This article "What is the phenomenon of fake only daughter in ? After was released, it caused a certain sensation and suddenly proposed a concept that many people ignored. This article is an enhanced version, with one word difference.
We know that the difference between only children and others is actually the main two points:
1) Enjoy all the resources and support at home alone;
2) bear the obligation to support parents alone 100% .
This world is flat. In a word, no one snatched you when he was a child, and no one shared the burden with you when he was old. Whether
is an only child, according to my extensive data analysis and case summary, it has a very big impact on the priority order of career paths.
For example, for only children, the order of choice of career paths is roughly as follows:
[A] Inside the hometown system > [B] Outside the big city system, high wages > [C] Inside the big city system > [D] Outside the hometown system, .
However, once you become a fake only child, it is similar to the situation of a large number of siblings in the family. It should be the following career choice order:
[B] Outside the big city system > [C] Inside the big city system > [A] Inside the old city system > [D] Outside the old city system .
Just during the epidemic in the first half of 2022, I still had several only children’s apprentices in the workplace. They planned and had already switched jobs from small cities to Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, Shenzhen, Hangzhou and Jiangsu. In fact, the main reason is that after struggling in a small city for several years, he and she found out that he was a fake only child.
However, although many people are only children, their parents are not willing to give them too much material or even emotional support, and they also ask them for wages, money, pension commitments, etc. very well.
Don’t care about or evaluate such parents, after all, this is the first time we are parents.
But if you are in this situation, you should distinguish your situation. If you should take action, you should come out. If you should fight, you should strive. Don’t use the title of only child to force yourself to add any benefits, reputation or advantages in the marriage and love market.
In fact, once parents divorce, this person is not an only child, at least he is also an ex-only child. Because you have a child after marriage, parents cannot help you in the form of an old couple. Whether they are helping you take care of your child or supporting you to buy a house, they both have centrifugal power. Some parents even don’t take care of their grandchildren because of divorce.
Let’s take a look at it and ask specific questions.
"Hello Brother You! Only children, parents from rural areas. No pension. Is it better to buy insurance for parents? My mother remarries, and her stepfather has insurance after demolition. I discussed with my mother, and she said she would go to the nursing home for 2,600 a month.
My father is in the countryside. He and his late wife have a sister. He is still at work and says he is giving money to his children. I am also worried about how to support them in the future. Please give me some advice. Thank you. "
The more the parents give their children the less love and money support they support. Instead, the more they are eager to ask for benefits after their children work, forcing their children to even "fake only children" to give themselves money, gifts, pensions, commitments, and even giving up the guarantee of their inheritance. In this case, I think it is obviously not an only child, but she thinks she is an only child and doesn’t know who defined her. She is still worried about her father, mother and even her stepfather, and her mother is already hinting that she will spend 2,600 yuan a month to support her.
Dad's side, at least there is an older sister in my hometown, who is also your father's biological daughter. The older sister will take care of her father's retirement. It is better to make more money to be more confident and filial.
There are many cases, and one more one, this one is even worse.
It’s not that you can’t be filial to your post-parents, but you can’t take care of yourself, and you are not the only daughter. I told her clearly, although I didn’t say too much.
If you have similar situations, don’t treat yourself as your only child, and you must work harder than others. From a material perspective, some benefits that are not even as enjoyed by orphans have to bear huge responsibilities that exceed the only child, and they must also recognize the situation.
I wish all group friends and readers a prosperous career!
