" Star Han Brilliant " seamlessly blocks "The Moon Rises the Sea" and becomes a phenomenal TV series this year. The great affairs of the country and the long love between children are shocking and lingering. As an elderly care practitioner, I am analyzing the "family relationship" in the play from a third-party standpoint, hoping to get some inspiration from it.
Plot introduction
Plot summary: The young general Ling Buyi, who carries a heavy life experience, is the story of Cheng Shaoshang, the "left-behind girl" who has been fighting with his parents for a long time, heals each other and grows up together in countless tests, sticks to inner justice, and works together to resolve the crisis of the country.
Family Left Behind
Stories from strange to reconciliation , the first thing to be recalled is the process of left-behind children - Cheng Shaoshang and her parents from "strange" to reconciliation .
. It was so full of expectations that I no longer imagined
. When we first met, Cheng Shi and Xiao Yuanyi were full of expectations for their daughter. Seeing that their daughter was weak, they felt both distressed and sad. At that time, Cheng Shaoshang had hope for his parents' life after their return, and asked questions again.
In the following days, through some minor performances, Xiao Yuanyi discovered that her daughter had a personality problem, pretended to be sick, refused to drink medicine, eavesdropped on the conversation of elders, blocked the chimney, lured her grandmother in the name of an old god; the ruler that was originally planned to tailor clothes was instantly changed to a "ruler" that punished her when she discovered her daughter's bad habits. The focus of this parent-child relationship was not right at the beginning.
. Dislocated discipline leads to freezing point in relationships
Xiao Yuanyi gave her daughter the gift she had saved for so many years, and on the other hand, she realized that her daughter was blind. In order to delay her "future" (marriage), she made up her mind to discipline her strictly. The book is memorized but not allowed to eat, praise other people's children and belittle their own children and the dispute over the case is also for fairness; one by one is extremely small matter, but it has brought the relationship between Xiao Yuanyi and Cheng Shaoshang and his daughter who met again for a long time to freeze.
. In two crisis events, the mother and daughter broke up with each other
To protect her cousin, Shaoshang had disputes and fights with outsiders; in order to vent his dissatisfaction, he designed a bridge of bones to let a group of noble girls fall into the water; it was really troublesome and annoying. Xiao Yuanyi should have communicated with her daughter calmly, informed her of the pros and cons, and used reasons to convince her daughter. Through these things, she could understand whether she should or not. However, Xiao Yuanyi chose simple and rough blame and corporal punishment. After the poke was punished, there should have been some emotional communication and preaching. However, Xiao Yuanyi once again pushed her away and even handed her over to "exiled" to Hua County.
Although, after being blamed, Shao Shang ran away from home, Xiao Yuanyi was worried that she would be frozen; after being scolded, Xiao Yuanyi would feel sorry for her daughter and cry sadly; when her daughter left home and went to Hua County, Xiao Yuanyi silently bid farewell and ordered Wu Maid to protect her. But Xiao Yuanyi did all these things alone, and Cheng Shaoshang had no idea. If you don’t say it, I won’t ask, each of you guesses and disagrees with each other. Due to lack of communication, the relationship between Xiao Yuanyi and Cheng Shaoshang and his daughter entered an unprecedented cold period.
. The edge of life and death hovered, the relationship turning point
Turning point happened after my daughter went to Hua County, faced the wandering soldiers and witnessed life and death at all distance. Shaoshang finally realized that his parents left their family and left her to defend their country. They also knew that in those years when they were not around, their parents were on the verge of life and death every day. After the fight between the soldiers and bandits, she understood her parents' helplessness.
But here is a logical understanding, and its energy is far from warming up the family affection between "left-behind children" and their parents.Later, Xiao Yuanyi publicly stated that Shaoshanghua County's "small skills" and "but lucky" to fight against bandits was "not a blessing"; just like a basin of cold water immediately extinguished the reason and remained in the heart of Shaoshang. She understood that her parents left her behind and fulfilled her loyalty to the country, but emotionally, Shaoshang still could not connect Cheng Shi and Xiao Yuanyi with her "parents"; coupled with Xiao Yuanyi's resistance reaction to Lou Yao's proposal made Shaoshang have new guesses about Xiao Yuanyi's feelings.
