Introduction: What should women do when they are violated has been a controversial topic for many years. Some people say that because of the disparity in strength between men and women, women should choose to show weakness in order to save their lives. Some people also say that y

Introduction

What should women do when they are violated has been a controversial topic for many years.

Some people say that because of the disparity in strength between men and women, women should choose to show weakness in order to save their lives. Some people also say that you should resist fiercely, otherwise who knows whether you are being forced?

In fact, this matter has been concluded. In ancient times, especially from the Song Dynasty , the so-called "chastity" concept was emphasized, and women's "chastity" was gradually placed above women's right to life.

As a result, the admiration for "chaste and fierce women" reached an unprecedented peak. When women become accessories of "chastity", and "chastity" is owned by their legal husbands by default, women naturally become completely reduced to men's "property".

Under this trend, the Chastity Arch came into being.

At first, it was for the sake of her husband to keep his integrity, not to remarry, and to dedicate herself to her husband's family until she died, so that the widow could get such a "reward".

Later, the demand for women to "observe chastity" became increasingly crazier, and chastity memorial tablets began to be distributed to the dead. Not all dead people are qualified. Only women who choose to "dedicate themselves to death" are qualified. Because there is always a possibility that a living person will give up on keeping the rules, and moreover, "there is a lot of trouble at the widow's door", and it is also possible that she will be entangled and her reputation will be ruined.

Are there really so many women choosing to die as martyrs?

Under the education of that feudal society, many women indeed had a common concept of chastity and chastity regarding such things.

However, not everyone has the courage to pay for it with their lives.

In order to obtain a chastity memorial memorial that symbolizes honor, some husband-in-laws will choose to kill their daughter-in-law after the death of their son, then report that the daughter-in-law died for her son, and then apply for a chastity memorial memorial. In this culture, married women have to die to prove that they can definitely keep their virginity and will never lose their virginity.

All women in our country have grown up in the environment of "if you are not clean, you will die". To this day, many people are still affected by this idea.

Moreover, many people who support or demand that women must fight with death when they are violated are also thinking under this influence.

What should women do when they are violated?

has a story that may give you some inspiration.

Xiao Dan, a female student at a normal university, reported the crime because she was almost assaulted. After the police went to the school to investigate, they found that there was another victim in the case, who was also a student at the school.

This student is Xiaojing. After police investigation, it was learned that all her friends and classmates knew that she was in a relationship with the suspect. Xiaojing's boyfriend is not someone of the same age, but a middle-aged man in his forties.

This man is not outstanding in appearance and wealth, so why would Xiao Jing choose him? Moreover, this man already has a girlfriend living with him in college, so why would he want to violate Xiao Dan again?

It turns out that this man is a repeat offender.

He took Xiaojing home in the name of "finding a tutor for his children." The first time the abuse failed, but when he saw that Xiaojing did not dare to speak out about what happened to him, he went even further and pestered her again and again. Finally, he succeeded in forcing Xiaojing once. It was the key to the turning point in their relationship.

In Xiaojing's opinion, they have already had a relationship and she is "his person". If

doesn’t follow him, what else can he do? Do you want her to die? After

, the man used the same excuse to find Xiaodan.

Xiao Dan was a very alert person. First he handed over all his money to the other party, then he ran away when he found an opportunity and immediately called the police.

It was also because of Xiao Dan's call to the police that this man was arrested, preventing more female students from becoming victims.

Neither of the two girls in this real case developed to the point of "fighting to death."

But their different choices are very intriguing.

Xiaojing has traditional thoughts and is afraid of losing her reputation. She is just like a boudoir girl in the old days. She is timid and cowardly in her thoughts of "chastity", which gives her the courage and opportunity to pester her again and again. Finally, after "losing her virginity", she falls asleep at a young age. I "accepted my fate" and followed this middle-aged man.

Xiao Dan is mature and calm. When faced with this kind of thing, his first reaction is not to be afraid of embarrassment, but to protect himself first.

She dealt with the opponent calmly and rationally, avoiding a direct conflict, a situation where women would inevitably suffer, and called the police immediately after escaping. We will never give bad people the opportunity to harm themselves and others because of concerns about so-called "reputation" issues.

Editor's point of view

The feudal dynasty has long since collapsed into the dust of history. The so-called "chastity" concept used to restrain, objectify, and discipline women in the past should have been washed away with the torrent of history.

If you encounter a violation, don't be impulsive and "fight to the death". Instead, wait for the opportunity and look for opportunities to escape first.

If you really can't escape, pretend to obey first, and then find a chance to survive for yourself.

Your life is never defined by "chastity". Your dreams, your career, and your future have nothing to do with this thing.

If someone insists on talking about chastity that should have been buried in history in this illegal and criminal topic.

Then answer a question.

Is it more important to crack down on criminals, or to condemn victims with this "boring, backward, and pathetic" concept?

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