In Pingshan Village, Yingdu Town, Lin Wei feeds her mother-in-law as usual after breakfast, pushes her to a corner of the house to bask in the sun. While chatting, he shaking homemade "sandbells" to make fun, and occasionally stops to feed water and wipe his face... And such days have become Lin Wei's daily routine for more than 10 years.
10 years ago, my mother-in-law accidentally suffered from stroke and suffered from brain atrophy , and Lin Wei took on the burden of taking care of her mother-in-law. Now, she is nearly 70 years old, and her mother-in-law has become the oldest old man in the village under her careful care.
Day after day, Lin Wei always stayed by his mother-in-law to take care of her.
"Mother-in-law is like a child now"
is very careful, buying toys for mother-in-law to make sandbells
Passing through the winding village road, an old red brick house stands deep in Pingshan Village, which is Lin Wei's home. When Lin Wei found out that the reporter was visiting, he greeted him warmly. She is not tall, thin, with black hair dyed, and looks energetic, unlike an old man who is already 68 years old.
In addition to her and her mother-in-law, there is only Grandma Nanny in the house. The reporter saw that the whole house was cleaned and although there were debris piled up in the corner, they were all in order. The old house has a small patio, and the early winter sun tilts down, bringing a lot of warmth.
Mother-in-law Hong Pian was sitting in the sun. On the wheelchair, Hong Pian was slightly hunched over, with a red turban on his head, revealing his white hair, and holding a little bear doll tightly in his hand, and occasionally grinning. Her wheelchair was slightly different, with straps around her, and her foot pedals were also erected with straps to protect her in the middle.
"In June last year, she rubbed her foot pedal, causing wounds on her calf, which were rotten." Lin Wei said that the mother-in-law's foot injury that time did not heal for a long time, and she had to change the medicine for her every two days. It was also because of that time that she began to tie the pedals, for fear of another accident.
While speaking, Lin Wei took the warm boiled water on the chair next to him and asked his mother-in-law softly, "Is it good for us to drink water?" Then, he fed it to her mother-in-law spoonful by spoonful, and then wrung the towel in the basin to wipe her face.
"My mother-in-law is like a child now, she must have toys in her hand." Lin Wei said with a smile. She took out another toy of her mother-in-law - a mineral water bottle containing beans, which was her homemade "sand bell". I saw her holding a "sand bell" and shaking gently in front of her mother-in-law, and the "rustling" sound made her mother-in-law amuse again. "This 'toy' was also loved by my mother-in-law in the past. Sometimes I would talk to her and play with her like this."
Let my mother-in-law bask in the sun was recommended by the doctor. Lin Wei said that in fact, they lived in a new building next door earlier. In 2017, my mother-in-law once looked very uncomfortable. She invited the doctor to come over. The doctor found that all the indicators of her mother-in-law were normal, so she suggested that the elderly spend more sunbathing. But my mother-in-law was sitting in a wheelchair and couldn't push her to bask in the sun in the building, so she moved over. "Now, after my mother-in-law finishes breakfast every day, she will bask in the sun in the corner on the right. In the afternoon, the sun is in the other corner of the house, which is very convenient to move."
The weather is sunny, and Lin Wei takes her mother-in-law to bask in the sun in the courtyard.
"I haven't read a book, I'm afraid I can't do some things well"
For ten years, I don't feel tired when I take care of my mother-in-law
Lin Wei's mother-in-law is 98 years old this year and is the oldest old man in Pingshan Village. Lin Wei has been taking care of his mother-in-law for more than ten years.
The mother-in-law has three children. The eldest son died early before, and the eldest daughter-in-law lived in her parents' home for a long time, while the youngest son and her family developed in Suzhou. The task of taking care of her mother-in-law was taken care of by Lin Wei's family. But things are unpredictable. In 2008, Lin Wei's husband passed away, and Lin Wei took on the heavy responsibility of taking care of his mother-in-law alone.
Lin Wei told reporters that in the same year, his grandson was also born. My son and daughter-in-law are developing well in Quanzhou . For the sake of work, I hope she can help take care of the children.Lin Wei was worried about his mother-in-law, so he took his mother-in-law to Quanzhou with him.
"The current community is not like the rural areas where you can walk around and chat. My mother-in-law is not used to it and has been thinking about coming back." So, after living in Quanzhou for three years, she sent her mother-in-law back to her hometown and hired a nanny to take care of her. But not long after, the news came that my mother-in-law had a slight stroke and suffered from brain atrophy, which scared her and hurriedly packed her clothes and rushed back.
"When I came back, my mother-in-law didn't know me anymore, so she just sat there and smiled foolishly." Looking back at the beginning, Lin Wei still couldn't help feeling sad, his eyes were red, "It's all my fault that I didn't stay at home with her."