In essence, "small skills" and "happy" are Xiao Yuanyi's humble words to praise her daughter; in essence, "rejecting Lou Yao's proposal" is Xiao Yuanyi's objective statement of Lou Yao's character and family situation and concern about her daughter's future, and she hopes that Shaoshang will live a more easy life in the future. Xiao Yuanyi felt that her daughter was young and did not know the depth of the wealthy family. Cheng Shaoshang felt that her mother could not stand her well. Once again, because of her lack of emotional foundation and lack of communication, the rift between the two became even greater.
, Lou's divorce incident, mother and daughter united front
Facing Lou's unreasonable divorce, Xiao Yuanyi and Cheng Shaoshang and his daughter stood on the front line to ask for an explanation, beating Mrs. Lou and Lou. This is the first time that Xiao Yuanyi, as a mother, has been seeking justice for her daughter openly and firmly; it is the first time that she has stood behind her daughter with a clear attitude and supported her. The same movements, the same expressions, and the same attitude towards things, they truly stood together. Many people started watching the show because of this scene. The situation behind
has not yet subsided, and the situation has not yet subsided. The storm of remarriage in the real estate market has not yet subsided. Ling Buyi started his plan to marry in the imperial front. Knowing the complex relationship behind Chengyang Houfu-Ling family, Xiao Yuanyi and Cheng Shi would rather resign and give up their glory and wealth than let their daughter fall into such a family; their daughter's original intention of "setting things up" was to think that Cheng Shaoshang hoped to live within their protection and ensure that her daughter's life was safe and smooth.
However, Xiao Yuanyi defamed his daughter in public, "killing one thousand enemies and losing eight hundred of himself", and went further and further on the road of wrong methods. In the hall, there was an attempt to refuse marriage; after returning home, Xiao Yuanyi and Cheng Shaoshang had their first formal exchange. Although neither mother nor daughter showed any obvious concession and was still stubborn, the mother and daughter finally had the first emotional communication in a substantial sense, and for the second time they exchanged their opinions on the same thing face to face and formally.
Xiao Yuanyi and Cheng Shaoshang's major turning point in their relationship. At the moment when neither of them realized each other, it happened quietly; they began to try to have a heart-to-heart talk with each other. Later, at the real estate wedding banquet, Ling Buyi presided over justice for Cheng Shaoshang, and Xiao Yuanyi silently cooperated, publicly supported and helped her daughter vent her anger, which was a story later.
6. During the emotional warming period, he encountered a small separation
After the housing market wedding, facing Cheng Shaoshang who was depressed and in a tangled heart, Xiao Yuanyi, as a mother, used herself as an example to tell the truth about the couple getting along and running in, and persuaded her daughter to cherish the present and live a good life; facing the "foresaid mother-in-law" Chengyang Hou's wife Chunyu who came to her, Xiao Yuanyi and her daughter "stand on the front line" again, refuting rumors and fighting for reason; their relationship, and their mother-daughter family affection have officially begun to warm up.
However, the screenwriter left Xiao Yuanyi and Cheng Shaoshang to spend very little time together; after the engagement banquet, Cheng Shaoshang went to the palace to accompany the queen to study and training. The sudden separation made Xiao Yuanyi strongly feel the importance of her daughter to her and her concern for her. When Xiao Yuanyi was worried and exporting maternal love, her daughter was busy dating, working on her career, and consciously experiencing the "maternal love" from the queen.
When Ling Buyi pleased Cheng Shaoshang and moved his girlfriend's boudoir, Xiao Yuanyi was secretly sad. She sighed, "There are few people and more food, which makes people feel cold." The wedding of Cheng Shaoshang is approaching, and the queen prepared a dowry and dress for Shaoshang and arranged for her to get married in the palace.At that time, Xiao Yuanyi felt very disappointed. She put away the jewelry she prepared for her daughter and forced herself to smile and said, "This is the glory of the whole family." At this time, she had strongly felt that her daughter had grown up, was about to get married, and left her. In the misaligned time and in the misaligned time, Xiao Yuanyi's late maternal love finally had no chance to be released.
