In the four years of college life, the one who is most closely connected with us is the roommates who are together day and night. Maybe you have appreciated each other and became good friends. Perhaps the aura is not harmonious, and there are always various contradictions that cannot be together.
But no matter what, how to get along with your roommates is a question we have thought about. This issue of the article provides 10 small suggestions, hoping to help you spend four years of happy dormitory time ~
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You may have grown up living with lots of siblings, or this may be your first time sharing your living space with someone else. While having a room inevitably has its challenges, it can also be a great part of your college experience.
Maybe you have many brothers and sisters, you live and grow up together. It may also be your first time living in the same room as someone else. Although living with others is always a must-have trouble, this will be an extremely important experience in your college life.
Follow these ten tips to make sure you and your room keep things pleasant and support throughout the year (or even years!).
I want to live in harmony and help each other during the year or even years of living together, so why not try the following ten tips.
1. Be clear about your expectations from the beginning
1. "Ugly"
Do you know in advance that you hate it when someone hits the snooze button1 fifteen times every morning? That you’re a neighbor freak? That you need ten minutes to yourself before talking to anyone after you wake up? Let your roommate know as soon as You can about your little quirks and preferences. It’s not fair to expect him or her to pick up on2 them right away, and communicating what you need is one of the best ways to eliminate problems before they become problems.
Do you know in advance that you hate others and still won’t get up yet? Do you know that you have a cleanliness obsession? Do you know that it will take another 10 minutes to speak after you wake up? These little quirks and preferences should be explained to your roommate as soon as possible. It would be difficult for others to notice these details immediately. One of the good strategies is to tell frankly and prevent problems before they happen.
[1] snooze button The delay button on the alarm clock. When pressing this button, the alarm sound stops, but it will ring again in a short time. It is used to repeatedly remind the person who sets the alarm to get up. [2] pick up on notice (things that are not easy to pay attention to).
2. Address problems when they’re little
2. Timely resolve small conflicts
Is your room always forgetting her stuff for the shower, and taking yours? Are your clothes being bor- rowed faster than you can wash them? Addressing things that bug you while they’re still little can help your room be aware of something she may not otherwise know. And addressing little things is much easier than addressing them after they’ve become big.Do girls in the same bed often forget to bring toiletries and use yours when taking a shower? Will the clothes that have just been washed be borrowed one by one again immediately? Although the troubles are small, you should remind me in time, otherwise she might not be aware of it. It is easy to resolve small matters when they are told, but it is difficult to deal with aggrievance.
3. Respect your roommate’s stuff
3. Don’t move other people’s belongings
This may seem simple, but it’s probably one of the biggest reasons why rooms experience conflict. Don’t think he’ll mind if you borrow his cleans for a quick soccer game3? For all you know, you just stepped over an uncrossable line. Don’t borrow, use, or take anything Without getting permission first.
This seems simple, but if it cannot be done, it is one of the main reasons for the mismatch between roommates. But he won't care if he wears his spikes to play the ball for a while, right? You should know that you have crossed a line that you shouldn't cross. Do not borrow, use or take any personal belongings from your roommate unless you obtain your prior consent.
[3] quick soccer game A small football match with fewer participants than regular matches (such as five players per team).
4. Be mindful of who you bring into your room – and how often
4. Visitors should not disturb people
You may love having your study group into your room. But your room may not. Be mindful of how often you bring people over. If your room studies best in the quiet, and you study best in a group, can you alternate who hits4 the library and who gets the room?
Maybe you like to call students from the study group to study together in the dormitory, but your roommate may not like it. Note: Do not bring people into the dormitory frequently. If your roommate thinks a quiet atmosphere is the most beneficial to study, and you like to discuss with others when studying, you might as well take turns using the dormitory. One person needs to use the dormitory, and the other person goes to the library.
[4] hit Go (somewhere).
5. Lock the door and windows
5. Lock the door and windows of the bedroom
This may seem like it has nothing to do with roommate relationships, but how would you feel if your roommate’s laptop got stolen during the ten seconds it took you to run down thehall5? Or vice versa? Locking your door and windows is a critical part of keeping safe on campus.
It seems that it has nothing to do with your roommates’ good or bad relationship, but maybe it’s just that you went to the corridor and took a ten seconds to steal your roommate’s laptop. How would you feel then? If the person who threw the thing was replaced by you, how would you feel? In campus life, to ensure personal and property safety, locking doors and windows is a crucial part.
[5] hall here is the same as hallway, corridor, aisle.
6. Be friendly, without expecting to be best friends
6. Roommates do not need to become best friends
Don’t go into6 your roommate relationship thinking that you are going to be best friends for the time you’re at school. It may happen, but expecting it sets both of you up for7 trouble. You should be friendly with your roommate but also make sure you have your own social circles.
Don't have to bother to turn your roommate into your best friend in college. Although it is not impossible, too high expectations will only cause trouble for each other. You must get along well with your roommates, but you must also have your own social circle.
[6] go into Here refers to (using time and energy) for (something). [7] set somebody up for putting someone in a certain situation.
7. Be open to new things
7. Be open to new things
Your room may be from someplace you’ve never heard of. They may have a religion or lifestyle that is completely different from your own. Be open to new ideas and experiences, especially as it relateds to what your room brings into your life. That’s why you went to college in the first place, right?! Maybe your roommate comes from a place you haven't heard of, and your religious beliefs and lifestyles may be completely different. Look at new ideas and try new things with an open mind, especially when these are exposed to your roommate. Isn’t this exactly your original intention of going to college?
8. Stay open to change
8. Be brave to change and adapt to change
You should expect to learn and grow and change during your time at school. And the same should happen to your roommate, if all goes well. As the semester progresses, realize things will change for both of you. Be comfortable addressing things that unexpectedly come up, setting new rules, and being flexible to Your changing environment. During college, you must learn, grow and change yourself. If all goes well, so should your roommate. You must understand that as the semester moves forward, everyone will change. Unexpected things happen from time to time, so please deal with them calmly. New regulations must be formulated and adapt to changes.
9. Address problems when they’re big, too
9. Conflict escalation must be handled
You may not have been totally honest8 with tip #2, or you may suddenly find yourself with a roommate who goes wild9 after being shy and quiet the first two months. Either way, if something gets to be a big problem quickly, deal with it as soon as you can.
Maybe you didn't do as the second key point says, or maybe you suddenly realize that your roommate, who was shy and quiet in the first two months, turned out to be a bad temper - in either case, once things tend to get worse, you should deal with it as soon as possible.
[8] honestly, not fake. [9] be/go wild A strong relationship (especially angry, excited or happy).
10. If nothing else, follow the golden rule
10. The golden rule must be remembered
Treat your room like you’d like to be treated. No matter what your relationship is at the end of the year, you can take comfort knowing you acted like an adult and treated your room with respect. When the school year is over, no matter how deep you interact, as long as you show the demeanor of an adult and give the respect you deserve, you can feel at ease.
By Kelci Lynn Lucier
Text/Kelci Lynn Lucier
Translation/Zhihe
Source: English World
Source: English World
