In "Menghualu", the relationship between Zhao Paner, Sun Sanniang and Song Yinzhang is enviable. But these three sisters have completely different temperaments, so the endings are naturally different. Zhao Pan'er met Gu Qianfan. Although Sun Sanniang was married and had children, she did not give up on herself after the divorce, and also met the "good man" Du Fuzi.
But what about Song Yinzhang? When he was in Qiantang, he was deceived by Zhou She. When I came to Tokyo, I still couldn't escape the fate of being deceived by someone like Shen Ruzhuo. In the trailer, she followed her again.
Why does Song Yinzhang always meet "scumbags"? How was her "slag-absorbing" physique refined? These three things must be avoided when raising a daughter.
1. The original family lacks love
Let’s take a look at these two relationships between Song Yinzhang. I met Zhou She for the first time. After a few days of getting along, I had to marry and elope with me. Before leaving, she brought her to meet Zhao Paner. When Zhao Paner saw Zhou She, she knew that this was a master of "flirting with the moon", and immediately said bluntly that she "don't agree". As a result, Song Yinzhang eloped with him.
Meet Shen Ruzhuo for the second time. This time it was quite reliable. I was cautious at the beginning. But not long after, he eloped with him and lived directly at his house.
Tell me, just like this behavior and personality, how can it not be the favorite target of "scumbags"?
Song Yinzhang has a good appearance and is also good at playing the pipa. There must be many people complimenting around her, and she is also knowledgeable. But why can't we recognize the true faces of people like Zhou She and Shen Ruzhuo?
That's because they both understand girls very much. They know what you want and how to coax you to make you happy and even move. Do you still remember the part when Zhao Paner deliberately deceived Zhou She? Look at Zhou She's so attentive when she saw Zhao Paner pretending to be sad. Anyone would be reluctant to do it.
Most of the girls who are easily deceived by such boys are because of their lack of love in their original family. Ma Dong once said: There are many people who have bitterness in their hearts, and they can be filled with just a little sweetness.
People who cannot get love in their original family are easily moved by others' love a little bit, thus breaking with the family and embarking on the wrong path.
So, if you have a daughter, be sure to give her full love. In this way, she will not be easily moved by those "scumbags" with ulterior motives.
2. Being protected too well
The reason why Song Yinzhang made a mistake is because she was protected too well by Zhao Paner. Because of Song Yinzhang's entrusting, Zhao Paner took care of Song Yinzhang everywhere and refused to let her participate in many things. It is precisely because of this protection that Song Yinzhang imagined everyone too well, and she did not see the versatility of people.
Just like Zhou She, his two faces are intimidating. When asking for money, he obeyed Song Yinzhang; when Song Yinzhang had no money, he punched and kicked him.
Shen Ruzhuo was also polite when he did not get Song Yinzhang, but when Song Yinzhang fell in love with him, his romantic nature could be clearly seen.
We often say that a person must let her take the detours. Only in this way can she grow into what you want.
I still remember the previous popular drama "Heart Residence". Ge Yue in the play is a child who is too well protected by her parents. She fell in love with Gu Xin, but Gu Xin cheated on her behind her back.
Raise children, especially girls. Don’t always feel that if you solve all the risks for her, she will not be in danger. You must know that the path of life ultimately needs to be carried on by yourself.
3, inner inferiority
Song Yinzhang is like Zhao Paner, they are both inferior in their hearts. People with inferiority always feel that they are not worthy of the better. So when they face relationships, they will be disconfidant.
Zhang Haohao in the play is a good example. Although she is also from a musical family, she never feels inferior. Especially her remarks, she was praised twice by the government at the age of 23. This kind of life is enough to be proud, not inferior.
So we see her relationship with Chi Yanei. Chi Yanei was eaten by her, but she didn't have to eat at all. And she could also know at a glance what kind of person Shen Ruzhuo was.
Song Yinzhang has always been inferior because she is in the music industry. She is thinking about it all the time, hoping to get rid of her identity as the music industry. Although Zhang Haohao's words made her much more cheerful, she actually didn't listen much.
It is precisely because of this inferiority complex that she has a lot of disconfidence when facing her feelings. Just like this time when she was talking to Shen Ruzhuo, she revealed her past story with her because she felt that she was not worthy of Shen Ruzhuo's love.
But she didn't know that it was Shen Ruzhuo who really couldn't deserve her.
At this point, Sun Sanniang is really transparent. Although she has been married and has children, she has never felt inferior. She said that she was still young, why couldn't she marry a lover again?
When raising a daughter, don’t always deny her. Negation is the source of inferiority complex. Only by giving her more confidence and attention can she get rid of the quagmire of inferiority, so as to respect and love herself, and live a light.
