■Do not do evil because it is small, and do not do good because it is small. Only virtue and virtuous can convince others.
Liu Bei "The Lord's Word"
Comment: We must put morality first in self-study and educating people.
■The best-grade people are good without teaching; the middle-grade people are good after teaching; the lower-grade people are not good at teaching.
(Northern Song Dynasty) Shao Yong "About the Descendants and Grand Histories"
Comment: The energy of education should be mainly focused on middle-aged students, and its efficiency is the highest.
■I am born between heaven and earth. It is the ultimate truth to be a person, and it doesn’t matter if the rest of my life is.
Being a good person, I feel that it is not cheap at the moment, but it is finally a big discount. If you can't be a good person, you feel that it's cheap, but finally it's a big deal. Throughout the ages, success or failure has been obvious, how charming and unaware of it? It's so sad! I will give this sincere and sincere words to my descendants, and I cannot read them hastily.
Based on filial piety and brotherhood, loyalty and trustworthiness as the main focus, honesty as the priority, honesty as the key, give people one step forward when dealing with things, and have your own room for your own ease; relax your money when dealing with things, and you will have your own lingering taste.
Goodness must be accumulated, today will accumulate, tomorrow will accumulate, and accumulate urination and urination. If there is a difference in thought, a difference in words, or a difference in matters, some people will lose their lives and die because of this. Isn’t it fearful!
(Ming Dynasty) Gao Panlong's "Gao Family Instructions"
■If you are determined to be a gentleman, you will not be an official or an official. Everyone respects you, so I want you to be the first to set your ambition.
(Ming Dynasty) Yang Jisheng "Yang Zhongmin Gong's last writing"
■ People often bite the root of vegetable roots, so everyone can do it. If you are too arrogant, you will look good but not useful.
(Ming Dynasty) Yao Shunmu "Medicine Words"
■The position of gain cannot be in heaven, and the cultivation of virtue cannot be in me. Don’t abandon what is in me, and don’t force what is in heaven.
(Ming Dynasty) Yuan Zhong and others recorded: "Miscellaneous Records of the Courtyard"
■Where will aspire will be far away, and wherever you want, you will be firm and unyielding.
Aijushinra. Xuanye: "The Maxim of the Holy Ancestral Court"
■ People may destroy themselves, and they should seek it from themselves. If you have any actions that can be destroyed, then your words will be deserving; if you have no actions that can be destroyed, then your words will be devious. If it is right, there will be no resentment to that person, and if it is wrong, there will be no harm to the person. ...There is no better way to practice by yourself.
(Wei) Wang Chang : "Jing Zi and Nephew"
■Respect is the leader of virtue, and caution is the basis of action. I hope that you will be loyal and trustworthy when you speak, and be respectful when you act. There is no word to promise people money, no talk about spreading or hearing or deciphering. When you hear someone’s faults, you can receive it by your ears, but you can’t disclose it by your mouth. Think before moving. ...
( Western Jin ) Yang Hu : "Jing Zi"
■Study hard, keep your foundation, cultivate your boudoir, and be idle. In this way, there is no worries.
(Southern Dynasty. Qi) Xiao Yi "Jing Zi"
■Consider first thinking about filial piety, be respectful when dealing with the lower part; devote oneself to one's hard work, and practice virtue and righteousness.
Li Shimin's "Emperor Fan"
Comment: The word "filial piety" and the word "respect", how good is it to summarize! I often feel ashamed of my parents' grace. I get too much and repay too little; I don't feel too much because I am disrespectful to my superiors and don't realize it, so I often make the young masters dislike it. This is mostly due to my good self-feeling and self-conceitedness.
■Those who store their essence in obscure will be clear, and those who nourish the mind will be peaceful will be peaceful. The obscure is the accumulation of use, the quiet is the movement, the good accumulation is inexhaustible, and the good response is endless.