7. Before going to prison, he felt the deep love of mother
Cheng Shi was falsely sentenced to escape and disappear. The emperor and Empress do their best to ensure that Shao Shang, as the "bride of Ling family", does not have to be imprisoned with the Cheng family. Cheng Shaoshang insisted on going to prison with his family and sharing the joys and sorrows. Xiao Yuanyi turned around and slapped her daughter; stared at Shao Shang's eyes and said fiercely: You must be alive! Cheng Shaoshang confirmed for the first time that his mother loved her; she truly felt her place in her mother's heart from her heart. At that time, Xiao Yuanyi and Cheng Shaoshang and his daughter were truly close together.
8. Rescue Ling without doubt, and the family is repaired as before.
Ling without doubt, and bloody Hou Mansion in Chengyang was full of dangers, so Cheng Shaoshang decided to save him. Cheng Shi, Xiao Yuanyi and Cheng's two sons tried to dissuade him. After learning that Shao Shang had made up his mind, the whole family changed into armor to escort her. When sprinting to the level, Xiao Yuanyi said, "Just just rush towards Chengyang Hou Mansion, my father and mother will open the way for you!" Shao Shang looked back and ran forward. At that moment, Cheng Shaoshang must be very warm; the look she looked back at her parents and brothers marked that she truly embraced her from the bottom of her heart and her family.
The third prince went straight to Quling Hou Mansion, and Cheng Shi and Xiao Yuanyi defended their daughter and did not fear power to protect their daughter. When Shaoshang fought for the people he loved, his family was also fighting for her. She had a solid support behind her, and the Cheng family became a family in the true sense.
9. The period of family rebuilding, five years of separation
. Ling Buyi applied to go to the northwest, and Cheng Shaoshang applied to go to Changqiu Palace to accompany Empress Xuan.
Empress Xuan requested to depose the queen and imprison the Changchun Palace. Cheng Shaoshang was grateful for Empress Xuan's past care and chose to accompany Queen Xuan when she was in the most difficult time, and also gave herself an independent space to repair her emotional injuries. After the birth of
, Xiao Yuanyi and Cheng Shi gave up their daughter for the sake of their family and country; Cheng Shaoshang grew up and became sensible, and in order not to worry his parents, he repaired himself. Xiao Yuanyi and Cheng Shaoshang lacked some time to spend together, but their mother and daughter have a rich relationship.
Xiao Yuanyi cried at the gate of Changqiu palace: "Don't leave, I'm wrong, I'm sorry for you"; at this point, the crack of the family affection between mother and daughter has been completely repaired; what is left is regret and concern.
0. Parents reflect on it, and love their daughter with respect and freedom
Ling Buyi transformed into Huo Buyi and returned to Beijing, meeting Cheng Shaoshang and Cheng Shi and his wife again. Xiao Yuanyi said to him, "We have cared for Shaoshang since we were young. Now she is an adult, and we don't plan to interfere in her decision anymore. We will let her go of whatever path she is willing to take or choose to marry someone she is." Cheng Shaoshang and Cheng Shi and his wife's attitude towards their daughter is a 180-degree turn. They respect and do not interfere and support her decision. At the same time, we also actively hinted to those who love Shaoshang, leaving some space for their daughter's "reconciliation".
When Cheng Shaoshang returned home, Xiao Yuanyi held her hand and said gently, "I made your best cake!", and said to his daughter with red eyes: "It is also the first time I am a girl's mother. I don't know the difference between raising a daughter and raising a son, nor do I know the difference between raising a daughter and raising a son; you have grown too fast and cannot tolerate me thinking about it carefully; I was wrong before, and I am willing to change for you in the future. Please give me a chance to change for you."
At this point, Xiao Yuanyi and Cheng Shi and their "left-behind children" daughter completely reconciled.Later, Shaoshang was struggling to guard Guo Village, and Cheng Shi and his wife and their families led their troops to help; one said, "Who dares to touch my daughter?" and the other shouted, "My mother is here to help you", all of which were sincere calls, and the family finally ushered in a happy ending.
