Have you noticed that some friends are not very wealthy, but they are rushing to pay when they go out for dinner with their friends. Is it for the sake of face or to make people fat? In fact, this type of people are mostly inferior in their bones, but their self-esteem is too strong, so they habitually rush to pay for the order, for fear that their friends will be called stingy by their friends. The more they lack confidence in their financial resources, the more they are worried about being looked down upon, so they use generous and generous order grabs to hide their inner disconfidence. As the saying goes, they make up for whatever they lack, maybe it is the weakness in human nature.
I have a good friend. My family has an annual income of 120,000 yuan. Before getting married, my family bought a car house, so there is no loan. It should be said that life is very good. But until now, my parents are still providing support for the daily expenses of the family. Car insurance premiums, parking fees, water, electricity and gas networks, and building management fees are all contracted by my parents. The couple usually buys more than 1,000 clothes and don’t blink. They have to travel around the world every few months. would rather save money for two or three months, and spend 10 times the price of clothes to buy a bag worth over 10,000 yuan and post it to Moments. is always a Yulexuan package for $999. Later, her father got sick in China, and the couple couldn't even get 10,000 yuan, so they just rely on our friends to help her raise money and send it home.
Actually, there are many people around us who overdraw their salary for several months for a package. Looking through their circle of friends, they all have a bright and beautiful life. Those who don’t know think they are successful people. In fact, their pockets are empty and they have to pay a bunch of credit cards every month. Eating dirt is the norm. If I ask me, I would rather not have this kind of exquisite life accumulated by spending credit cards.
I remember when we were still in school, I especially admired a view that "Money is not saved, money is earned, and only those who can spend money can make money." But later I realized that we humans have to face reality after all. The reality is that you are an extremely ordinary person, without a wealthy family, without high education, high ability, and no good luck to get rich overnight. You are an ordinary person, and you have to bow your head for a few dollars of rice. When we begin to face and accept our ordinary self calmly, we are on the way up.
I once worked in loan economy for a while. A young international student in his 20s met a girlfriend online and came to me for private loans. When I asked about the purpose, he actually said that he was buying bags and watches for his girlfriend to give birthday gifts. The monthly income of working was only more than 1,000. After some reason, he decisively refused. The money was good, but it was really difficult to repay. Irrational consumption was really not advisable. Actually, I especially cannot understand the boyfriend who buys gifts for his girlfriend on the Internet, and what kind of loans to buy bags for his girlfriend? I think if the girlfriend receives the gift, I will feel uneasy. It’s not because I don’t like expensive and good gifts, but because I think buying gifts must be based on my own ability.
There is another type of person who is a person with clear goals. This type of person generally has no money, but has a clear life goal. Therefore, sometimes he would rather borrow money to live, and he would try his best to enter some circles and accumulate some connections. I have a friend who is short of money, but he has to fulfill his superior's wish even if he borrows money (helps the boss to get tickets to the black pink concert at a high price). After a few days, he got a special position. Many people misunderstand poor people. Such poor and generous people seem to suffer losses. In fact, they understand human nature and know how to give up and gain. The ancients said that if you want to give up, you will gain only by giving up. It seems that what you give up is some tangible assets of money and property. In fact, what they get is connections and resources. What they get is not to show off their face, but to consider paving the way for their future with a purpose.
There is another kind of person who is true temperament. This type of person has a generous personality and is generous. They generally have no idea about money and material things. They just think that you are my friend, so I am generous to you.But I hope everyone understands that when you are thirty, please put away your generosity, otherwise you will become more and more tired as you live. Once you are generous and enthusiastic, it will only make others think that you are stupid and have more money, and no one will remember your goodness. You should know that the cheapest thing in the world is the penniless sincerity and the tenderness of accomplishing nothing.