Ouyang Xiu's "Shi Zi"
Comment: Be honest on the outside, be dull, be clear on the inside, and shrewd. This is called being wise and foolish. I have a bit of the opposite. I should speak less. At the same time, I should be focused and pure in my heart and read, so that I can truly and naturally hide great wisdom and look foolish on the outside. Confucius said: A gentleman is slow to speak but quick to act. It seems that if you are quick to speak but slow to act, you will be a villain.
■Although a person is stupid, he will be clear when he blames others; even if he is smart, he will be confused when he forgives himself. You just always blame yourself with the heart of blaming others, and forgive others with the heart of blaming yourself, so you will not be afraid of the status of sages.
(Northern Song Dynasty) Fan Chunren "Just the Words of Children"
■In life, since we have knowledge, we have had troubles and unsatisfactory things. Children call numbers, but they all have unfairness. From childhood to old age, there are always fewer things that are good at, and there are often many things that are not good at. Even the rich and noble people admire the gods and immortals, but their unsatisfactory situations are different from those of poor people and poor people.Therefore, it is called the defective world, because in life, there is no satisfaction. If you can understand this principle and accept it, you can be less at ease...
Loyal and trustworthy in speaking and respectful in doing things, it is the art of sages that teach people to be more important than the local qu. Because of the exchange of wealth and property, it does not harm others but benefits oneself; in times of distress, it does not harm others but benefit oneself, which is called loyalty. If you make promises, you will get the slightest return; if you have promises, it will be difficult to make promises at any time, which is called faith. Being honest in dealing with things, being honest in dealing with things, being honest in dealing with things, so-called loyalty. Being polite and humble, being humble, and being respectful is what it means to be respectful...
A ordinary person acts on one's own actions and is fair and upright. You can use this to serve the gods, but you should not rely on this to be arrogant; you can use this to serve the people, but you should not rely on this to be proud... As for gentlemen who occasionally suffer from disasters, they are often conceited by themselves...
A person with high behavior respects himself, so there is no need to be high in appearance; a person with high talent accepts himself, so there is no need to be high in words.
(Southern Song Dynasty) Yuan Cai's "Yuan Family Fan"
■Those who are poor and humble but must not be left out are loyal and chaste; those who are rich but cannot be left out are full of intentions.
Fang Xiaoru "Family Advocate"
■A filial piety is established, and all good things are followed, and it is for the son of the son and for the perfect person.
All ordinary people plan for their descendants and all want to establish a foundation. But don’t those who are the most powerful and long-lasting care? Giving up the land and land, giving up virtue and property has lost its roots...
(Ming Dynasty) Yao Shunmu's "Medicine Words"
Comment: In " Touching the Dragon Talks about Empress Dowager Zhao ", Touching the Dragon says: Parents' love for their sons is far-reaching, what is far-reaching? It means distinguishing what is the "big and longest" thing he survives and develops. The "heart" and "virtue" mentioned here are all "big and longest" things. It is essentially the same as the "quality" mentioned in the quality education we advocate. The habit-building education I emphasize, and the idea of memorizing most of the famous works when I was a child is considered "big and longest" things? In general, to "teach them fish" for the survival and development of children, we cannot just "teach them fish"!
■Knowing that you have yourself but not someone else. If you hear about others’ faults, you will not hear about your own faults. This is the cause of disaster.
Sweep the bright land, store ancient and modern times, and study classics and history.
"How can I touch my thoughts?" This is the true scripture of the seven-character character.
Young people should only cultivate themselves and practice hard, believe in their destiny and study, and do not think deeply about gains and losses. The so-called gain is happy, but failure is also happy.
Character must be started from a young age. If there are many expedient, subdued, and intriguing, then the character of one's life will be bad.
The instrument must be large and the mood must be broad.
A careless thought will ruin your wealth.