Family affection is a romantic and lucky life practice
Review of the emotional repair path of left-behind child Cheng Shaoshang and her parents. At first, it was full of expectations, but was disappointed due to lack of communication. They were reborn due to misunderstandings in various trivial matters; later, in the experience of life, they learned each other through the torture of suffering; their daughters knew the difficulties of their parents, and their parents knew the "different" of their daughters; they were no longer simple and crude "I will manage you, you must obey my management"; the family was willing to sit together and talk and communicate with each other with heart. They have also learned to understand and respect each other. After their emotions are straightened out, they can feel love, their hearts are fit together, and their family affection is replenished.
In "The Stars and Hans are Brilliant, the Moon Rises in the Sea", the story of Xiao Yuanyi and Cheng Shi and "Left Behind Children" Cheng Shaoshang is very similar to the plot of many parents and children getting along in our real world. You can often see discussions and questions and answers about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and the marriage of children on the Internet. In fact, whether it is father and son, mother and daughter, mother-in-law, or son-in-law, the original intention of everyone to get along is to be harmonious and beautiful; in real life, because of lack of getting along, lack of common experience, and being ashamed to express and communicate; when the elders think I am an elder, the younger generation should respect me, respect me, and obey my arrangements. My younger generation thinks that your experience is outdated, our relationship is not that strong, and I don’t even know you very well, so why should we cooperate with you and obey you?
Because of in-laws, they become the mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, mother-in-law and son-in-law of the family. The two people who have no sense of getting along with each other have formed a new family relationship because of one person, and have the name of family, and are not necessarily in family relationships. Without an emotional foundation, it is indeed difficult to get along with each other.
The internal relationship between a big family and a small family and a man and a woman cannot avoid certain disputes of interest; each has his own scheming and his own little ones; often want others to take a step back, but they cannot retreat half an inch; various relationships and contradictions arise, and life becomes extremely exciting. In the final analysis, feelings require some things to go through together, and after a certain amount of time, in the process of getting along. As long as you have the temperament of each other, understand what you care about, and find ways for both parties to live in harmony; truly accept, recognize, and integrate in life and become a real family.
Parents and children who have been with each other for decades and brothers and sisters who have been with each other for decades cannot guarantee that they will get along very well; not to mention that they joined a new family because they love someone. New family members and new family relationships require more time to go through and experience things. Those who want to be simple and crude, get benefits through a "identity" relationship, and control others through age and generation; they are destined to go through conflicts and be beaten by pain; if they can wake up from harm and injury, it is a blessing in life; if they cannot, it is also a practice in life. I hope that the characters in the TV series and the relationship between parents and family can bring us some inspiration.
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, the "old mother" of the TV series
From the TV series, we see different parents teach their children different ways, and their impact on their children is also very interesting. Let's take a look.
Empress Xuan & Prince: Empress Xuan is born kind, her son - the prince, is warm and kind, and he doesn't know how to protect himself. As Queen Xuan’s mother, I hope the prince will be a kind person and spend his life safely. As a result, the prince was kind and had no edge. It means a little silly and kind.
Yuefei & Third Prince: Yueheng is deeply aware of justice, has clear love and hate, and is brave in doing things; helps the children of the rivals in love, scolds the third princess who cannot cry, and destroys the relatives of his younger brother Xiao Yuehou for justice. Her son, the third prince, exposed her sister, the third princess for counterfeiting coins, stayed away from her uncle, Xiao Yuehou, and stood at the critical moment to protect Ling Buyi. She was very wise, decisive in killing and sacrificing her family for the sake of the country. She was exactly the same as her mother. Later, because of his talent and achievements, he was appointed as the crown prince.
Wen Xiujun & Wang Wen: Wen Xiujun is obsessed with the glory of the Qian'an royal family and is addicted to unrealistic fantasies. He is like a confused insect, without educating his children and allowing them to indulge them. The son caused trouble when he suppressed bandits and his daughter hated the celebrity circle; in the end, the husband and son-in-law were demoted, and the daughter and son-in-law were imprisoned. The whole play was the worst. In comparison, for the sake of his younger brother, Wen Xiujun threatened the sister of the same clan, Empress Xuan, who was arrogant and domineering, willing to be a pawn of her mother's family, and had all his life's scheming; his daughter Wang Ying clinged to power and did not distinguish between green and red, and was willing to be a noble girl's follower, doing things that harmed others and did not benefit themselves, offended the most, and she did not lose any benefits, and she finished her own path. They are arrogant and domineering when they have conditions, and are confused when they have no conditions. The mother and daughter live a very tragic life, a typical representative of good cards and poor playing.
