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Before, a message was on the headlines, and many universities stipulated that students were prohibited from having sex before marriage, which aroused heated discussion among netizens.
has many opposition voices, and the content of opposition is sarcasm. It is believed that this regulation is very funny, so it is better to go directly to the feudal era.
In fact, the people who oppose it are basically men. In fact, this school’s regulations are regulations to protect girls. Any girl who has experience must know this.
I believe that parents with daughters must also support this provision.
In terms of raising a daughter, except for this, all parents agree, and parents will also have some differences in the process of raising a daughter.
For example, should girls be fond of or strictly educated, for example, to make their daughter a person with high tolerance, or to let their daughter learn to protect their rights.
There is no good or bad education for children. As long as you raise them in place, excellent girls can appear in all directions.
Pei Cen Hou 's growth experience. Parents might as well learn about
Pei Cen Hou's mother Lin Yueru, who was a third party involved. Later, she gave birth toPei Cen Hou and then leftPei Cen Hou's father.
Like many young girls who make mistakes, Lin Yueru has been waiting for Patty Hou’s biological father to divorce, but the other party has been slow to divorce, so Patty Hou became the “illegitimate daughter”.
From the illegitimate daughter who was ridiculed at first, to the number one beautiful anchor in Taiwan, all the celebrities were ranked behind, and Patty Hou was considered Lin Yueru's "king bomb".
In order to support her daughter and to provide her with a good life, Lin Yueru later did Qiu Jiaxiong qf.
The mother and daughter lived a good life from that time. Patty Hou transformed into a princess and moved into a big villa.
But no matter what materially or spiritually, she can never get rid of the reality of "no dad".
Once, because her classmate laughed at her for not having a father, she started arguing with her classmate. Later, this incident made her mother know. Lin Yueru did not help her daughter, but instead told the little Patty Hou: Someone scolded you, don’t retaliate, you have to endure it, and you have to take the initiative to say hello when you meet again. If the other party ignores you, you keep saying hello until the other party pays attention to you.
Patty Hou grew up under this educational method. Whenever a child comes to his home, if a child grabs a toy, Patty Hou must give in to the other party. This is the mother's education and guidance.
In addition, Patty Hou's sleeping time, getting up, and studying time are strictly stipulated, and she must strictly implement it according to the schedule made by her mother.
Mom's sternness has allowed the little Patty Hou to learn to observe his expressions since childhood. Although her living conditions have always been good, she does not regard herself as a princess and has always maintained a humble attitude.
In addition, Lin Yueru puts her experience first, and she educates her daughter that she must maintain a "perfect body" before getting married.
, and Patty Hou has always adhered to this principle. Because of his good grades, good figure and delicate facial features, Patty Hou has always been the perfect girl in the hearts of boys. There are many suitors around him, from his student days to entering the workplace. Even Jay Chou has fallen under Patty Hou's pomegranate skirt.
Patty Hou has a rich relationship. She was picked up and dropped off in college. She finally married Huang Baijun, vice president of sales at Citi Global Securities. After the two got married, they maintained a stable relationship. A few years ago, Huang Baijun also appeared on a variety show with his wife.
Should we treat our daughter severely or tolerate it?
After reading Patty Hou's growth experience, I was deeply touched. I cannot accept any of Lin Yueru's set of methods to teach girls.
Children are angry outside, we will think that mothers should help their children vent their anger, at least not let their children suffer grievances, especially not telling their daughter to be patient everywhere and let their children become selfless.
But Patty Hou has become a very outstanding person under the strict education of his mother. Why is this?
In fact, Lin Yueru's educational method is not suitable for ordinary families. Lin Yueru is a ruthless person. Maybe the first relationship was sincere, but he was finally let down. Moreover, as a third party, he was criticized by the world, but his daughter is innocent.
Everything she did afterwards was for her daughter to have a good growth environment. Later, she still did not take the normal way because finding an ordinary person to get married and start a family could not guarantee a good education for her daughter, and she might continue to have children, so her daughter would be ignored.
so she chose to be someone else's qf, of course, Lin Yueru also had this capital when she was young.
Her life revolves around her daughter, hoping to provide her with a good life, she did it, and at the same time, she strictly demanded her daughter and allowed her daughter to tolerate others everywhere, Because Patty Hou faces people, she always faces different people, and the class she is in determines that the people she faces are either rich or noble.
It is precisely because of my mother's strict education that Patty Hou became what he later. He always had a light smile on his face, never quarreled with others, had a gentle personality, just right, and always looked like he protected himself well.
It is precisely because of this personality that she gained her reputation later.
When she first came into contact with her, she would think she was fake, but after getting in touch with her too much, she could feel her warmth. Xiao S initially evaluated Patty Hou as "true and fake". Later, Patty Hou helped her get her in-laws. Xiao S accepted this friend from the bottom of her heart and gave this friend a very high evaluation.
Have a new idea about raising a daughter
I have always hoped to let my daughter live a free life within a certain scope of rules, and hope that she will not be restricted, and will be greatly free to play her personality.
However, children enjoy great freedom during their growth, and will have the same sense of constraint after entering society in the future. The sooner the child adapts to the sense of constraint, the stronger the ability to survive .
Now the child is 3 years old and has entered the small nursery class. I have made some adjustments to my previous education and guidance methods. I think it is time to be strict with my children.
The more tolerant the parents are, the more arrogant the children are. When parents become strict, the children can restrain their behavior, know what time to do, and can do it very well.
How to educate children is the parents' own business, , and we must believe that any parenting method can educate excellent children.
However, one thing is certain. During the growth process of children, at a certain stage, parents must strictly restrain their children so that their children will become better and better.