(Ming Dynasty) Wu Linzheng When a young man does anything, he is not as cost-effective as studying. This is even more true in today's society. It is better to seek it from his own brain than to seek it. Before the age of twenty-five, he should learn all the basic things, and his future development will be limitless. I wasted too much time in my youth. One is that I don’t know how to cherish it, and the other is that I have no expert guidance. I put too much energy on small profits and should “do not think deeply about gains and losses”. Otherwise, if I am a doctor now, would I need to settle accounts all day long? I have wasted too much time for the economy, which in turn can never solve the economic problems and cannot grasp the root of the problem. This question still has the significance of me paying attention to today. There is only one premise, to ensure health, and the rest can be ignored. My teaching profession has basically come to an end. All that is left before is repetition, and it is possible to regress. We must gather our energy to focus on learning. In another three or two years, we will really have no power to turn things around.
We must pay attention to children's moral education and start from every detail.
■A family that accumulates good will have good fortune; a family that accumulates bad will have good fortune. Good is not enough to become famous without accumulation; evil is not enough to flow without accumulation, and it is a river; the burning of stars burns in the fields, and the beginning is small and the end is huge.
■Silent and slow to fear, be tolerant when encountering harmony, behave elegantly and solemnly, and not express your emotions in your eyes, and then you can be a christmas.
(Northern Song Dynasty) Liang Tao's "Family Talk Training"
Comment: I am prone to trust people who are steady. I used to be a little overjoyed. I should pay attention to this point in the future. I should think about speaking, not rush to speak, behave peacefully and generously, and be pure and dedicated in my heart. Be afraid that people say they are smart and have good brains, and don’t be afraid that people say they are stupid, stupid, stupid, stupid, stupid or stupid.
■The food is gone, and reading one or two articles of classics, history, literature and literature is beneficial to others, and it is better to use other people's hearts.
(Southern Song Dynasty) Jiang Duanyou's "Jing Zi"
Comment: This is the best way to nourish your body!
■Talent should not be exposed, the momentum should not be relied upon, and enjoyment should not be passed. If you can implicitly retreat, you will have endless benefits and you will benefit from it.
The word "indifferent" is the best. To be calm, to be peaceful, to be peaceful. Be calm and peaceful, without other delusions, this mind is so happy!
When you look at the words of sages, you can only teach people to be a good person. People say it is difficult to be a good person, but I say it is very easy. If you don’t be a bad person, you are a good person.
■The boy has not yet experienced the world and has not lost his conscience. Always keeping this mind is the foundation of being a saint.
■Do not sleep at night, always calm your mind and calm your mind, and do not plan for useless things or have evil thoughts. When we examine this body, we will gather for a short time. After death, we will hurriedly hide it, and it is indestructible. At this time, who will be me? Thinking about it this way, the intention to exhaust the spirit, make a fool of yourself, and the intention of fame and fortune can be wiped out. If you are involved in this world, you will encounter few troubles.
(Southern Song Dynasty) Jiang Duanyou's "Jing Zi"
Comment: It can be regarded as seeing through the world.
■Yu Pingsheng refused to lie, but he avoided taking care of him.
Comment: One sentence reveals the benefits of not lying, which is also an important part of making one's body and mind less plagued and living easier.
■Be careful and be clear about studying.
■No wiseness is not stupid.
Comment: Fool is an external manifestation, and Fool is a manifestation of being simple in form and being able to master the basic laws of things.
■Flame is shameful, stubborn and self-righteous, and not sticking to one's own will, this is the middle way.
(Ming Dynasty) Yao Shunmu's "Medicine Words"
■The most taboo in life is to be evil. The mind is still in a dark way, and there are many conspiracies in doing things, and no one does not harm their descendants. The saying goes: Those who have good deeds will have bad rewards... The ancestors said, "If you keep your mind afraid of heaven's knowledge." I recited it day and night.
