Hong Kong singer Su Yongkang has a song "It's so hard to love someone". One of the lyrics of one line, "You said you still like loneliness, but in fact you are afraid that I will see through it." He talked about the words of one person who loves another. In our lives, we clearly love someone, but in the end we scare the other person away. What is the reason here?
1. Find out whether you really love or just be obsessed with it.
Before you tell her that you love him, ask yourself: Have you been suddenly overwhelmed by feelings? Often, obsession happens suddenly, and true love is established over time.
You should know a person well before you announce your love. If you've been together for at least 6 months and have had a few quarrels, you'll have a better idea of who your woman is. If you've only been dating for a few weeks and everything looks perfect, you're just obsessed with it rather than a real relationship.
2. If her behavior shows that she cares about you, she will not be scared away by your strong feelings for her.
Think about your relationship and ask yourself some questions: Will she give priority to you?
Will she mention you when she talks about her future plans and goals?
Have you ever met someone who is very important to her life (such as family, friends, colleagues)?
Is she talking about "we" instead of "me"?
Has she been trying to take care of you to make you happy?
Is she affectionate? Does she want to hug, kiss and hold hands?
3. Don’t “I love you” to manipulate her.
You shouldn't use these words to manipulate her in order to feel safer in your relationship. The best reason to say "I love you" is that you can no longer keep yourself secrets and you want her to know how you feel. Saying “I love you” can change your relationship, make sure you are ready for it.
4. Be prepared for her not to love you.
Although you have fallen in love with her, your girlfriend may not be ready yet. This doesn't mean she doesn't care about you or she will never love you, it just means she feels different now than before. Think about what you would do if she loved you? You may be rejected, and if you feel you will be crushed because she doesn't love you, your best plan is to postpone saying you love her.
5. Avoid expressing your love in physical or psychological tension (such as before or after intimacy)
She may say he loves you too because adrenaline surges or is in an emotional environment. If any of you are drunk or sleepy, avoid telling her that she may or may not remember what you said.
6. What should I say and what should I not say?
looked into her eyes and said, "I love you." You don't have to let it get dramatic or embarrassing, just say it from the bottom of your heart.
avoid saying, "You are the love of my life." She will compare between you and her past relationship. She may be moved by your words, but it may also be counterproductive.
7. Give her space.
Please remember that love happens to people at different speeds. When you tell him that you love her, let her know if she feels differently, she doesn't have to say to you that you don't want her to feel any pressure. Even if she doesn't reply to you, it doesn't mean she doesn't want to be with you.
Being patient with her is the best way to make him grow.
8. Show him that you love her through your actions.
Love is more than just a feeling. Your words and deeds must be consistent.
has more actions, such as making her his favorite meal, or surprise him with the movie tickets she wants to watch.
is present when she is good and bad. Although you can't show the weight of love when you are happy, the love you show will touch her for a long time when she is in trouble.
If you have the ability, support her passion and dreams.
In short, it is not easy to love someone. If you really love someone, look at her behavior and see if she loves you too. If her behavior shows that she really likes you, she won't run away no matter what.
