This is the story of the 745th real person we tell
I am
(my current peaceful life with my latest girlfriend Alexandra)
I was born in Wenzhou, Zhejiang. My grandfather used to be a cadre within the system, and my grandmother worked in a bank. My grandfather is Korean and moved to the mainland before the Korean War. My grandmother is Taiwanese. My grandpa’s family is in business and has a store in Shanghai. He also purchased more than 20 properties in his hometown.
's parents opened a machinery and equipment factory. Because my parents were busy, I was basically a "free-range" child when I was a child. However, I did not develop any bad habits. Instead, I especially loved reading.
There are at least thousands of books in my old house, which were secretly kept by my grandfather, and later became my treasure.
When I was young, I would go back to my hometown during holidays and spend the whole day in the study. There are many types of books, including comics, "One Hundred Thousand Whys", which I am interested in, and the bilingual version " Capital " which is particularly profound to me.
These books gave wings to my thoughts and took me to travel in a mysterious and rich spiritual world.
(I have loved reading since I was a child, and these are some of the books I have read)
When I was in school, because I read a lot, I did very well in Chinese and other liberal arts subjects, but not in mathematics, physics, and chemistry.
Ever since I was little, I have always been liked by my teachers. I remember that when I was a kid, during the cultural activities at school, the teacher would always choose me to play a bunny, a groundhog, etc. These activities may also have laid a foundation for my future stage performances. Base.
In 2010, I enrolled in the international trade major at Huzhou Normal University. My grades in are average, but I have a talent for languages and have a very good relationship with foreign teachers. Not only can I speak fluent English, but I can also speak a few other languages.
During the summer of college, the school carried out the " Three Going to the Countryside " activity, which organized us to go deep into the countryside, live in the homes of local villagers, work on the farm with them, and teach and tell stories to the children in the village.
This experience made me realize the living conditions of people at the bottom of society. I sincerely admire their simplicity, hard work, and tenacity. It also inspired me to put aside my status as a "rich kid" and rely on my own hands to create the life I want.
Therefore, although my family background is not bad, I don’t want to be like other students who have to ask for monthly living expenses from my palm up to my family.
(Photos from the UK)
I first opened a " grid shop " in the school's "Entrepreneurship Park". Some classmates want to resell unused items, so they store them in my cabinet. When the items are sold, the money is theirs, and I only charge rent. In this way, I can earn two to three thousand yuan a month.
Later, I invested another 10,000 yuan and started reselling computers. At this time, my income had reached 7,000 to 8,000 yuan per month.
I was only 17 years old at that time and had already achieved financial independence.
In 2014, I graduated from college. My uncle first introduced me to the Public Security Bureau to write news articles. I only worked for a month and I quit because I was really not interested.
Then I used my savings to open a milk tea shop. Because the location was a bit remote, the business was not very good. The most important thing is that I consider that I, a college student, will sell milk tea, fried chicken legs in the future, which obviously does not fit in with my career plan . So I quickly changed hands on the milk tea shop.
At that time, I came up with the idea of opening a language school in Wenzhou , and I consciously contacted foreigners. Later, I thought it would be better to go abroad and have a clearer idea.
(with friends in Iran)
The first country I wanted to go to was Slovakia , but after watching a horror movie " Human Skin Inn ", I gave up the idea. I switched to and went to Iran. Originally, I only planned to stay in Iran for a month, but I didn’t expect that I liked this country very much, so I went to a language school to study for half a year and applied for a long-term visa.
At this time, a classmate of mine recommended me to work as a translator for a Chinese company in Bandar Abbas , and I was offered a monthly salary of US$1,800.
My Chinese boss and I rented a local villa. Since we were tired of eating Middle Eastern food, we bought the ingredients and cooked it ourselves.
Once, the landlady came to visit with her daughter. We were cooking at the time, and the house was full of delicious food, so we invited the landlady and her daughter to stay and have dinner with us.
From then on, the Iranian girl became obsessed with our Chinese food and came here to have a meal every once in a while.