■Be loyal and trustworthy, do not deceive oneself at the inside and outside. After a long time, the family believes it, the country and the country gradually believe it, and even respect it. Because of the accumulation of his life, it is said that sincerity can move ghosts and gods. If you are deceived and cheated, you will not be able to do it, and you will not be loyal to your actions. If you deceive one or two people, you will doubt it. If you think it is untrue, everything will be untrue. If you are right, you will guess how you will stand in the world! Whenever I see my youth, I think I am intelligent. Even though I am not honest among my father and son, I act in a mysterious way. When I see bad relatives and elders, I take advantage of my neighbors. Even if I die, my future generations still take it as a warning. How sad!
■Sons of a person are in various ways, and only do their best to die when they are in trouble, and they will be confused with them.
■No matter how big or small, I always look at this body. This kind of upright body will become a family of poverty and humbleness, and wealth will become a family of individuals. Even if you cannot be good, you can stand up... Therefore, self-cultivation is urgent, and teaching descendants is the most important thing, but there is no one who cannot cultivate oneself and can teach descendants.
■The most spiritual and moving person in a person's heart should not be overworked, nor overworked, nor overly lax, but reading can nourish it... Books are the most wonderful thing to nourish the heart.
■It is always difficult to satisfy wealth and poverty, but it is always difficult to satisfy. Being content means being satisfied. If you have free time, you will be the master.
■When I am a first-class person, my words and verbs are the most important.
(Qing Dynasty) Zhang Ying's "Congxun Zhai Yu"
■ People can be clear about their hearts and few desires, not only forget about them less, but also have few diseases.
(Qing Dynasty) Aijusila·Xuanye "The Maximum of the Holy Ancestral Court"
■Absolutely, people like what they don’t have and hate what they have, but if I have this thing, what is the use of it?
Lu You "Fang Weng Family Instructions"
■Nothing good at nourishing one's body is to have few desires.
Mencius
■The resources for life are solid and cannot be left out, but do not seek extra, as extra is hopeless to be burdened.
Sima Guang "Training the Descendants"
■The one who seeks profit but fails to fulfill it is not one hundred; the one who seeks fame but fails to fulfill it is not one thousand; now that we can't be in a hundred years, but we are lucky enough to do things that are not one thousand, which is not a thousand, which is not a big fool!
■A family matters are important for peace, harmony and long-term, and the way is filial piety, brotherhood, humility and humility.
(Southern Song Dynasty) Lu Jiushao's "Original Book of Home"
■The word "heterogeneous family" is called "reading and farming". The two words "prosperity" are called frugality and diligence. The word "Anjia" is called "giving and tolerance". The word "guarding family" is called "thieves and traitors". The two words "destroyed family" are called lust and violence. ...
Dirty and grandchildren do not worry about fewer things, but not talent; industry does not worry about poverty, but concern about liking for growth; doors do not worry about decline, but concern about lack of ambition; relationships do not worry about lack of things, but concern about evil. Unworthy descendants have few poems and books in their eyes, and have no truth in their hearts. They are as confused as drunk, as slackened as paralyzed, as crazy as mad, and as humble as beggars. They defeat their ancestors and achieve their careers and insult their parents' family. This is a person, the villagers are ashamed of it and their wife crys for it. How can they enter my temple and bury my tomb? The precept stones are all there, and recite them day and night.
(Ming Dynasty) Lu Kun "Xiao Mufang Examination"
■A family should not be too poor, as it will be difficult to establish; it should not be too rich, as it will be easy to lust... You can just live a life of death and keep the family law and the eldest descendants.
No matter how rich or poor, or how low a person is, he is only diligent and cautious inside and outside, obeys etiquette and fears the law, respects humility and values integrity and shame. He is a good family...
(Qing Dynasty) Zhang Lufu "Xunzi Yu"
■The name of a hero and meticulous hero in life is the most difficult to be subordinate. If you respond to everything, if you don’t respond to anything, you will feel resentful; if you deal with it, if you deal with it, you will have any traces of it. Isn’t it convenient if you are frugal and forgive others, save endless material resources and lack endless dislikes?
(Qing Dynasty) Zhang Ying's "Congxunzhai Yu"
■Anyone who is a younger brother dares to add wealth to his father, brother and clan.
