In "The Book of Words and Deeds of the Philosopher", someone asked Telles : What is the most difficult thing?
He answered five words: Know yourself.
Indeed, in this world, the stupid thing we often do is not seeing ourselves clearly.
Take yourself seriously
Mo Yan once said that a person should know his position, just like a person knows his own face, this is the most sober consciousness.
Mo Yan became famous and was sought after after winning the Nobel Prize in Literature.
But he said calmly: "You must forget this award quickly, otherwise you will lose yourself in complacent."
Eight years later, Mo Yan returned with his new work " Late-Mature People ". In the face of the interview, he said modestly: "I am not lazy after Nobel Prize ."
Liu Cixin wrote in " Three-Body HTML ": Weakness and ignorance are not obstacles to survival, arrogance is.
People who are too self-righteous have their vision confined to a mu of three parts of the field. They cannot see the mountains outside the mountain and the people outside.
Only those who know how to lower themselves will not be disgusted by arrogance and will not stop moving forward because of pride.
They knew very well that on the steps they were standing, there was a group of people chasing behind them, and there was a group of people far ahead.
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Water becomes the sea because of goodness, and the mountains do not compete high to form their own peaks.
Only by not being arrogant or impatient, maintaining an empty cup mentality can we move forward steadily on the road of life.
treats connections as a major event
I read a joke:
When Sun Wukong just popped out of the stone, he could only play with a group of monkeys; after learning the skills, he could be brothers and brothers with Niu Demon King .
Before he made a big fuss in the Heavenly Palace, even Giant God did not take him seriously; after he made a big fuss in the Heavenly Palace, all the gods respected him. Before
to Leiyin Temple , he had to hold the ceremony of the Bodhisattva; after becoming Fighting Holy Buddha , he was on the same level as the Bodhisattva.
Sun Wukong's story is probably a portrayal of reality: what level you are at, what kind of connections you will have.
But many people can't see through this.
They worked hard to manage various relationships, but in the end they were just a name on other people's list.
They curry favor with big names in various industries, but when they have something to ask for, they get a lot of rejection.
This really corresponds to a heart-wrenching sentence: Those who are particularly eager to identify people are often the people they don’t want to know the least.
The old saying goes, the dragon is always there in the deep ridge, and the phoenix is here to live in the height of the turtle.
If you have no value, no one will care about it in any circle. Only when your value is greater will the stronger the magnetic field be.
Recently, a photo of Cao Dewang's wine party was rumored.
At the Entrepreneur Development Annual Meeting Dinner, everyone was busy raising their glasses and exchanging business cards, hoping to have many friends and roads.
Only Cao Dewang is unique and sits down and eats without anyone else.
Does he need to make some connections and make friends with the circle?
is not, it just doesn’t need to use this way of having a dinner party to build a network.
As a very influential figure in the business district, there are countless companies who want to cooperate with Cao Dewang.
As the world's largest automotive glass supplier, Fuyao has built factories in five states in the United States. Ohio Governor personally commended Cao Dewang. Once in an interview, Cao Dewang said bluntly that many governors are his good friends.
His contacts are beyond your imagination.
What we often call connections is actually a fair exchange of interests. If you have the ability to hold an umbrella for others, others will pave the way for you.
There is no need to sigh that human feelings are as thin as paper, this is the essence of interaction between people.
If you are as humble as dust, no one will pay attention to it; if you are in a high place, there will naturally be a bunch of people coming.
Connections are like a net. Only by practicing strong yourself can the net become wider and stronger the more you weave.
Trade as a skill
"Washington Post " once conducted a social experiment. In the subway station, a street artist is playing with the violin .
He played a world-famous song, and only 6 people stayed for a short time, and received a total of $32 tips.
But this violinist is not an ordinary street artist. He is one of the most powerful musicians in the world, Yosha Bell .
Two days before the experiment, Yosha Bell performed the same music at the Boston Theater. At that time, although the tickets were $200, they were still full.
This society is so realistic. When you leave the platform, it is actually nothing.
But many people always mistakenly regard the success of the platform as their ability.
Someone works in a Fortune 500 company in the world. When communicating with people, they always say the company's name, showing a sense of superiority everywhere.
Someone works in a large Internet factory with good treatment, receives generous salaries, enjoys various benefits, and thinks that he can rest assured.
But whether you are a high-ranking manager or a technician with a skill, have you ever asked yourself a question:
When you say goodbye to this company and this position, can you still find a satisfactory job smoothly?
host Bai Yansong once said: "If you let a dog go to CCTV every day, you can become a famous dog. But you must know that without the CCTV stage, it is likely that it will become a local dog in no time."
In work, what others praise is often not you, but the platform behind you.
Only those strong and sober people will rely on the platform to go to a higher level, and can also forget the big platform and allow themselves to stand alone.
Recently, some major Internet companies have frequently reported layoffs. In such a cold winter, everyone is worried, but a friend of mine has the idea of resigning.
I hurriedly advised him: "Others are worried about layoffs all day long, but you should open the insurance plug by yourself."
My friend said disapprovingly: "It doesn't matter, there are always job opportunities."
Sure enough, before I was idle at home for a few days, a headhunter offered him a 15% salary increase, and another industry-leading company promised him to equity .
The reason is that my friend is skilled and has outstanding skills, and will ask him for technical problems that others cannot solve.
At the same time, he shared some technical posts from time to time online. The high quality of the posts made him quite famous in the circle of programmers .
The weak regard the success of the platform as their ability, while the strong regard the platform as a training ground.
In the final analysis, this world is based on ability.
When you leave the platform, if you can still fight for your skills with real swords and guns, you really have the capital.
There is a Spanish proverb: "Self-knowledge is the most rare knowledge."
If you don't have a clear self-knowledge, you are prone to go astray.
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