"Life is a series of choices, guiding you towards a result that conforms to your values. That is called a good choice or a correct choice."
A recent popular Korean drama " Itaewon CLASS", tells the story of a young man struggling to survive in this turbid world for his own beliefs.
This drama has a very distinctive positive and negative views , One is to live with faith, even if it is very hard , The other is to know how to bow to life , and . When it is time to admit defeat, you must admit defeat, and when it is time to give in, don’t be stubborn.
is obvious. The male protagonist in the play chose the thorny life path. He did not retreat when encountering difficulties, was not afraid when encountering blows, and became stronger when facing setbacks.
can’t help but think: How should we choose our lifestyle? Difficult, or, easy? What is difficult: stick to principles and beliefs; What is easy: being carefree and relaxed.
1. Different campus life
"Whoever wants to play with life will accomplish nothing, whoever can't dominate himself will always be a slave. - Goethe"
Xiaoguang is a student from an ordinary undergraduate school, and he is in his junior year this year. By junior year, for many people, campus life in their entire lives will be over.
In order to commemorate the departing youth, Xiaoguang used " to live in drunkenness and die in dreams" to comfort his sad soul. Oh, no, it is the body.
Breakfast is skipped every day, sleep until eleven o'clock in the afternoon and have brunch, and then games, movies, novels, animations, shopping, dinners... easily pass the day when you want to get lazy and get cancer.
occasionally feels good and is in a good mood. I will report to the classroom and give it a sense of presence so as not to be too ugly in the final score.
But the classmates in the same dormitory live like Ascetic : Get up at 6:30 in the morning, go out at 7:30 in the morning, arrive at the library at 8:30 in the morning, leave the library at 1:30 in the morning, go back to the dormitory for an hour, go out at 1:30 in the morning, go out again at 1:30 in the evening.
Xiaoguang was still a little nervous when he saw this, but then he thought: I don’t want to take the postgraduate entrance examination again!
When I arrived at the classroom, I looked at the few classmates around me, either lowering my head to play or sleeping on the table, so that the already empty classroom could not see a raised head.
Xiaoguang, who was originally a little uneasy, was instantly comforted: This is college life!
Later, Xiaoguang's classmates successfully passed the postgraduate entrance examination, and she, like most graduates, faces the risk of unemployment after graduation.
Reading is not an easy thing, but it allows Xiaoguang and the others to live a life like a god. There is no reason. Relaxation and comfort are always more executable than hard work.
2. Eight hours outside of work
"Time passes fairly for everyone, but the time and my concentration are completely different."
Xiaotian has been graduating for eight years, from his initial salary of more than 10,000 yuan to his current post-tax. No matter how humble he acts, he still cannot help but float away.
His wife has the most say in Xiaotian's change.
Although Xiaotian graduated three years earlier than his wife, when his wife graduated, it was still no different from three years ago: he worked a job that he couldn't even support himself, went out early and came back late every day, and had to go on business trips every week.
My wife, who was still a girlfriend at the time, couldn't stand it anymore, so she strongly suggested that he change his industry and change his job.
The effort finally paid off. After changing jobs, Xiaotian didn't have to work overtime, and his daily routine was the same as before, so he left a lot of time.In addition to taking care of his pregnant wife, he can also quickly improve his business capabilities.
Finally, one year after their baby was born, Xiaotian successfully became the supervisor and his salary increased accordingly.
However, Xiaotian's wife found that Xiaotian changed a lot.
In the past year, Xiaotian has just gotten up at around nine o'clock in the morning to cook almost every day, and many times it is already past ten o'clock when you go out to work. When I got home at 6 pm, I lay down on the sofa, turning a blind eye to the housework. After dinner, Xiaotian's wife began to coax the child to sleep, and he began a happy journey of one day: playing games, and he couldn't stop as soon as he played until two or three o'clock in the evening.