Sima Guang's "Miscellaneous Arts at Home"
■Female teaching says: The harmony between the family is all due to whether the woman is virtuous or not. What is wise? He serves uncles and aunts as filial, respects husbands as respect, treats sisters as gentle, and cares for their descendants as kindness. What is a shameless person, lewd and jealous, bullying the weak, shaking right and wrong, and even trying to favor personal gain, etc. The way of heaven is very close, and those who are good and good at harming others must be afraid of them.
■As parents, you should treat your subordinates with sincerity. You should not speak a word or act arbitrarily, so as to conform to the intention of the ancients to teach them by their own actions.
■The way to establish a family should not be too strong or too soft, and you must be suitable for the middle.
(Yuan) Zheng Taihe's "Zheng Family Standards"
■The reason why a husband's family is united is that the father is called kind, the son is called filial, the brother is called friend, the younger brother is called respect, the husband is called healthy, and the wife is called sushi...
(Qing Dynasty) Sun Qifeng "Xiaoyoutang Family Rules"
■The way of heaven, earth, ghosts and gods is full of evil.
（ Northern Qi ） Yan Zhitui "Yan Family Instructions"
■ Everyone is proud of extravagance, but my heart is only about frugality and simplicity.
Sima Guang's "Training Frugality and Showing Health"
■gong (Zhang Wenjie, Prime Minister at the time of Emperor Zhenzong of Song Dynasty) sighed and said: Even if my salary today is my family's wealth and wealth, why worry? It is easy to take into account people's normal feelings, but it is difficult to get from frugality to extravagance. How can my salary be kept forever? Once different from today, your family has been extravagant for a long time, and if you don’t make it easy to be frugal, you will lose your home. How could it be like a day when you are in a position or a person who is in a position or die? Alas! The great wise men's far-sighted thinking is beyond the reach of others!
Sima Guang's "Sword Training and Showing Kang"
■There is no use to bury a grand life in existence and death. The masters of ancient and modern times have already said it carefully... As for the coffin, you should follow the strength... Don't be shaken by people's words, and the wood is in the soil, so why distinguish between likes and dislikes?
It is not helpful to the deceased to summon neighbors to the public. It is only a heavy expense, and it is not necessary to do anything.
Stone man, stone tiger and others should be dismissed. If you want to know the tomb, you can set up one or two stone pillars.
Lu You's "Family Instructions for Fang Weng"
■The plan for one day lies in Yin, the plan for one year lies in spring, and the plan for one life lies in diligence. Those who started their own business have never started with diligence and then gradually become lazy, which is a pity.
■The key to staying at home is to the word "duty and frugality". Both diligence and frugality are especially to the word "bearance".
I occasionally use the hurt of words, but it is not as arrogant as possible. I can make a fuss about the anger of a day, and make a grudge and a grudge, which will lead to a family.Unfortunately, the hard work of hard work over the years has been absent from time to time, and even more so, it is also the same as the ancestors. It is advisable to be careful.
■When the family is poor, you should think about the word "shoudi"; when the family is rich, you should think about the word "save" and "loving blessings".
Comment: "Cherish blessings" means not to do things, remember the bitterness and sweetness.
■Only, pure cultivation can surpass wealth and honor, even if wealth and honor, you must be careful to practice.
(Ming Dynasty) Yao Shunmu's "Medicine Words"
■In chaotic times and peaceful times, I only blindly be frugal and restrained, humble people below, and be harmonious with the masses.
(Ming Dynasty) Wu Linzheng's "Family Commandments"
■As a family, you must not be greedy for wealth, just as the saying goes, "calm" is very good... If a family of eight can be diligent and frugal, you can get the resources of ten people; if a family of six can be diligent and frugal, you can get the resources of eight people, you will have two parts left. How comfortable and how comfortable.
