Colleague Lianzi once struggled with not being able to become a vice-president for several years, and she was always worried about her daughter's marriage. In those years, she was worried and spoke weakly.
Lotus seed was finally promoted to the deputy high school at the age of 51. She chose to postpone her retirement. She retired at the age of 60 last year.
Recently, I often see lotus seed videos on Douyin. Most of the content is to have dinner with friends or family, eating, drinking and having fun. Seeing that she is in such a good state now, she has a positive attitude towards life and is sincerely happy for her.
Lianzi is six years older than me. She teaches mathematics and is considered a backbone teacher in school. After I was transferred, she contacted me several times and led her daughter to my school to find me.
The first time she called me was to talk to me about her professional title. I heard that I was promoted to the senior high school in 2004, and she was very envious. She said that their school has accumulated a lot of people because of the scarcity of deputy high school quotas and fierce competition. She either does not meet the standards of the paper, does not publish works, or has insufficient scientific research topics. Anyway, she has unexpected problems every time. After applying for a few years, I just couldn't get promoted. She was very upset and didn't want to tell the people around her that she would ask me to complain.
In 2015, I went back to attend the 20th anniversary party for the students' graduation. Lianzi and I taught this class of students, but she was absent. Other colleagues quietly told me that it was because of her daughter. Her daughter is also a student in this class. After graduating from the Medical School, she worked as a nurse in an Grade A hospital in my city. This daughter has been unable to find a partner for a long time. Some of her classmates have children in elementary school, but she has not even had a partner yet. The mother and daughter have made an excuse not to attend the party.
Not long after the party, Lianzi called me again and asked me to find a partner for her daughter. She said they had bought a house for their daughter, and it didn't matter if the man's family finances were almost there. I understand her mood very well, so I asked Teacher Wang, the "big red media" of our school, to help Lianzi's daughter. This big popular media in our school is amazing. She has successfully introduced it for more than a dozen times. Teacher Wang also created a matchmaker group to provide information about single men and women among the teachers' relatives and friends.
But Lianzi's daughter made the big media difficult. She introduced several of them but couldn't catch her eyes. She was already over thirty, and she was still picky.
Lianzi brought her daughter to the school to find me. Her daughter was a little taller than when she graduated from junior high school and was slightly fat. Her appearance did not change much from her childhood. In order to help my daughter reduce the conditions for choosing a spouse, I also asked her to watch the movie. I remember watching "The God of Medicine". I was very dedicated to watching it. The sound of eating came from beside me. It turned out that this daughter was eating mangoes. I had contacted Lianzi's daughter twice alone and found that she was very special in speaking and doing things.
Two years later, Teacher Wang and I showed up: I can’t help with your colleague, I have never seen such a difficult girl to play with.
During this period, I have been communicating with Lianzi. The couple and their daughter are not very frequent. She and her husband are so anxious that they can't sleep every night, while their daughter is just like nothing.
Lianlian called me once before she was almost 55 years old and told me that she decided to delay retirement from in . She felt that she was too late to be a deputy, her daughter was not married, her husband was not retired, and she was fine when she went home. She plans to work hard and move to another level before retirement, and at least to the sixth level of deputy senior high school. I said yes, you can do what you think, as long as you don’t feel tired and do it happily.
Later, I changed my phone number and lost some contact information, so I never contacted Lianzi again.
A few times ago, I actually saw a video posted by Lianzi. According to the time, she is already 61 years old. She and her husband have both retired and started a casual retirement life.
Lianzi's daughter is still single, and she will be 40 years old in two years. It seems that the lotus seed has put aside this part and is no longer tangled. This is how she reconciled with herself and shook hands with life. If you can't change others, you will change yourself. Lianzi finally got out of the predicament and was really happy for her.
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