Love came quietly like this.
The girl originally planned to study in Japan, but after falling in love with me, she changed her mind and wanted to come to China with me.
In 2016, I took my girl back to China. She was studying at Ningbo University, and I found a job in a foreign trade company in Ningbo.
Later, the company sent me to the UK on a business trip for half a year. Time and distance caused subtle changes in our relationship. After returning from the UK, we broke up peacefully.
(My Iranian girlfriend and I)
In 2018, an unforgettable love affair came into my life again.
At that time, a friend of mine who was doing photography in an advertising agency asked me to introduce him to some foreign models. So, I met a Ukrainian girl named Irina on the Internet. She was working as a foreign teacher in Ningbo, but unfortunately she had just returned to Ukraine to visit relatives. She promised to come back and contact me.
A few months later, she went back to Shanghai to study at a language school, and I went to pick her up. The first time I saw her, I fell in love: she was so beautiful, with a reserved and restrained smile on her lips. She is nothing like the passionate blonde beauties I know. She is reserved and exudes an indescribable charm.
After that, I had to visit her three times a week, 280 kilometers from Ningbo to Shanghai. If it’s not a day off, I’ll rush there after get off work in the afternoon and rush back all night in the evening. I’ll sleep with my clothes on in the service area on the way, and then rush straight to work the next morning.
can only stay for a short three or four hours in between, just to send her flowers or chicken soup that I cooked by myself. Although I didn't get an enthusiastic response from her, as long as I could talk to her for a few words, I was happy.
(This is Elena, I fell in love with her the first time I saw her)
In 2019, I took her to Macau for New Year’s Day. In Macau Hotel , she suddenly kissed me and I cried all of a sudden. . She has always been aloof from me, and I have been chasing her too hard. Her gentle kiss filled my heart with sweetness.
After returning to China, I invited her to come to Ningbo, and she agreed. We made our relationship official. Then we went to various places to play, Armenia, Azerbaijan, Georgia. These countries all left our footprints and witnessed our sweet love.
In October 2019, her visa was approved, and I happily accompanied her to Hong Kong to get the visa. When she gets a visa, it means she can stay in China longer, and we will have more time to spend together.
During the Spring Festival, I took her home to meet her parents. She is beautiful, polite and decent in dealing with others, and she meets the standards of a daughter-in-law in the eyes of her parents. Naturally, her parents were filled with joy and gave her a big red envelope.
On the first day of the Lunar New Year, as a new daughter-in-law, she followed our family up the mountain to worship our ancestors.
(My and Elena’s engagement ring)
Perhaps it is the good luck brought by love. This year, I found something that I am truly interested in.
I have loved watching American talk shows since I was a child. I often participated in debate competitions in college and my eloquence was recognized by many people. So, when I happened to meet the owner of Ningbo Talk Show Club at a dinner party, I immediately went over and introduced myself.
The opportunity was firmly grasped in my hands. Facts have proved that I do have a talent for talk shows. Coupled with my diligent practice, I received an invitation from a businessman for the first time and received 8,000 yuan in appearance fees.
In 2020, Ningbo Talk Show Club signed a contract with me, and I became a professional talk show actor. performs 10 times a month for clubs, plus some commercial performances, and I can get more than 1 million a year.
At that time, I had not quit my job in a foreign trade company, so I would go to work during the day and perform a talk show at night. Sometimes I would have to attend different shows in the night, flying from one place to another just to perform on stage for a few minutes.
Such a life was fulfilling, but I gradually felt that my energy was running low, so I quit my job at a foreign trade company half a year later and started doing talk shows full-time.
(Talk show performance photo)
In 2020, the love between Irina and I has reached the stage of discussing marriage. She hopes that her family will come to China or my family will go to Ukraine. Anyway, the whole family will be present at the wedding. The requirements of
were originally not high, but under the current epidemic, it is still difficult to implement. And she is a filial and traditional girl, and she takes this very seriously.
procrastinated until October 2021, and the matter had not been settled. Our patience was almost worn out, and quarrels began to break out from time to time. So she said she wanted to go back to Ukraine to calm down. At that time, her mother was ill and needed her to go back and take care of her.