(Ming Dynasty) Wen Huang's remarks on "Wen's Mother's Secretariat"
■Diligence and frugality are the way to govern life. If you are not diligent, you will be less likely to enter, and if you are not frugal, you will spend less money. If you have fewer money and spend less money, you will be short of money. If you have fewer money, you will be short of money. If you have fewer integrity and shame, you will be a dangerous and lucky person. When life is parallel, it is lost here; when the family reputation of ancestors falls here, it is completely dead. Moreover, if there is a wife and a child in the family, you cannot be a model of diligence and thrift, and make each other become greedy and lazy, you will be able to cut off your own physiology and your wife's physiology.
■Frugality follows its financial resources, it is not considered a waste. If you do not measure your financial resources, or even if you can do it, you are too extravagant and not anxious, you will be spending money. Young masters should know the family affairs well.
A middle-class family must think about everything early. If there is a man who makes a living, he will think about his career and karma in teaching him.
Yuan Cai's "Yuan Family Style"
■All some are equal. Leave three parts to prepare for unexpected floods and droughts, one part to serve as sacrifices to the temple, and six parts to serve as two or two months. Take the number of combined use in a month, which is about 30. One of them can be used every day, but not all of them can be used. The seventh part is the middle part, and the fiveth part is the same. The rest is the book and the other part is the same, which is considered as the house repair, medicine, guests, mourning, asking about illness, and giving gifts to the wealth.
(Southern Song Dynasty) Lu Jiushao's "Original Home Products and Uses"
■Frugality is the virtue of a gentleman. The secular world regards frugality as despised, not far-reaching knowledge. Frugality means sufficient use, frugality means few seeking, frugality means can make a family, frugality means can establish one's life, frugality means can pass on to descendants.
The rich family has a plan for a rich family, and the poor family has a plan for a poor family. If you live within your means, you will not be useless. If you use it often has more than one's own use, you can prepare for unexpected horizontal use.
■Wouldn’t a gentleman have a plan for his descendants? However, if his descendants have plans, there is a way. The first virtue is to cultivate virtue; the second is to inherit the family; to make them understand the meaning through learning; to receive the skills of self-reliance, such as those with high talent, will be able to practice careers and obtain academic qualifications, and those with low talent, will be able to manage physiology. The fourth is to choose a good teacher and friend; to marry a good wife, the seven is to keep the style of frugality, and to keep the eight is to keep the style of frugality. ...
Clothes are counted in years, and food is counted in days. If you have no food a day, you will be hungry and discouraged. I have no clothes for a year, but I can still use the old ones. Food at home is that no one knows about food; clothing outside is that people will have to laugh. Therefore, those who are good at dealing with poverty should eat and eat to complete their clothes; those who are not good at dealing with poverty should wear clothes and eat to market food.
(Southern Song Dynasty) Ni Si "Jingchutang Magazine"
■Lu Suoshan's method is most detailed... The ancients' intentions are all about being frugal. The lack of big things is due to the inattentiveness of small things; the lack of monthly plans is due to the excessive use of daily use.
(Qing Dynasty) Zhang Ying's "Hengchan Sacrificial Words" to page 95
■ Children in cities should not be carried by a strong man, so they should not be allowed to parade the streets and alleys, as they are worried about the inducement of people. ...If someone has a servant, he should be simple, honest and cautious, diligent in his work, and he does not have to blame him for his ability to deal with advances and retreats. ...Happy things are often damaged, and unwilling things are often beneficial...The rich and poor have no fixed trend, and the land and house have no fixed owner...
(Southern Song Dynasty) Yuan Cai's "Yuan Family Fan"
■You cannot borrow money lightly for no reason. If you have to pay back the loan, you cannot rely on a slightest amount. If the family is quite good, and people are eager to borrow money, they would rather borrow money and not lend money lightly. Later, it will hurt family affection. If you do it in a safe and secure manner, you must remember it.
