I don’t know which day it starts. Anyway, in recent times, my little second baby’s catchphrase has become all kinds of willfulness that starts with “no”.
"Baby gets up!"
"No--get up!"
"Baby wears clothes!"
"No--get dress!"
"Baby drinks water!"
"No--drinking!"
"Baby drinks water!"
"No--drinking water!"
"Baby eats vegetables!"
"No--eat vegetables!"
"Baby eats watermelon!"
"No--, I want to eat watermelon!"
"No--, I want to eat watermelon!"
"No--, I want to eat watermelon!"
Alas, I thought he was just doing it casually. After several small tests, he understood it every minute. He understood it all the judgments starting with "no" on the premise of fully knowing the choice (actually, it is even more rebellious).
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Somewhat feels, it seems that the little doll that I hugged and hugged in my baby yesterday suddenly came to the time of "TRUBBLE TWO (terrible two years old)". Two years, more than 700 days, how come it’s fleeting?
However, before I could finish my feelings, the little brat was already happily opening the water dispenser button while I was not careful. The water was flowing, and he happily applauded!
Disaster! A happy disaster! !
When the baby reaches about 2 years old, there will be a very obvious period of resistance, saying "no" to all the parents' demands! There is no reason, it is just to show oneself and declare one's independence and personality!
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From the perspective of children's psychological development, the baby's "terrible two years old" is actually a manifestation of his growth. Infant babies do not have independent self-awareness and cannot distinguish themselves from the outside world. For him, mother and themselves are one.
For example, before the baby is 2 years old, the mother says to the Xiaobao who is eating, "Feed me a bite!" Xiaobao will happily lift the delicious food in his hand to his mother, and at the same time, "Feed me!"
Babies before the age of two are rarely distinguished from "you" and "me".
But when you are about two years old, the baby can clearly realize the existence of the "self" and realize that the "I" has his own ideas, practices, and wishes. Not to mention that he is different from others, at least he is different from the people at home. Therefore, he needs to experience his independence through actions and prove his independence. "Rebellion" is the most straightforward way, and it has become a "no" child from then on.
The ranking of babies at this stage of favorite words:
1, "No--"
2, "I will do it!" "I will do it myself!"
3, "I (usually use my nickname to replace me) want this", "I (usually use my nickname to replace me) don't want that"
...
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I have long understood and deeply experienced the "TRUBBLE TWO" stage of babies. When Dabao started to resist, reject my opinions, and "rebellion", I didn't feel particularly sad; when Xiaoerbao's time was just a trivial matter! Haha, when I looked at Xiao Erbao muttering "No", "No", "No", "No", I actually felt like "the way is one foot high, and the devil is one foot high" in my heart.
"TRUBBLE TWO" for babies,
My secret is two words: calm!
The specific action is still two words: hug!
No matter how winds in the southeast, southwest and northwest, I will remain unmoved! Follow the baby's growth trajectory, follow the way you can't do it; cry or make a fuss, and it doesn't affect the principle; when the baby is excited, the mother will hold the baby, then hold the baby, hold the baby tightly, and hold the baby tightly to help him gradually calm down in the mother's arms!
I am a decades old and can’t handle you, a two-year-old doll. Wouldn’t there be flying knives everywhere in the world? Look at me, I will get you little doll with three tricks!
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[First trick: the question is mainly about choice]
When I woke up in the morning, I said, "Baby, good morning!"
Xiao Erbao turned over and said to me with a smile: "No-good!"
I smiled and said, "If it's not good, it's not good! Dress up!"
"No-good!"
There is really no surprise! I sighed secretly, and while not caring about his words, I started to find him clothes: "Wear white or blue?"
pair, this is the first move, let him choose! Give the baby the right to choose, satisfy his desire to grow up and be independent, and also achieves the mother's goal in happiness.
episode: Sometimes the baby’s choice may not be the result the mother wants. It doesn’t matter, it’s not a matter of principle. So what if you indulge him once?
Just like this morning, Xiao Erbao insisted on wearing the clothes he wore yesterday. She wished she could change her clothes three times a day, but she would get dirty in a while. He just wanted to wear dirty and sweaty clothes. After a few discussions, he firmly grabbed the clothes with his little hands and sat on the bed, not having any choice.
OK, okay, just like you! So what if I just wear it for a long time?
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[Second trick: statement Say it inversely according to your own purpose]
There is a lunch break at noon, and I lay in bed: "Mom is sleepy, I want to sleep!"
Xiao Erbao sat next to me, his little mouth pouted: "No - sleep!"
I looked at him carelessly: "I know you don't sleep. I don't let you sleep either!"
? Xiao Erbao didn’t know how to answer my words for a while, so ignorant!
smiled secretly, and did not forget to kiss his little face: "Mom wants you to coax me to bed and pat me to bed!"