I felt that it wouldn't be a bad thing to separate for a while and calm down, not to mention she said she was willing to come back, so I personally sent her to the plane.
When my contract performance was about to end, I asked her when she would be back, and she said she couldn't leave. I said that I would go to Ukraine to find you. She didn’t express her position, so I took it as her tacit consent.
(The wonderful past between Irina and I)
The performance ended on the evening of January 7, 2022, and I got on a plane to Ukraine the next day.
I planned to bring her back after staying in Ukraine for a week. Who would have expected that instead of finding love, I would also encounter a thrilling war, and even almost become cannon fodder in the war.
Irina’s family lives on the outskirts of Tyurupinsk in southern Ukraine. I took a plane, a train, then a bus, and then walked for more than an hour, and finally arrived at the door of Elena's house at 10 a.m.
The weather in Ukraine in January is frighteningly cold, but there is a warm fire burning in my heart. I knocked on the door excitedly, but no one opened the door. I turned to the window again, knocked on the window glass, and shouted Elena's name loudly.
The curtains opened, and I finally saw the face that I had longed for. When she saw me, the expression on her face was not surprise, but sullenness. She closed the curtains angrily without even saying a word.
I was instantly petrified, so much so that her uncle came out and said something to me, but I didn’t even listen. I took another look at the closed curtains. They looked like the curtains on the stage after my talk show.
Yes, the drama has ended, but I haven't gotten out of the plot yet.
(Elena was wearing a Chinese wedding dress. I once thought she would be my bride)
I don’t know how I walked out of her yard. I only felt the bone-chilling cold. Because I was in such a hurry, I dropped my gloves. At the airport, my hands were almost frozen, and my tears were almost frozen.
There was not a single person or car on the road. After walking for almost an hour, I met an enthusiastic Ukrainian . He called a car for me and took me to a bed and breakfast to stay.
Living in B&B is not a long-term solution after all. At this time, someone in the Kiev Chinese community suggested that I go to Kiev first before making any plans. I followed his advice.
I came to Ukraine to apply for a one-year visa, and now I have to be quarantined when I return home. I think I might as well spend the New Year in Ukraine.
I met a group of new friends in Kiev. They were warm and generous to me, and my mood slowly improved. At this time, a beautiful Ukrainian girl confessed to me that she was a singer with a cheerful personality and good temperament. Because the wounds caused by my previous relationship have not yet healed, I am a little worried that this relationship will not be fruitful.
But the writer Zhang Xiaoxian said: "If you want to forget a relationship, there is only one way: time and new love." So I accepted her.
(My Girlfriend, a Ukrainian Singer)
Along with the new love, there is also news that a war between Russia and Ukraine is about to break out. All kinds of comments are rampant, and it is difficult to distinguish between true and false, making people panic.
I had insomnia on the night of February 23rd. It was not until 3 a.m. on the 24th that I suddenly heard a rumbling sound, like the sound of tires rubbing against the ground. I find it very unusual because the place where I live is relatively quiet and vehicles usually only pass by at 10 am.
I got up and went to the window to look down. I saw military green heavy-duty trucks driving on the road.
At 6 o'clock in the morning, groups of planes passed by at low altitude, and the whine sounded overhead.
I didn't sleep all night. My consciousness was a little fuzzy and I didn't know what this meant. Feeling sleepy, I fell asleep.
When I woke up, it was already 8 o'clock. When I looked at my phone, the Chinese crowd in Kiev had already exploded: It turns out that the war is really coming!
(This is Kiev before the war, peaceful and beautiful)
I have no idea about war, I have only seen it in movies. What to do now, I have no idea. My parents called me and asked me to find a way to leave Ukraine quickly; the embassy reassured us not to worry and to wait for notification.