…Everyone who is a professional medicine must conduct detailed physical visits. Do not listen to others’ recommendations easily and use your body as a favor.Whenever you ask for a master, you must make a deep choice. Don’t trust others to recommend it easily and use your son as a favor. Whenever you make a big link in the contract or tax collection book, you must be careful and careful. Don’t believe others’ words, and make a slight permission, and use your wealth as your favor.
(Ming Dynasty) Yao Shunmu's "Medicine Words"
■Family etiquette, simple and peaceful, and do not want to be upset but encourage. ...Any people who negotiate land, money and property must seek decisions at any time and delay trouble.
(Ming Dynasty) Wen Huangshu: "Wen's Mother's Secretariat"
■ Zhu Bolu "Maxims of Family Management"
At dawn, sweep the courtyard and clean the inside and outside. When you are dull, you must check it yourself. Every porridge and every meal should be thought about where it is not easy, and it is always difficult to remember. It is better to prepare before the rain and not dig a well when thirsty. You must be frugal and don’t stay with guests for banquets. The utensils are of pure quality, and the tiles are better than gold and jade; the food is refined and the garden vegetables are more delicious. Do not build a rich house and do not seek good land. The three aunts and sisters are actually a matchmaker for adultery and thieves; the beautiful maid and the beautiful concubine are not a blessing in the boudoir. Do not use handsomeness for slaves, and do not use beautiful makeup for wives and concubines. Although ancestors are far away, sacrifices must be sincere; even though descendants are foolish, scriptures must be read. When you live your life and make it simple, you must be righteous. Don’t be greedy for unexpected wealth and don’t drink excessive wine. If you trade with your shoulders, you will not take advantage of it; if you see poor relatives and neighbors, you must be kind to you. If you are mean, you will never enjoy the truth; if you are wrong in morality, you will die immediately. Brothers, uncles and nephews should be divided into more and more wealthy; older and younger brothers, inside and outside should be treated with strict laws and regulations. If you listen to your wife and behave well, how can you be a husband? He is rich in wealth, loses his parents, and does not become a son! When marrying a daughter, choose a good son-in-law, do not ask for a re-hire; when marrying a daughter-in-law, do not care about the dowry. Those who flatter when they see wealth and honor are the most shameful; those who act arrogant when they see poverty are the most shameful. Be careful of disputes at home, and lawsuits will end up being bad; be careful of talking too much, and speaking too much will lead to mistakes. Don’t kill animals without greed for your mouth and abstain from killing. If you are eccentric and self-righteous, you will regret and mistake many times; if you are depressed and lazy, you will be able to achieve your family's fortune. If you are intimate with the evil young, you will suffer from it for a long time; if you are successful in your ambitions, you can rely on each other if you are anxious. Listen to your speech lightly, how can you know that it is not a human being? You should be patient and think twice; fight with things, how can you know that it is not me? You must think about it calmly. Don’t forget to give favors without thinking, don’t forget to receive kindness. You should leave room for everything, and you should not go there any further if you are satisfied. If a person is happy, he should not be jealous; if a person is suffering, he should not be happy. Goodness is not true or good; evil is afraid of people knowing it, it is great evil. If you see lust and lust, you will be punished by your wife and daughter; if you hide your grudges and use a hidden arrow, you will be harmed by your descendants. The family is harmonious and smooth, even if you don’t keep going, you will have fun. After finishing the national class early, you will have nothing to do and you will be happy. If you study, you will be determined by sages; if you are an official, you will be in charge of your country, but you will be worthy of your wealth! Keep your part and keep your life safe and follow the times and leave them to heaven. If you are like this, you will be close to you.
■Since ancient times, human ethics have been mixed with virtuousness. Some fathers and sons cannot be both virtuous, some brothers cannot be ordered, some husbands are wandering, some wife is fierce, and few families do not have such patients. Even sages have nothing to do with them. It’s like having scars and warts on your body. Even though it’s very hateful, it’s impossible to resolve. You should only take care of it with lenient feelings. If you can understand this principle, you will be at ease. The ancients said that this is what people can hardly describe between father, son, brother, husband and wife. ...
