Yesterday, Liu Shishi delivery room good news:
Although the baby's photo was not displayed, this news made everyone feel extremely relieved. After all, amid years of rumors and various pressures, this celebrity couple finally lived up to expectations and successfully became parents!
Good things come in pairs! Soon, , Leonardo also posted the news that he was a mother on the ins!
Now, more and more female stars of the age are joining the camps of getting married, having babies and having second children.
You should know that many problems such as changing body shape, inability to work before and after pregnancy, and postpartum depression are fatal risks for celebrities, such as special occupations. Even so, it did not stop and from continuing on this road.
We see that when they hold their babies in their arms, the smiles and happiness on their bare faces are the most real and beautiful appearance of women.
In fact, when it comes to being a mother, all women in the world are the same.
In order to nurture and give birth, their "small universe" will explode instantly, allowing themselves to release unprecedented energy; in order to support their baby, all sacrifices and efforts will be willing to be willing.
What changes have occurred in the body and mind of mothers before and after giving birth? Today, let’s feel the power of “children” to mothers.
Text: Strong and fearless mothers | Editor: Jaden
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Wash your hair when you go out?
The biggest wish after becoming a mother is to sleep ten more minutes
@Mingming's mother: used to be unable to take 10 kilograms of rice, but now my son with 40 kilograms of rice can be held to the fifth floor! In the past, I bought clothes and cosmetics as soon as my salary was paid, but now I think about buying books and toys for my son!
@Magnolia Blossoms: I always thought I was an introvert, but since I became a mother, whether on the crowded subway, in a closed elevator or on the vast road, as long as the child cried, I could immediately make all kinds of exaggerated expressions and make strange poses to tease. What do you think of him? I have no concern for my image at all, as long as my child is happy!
@Xixiaoyankai 323: Before becoming a mother, they all like to carry small bags; after becoming a mother, they first choose a big backpack because they can hold a lot of things and can free up their hands to hold children. Before becoming a mother, I got up one hour in advance and washed my hair and put on makeup. After becoming a mother, I asked me to sleep ten more minutes, telling myself that my head was not oily and I felt down-to-earth without makeup.
@Happy Juaner: After becoming a mother, she has experienced fatness, loss of hair, and unable to go to work. After having a second child, my hair loss became more serious and I became bald two pieces, but I never regretted it. I just regretted that I had less time with my baby and I blamed myself and felt that accompanying my child to grow up is the most important thing in my life.
After washing all the dew, mothers live their truest selves. They are not becoming "ugly", but the "beauty" that has been sublimated to another realm of life - this "beauty", which can only be understood by those who have come to understand.
Chapter Ziyi As a world-class superstar, her Weibo certification is "Wake up Mom". It can be seen that compared to the great achievements brought by her career, she now enjoys the satisfaction brought by her family and children.
Taiwanese actor Vivian Hsu once experienced a bumpy pregnancy period: in 142 days, he received 300 fetal needles, lying on the bed and maintaining a posture that cannot move, eating, drinking, defecating, sleeping and all he had in bed were solved.
At the moment of giving birth to her son, she excitedly announced to the whole world. Everyone sent her blessings, and no one would think it was a show.
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Reconciliation with the world
Learn to use gentle power to fight dilemma
The role of mother has also brought great changes to actor yinger .
In the recording of " Wife's Romantic Travel ", she chose to give up on a high-altitude project. She admitted that this had a lot to do with her being a mother.
It turns out that Ying Er used to show off her personality and still insisted on working when she was pregnant. However, she suddenly had severe bleeding. There was no regret and the child was unable to be saved.
"When I was standing at a high altitude, I thought of this again and felt very scary. When I became pregnant again, I became a mother. My mentality became more and more mature, and I would worry more and more. If I feel that my body is really overloaded, I have to stop for a moment."
The process of becoming a mother is the process of raising children and growing up, and it is also the process of women cultivating themselves. The sentence "Women are weak, but they are strong as mothers" is believed to be the personal experience of many mothers. However, this kind of "hardness" is the gradual strength of the inner world; and what is reflected in the outer world is a kind of "softness" wisdom.
Let’s listen to the feelings of the mothers around me:
@Huajuan Mom: After becoming a mother, I became tolerant - I used to compete in my work and compete with others, but now everything doesn’t matter. I will take the initiative to smile and say hello to my colleagues who have had a bond. I will do what my boss should do, and I will not fight for what I don’t do for me. In this state, I was promoted in half a year...
@zixuan Aiuu: Only by raising a child can I know the kindness of my parents. With my children, I can begin to understand the difficulty of my parents, and getting along with my mother-in-law has become harmonious.
