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I took my child to a friend's party on the weekend, and the baby was wearing a Taobao shirt The price of the white gauze skirt was only 60 yuan. She chose this skirt by herself. After buying it home, she liked it very much and wore it for two consecutive weeks.
Baby clothes have a wide price range. On certain special occasions, I will buy her small clothes ranging from 700 to 800 pieces, as well as clothes in the 30s and 40s.
The baby is very picky about clothes. Her standard is not price. She will only wear clothes as long as she thinks the style is good-looking, so price is secondary.
Back at the party, my friend asked how much the baby’s clothes cost, and I said sixty yuan. She was surprised and said : I thought you would raise your daughter intensively, but I didn’t expect it to be so rough..
"Many people raise a daughter, don't they give the best to the child? Raising a daughter requires a wealthy family, and the child's vision is high. You are too careless with your daughter."
Nowadays, many people think about raising children. They all have this attitude: Only by raising children richly can they have a different life. The first step to enrichment is to choose good clothes and toys for your children, and do not wrong your children in this regard.
Guo Jingjing’s son wears clothes worth tens of yuan. Materials are not the key.
In fact, it is really not that important about what clothes and shoes a child wears. Some people simply set the standard of “richness” in food and clothing. degree, while neglecting the most critical inner cultivation.
Wang Yan's son often has pocket money of tens of thousands or hundreds of thousands. The child said that every time his father gives him pocket money, it is tens of thousands. This is of course a wealthy family.
The method of raising children like Guo Jingjing and Huo Qigang, in which the children wear civilian clothes, live an ordinary life, and experience the work of farmers, is "poor raising" from a material point of view. Although it is a rich family, it makes people happy. Children live an ordinary life, but in such a family, children have seen many big scenes, traveled to many places, and learned many specialties. From this aspect, is also "rich".
It is said that wealth cannot last more than three generations, but the Huo family in Hong Kong is a wealthy family of four generations. It is probably related to the frugal family tradition. If they keep raising their children according to such standards, the family will continue to prosper.
In fact, no matter whether they are raised rich or poor, one thing I want to tell parents is: food and clothing are really not that important. Compared with providing children with a super luxurious material life and cultivating their children's good virtues of thrift, For wealthy families, it is even more important.
For some families, if they only adhere to the principle of enjoying the present, and have good enough conditions, they can fully satisfy their children's pursuit of various luxuries and provide them with a super-high-quality material life. There is nothing wrong with that. After all, children are It’s your own, you pay for your children, no one else matters.
However, if conditions are limited, you cannot raise children for a lifetime, and you cannot allow your children to enjoy a luxurious life. It is best to let your children develop the good quality of diligence and thrift in advance.
Do your best within your ability
When it comes to raising children, I think the best principle is to do your best within your ability.
If you want to provide your children with everything, there is really no limit. For children to go to kindergarten, public schools , it costs several thousand yuan a year, while private schools cost tens of thousands, hundreds of thousands, or hundreds of thousands. No, if you have enough money, sending your children to kindergarten abroad will cost millions in tuition fees a year.
Let’s look at children’s clothes. They also cost tens of dollars, hundreds of dollars, thousands of dollars, or tens of thousands of dollars. If you wear a piece of clothing for one season, you can’t wear it the next season. If you have enough money, you can buy tens of thousands of dollars. Of course, there is no problem if it is one piece. The key is that parents have implanted this concept of luxury into their children, and they must always be able to withstand their children's lifestyle. They are most afraid of the parents' vanity and buy good clothes and shoes for their children. I have cultivated the habit of wearing famous brands in my children, but I can't stick to it until the end because my income is really limited.
If this is the case, then the parents' "enrichment" will harm the parent-child relationship and affect the child's personality development.
When it comes to raising children, we act according to our ability and provide our children with the kind of life we have the ability to. Letting children live the same life as adults is the best way to raise them.
In the process of raising children, is most afraid that the whole family will save money to support a child, send the child to a good school, choose brand clothes for the child, and spend half of the entire income to raise the child.
This kind of parenting method will bring down a family sooner or later.
But after having children, the sense of responsibility on the shoulders becomes heavier. Parents have the responsibility of raising, educating and guiding their children. This cannot be relaxed. If you want your children to grow up to be the best, you must first make yourself the best. This is best effort.
can be "poorly raised" with ease, but cannot be "raised richly" with all efforts
Wealthy families require their children to live a simple life, and the children's food and clothing expenses are the same as those of children from ordinary families. This is a poor raise with ease.
Poor families want their children to enjoy the best. The family income is only a few thousand yuan a month. They also want their children to enjoy the best local material conditions. The expenses of one child can cover the expenses of the whole family. This is Try your best to be rich.
The former can raise children who are grateful, understand life, and cherish the gifts from their parents, while the latter can easily raise children who are vain and dissatisfied.
How to raise children is your own business. We are just providing you with a direction and sharing the experience of people who have experienced it. We hope it can be helpful to everyone.
