(1)
Oriental families, especially those struggling on the poverty line, have a prominent feature;
The second child in the family has an older brother or sister above, and the younger brother and sister below;
is easily ignored by parents;
is the case whether in China, South Korea, or Japan.
Deshan in the Korean drama "1988" encountered such a bad luck;
was in debt because his father guaranteed others, and the family of five could only live in someone else's basement;
narrow, dark, messy, and old;
Paula is Deshan's sister, with excellent academic performance and the eldest, and is highly valued by his parents;
Yuhui is the third brother, Deshan's younger brother, although he does not have much ability, As the youngest child, he naturally gained the protection of his parents; when it was time for dinner, the eldest and the young could ask for poached eggs with confidence;
that tone was like saying something ordinary, revealing the taste of being taken for granted;
mother prepared poached eggs for the two without any complaints;
but pushed sauce beans to Deshan;
seemed to be telling Deshan: Deshan is good, the sauce beans belong to you;
Deshan was stunned...
Home eat fried chicken, and the two chicken legs must be for the boss and the young;
Only chicken wings are Deshan;
The parents seem to be nothing, which is natural, but Deshan is furious;
But no one pays attention to her anger.
sister Paula is unwilling to be strong because she is good at studying and will not let go of everything;
virtue and kindness are so angry that the two have a fight;
parents, but the younger brother doesn't say a word, and walks away silently without stopping;
lets the two settle themselves;
whoever is stronger will win whoever is.
Parents have never stood on a fair standpoint and presided over justice for Deshan;
Whether it is eating, dressing, or being fair.
and even, when the gas leaked at home, the parents each carried one, but they missed Deshan;
and others ran out of the house, and the couple was so tired that they were gasping on the ground, but no one thought of the forgotten Deshan;
it seemed that she did not exist in this home;
Deshan finally climbed out of the house by herself.
Finally, the unbearable Deshan exploded;
used anger, crying and hoarseness to tell their parents about their injustice, their dissatisfaction and grievances;
She also likes chicken legs, poached eggs, and ice cream;
She should not only eat soy beans at a time;
She also wants birthday cake , which belongs only to her own birthday cake;
Don't wait until next year, next year and next year, and it will never be realized;
Don't celebrate your birthday with your sister;
is now, eat your own birthday cake;
...
(2)
Parents of poor families may not be intentional;
resources are limited and there are many children, so they are uneven in the division;
But even if it is unintentional, partiality and injustice are facts.
When you cannot have both fish and bear's paw, you can only choose one;
is ignored, the person who is sad inside.
is just like in " Tangshan Earthquake ", as a mother, Li Yuanni, regards a pair of fetal children, sister Xiaodeng and younger brother Xiaoda as their palms and backs; the
earthquake came, Xiaodeng and Xiaoda were pressed under the same floor slab; no matter which one they wanted to save, they had to give up the other; the
rescue staff asked Li Yuanni who they wanted to save?
Li Yuanni is contradictory, painful, heart-wrenching, and unwilling to face this problem;
but still has to make a choice;
weak Li Yuanni finally chose the weak and sickly Xiaoda. The choice of
shocked Xiao Deng, who was still pressed under the floor, and his mother abandoned herself...;
became a scar that Xiao Deng, who survived by chance in the future, could not be erased in his life.
(3)
Uncle doesn't care, grandma doesn't love;
The frustration brought by a bowl of water from parents is enough to follow a person's life;
follows like a shadow, always entangled and always be resentful;
experiences spiritual blows all the time.
Should the second child be ignored?
As parents, you need to serve a bowl of water evenly;
only two chicken legs, and three children;
Then this time the boss is the old snack;
Next time the second child is the old snack;
chicken legs take turns to eat;
chicken legs also have times when the second child is the old snack, and don’t always be the old snack.
No good or good things have their own share, and even the kindest people will feel resentful.
As parents, we must uphold justice;
is obviously one that is too strong and the other is bullied, so we must directly stop it;
is also fair to the world.
instead of covering your ears up in the face of a few children’s fight, it has nothing to do with yourself.
Parents cannot actively maintain fairness. Those who are strong will be stronger, and those who are wronged will be more aggrieved.
People who are ignored should speak out in time;
Even if it is not for the purpose of regaining fairness, they should speak out in time so that people around them will notice that they have been ignored;
has grievances and injustice, and learn to express themselves;
even if they do not return to justice, at least let others know the right and wrong.
When a person uses crying, grief, anger, and roar to vent his emotions, she has been suppressed for too long; if
doesn't vent, she will get sick.
When De Shan used crying to express his grievance and dissatisfaction, his father bought her a new birthday cake;
bought her ice cream and new sneakers;
although it is not a famous brand, it was bought specifically for her;
Dad apologized to De Shan for his negligence.
(4)
The neglected second child in the family can only survive in lack of love, grievance, depression, and struggle?
Injustice and humiliation can destroy a person and make him/her a person;
Whether it is the eldest, second, third, fourth, or fourth;
If he/she is treated unfairly, the way out is still lies with you.
Instead of asking others to change to adapt to themselves, it is better to change yourself and strive for fairness;
grow under pressure, become tenacious and strong inside, and reverse unfair treatment;
regain your own rights, resources, and dignity;
This world does not respect the weak, only respect the strong;
weak people are weak, criticize injustice with victims, and people around you avoid it;
strong people are always strong, attract resources with strong people, and people around you are afraid of missing it;
The unfairness today is an opportunity for life reversal;
makes good use of setbacks and blows, which is an opportunity to achieve oneself;
cannot use it, and it will be difficult to move forward, which is to destroy your bad luck.
Life only has the excitement of coming out, no glory of not going on;
Good luck, bad luck;
Opportunities, dilemmas;
convert each other and strengthen each other;
’s own choice brings the ultimate destiny.
(Author: Han Feng, Master of Business Administration, East China Normal University/Lyon Business School, French Lyon Business School, Human Resources Director of European and American Enterprises. If you read this article and want to tell me your thoughts, please leave me a message)
