Recently, a variety show urged to get married because of a silence, which caused a roar among the masses:
Why can't we show the wonderful personal lives of female celebrities and athletes more? But because they are not married, they belittle and suppress them all kinds of times. What era is it? Are we still treating or not as the only criterion for measuring women's value?
may be the reason why everyone's criticism played a role. In the latest episode aired two days ago, there were finally female stars and observers who bravely opposed the urging of marriage and birth, and there was a collision of opinions between fathers and the younger generation.
Senior media person Yi Lijing made the old fathers frown as soon as they opened their mouths: Marriage is a choice in life, but not a necessary option.
female star Jiao Junyan , clearly stated that she does not want to have a child.
married popular blogger PAPI Jiang crisply said the life order in his mind: I am the first, my partner is the second, and then the children and parents.
Hearing these different views from themselves, the fathers were full of resistance: in their life experience and cognition, if they live differently from others, the ending will be very sad.
Therefore, facing their "disobedient" daughters, they waved the stick of intimidation and pressure, such as: Whenever they reach their stages of life, they should go, otherwise you will regret it in the future.
Also: Life without having children is not perfect, it is a pity.
But today's independent women are no longer so easy to be brainwashed and suppressed.
Jiao Junyan firmly expressed her opposition: You think regret is your business, and I don’t feel regretful. My life is my own, and I have the right to choose a path that most people have not walked.
Watch this episode, although it may not be able to achieve the effect of communication and understanding, it is always a good start to let two generations express their respective opinions.
Some parents urge marriage to give birth, just for their own face; but many parents do out of love and care for their children. It’s just that due to their cognitive limitations, they think that getting married and having children is the only way in life, and that children live the same way as everyone else is called stability.
It is indeed not a matter of one day or one night to reverse the old concept of the previous generation. I hope there are more examples to let them know: times are different, and each path has its own risks and gains. Getting married and having children does not mean stability, and an alternative life can live a wonderful life.
Will you live a miserable life if you don’t follow “what stage should you go to”? Today, I will talk to you about the story of a very low-key but cool sister. She is the 49-year-old new Berlin actress queen, Yongmei .
——I live a wonderful dividing line——
0 Berlin, Cannes , and Venice, the main competition awards of the three major international film festivals are the supreme honors of the film industry. At the , which just concluded, Chinese films won the best actors and actresses, which is an unprecedented first time.
Nowadays, celebrities post selfies to play roles, and fans can make a big splash. Now we have achieved results that are truly worthy of being popular, but because they are not popular or famous, and there is no traffic, the hot searches will soon disappear.
So, compared to the mess of people who are black and who are popular on the screen, Baba wants to write about them more, even if it can only add a little bit of popularity and attention to them, it is good.
teacher Wang Jingchun , who won the Best Actor Award. Although the popularity of the public is not too high, he won the Best Actor Award in Tokyo as early as 2013, and in the eyes of movie fans, he has long been a guarantee of acting skills with a golden signature.
The name Yongmei may be even more unfamiliar to most people.
Actually, she is an actor who doesn’t know the name after watching the show. As long as she mentions the role, many people will think of: Ah, it turns out it is her.
For example, the intellectual and generous Xiao Li in "Chinese Divorce"
Underground party wife Sun Yuejian in "Cliff"
Many people like to chant the plum blossom's gentleness and indifference, and they are not slow. But these two idioms of praise also contain a meaning: tepid.
html Yongmei, who has not become the leading actress in the movie for thousands of years, did not become the leading actress until she was 49 years old, but many people were shocked: she won the Berlin actress best actor for the first time, which was not even able to win many performing celebrities.
can only be full of joy at the age when many people are afraid they have long given up, because she never uses "what should be done at any stage of life" to restrict herself.
This Mongolian girl born in 1970 was admitted to Beijing University of International Business and Economics during the college entrance examination. Do you know how difficult it was to take this university in that era? If you want to put it now, the academic master's character has enough fans to blow it 800 times.
not only has a high IQ, but also looks good. The girl in white clothes in the 1991 Black Panther classic MV "don't break my heart" is her.
Some media said that Yongmei first met the Black Panther drummer Luan Shu in the bar, and the other party invited her to star in this MV; some said that she met Luan Shu because she starred in this MV.
No matter what the statement is, the marriage between the two is caused by this MV. Yongmei was only 21 years old at that time and should still be studying in college.
I met my future husband in college. For the Chinese fathers in "My Daughter", this is the most ideal daughter. After graduating from college, I quickly got married and gave birth to a baby before the age of 30, so it was safe and sound.
In fact, Yongmei is similar to some of her fathers on the show, but she does not pursue the same kind of stability as others.
After graduating from the University of International Business and Economics, she went to the company to work as a white-collar worker, but she accidentally ran into the entertainment industry when she was 25 years old.
As a top student, she still looked down on TV series at that time. But life soon taught her a lesson. On the set, she didn't even understand the most basic moves. The photographer was crying so hard that she almost cried.
At that time, Luan Shu had already left the rock circle and focused on the horse racing he loved.
The word "Full-time horse racing" means that there is no shortage of money. If Yongmei is willing, she can say goodbye to her unfamiliar entertainment industry and return to her family to live a life of taking care of her husband and children.
But she didn't do that.
Because they get married is to support and make progress together in their future lives, so that each other can grow happily between heaven and earth.
Everyone has happiness that suits them. Some people value career achievements more, and some people are more satisfied with being a housewife. There is nothing wrong with this.
is just the current trend of urging marriage to give birth to a trend, and often treats everything as a mechanical task. They urge their children to get married at the right time and have children at the right time, but they don’t let them think clearly about what marriage is for and what kind of happiness is the most suitable for them.