Xiao Erbao shook his head: "Don't coax me to bed, don't shoot! Play!"
I quickly gave him all the books and toys: "Then you can read books and play with toys. I'm going to bed!" After that, he didn't forget to yawn!
Xiao Erbao reached out to throw the books and toys aside: "Don't read books, don't play with toys!"
I closed my eyes: "If you don't read books, don't play with toys, just sit here and do whatever you want!"
Then I heard him lying down beside me: "Lying down, sleep!"
Yes, this is the second move, or it can be said to be a "circumcision tactic". Using the baby's mentality of " reverse bone " to effectively bring him to the "right path". Of course, this trick requires my mother to think more and think hard. Sometimes, you really can’t “take effect with one move” against your baby. Take your time and get more running-in, and everything will be fine.
No matter how uncooperated or tantrums the baby is, mothers must keep their initial "calmness". Never think that "violence against violence" can be simple and effective. In fact, based on my years of experience, "violence against violence" is just an vent of their frustrated emotions. For babies, it may be effective in the short term, and long-term use will be endless troubles!
Let’s talk about it again, where can a two-year-old doll be “reversed”? There is no need to exaggerate, and there is no need to be anxious to get angry. If the reason does not make sense, you will be unreasonable. Be calm and rational in dealing with the baby or simply ignore it for a while, as long as he is safe.But you must not get angry. Getting angry is the rhythm of your mother "breaking her skills"!
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[Third trick: give a bottom line to solve the problem with consultants]
The bedtime is coming soon at night, and I greeted Xiao Erbao and said, "Baby, we are going to turn off the lights!"
As usual, the answer I got was: "No - turn off the lights!"
"Don't turn off the lights? Then what do we do?" Well, I will not be a parent who is a one-man official, so I will seek his opinions with courtesy.
"Reading a book!" Xiao Erbao answered neatly.
"Okay, let's read a book!" I picked up a book casually.
"No - read a book!"
Alas, it's coming again! Is there anything you want to go crazy?
"Don't read? Then we will turn off the lights!" The fewer choices, the better.
"No - turn off the lights!" Xiao Erbao began to cheat in a crying voice.
"Let's do it, we won't turn off the lights now, but turn off the lights in 5 minutes. OK?" Give him the freedom to choose and give him the time to prepare.
"No - OK!" Xiao Erbao has reached the point of being unreasonable, and his mother is crazy inside!
"If the lights are not turned off after 5 minutes, then we can only choose to turn off the lights now!" I said and turned off the lights.
's crying sound came as scheduled: "No - turn off the lights! No - turn off the lights!"
"5 minutes?" I continued to ask.
"Okay!" finally answered OK. The feeling of fighting wits and courage is really not easy!
Turn on the light again, hugged Xiao Erbao warmly, and chatted with him casually: "Baby, look out the window. It's dark, the sun is off work, the moon is coming out, the little star is blinking, and secretly looking at you!"
"Look at me! Look at me!" Xiao Erbao cheered and excited.
"Yes, Xiao Xingxing said, it's so strange, why is Chenchen next door sleeping and the one downstairs sleeping every day, but why is there no one in the baby?" He glanced at Xiao Erbao, blinked and said nothing.
I continued: "The lights are going to turn off in 3 minutes. Baby, listen, Sister Wind is rustling and ready to go to bed; the grass is blown to the point of falling asleep; the cats in the yard are already asleep..." My voice is getting lower and lower, and slower and slower.
"The last minute left, my baby is going to sleep too!" After saying that, I hugged him and kissed him again, "Mom is turning off the lights!" When
got up again and turned off the lights, Xiao Erbao stopped making trouble.
Many times, I will adopt this method. When Xiao Erbao doesn’t cry or make a fuss, he will discuss a result. When crying and making unreasonable, he will stick to his own opinions. No matter what, he will give the baby a delayed time, that is, he will give him a preparation time so that he can accept a certain suggestion psychologically and make him feel like he is the leader.
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Raising children is like this. You cannot be eager for quick success or instant benefits, you cannot be rushing to achieve success, and you cannot be simple and crude. Faced with various situations that occur, you should treat it calmly. A peaceful mentality and a firm attitude do not conflict. Mom can persist while being gentle.
Some parents are particularly anxious when facing the endless problems of their children. In fact, nothing is a big deal. Raising children is not a profound knowledge. What is required is careful and patientness. It also requires parents to keep pace with the times and learn to understand their children’s needs, and know what problems they are facing at a certain stage.
In fact, all the growth of a child is a necessary process in life. In this process, there are both the efforts and growth of the baby, as well as the wisdom and growth of parents. Since that's the case, parents should grow up with their children!