TV series reflects the real world, but the real world is even more cruel; kindness should be sharp, strive to have a bottom line, and be wise and sensible in dealing with people and things. Many events have two sides. It is not possible to only look at A and not b; it is not possible to only look at A and B. In the long journey of life, it takes a lot of preparation to live freely and live happily. When they are young, when their children are young, the elders give their younger generations the energy to grow; when they are older, when their children become adults, the younger generations use their energy to feed their families, take care of their elders, and raise their younger generations; the predecessors and future generations are different, and are the same, which is a magical closed loop and a magical "repetition".
, the "old lady" of the TV series, "old man"
Grandmother of the Cheng family: Old lady Cheng has three sons and three daughters-in-law; she has lived with her second son for many years, relied on her eldest son in finance, and loved her younger son emotionally; she hated the eldest daughter-in-law and didn't like the younger daughter-in-law, so she liked to mingle with the second daughter-in-law who complimented her every day; she was thinking about it, and her father entrusts her to take care of her younger brother if she has something to do or not. Old Mrs. Cheng usually "makes trouble" and does whatever she wants at home, but when the crisis comes, Old Mrs. Cheng knows very clearly what is the most important thing. She refuses to sacrifice her son's future to save Uncle Dong. She takes out her life's savings of private money and entrust her granddaughter Shaoshang to save the man. Such an old lady is so angry and cute, hateful and pitiful.
,000 grandmothers: 0,000 grandmothers are righteous. Distinguish right from wrong, and to protect children, she is flexible and not pedantic, and she is powerful but not overwhelming. When his son kept his "map", he wisely turned a blind eye and closed his eyes to resolve the crisis; he was not moved by interests and knew the key points of choices; he encouraged his son to interact with like-minded and reliable friends, and to manage Qiuqiu with lenient and strict and flexible; he was a truly wise person. It is a typical representative of "there is an old person in the family, as if there is a treasure".
County Magistrate Cheng: Hua County is in crisis, and the soldiers slaughter the people outside the city; Cheng took his whole family of men out of the city to fight the enemy and sacrificed his life. He was brave, his son was brave, and even her little granddaughter knew to fulfill his grandfather's instructions. This is probably the case with a loyal and heroic school, and by words and deeds!
Ge family grandfather: Ge family’s old lady learned that her daughter was retired for her evil deeds (the second daughter-in-law of Cheng’s family), and rushed to the Cheng family to bring her daughter back. She apologized to the head of the Cheng family and encouraged her ex-son-in-law Cheng Cheng not to feel inferior because of her leg disease. As long as she entered school, she would never be too late to return to her hometown to open a private school to teach.Such an old man is a sensible old man. He does not blame, does not vent his anger, does not avoid problems, and can handle crises; he is the stabilizing needle in the family. The "old lady" and "old man" in the TV series in
are far less complicated than in our real world. Everyone will encounter elders of all kinds of temperaments and tempers, naughty, majestic, wise, confused and unreasonable. When naughty elders get along with each other, they should not be too serious, they can only be smart but not hard; when they encounter powerful people, they can only spoil and coax them, and occasionally act cute and coquettish; when they encounter confused and unreasonable, they can consider defeating magic. In short, we all need to explore ourselves and find a suitable way to get along with each other; without standard answers, we can only aim to get along well, don't be too reasonable, and don't be too exaggerated.
On the road to growth, we will always be influenced by some people, encouraged by some people, and move towards some people. They may be parents, elders, colleagues and friends, or other partners. Calm down and think, be yourself, maybe we will give our best answers to life, be yourself, be yourself, be your best love for your children, and be good to your parents. "The Stars and Hans" "The Moon Borns in the Sea" is a beautiful story that discusses mother-daughter family love and great love for your country; everyone can get their own gains; I hope that the editor's compilation can bring you some useful things.