Yongmei knows very well that in her marriage with Luan Shu, freedom, growth and happiness are the most important things.
She ignored the rules and regulations of "what age does what you do" and did not revolve around her husband and family after marriage. The two of them did not have children. They each had their own passionate careers and maintained the curiosity of exploring forward no matter what age they were.
Yongmei, who is not a professional, insists on the path of actors.
29 when filming "Home Where the Dream of HTML Begins " directed by Ye Jing, there was a scene where she knelt down and kowtow. In order to help her shoot, Fu Biao took off her shoes and stomped the ground hard with her heel, and even made a mistake with her heel.
Yongmei said: He helped me bid farewell to frivolity and gained a deeper understanding of performance.
After that, Yongmei's performances in a series of TV series such as " Bangkok Rainy Season ", " Filial Son ", and "Chinese Divorce" are becoming more and more amazing.
However, when she was in her 30s, she has grown into a recognized good actor in the industry and has never been popular. Many times she passes by opportunities because investors want to find actors with selling points, but she has no selling points.
In fact, if you have a marketing and hype heart, Yongmei can label herself as "the queen's ex-boyfriend's favorite in her life." You should know that until now, it is still mentioned online that Luan Shu is Faye Wong's first love, and that the ancient gossip that caused her to leave Black Panther because of her empathy for other love.
In addition, there are also magical gossips about Han Hong and Luan Shu who were in love for a week and never married for life due to love.
But neither Yongmei nor Luanshu will treat these past events as any "selling points".
The Internet spread Han Hong as if she was in love, as if she was performing a bloody TV series. In fact, her 2003 album was also invited to be produced by Luan Shu, and she won a grand prize for this disc.
Luan Shu's personal works released in 2016 were also invited to sing, and she also called her Squad Leader Wang. Obviously, he has been a member of Class 1 in Six Years, and Yongmei also forwarded it with a smile.
Not only did Yongmei not know how to use these "selling points", she gradually moved away from the TV circle that made more money and entered the movie circle since she was 40 years old.
is already a middle-aged actress. She was able to play supporting roles in movies before, and often as a mother.
In "Nie Yinniang", she played the mother of Shu Qi
In " Youth School ", she also played the mother of Dong Zijian .
Many "smart people" will probably shake their heads and disdain when they see such a choice: Do you understand self-planning? You must know how to raise your own value so that you can get higher and higher.
is smart and cost-effective. It is not that important for her at the age of 45 who dares to "choose a place to wander".
She said: If life is without regrets, it would be so boring.
Since you are not afraid of regret, you may make a choice that outsiders think is stupid. Before winning the Best Actress Award, Yongmei's film journey was really not very eye-catching. "The Legend of War" and "The Secret Fruit"...
Why did she still play supporting roles in many bad movies at the age of 48, and could she win the Best Actress Award at the age of 49?
Because this is a brave woman who will never stop growing at any age. She said that if she could do something else at the age of 80, she hoped to make herself and the people around her feel that life has a lot of meaning.
——I am the dividing line that lives in a complete life——
In "My Daughter", papi Jiang said that her life order is her first partner and second, and then the children and parents.
What is the order of "Wu Zhui Yong Mei", but from Weibo, we can see that when many of her peers are still busy emphasizing to their children that life depends on getting married and having children, there will be no regrets;
The way she does not leave regrets for her life is to create beauty as much as possible and leave wonderful memories for herself.
Her daily life is rich and fulfilling.
She worked hard during filming and made herself a better and better actor.
After work, she enjoys her life.
Sometimes it’s beautiful to stay quietly
sometimes fitness
horse riding
sometimes travel around
watch exhibition
sometimes travel around
watch exhibition
sometimes do interesting things with interesting people.
Every time she plays a role, she will learn and experience a kind of life.
She doesn't need to rely on anything outside to have a complete and full world, and she lives like many lives of many people.
This is an independent female world that the fathers of "My Daughter" do not understand.
She lives a wonderful life, and she is surrounded by female friends who are constantly pursuing self-achieving and self-breakthrough. For example, her former agent suddenly disappeared for two years and went to fulfill her dream of making a movie.
For example, Xu Fangyi, who once performed "Nie Yinniang" with her, discovered her physical potential at the age of 19 and began to learn dance.
People who believe in rules and regulations will say: You are past the age group to do this and will not succeed. Xu Fangyi, who had just set out at an older age, made everyone shocked. She became the chief dancer of the international dance troupe and a world-renowned dancer. Women like
can calmly accept their age and confidently show off their original appearance. They do not rely on secondary development and various magical tools to turn themselves into an internet celebrity face that faces thousands of people.
Because she lives a unique self, she does not need to rely on her mother or wife's identity or her attraction to the opposite sex, but lives wonderfully as "me".
oftentimes parents' urging marriage to give birth, suppression and intimidation are out of concern: in their life experience, living is different from others, especially if women choose this way, it will be a particularly difficult road.
But Yongmei’s story tells us that women don’t have to be afraid of living differently from others.
As long as you become excellent and strong enough, whether you choose to get married or be single, have children or have no children, you can be the commander who controls the wonderful life.
don’t have to worry about the so-called way to go whenever you reach the stage of your life, because the God of Lucky favors everyone differently.
I often hear people complaining: Why am I not lucky in my whole life? Maybe that's just because you gave up early, while some people have been persisting.
