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"Mom, look at it, here it says, if you drink this milk for 1,200 consecutive months, you can live 100 years old!"
64-year-old Guo Min came over with a bowl and faced her 8-year-old son in front of her, and she was happy. The place nodded.
Living to 100 years old is the most important life goal of this 64-year-old mother.
people have plans for every time period of their lives. What age group is suitable for ? What is the decision-making .
But Guo Min didn't believe in evil. At the age of 56, he gave birth to a pair of dragon and phoenix twins Ren Jiayi and Ren Jiabin. It is no longer suitable for childbirth.
Why did she take huge risks and insist on giving birth to two children? What kind of fate will be waiting for these two children?
Losing her beloved daughter, heartbroken
980 , Guo Min got married in her hometown in Jiangxi, and gave birth to a daughter the next year Liu Linghui . Because of the influence of family planning that year, Guo Min and his wife had only one child, Liu Linghui.
Guo Min worked as an accounting in an state-owned enterprise in Jiangxi at that time, and had a " iron rice bowl ".
However, Guo Min's marriage life was not going smoothly, and she and her husband divorced in 1996.
In order to give her daughter a better living environment and growth conditions in the future, Guo Min resolutely quit her job as a state-owned enterprise and went to Beijing to work hard alone.
In Guo Min's eyes, her daughter Liu Linghui is her life. The plan she has worked hard now is centered on daughter . She sent almost all the money she earned in Beijing back to her hometown in Jiangxi. For the sake of a better life for my daughter.
While working hard in Beijing, Guo Min met her second husband Ren Hansheng. Before Ren Hansheng retired, he worked in Shougang. He was honest and reliable, and only one son was left at home. Shortly after they met, they remarried in 2001.
worked hard for many years, and Guo Min finally had a stable job and a complete family of . She couldn't wait to see her daughter, so she asked Liu Linghui, who had just graduated, to come to Beijing to live with her.
After Liu Linghui came, the relationship between mother and daughter became more and more intimate. Every day, Guo Min would pick up and drop off her daughter to and from get off work. With her daughter's company, Guo Min felt that there was no happier time than this .
She actively plans her daughter's future and helps her daughter plan every major event in her future life. Liu Linghui did not feel that her mother interfered too much in her affairs.
Operation and maintenance She knew that this was just the mother's concern for herself. This considerate also made Guo Min love Liu Linghui even more.
But the good times didn't last long. 003 , the outbreak of SARS made the mother and daughter separate again.
At that time, the epidemic in Beijing was relatively serious. For the sake of her daughter's physical safety, Guo Min had to agree with her ex-husband's decision to let Liu Linghui go back to Jiangxi to avoid the limelight.
She never thought that this time she would be the mother and daughter forever .
On November 22, 2005, a bad news came from his hometown in Jiangxi:
Daughter Liu Linghui was seriously injured last night and died of ineffective rescue on the way to the hospital.
When Guo Min got up and saw this message, couldn't bear the grief in her heart and fainted. Ren Hansheng was so scared that he rushed to the hospital.
Guo Min's life was rescued, but her heart seemed to have left with her daughter.
Wu Min, who woke up, still refused to accept the bad news. In order to escape reality, she didn't even dare to go back to her hometown in Jiangxi to see Liu Linghui for the last time. She was afraid that she would do something irreversible if she couldn't stand the stimulation.
After being discharged from the hospital like this, Guo Min stayed at home all day and cried.
The middle-aged man, who was originally energetic, quickly withered and haggard under the heavy blow of losing his beloved daughter.
Guo Min, who originally didn't have much gray hair, almost turned white overnight, and she could no longer see the kind of spirit she was before her daughter passed away.
She looked over and over at her daughter's death certificate from her hometown in Jiangxi, as if she wanted to rescue her beloved daughter who had been sentenced to death from this piece of paper.
The blow to lose her daughter was almost devastating to Guo Min. Ren Hansheng tried his best to persuade him, but it seemed to be of no help.
Guo Min seemed to be trapped in the quagmire of negative emotions, turned a blind eye to the helping hand that was extended to her around her, and let herself sink into it.