@Sunshine 1988: Before giving birth, I worked in the bank, but I didn’t like it. After giving birth to the boss, I felt more and more interested in early childhood education, and I like to play with my children. When I was having my second child, I took my maternity leave and got my introductory diploma from early childhood education. After the maternity leave, I simply went to kindergarten to be a teacher. Now I continue to study intermediate and advanced diplomas while working, dreaming of opening an early education center by myself. Thank you for being a mother and let me be brave enough to be myself!
Hong Kong actor Miriam Yeung also had a similar feeling after giving birth:
"After giving birth, my personality has become gentle, and my life pace has slowed down a lot. Now I am willing to spend time to make up for what I have missed.
At the same time, I am more willing to understand the feelings of my family and reflect on my relationship with my parents. I found that they really need to What you want is not a big house, but my company."
Indeed, many mothers have found that:
When you become a mother, you will become soft from a girl to a woman, and your edges will become smoothed, and you will no longer show your sharpness or get stuck in a stubborn way;
Faced with difficulties and tests, they choose to go with the flow; when faced with the pressure of life, they are willing to slow down and control the rhythm.
This change seems to be the greatest growth in a woman's life.
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Several methods
Let mothers calmly deal with the physical and mental changes brought about by pregnancy
1. Don’t forget to take care of yourself
In the first few months of the baby’s birth, mothers will concentrate on the baby’s food, drink, defecation, and urinate day and night, and stay all year round. This state makes mothers physically and mentally exhausted.
Mothers need to be aware of their physical and mental conditions in a timely manner and notice that the accumulation of daily stress will affect their emotional and mental health.
While taking care of children, don’t forget to take a break from your busy schedule and relax. Do what you like to adjust and divert attention can give your spirit a break.
Let your spirit relax and your body and mind breathe. Because the mother is good, the child will be well.
▲ Full-time mother Sun Li balances her family and herself in a happy state of having three babies. She regains her passion for dancing in middle age
2. Express her feelings directly, actively communicate and strive for support
Many mothers will have a irritable personality, depression, and even tense relationships with their families during this period.
Some mothers will argue, while others will suppress their emotions. But no matter what, every mother hopes that she can be competent for the role of "new mother" and hopes that her ideas and opinions will be respected.
Then, mothers need to adjust their own way of expressing emotions, and actively communicate and win the support of their father or other family members by expressing their feelings directly, rather than waiting for others to guess their needs or simply criticize and demand.
▲ In the TV series " Tiger Mom Cat Dad ", Bi Shengnan and Russell were originally a happy couple. As the children grew up, various problems in education followed one after another. The two had different educational concepts and triggered various family conflicts
3. Give yourself a period of time to learn and adapt to the role
Life level, as a novice mother, even if she did her homework before giving birth, she would still be caught off guard and unable to do anything in the actual process of taking care of the child.
Physiological level, due to the rapid decline in progesterone and estrogen levels in the mother's body after childbirth, the catecholamines in the brain and endocrine tissues are reduced, which affects the mother's mood and thinking.
When you are not sleeping enough, you are physically and mentally exhausted, but you keep forcing yourself to hold the baby to comfort yourself. Once the baby cries or has some physical condition, the mother may blame herself and lose confidence in herself.
When facing these psychological challenges, mothers need to tell themselves: This is not "I am not good enough", and I don't need "perfection". It's just that some physiological factors affect my mood. I just don't have some things that are proficient enough, and I need to spend time with my baby to get along and get to know each other. I allowed myself to have a process of learning and adapting to the role.
▲In the movie "Finding You", the strong woman Li Jie experienced the responsibility of being a mother after experiencing a thrilling storm in search of a woman. From then on, she tried to be a qualified mother.
4. Looking to the long run, the difficulties in front of her will pass
New mothers will definitely find that the baby's food, drink, defecation and urination are not so easy to take care of. Instead, we need to fully adapt to the child: frequent wake up and eat breastfeeding at night, always hold it and sleep and put it down, and not let it off for several days makes people anxious and angry...
These "troubles" are common during this period, and almost every mother has experienced the same pressure and torture.
Because the child grows up day by day, he will sleep longer and be more regular, and he will eat more smoothly. All worries will be a sweet little burden in the future. So, moms relax and make everything get better as soon as possible.
5, know yourself and your enemy, and get as much nurturing knowledge as possible
Faced with the various changes brought by becoming a mother, many mothers will be anxious, which is a necessary experience in the process of role transformation.
However, when we understand as much as we can about being a mother’s “professional skills” and “coping skills”, then our attitude will be much calmer.
Mom, what changes have you experienced before and after giving birth to a baby? Welcome to discuss
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