, I will hold your hand and cry; I will call you to help me get something for me; I will also care about what you want in your hand when you are so selfless that you will give it to me every time; I will ask you if you love me, and you will always answer "Ah" cleanly; you don't know what "love" is, you just know this I will be happy to answer it like this, slowly cultivate your ability to express love, and the satisfaction of being praised after helping others, and maybe you will get more unexpected things after sharing."
ye Haiyang did not use dogmatic words, but instead expressed his true feelings to Doris like face to face with friends, and told his love for Doris from an equal perspective.
Doris, a mixed-race family in the five countries, is not only healthy, but also looks very cute. Seeing the happy life video of the mother and daughter, I couldn't help but envy others.
On April 22, 2020, Doris, who was only three years old, stood on the stage of her first life, but her mother Ye Haiyang was unable to return to Shenzhen to watch her debut due to work. At first, Doris cried before going on stage to look for her mother.
Until grandma held her phone and opened the video communication with her mother, Ye Haiyang showed a happy smile on the other side of the phone to encourage Doris. It was not until Doris came on stage to finish the fashion week that Ye Haiyang couldn't help but shed tears of excitement .
Ye Haiyang once said in an interview that she did this to broaden her daughter's horizons and cultivate her hobbies. As the saying goes, raising children with poor children with rich children , Ye Haiyang did this in addition to giving her a wonderful life , but also wanted to enrich her life with a diverse world so as to avoid being deceived in the future.
In addition to living a happy life, Ye Haiyang also considered more things than before. She was sentimental and thought that if Doris was too lonely after she got old, decided to go to the United States to have a second child again. After discussing with Doris, Ye Haiyang followed her opinion and decided to add a little sister to her.
In 2021, Ye Haiyang bought the sperm of the same man. She believed that in a certain sense, the two children were considered sisters. Not long after, the second daughter was born successfully, and made the originally happy family even more lively.
Now Ye Haiyang and his daughter live an enviable life path, but exclusively owned by their own life.
Speaking of this, Ye Haiyang’s story is almost over. Although her story is wonderful and happy, everyone's life path is unreplicable. everyone has their own choice .
The world today is diversified, and marriage is the same. Some people choose dink , some people choose to follow the arrangements of their parents, and some people choose "couple-free childbirth" like Ye Haiyang, etc.
No matter what lifestyle you choose, you should follow your heart. Don’t just imitate it without considering realistic factors because you envy other people’s lives. Only the best is the best .