Lights were turned off everywhere at night because the Ukrainian government said it was not sure whether Russian troops would bomb civilian areas. So my roommate and I hid in the bathroom, lit candles, and ate leftovers. There was darkness and silence around . From time to time, there was the red light trailing by rockets as they passed by, and the rumbling sound of artillery.
Death seems to be only one step away from us. Someone suggested that we write a suicide note. But I am only 30 years old, and I still have too many unfinished dreams that have not yet been realized, and I have not yet fulfilled my filial piety to my parents. No matter what, I don’t want to die like this.
I finally made it to the second day, when I went downstairs to buy some things. I saw my neighbor carrying his luggage, holding his child, and holding his dog, and hurried out with a solemn expression.
I stepped forward to inquire and learned that they were all leaving Kiev to seek refuge. I immediately panicked.
(The suburbs of Kiev after the war were full of ruins)
Another day, when I went downstairs to throw away the garbage, I found that the trash can was empty. The mailbox in the hall downstairs was full, and the milk and newspapers had not been picked up. I was shocked to realize that everyone in the whole building was gone, and only our family was left.
Fear was overwhelming, and I didn't dare to go anywhere except staying at home. However, the curfew was suddenly extended from the original 12 hours to 39 hours. The family was almost running out of food. If they didn't buy some food to stockpile, they would starve to death even if they were not killed by artillery fire.
Human beings are so sad. Even though the wheel of history has carried us into a highly civilized modern society, when a war breaks out, we are immediately knocked back to our original shape, and people still have to worry about three meals a day.
At about two o'clock in the afternoon on February 26, my roommate and I unanimously decided to go downstairs to the supermarket to buy some things. The
supermarket is across the road, only about 500 meters away, but at this special moment, it seems as far away as the horizon.
opened the door, and two armed men suddenly appeared from the corner! Wearing a black hat and camouflage uniform, he held an submachine gun in his hand. Can't tell if it's Russian or Ukrainian.
The female roommate was so frightened that she shrank back and said it was better not to go. If I don’t go, there will be nothing to eat, and I will starve to death.
(After the war started, he discussed the war online with well-known current affairs commentators)
took a peek. Fortunately, their attention was not on us, and they were searching around nervously. We walked forward bravely, only to hear the cold wind blowing by our ears, and finally we were almost at the road.
Suddenly, there was a loud shouting from behind, passers-by ran forward desperately, and the vehicle passed through the red light. We didn't know what was going on, so we followed the passers-by and ran for our lives.
I didn’t understand what the gunman yelled in the room. Maybe out of instinct, I bent down and ran out of an S shape like a person in danger in a movie or TV show.
Bang! A bullet grazed my scalp. Bang, another bang.Bang, another sound...
Strangely, I was so frightened that I could still clearly count five gunshots!
Fortunately, every shot missed me. I looked back and saw that my two female roommates were lagging behind. I don’t know where I got the courage, so I turned back to look for them.
(Hometown media reports after the shooting)
I was not so lucky this time. As soon as I found a roommate, I was overtaken by a gunman. The world suddenly became silent, and the black gun pointed at me. I protected my two female roommates behind me. heard the gunman shouting questions in English.
Because I was too nervous and my English is so good, I only understood one word: Russian. I guessed that he probably asked us if we were Russian. I quickly answered: Chinese!
He waved his hand and let us go. One of the roommates was so frightened that he cried. We didn't dare to continue going to the supermarket, so we had to turn back and go home.
When I got home, I was still in shock. I made a video about the shooting incident and posted it on the Internet. Unexpectedly, many domestic media contacted me and said to me: "If you encounter difficulties, just ask, the people of the motherland will do their best to help you!"
At that moment, tears of emotion overflowed from my eyes: No matter when and where, the motherland will always help you! It is our strongest backing.
