Previously, if I was asked the question "Who is an older unmarried actress in the entertainment industry?", most netizens should have the name of Lin Chiling flashed through their minds.
June 6, without any warning, Lin Chiling announced the good news of her marriage: Love and courage, I am married! Skip the love process and directly announce your marriage. This explosive news instantly gained a hot search.
Previously, Lin Chiling, who was urged by the media and major interview programs, said that although she was "urged" tightly, she had a longing for marriage and family: "Don't settle down because of her age, she does not value external conditions such as height and appearance, but still believes in fate." While netizens bless Lin Chiling's marriage, her view of love and marriage that she does not settle down has also aroused heated discussions among many netizens. Netizens who support Lin Chiling think that this brave attitude of pursuing love and not compromising is great and worth learning from by girls; however, some netizens also believe that celebrities have the capital to believe in fate and pursue true love, but most women are just ordinary people.
In the vote released by Nandu NDX Laboratory "How do you view Lin Chiling's view of love and marriage", as of press time, nearly 70% (68%) of the interviewed netizens believed that it is worth learning from contemporary women, and more than 30% of the interviewed netizens said that they cannot learn from Lin Chiling's persistence.
Lin Chiling said that she does not value the other person’s external conditions. So what conditions do netizens value most when starting a relationship?
In the interactive voting, most netizens said that they value the other person's character and personality the most, because character and personality are the decisive factor in whether love can reach the end; 14.5% of netizens said that they are face-controlled and value the other person's body shape and appearance the most. In addition, a small number of netizens said that what they value most is the other party’s financial conditions and family conditions.
Some netizens said that it is important to find someone who loves you more in love, because in this way you can take the initiative in this relationship. Papi Jiang also mentioned on a variety show that the most important thing in a person’s life is himself, followed by his partner.
voting results of the survey of netizens' roles in marriage and relationships showed that 63.6% of netizens said that the other party is as important as themselves; 29.1% of netizens admitted that they love themselves more in marriage and relationships, and 7.3% of netizens love each other more than themselves.
celebrities are urged to get married. I believe that many single working parties have experienced soul-sentenced interrogations from parents and aunts. This is not a pleasant thing, especially the words of relatives that "women will go downhill when they are thirty years old" have aroused the disgust of countless independent women.
Many elders believe that age is difficult to marry. While 70% of netizens believe that Lin Chiling’s view of marriage and love is worth learning from, 70% of netizens also admit that age has become a great restriction for women to pursue love. Does this mean that contemporary independent women are still influenced by the traditional view of marriage and love when pursuing self-realization?
There is a praiseworthy question on Zhihu: Why are there so many older leftover women around you, but there are very few leftover men? In the answer, the difference between men and women expecting this is particularly mentioned.
Love is a very important factor in the construction of an intimate relationship, but there is also a saying that goes: love is love, love, and marriage is food, food, oil and salt. Compared with love, marriage obviously needs to be considered more factors, and marriage relationships are more realistic than romantic relationships.
In the vote on "What is the most important thing in marriage life", love is no longer the choice of most netizens. 60% of netizens believe that the way they get along with each other determines the quality of marriage, while 30% of netizens believe that "poor couples are sad about everything", and the economic foundation is the guarantee of marriage life.
What inspiration did Lin Chiling’s marriage bring to unmarried women? Netizen "Black Rabbit" said: "Only by looking forward to love and marriage, can people feel happy when they get married. Isn't true love this the case? Believe it is destined."
Netizens believe that love will never be absent, or think that everything is just right is the best, and think that there is only one Lin Chiling in the world, who has the right to pursue happiness and the freedom to long for love. Like Lin Chiling, she does not pay attention to or compromise, and waits for true love, or enters the marriage hall with a good person at the right age and a good person, is also a personal choice.
We cannot judge which view of marriage and love is better on behalf of women's standpoint, because every woman is an independent individual with different personalities and ideas. However, I still hope that every girl can find her true love, just as Pushkin said in her poem:
You appeared in front of me at this time,
is like an elf of pure beauty.
My heart is jumping in ecstasy,
For it, everything wakes up again,
There are people who fall in love with you, the inspiration of poetry,
There are life, tears, and love.
Interview and writing: Nandu reporter Xu Ting You Lichuan Intern Deng Jiaxin