His wife wants him to have a healthier lifestyle, but whether it is to know his feelings, move him with reason, or to coerce and induce him, crying and tragic, Xiaotian is indifferent and still goes to bed late and gets up late. And I no longer communicate with my wife, and my temper became stronger and stronger in front of my wife.
In life, don’t slap in the face too quickly.
The epidemic in 2020 has caused many people to wait at home for resumption of work, and Xiaotian is no exception. Seeing others starting to work one after another, he still had a free time at home, and he couldn't help but start to worry.
However, Buddha's feet are not so easy to hold. Without the usual burning incense and worshiping Buddha, there is no support for the moment.
Not working means not having income , in addition to playing games every day, it is also playing games.
My wife's face became increasingly ugly. Finally, after reminding him several times that he had no results, he broke out. The little genius who was deprived of nothing suddenly remembered that more than a year ago, his wife seemed to have said that she should prepare the B plan of for life in order to prevent emergencies.
My wife, who was so angry that she couldn't make a strong decision, looked at Xiaotian without saying a word and gave an ultimatum: If the family is still putting the risk next time because they are not motivated, they will have to go their separate ways. I can't always wait for a person who doesn't want to grow up and become mature and sensible.
The early days were too casual and they were retribution later.
people, they are those who have experienced the tribulations in the world, so there is no easy and happy thing.
Correct your mindset, do not be arrogant or extravagant, do not be humble or arrogant, set goals, and move forward firmly. At the same time, you must also understand that life is your own choice and you cannot let others pay, especially the person you love the most.
"Time passes fairly for everyone, but the concentration of time and mine is completely different."
3. The counterattack of full-time mothers
"Life is diligent, and diligence will not be scarce; the door hinge does not rot, and the running water does not rot - Xu Mingkui"
Xiaoyu started the journey of full-time mothers .
Although her colleague's resignation made her a little sad before resigning, and her father's anger made her feel uneasy, she firmly handed over her resignation and joined the army of full-time mothers.
But Xiaoyu understands very well that in this life, in addition to the identities of mother, wife and daughter, there is another very important tag, which is herself: Xiaoyu.
Therefore, Xiaoyu did not contribute every minute of her to this family, she left blank space for herself.
Because I became a mother for the first time, I don’t understand many things and no one around me can ask for help. The information on the Internet is varied and I cannot believe it all. So Xiaoyu turned on the mode to chew psychology textbooks mode.
When the fifth book was closed, Xiaoyu would no longer be in a panic when facing the problems of her child.
At the same time, also started her dream pursuit process .
Xiaoyu's childhood dream was to be a psychologist. However, when he was filling out his application form, his father did not allow it, so he changed to other majors.
Seven years of study have not made her fall in love with this major. Xiaoyu knows that even if she returns to the workplace in the future, the probability of choosing the logistics industry is very small.
Moreover, she wanted to do something for herself and wanted her dreams to no longer be covered in dust. So she quit the novel and set aside three to five hours a day to study, preparing to take the national graduate entrance examination next year .
I asked: Is it bitter?
She said that is not bitter, very fulfilling, very happy, and the process of realizing your dreams with your own hands is indescribable!
Not only that, Xiaoyu also participated in the yoga practice class . She was in poor health and having a baby almost exhausted all her health. When she realized that she might die early, she was scared. She still had dreams that had not come true, and she still had children that had not been raised. If she fell down, she would really have nothing.
So, her life has another fixed arrangement: two yoga classes a week.
In Xiaoyu, I can’t see the anxiety and confusion of the full-time mother, nor can I see the sloppy and blood difference in others’ mouths. I always dress myself up beautifully before going out (in her words: children will also compare their mother’s appearance): Light makeup is the basis for going out, earrings and necklaces are also essential, the clothes are comfortable and elegant, and high heels can be worn if conditions permit.
In short, it is best to describe Xiaoyu as "sky and beautiful".
So, what will life become? In fact, the initiative lies in our own hands!