Patients with brain atrophy sometimes giggle and talk nonsense, and sometimes even have incontinence, making the house smell bad. The nanny invited could not bear it, so Lin Wei had to fire her and take on the heavy responsibility of taking care of her mother-in-law. At three meals a day, I have to find a way to prepare meals for my mother-in-law, take a bath and change clothes for her, and take shit and urinate. I am often so busy that I feel dizzy.
"At the beginning, she could still eat by herself, but later she became less and less able to take care of herself as she got older and needed someone to feed her." Lin Wei said that he was getting older and it was getting more and more difficult to take care of her mother-in-law. When her mother-in-law was 95 years old, she invited the nanny Lin to help.
During the conversation, my mother-in-law began to feel sleepy, and Lin Wei and Grandma Lin took her back to her room to sleep. Grandma Lin pushed the wheelchair in the back, and Lin Wei was responsible for helping her mother-in-law lift her feet in front. When they entered the room, the two of them worked together to help her mother-in-law sit on the bed. Lin Wei took off her coat, covered her with a quilt, and took out a long wooden board from the corner to block the bed.
"My mother-in-law will turn around on the bed like a child. This wooden board is to prevent her from falling down." Lin Wei told reporters that on the night of August 9 this year, her mother-in-law unfortunately fell from the bed to the ground, and a big blood bag hit her head, which was scary red and swollen. She can still see fading scars on her forehead.
is separated by a wooden board on the edge of the bed to prevent the elderly from falling down.
"My mother-in-law can't take care of herself, and she needs help with everything. The hardships can be imagined." Grandma Lin said that even now, Lin Wei is still responsible for three meals a day. She has to get up at four or five o'clock every day, feed her mother-in-law water, help her go to the bathroom, take a bath, wash her feet. At night, she often gets up at night to check whether her mother-in-law's quilt is kicked and whether she wants to go to the bathroom.
"Actually, I didn't feel it was hard to take care of it, but I had never studied. I was afraid that some things were not done well." Lin Wei was most afraid of being a mother-in-law who had a cold or was uncomfortable. She had no experience. At first, she had to call her brother-in-law far away in Suzhou for help. Later, when her mother-in-law was uncomfortable, she would go to ask a doctor.
"My mother-in-law was very good to me before"
As long as the body is OK, I have to take care of it all the time
Lin Wei has taken care of his mother-in-law for more than ten years, and he has been seen by the villagers in the countryside. On the wall of Lin Wei’s living room, there is also a ribbon with the words “Filial Piety Model in Yingdu Town” hanging. Chen Weng, executive vice president of Pingshan Village Elderly Association, told reporters that this was selected by the town in 2015.
"Not long ago, Lin Wei was rated as a 'good daughter-in-law' by our village." He said that Lin Wei's family has a good family tradition and is worth learning from. She has insisted on taking care of her mother-in-law for more than ten years, which is also very admirable for him.
Aunt Lin’s house lives not far from Lin Wei’s house. She often comes to visit her, chat with Lin Wei or help her with her. That day, she came too.
000 The elderly’s three meals a day will be prepared by Lin Wei.
"Their family is very good from top to bottom. Even if someone comes now, she will be very happy." Aunt Lin said that in the early years, every time her mother-in-law saw her, she would caress her very kindly and talk to her gently and friendlyly. On weekdays, if there are any wedding and funerals in the village, those who need help will come to her, and never refuse anyone who can help. Her mother-in-law also felt sad when something happened to her, but now Lin Wei takes good care of her. "It really affects each generation. Her mother-in-law has taken good care of her husband when she was sick for many years. She has never heard of a fight over trivial matters."
Aunt Lin said that Lin Wei rarely goes out. In addition to going to the market to buy daily necessities or something important, he always comes back soon. Sometimes when he asks her to chat on the road, she always thinks about her mother-in-law and wants to hurry back.
"My mother-in-law used to be very nice to me. "Lin Wei told reporters that her mother-in-law's good deeds are silent, and she has never treated her face, just like her own daughter. "Now she can't remember anyone anymore. I feed her porridge, for fear that she will be hot and divided into two small bowls. After she finishes one bowl, she will want to share the other bowl with me. ”
“It is my responsibility to take care of my mother-in-law. As long as I am in good health, I will continue to take care of it. "Lin Wei said that a good family tradition needs to be done for each generation, and she hopes that her descendants can also become filial and friendly people.
Before the reporter left, it was almost noon, and Lin Wei was about to start working hard for lunch again. In front of her yard, there was a small piece of land full of vegetables, green. She held a basin and knives, and went to the ground to cut off a cabbage, washed it in the pool next to her...
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