This kind of life lasted for 3 years. It was not until the emergence of , a news article about that Guo Min rekindled hope for life.
have children at an age, and life continues
That is a social news published in the newspaper, which introduces a 60-year-old Japanese woman who successfully gave birth to an IVF through embryo transfer technology . The emergence of the news of
made Guo Min, who had already given up his hope of survival, had the idea of being extremely bold .
She also wants to do embryo transfer because she feels that she must give birth to another girl to fill the void caused by Liu Linghui's death in her heart.
But this only idea that could give her hope for survival was opposed by everyone around her.
Ren Hancheng said that she is old and can’t even bother to have a baby.
Women have children that is walking in the gates of hell. Women who are strong in their twenties and thirties may die, not to mention that Guo Min is already 154 years old at this time.
She ran to the hospital for physical examination. Some doctors directly rejected her when she saw her registered age. Some doctors also had physical examinations for her under her plea.
, but without exception, the results showed that although Guo Min's uterus of has not yet shrunk much, she has been menstruating for more than a year, and no longer has the conditions to give birth to .
In fact, if I had learned about this news earlier, it might be possible. Because Guo Min has been immersed in the pain of losing her daughter in the past three years, and her health is not as good as before.
When the doctor told her this, Guo Min was also sad and disappointed, but she never gave up.
is like a drowning man trying hard to hold on to the last driftwood. She begged all major hospitals in Beijing , but they all returned in vain.
Until in a private hospital, a doctor told her: " can try it, but the probability of failure is far greater than the probability of success, and you must also prepare for a long-term hard fight ."
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" Thank you Doctor! Thank you Doctor! As long as I can give birth to a daughter, I am willing to no matter how difficult it is! "Guo Min was overjoyed at , and she wanted to kneel on the ground and kowtow to the doctor a few times.
Even though I found a hospital, not many people around me could understand Guo Min's practice of having children at an age at great risk.
Ren Hansheng didn't agree with it, only Guo Min's mother, who was far away in her hometown in the south, expressed her full support for her behavior.
At the same time, he also sent all his savings to Guo Min. Perhaps Guo Min's love for daughter was inherited from his mother!
Guo Min also took out all his savings and invested in this pregnancy preparation activity with slim hopes in , because the uterus and other fertility organs have not atrophy and have only been menstruating for a year. As long as you take good care of yourself, it may not be impossible to meet the conditions for fertility again.
After several months of healthy eating and regular life, Guo Min's body finally met the standards of conception.
In order to increase the hope of success, the doctor transplanted 3 embryos into her uterus and finally survived two.
The fatigue and pain of getting pregnant at an advanced age is unimaginable to ordinary people, and in order to protect the fetus, Guo Min sometimes needs to drink 6 large bowls of soy milk every day.
Originally, the risk of having children at an advanced age is high. Guo Min's conceit is still an twins .
Both the doctor and Ren Hansheng advised Guo Min to abort the boy, because Guo Min only wanted a girl, but now this boy is just increasing the burden on Guo Min.
But Guo Min firmly rejected this proposal because she thought for a longer time. She and Ren Hansheng are not young anymore and may one day leave the world.
By that time, her baby could only be alone. Who would live in this world? If there was a brother to accompany her, it would be better for the two of them to support each other.
Under such a difficult situation, Guo Min overcomes all kinds of difficulties and risks. After experiencing a miscarriage, he finally gave birth to pairs of twins in Peking University First Hospital .
At this time, Guo Min was already 56 years old. She named her two children, the girl was Ren Jiayi and the boy was Ren Jiabin.
Guo Min said that he has no other requirements in his life, and he just hopes that these two children can grow up healthily and safely.
In fact, sometimes, this requirement is difficult to achieve...
Good things are hard for a long time, and optimistic
Guo Min said that he hopes that he can live to 100 years old and walk as much as possible with his two children.
After the birth of the child, Guo Min and Ren Hansheng ushered in the bigger problem of . The raising of children requires two elderly people who are nearly sixty years old to worry about it everywhere.
