: Having children will face the problem of getting married. During school, parents are strictly wary of their children's early love. When he entered university, he found that his child had insufficient emotional intelligence and could not make a girlfriend. After graduating from college, parents became anxious and took their children's basic information to go to major marriage and dating platforms for blind dates.
However, in the marriage and love market, it is not difficult for us to find girls from rural areas who are not willing to find girls from rural areas, and even girls with high appearance or high education cannot be avoided. What exactly causes this phenomenon? We consulted many mothers with their inner thoughts:
1. Worrying that rural girls just want to climb up through marriage
"Marry a man and get dressed and eat", this idea is still retained in some rural areas today. I believe many people have heard of "phoenix men" and "phoenix women", which makes many urban mothers worry that some rural girls regard high education or high appearance as a basis for raising their value, in order to catch a "golden son-in-law".
2. Worrying about the risk my son will take after marriage
To put it bluntly, marriage is an alliance between two families. This naturally includes the item of interests. When the interests of the two families are not equal, the conflict will arise. If the girl in the countryside has an average family background but her parents do not have the awareness of paying medical insurance ( New Rural Cooperative Medical Care ), then in the eyes of the mothers of the city boys, it may be a time bomb, because the girl's family's ability to fight risks is too weak (medical), and mothers are worried that this burden will be completely subject to their sons in the future.
3. Worrying that the two people have an unequal vision
Some girls come from a relatively wealthy countryside or have a wealthy family, but after dating a city boy, they still cannot get the satisfaction of their future mother-in-law. Logically speaking, many contradictions should be resolved if the economic conditions are quite good. What makes the boy’s mother dissatisfied?
mainly because the mother is worried that the two people’s vision is not equal. Due to the differences in their family backgrounds and the educational environment they have lived since childhood, rural girls are not as good at dealing with people and their personalities and temperaments are more cheerful and uplifting. The former may perform uncomfortable social behaviors.
Dear friends, what do you think of the above three views? Do these worries make sense? Welcome to leave a message to share your true thoughts.