(The train station during the escape in March)
html On March 2, the Chinese Embassy began to evacuate overseas Chinese in batches. My roommates had all left. I was still hesitating. I had already agreed with my new girlfriend that she would go back to the countryside to take refuge. I evacuated the Chinese with the embassy. But as a man, I feel it is unethical to leave her alone in such a dangerous country.Although the embassy later informed me that I could bring my foreign spouse with me, I thought that bringing her would definitely occupy the quota of a Chinese compatriot. After much thought, I decided to give up evacuation, take her to evacuate on her own, and take a train to the west.
As soon as the decision came out, a kind of pride surged in my chest like a strong man breaking his wrist. But what was a slap in the face was that on the way to evacuate, she ran away with a Mongolian . When I contacted her, she said coldly that she went to Poland and I would never look for her again. In the end, she criticized her and said that I was looking for someone else behind her back.
I was puzzled, and then I thought that one of my female neighbors would also be evacuated together. Maybe she had misunderstood our relationship.
It’s ironic that my affection is not worth a misunderstanding, but I’m too lazy to explain. Love is nothing in war, the most important thing is to be able to live wholeheartedly.
(with friends in Kiev)
I didn’t want to go anywhere. I returned to Kiev with an indescribable mood. The whole city was empty and weird like the legendary ghost town .
The shelves in the supermarket are also empty. To buy a bucket of water, you have to travel more than ten kilometers. I am used to sleeping, eating, and thinking about problems amidst the sound of gunfire.
What is the strength that I often want to support me in staying? Maybe it’s Elena. After so much, I found that she is still hidden in the most secret corner of my heart.
I have not heard from her. The war there is fierce. I am worried about her safety. I have sent her emails, but she has not replied. I have also asked her friends, but they have not replied. I can only silently pray that she is safe.
As the curfew gradually shortens, my refrigerator is full of food again, and there is water when I turn the tap, I am content with this status quo. In other words, the war taught me to be content.
There are too many desires in a person's life. They want to eat well, wear warm clothes, be successful and famous, and have a perfect love. However, the premise of all this is that there is no war.
(Meeted the star of the TV series "My Natasha" in Ukraine)
On April 1, Russian troops evacuated Kiev. Ever since the war started, I’ve been dreaming about Kiev being carpet-bombed, and having no car but running around in a hurry. So after the withdrawal of troops from Kiev, I bought a Mercedes-Benz G63 as soon as possible. The nightmare of having no car and having to sit and wait for death during the bombing never happened again.
What is particularly surprising is that love has also taken a turn for the better.htmlIn May, a girl from the Poltava region in Ukraine accidentally saw the report that I came to Ukraine to save my love, and was very moved and appreciated my behavior.
Her name is Alexandra, and she studied in Northeast China for a year. When we chatted, I used Mandarin , and she used Northeastern dialect . A Ukrainian girl spoke authentic Northeastern dialect, which was very joyful to listen to.
Love has already left me bruised and bruised, but her gentleness and kindness still opened my heart little by little.
(Kiev after the withdrawal)
June 10th is my birthday. We officially met in Poltava. I admit that the first time I saw her, I was not particularly surprised, but she looked simple and generous. . After going through so much, I am extremely sure that this is the girl who will stay with me for the rest of my life.
With the blessings of our family, we officially confirmed our relationship. Good news came again in mid-July. Alexandra was pregnant and her due date was in April next year.
The haze of the war in Ukraine has not yet dissipated, but there is hope for the future. I plan to build a villa in Poltava so that in the future we will have a home both in China and Ukraine.
I hope that the war will be over before the baby is born, that we can return to China smoothly, and return to our favorite talk show stage as soon as possible.
(When the scenery is clear, I am willing to accompany Alexandre to watch the long flowing water)
When the prosperity is gone, you can see the true and pure, and live this life with light clouds and flowing water. It was the war that made me understand the true meaning of love and life. People can never lose faith at any time.
If you believe in love, love will definitely find you; if you believe in beauty, beauty will definitely come to you.
[Oral Narration: Funny Lin Moumou]
[Editor: You Rean]
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