Ren Hansheng has his own house, but because his only son has not been married for a long time, he still lives together. But now there are two newborn children, and the space is short of and .
So, Guo Min and Ren Hansheng discussed it and decided to move out. Because both of them have retired, I spent ,600 yuan to rent a small house in Changping . Because the price of is low in , it is very suitable for elderly people like them to live in.
Just like that, in a rental house of only 20 to 30 square meters, Guo Min and Ren Hansheng began their own journey of raising children.
Both of them are retired workers, and the combined retirement salary is nearly 4,000 yuan. In the low-priced Changping District , even raising two children is more than enough.
Moreover, although Guo Min is an elderly mother, Ren Jiayi and Ren Jiabin are very healthy. Under Guo Min's careful care, the two children are gradually growing up healthily and happily.
Sometimes Guo Min looks at the pair of children around her knees and feels that her decision to insist on giving birth to two children is very correct.
If the countless trivial matters of these two children occupy their hearts, perhaps until now I will still be immersed in the grief of losing my eldest daughter Liu Linghui.
Therefore, even if others do not understand their behavior, Guo Min never regrets his choice. Looking at the smile that his wife showed again and the two children cute smiling face .
Even Ren Hansheng, who didn't support Guo Min's childbirth, felt sincerely happy .
Now, except that their parents seem to be a little older, There is no difference between them and an ordinary family of four .
However, that sentence is right, "The hemp rope is just broken in detail, and bad luck is more difficult than suffering people."
When the child was only 3 years old, Ren Hansheng unfortunately suffered from cerebral infarction . He was treated in the hospital for nearly half a year before he improved slightly, but he completely fell into the root of the disease.
So, the life that was originally considered was easy to do and suddenly became stretched.
During that time, Guo Min had to take care of her two children at home and take time to visit Ren Hansheng to the hospital, and she wanted to split up while taking care of one.
Ren Hansheng's disease not only distracted Guo Min's energy, but the most serious thing was the economic problem at home. Guo Min and Ren Hansheng are not rich in .
In order to give birth to these two children, he spent all his savings. Later, most of his monthly pension was spent on the children. This time he was sick and hospitalized, emptied their family’s assets .
Moreover, cerebral infarction is almost impossible to completely cure, and you must continue to take medicine to recuperate.
Therefore, Ren Hansheng's pension can no longer be used to raise children, and the burden of raising children fell on Guo Min's shoulders alone.
The salary of only more than 1,700 yuan per month is not enough to support the expenses of three people. And the most important thing is that as you get older, the tuition for two children is also a considerable expense.
In desperation, Guo Min could only pick up his old career and continue to work in accounting .
But he still has to take care of two young children. In addition, he is old, Guo Min can't find a suitable job at all. She can only take out part-time outsourcing from some small companies.
only has a salary of 200 yuan per month, but the advantage is that you can take the account book home, as long as you submit the data in time at the end of the month.
When he was at the peak, Guo Min worked 8 part-time jobs alone, barely maintaining his monthly income at 3,500 yuan.
But as the child enters kindergarten, Guo Min can only save money as much as possible and spend every part of the money on the knife.
Although life reveals hardships everywhere, Guo Min never regrets giving birth to these two children.
Because of the emergence of these two little lives, Guo Min can get out of the blow of the death of her beloved daughter and use them as the spiritual pillar of to continue to walk the rest of the way.
Guo Min often thinks optimistically that he has survived such difficult times at the beginning. Life is nothing but death. Now that he has family with him, what else can he expect?
She never thought that the problem came so quickly, and this time it also evoked her memories of deliberately avoiding it.
Live a hundred years old and often accompany your family
Two children under Guo Min’s careful care, gradually grew up . Even though living conditions are difficult, Guo Min has never lost the nutrition of the two. Both children are healthy. Healthy and fat, it looks very cute.
But with age, it is the education problem of children. After finishing kindergarten, you will be in elementary school immediately.
In Beijing, where every inch of land is worth every inch, a good school is almost a place where everyone is snatching it.
Guo Min also knows this very well. Before the start of the school season, parents from all walks of life will always compete for school quotas, and some people even spend a lot of money to buy school district house .
Although Guo Min’s expectations for her children are that two people can grow up healthily and happily, but who can provide a good educational environment for their children? Which parent is unwilling to do so?
Originally, with the conditions of Guo Min's family, it was almost impossible to enter a good primary school.
But what everyone did not expect was that the elder sister Liu Linghui, who had never met Ren Jiayi and Ren Jiabin, left them a gift - a house of more than 100 square meters in , Chaoyang District, .
It is precisely because of this "sky-high" school district house that the two children were able to successfully enter key schools in the district.
In 2016, Guo Min moved into this spacious house from a narrow rental house in the remote Changping District. Looking at the empty house, Guo Min's heart seemed to be empty.
"Mom! Mom! Is this the gift left by my elder sister to us? "
Ren Jiayi seemed to notice her mother's depressed mood, and she pulled Guo Min and tried to divert her attention.
Ren Jiabin was running around the house, making waves of excitement shouts. Looking at the two sensible children in front of him, Guo Min quickly restrained her emotions.
She squatted down and hugged her little daughter in her arms, and gently told her the interesting things about Liu Linghui when she was a child. After a while, Ren Jiabin also ran over and lay on Guo Min's lap and listened carefully.
The dark memory in Guo Min's heart seemed to have been infected by the laughter of the children and was stained with a different color.
This house was bought by Guo Min for her savings after Liu Linghui came to Beijing. She originally thought that she would settle in Beijing in the future and the mother and daughter would never be separated again. Who would have thought that luck would make people? The heavens and man are separated forever .
This house is also regarded by Guo Min as a sad . He was afraid of bringing up his sad memories and dared not set foot on it for more than ten years.
Now, this empty house is filled with the laughter of younger brothers and sisters, the familiar figure of mothers, and the warm fragrance of food.
Liu Linghui should also feel very relieved. He didn't expect that more than ten years later, he could still do such a big favor to his mother.
Time passes, The child is growing up, and adults are getting older. The second year after moving to a new house, Ren Hansheng passed away.
Guo Min also suffered from lacrimal cerebral infarction and had to quit some part-time jobs.
Although life has become more difficult, Guo Min also realizes that health is the most important thing, and the two children are only 8 years old.
What should they do if they fall down? So now Guo Min doesn’t ask for anything, just to be healthy and safe. It’s best to live to be 100 years old and cover up as many distances as possible for two children. wind and rain.
Ku Min now, in order to keep her healthy , she practices -section Jin every day to exercise, ensure 7 hours of sleep, take medicine on time every day, and maintain a good attitude.
She once refused the donation organized by the school to her family because she still has the ability to be self-reliant, and she hopes that her two children can finish junior high school as soon as possible.
If you can get into high school, you can continue to go to , if you don’t work, you can also go to to learn skills or technology to support yourself.
The ringtone for school rang, and Guo Min showed a happy smile on her face as she watched her two children running towards her.
She hugged one with one hand and took them to walk towards the house with big strides because she had cooked the fresh fish soup that the children loved to drink.
Someone asked, do you regret it if you have such a hard time having two children in your later years?
Guo Min said: "I don't regret it, you have no way to know the happiness and hardships."
Guo Min's experience also confirms the saying: Don't persuade others to be good without the suffering of others. All kinds of hardships are only able to understand.
Conclusion
Someone may accuse Guo Min of having children at an advanced age is irresponsible to themselves and their children. It will not only have a significant impact on their bodies, but also cannot provide children with a good living environment and conditions, which is even more unreasonable to children. Responsible behavior.
However, there are also many women who have the same experience as Guo Min, who can understand her approach very well. If she loses her solitary life in her old age, no one is willing to take risks if she can choose.
It’s just that when there is no relative in the world who has a blind date with his own blood, the feeling of loneliness that is engraved in the bone marrow is difficult for ordinary people to understand.
As long as Guo Min himself has never regretted it and the children are living happily, the difficulties they have experienced seem to be no longer a problem.