A person who is old is like a child doing things, he likes to get small profits in money, eat small benefits in food, and loves to have sex with children. If a child can know this and follow the meaning, then he will be happy. ...
In a mortal family, if children and women are good at conveying words, even if sages live together, they cannot be ignored. Moreover, people’s actions cannot be done in a way, and they cannot be done in accordance with the wishes of others. Wouldn’t it be avoided behind the scenes? If the words behind it are not passed on by others, then they will not hear and know them. Would they have anger and fight? Only when one says and the other hears, resentment accumulates. Moreover, the two people's words were conveyed, and the resentment between the two families was so unresolved. Only a wise person who does not listen to his words will not be able to distract himself from his relatives.
People who live together may interact with each other, must sing their shoes to make people know it, and they should not create it silently. If they are concerned about their opinions, they will be ashamed of each other and cannot advance or retreat. …
(Southern Song Dynasty) Yuan Cai's "Yuan Family Fan"
■Contact relatives and friends, only look at their own strength, and promise to their poor relatives and relatives as they go with the flow, and let him get one or two places to get rid of slander.
Mortals say that his son is unworthy, and they still have to take care of Yi's father's decentness. When he says that his mother-in-law is not good, they also have to take care of Yi's decentness.
(Ming Dynasty) Wen Huang's remarks on "Wen's Mother's Secretariat"
■People cannot be isolated, as isolation is dangerous.The emperor's honor is as good as the death of a man, let alone his subordinates? A family member should not lose the heart of the clan, and the heart of the relatives should not lose the heart of the relatives, so that the village party and friends are like this, and even the court and the country are like this. If you want to get your heart is not something else, be loyal to yourself, be cautious in doing yourself, and be fair in order to deal with things. If human feelings are not far away, and if one person can live with you, everyone can live with you... Respecting elders will become their elders, and being able to teach and be humble and young; being humble and being humble and young can listen to the elders, and even though they are declining, they are already in a prosperous state. If this is the opposite, even though it is prosperous, it is a substitute.
(Qing Dynasty) Zhang Luxiang's "Xunzi Yu"
■No need to talk about the actions of ancient sages and filial pupils, such as Dashun, Wu, Zhou, Taibo , and Boyi, each of which was created. It’s just like morning and night, and pushing pears and dates to get rid of them, what’s the problem? Now people are willing to do it. At the extreme, if you cannot raise your life and die, you cannot be buried. You are very unfilial to your parents; if you have nothing to do, you will compete with each other, and you will not be friendly to your brothers. Alas! That is when you are a child, you will not see your parents in a moment, and you will cry endlessly. If your brothers sit together, you will be pity for filial sons and brothers who love each other. Everyone wants to improve their virtues, but how can they turn out to be like this?
Zhu Bailu's "Persuading"
■I am a father today, and I have been a son the day before yesterday. In all my ways of serving my parents the day before yesterday, I will do everything well, and then those who are the son will be able to see and hear from them without waiting for the edict to be taught. If my parents were not good the way I did not do well in the day before yesterday, would I blame his son for not being ashamed? …
Comment: Personal teaching is more important than words.
■A person’s nature is to avoid the strong when encountering the weak when encountering the weak. If a father is strict and the son knows what he fears, he dare not do anything wrong. If a father is generous, the son will play with it and behave in his own way...
Comment: A kind father must beware of a defeated son.
■When a person is a child, he loves his parents very much. When parents are young and young, they love each other and care about everything they can do. Because the qi and blood are first divided, they are not far apart, but the voices, smiles and appearances of infants and children can love people, and they are also created as the principle of nature, so that they can be endless. ...
When parents were young, they loved to raise their children, and there were those who could not speak for themselves. Although my son has been in charge of his beauty and has fulfilled his filial piety for life, he will never repay his love and care for raising him for his young age. Moreover, there are those who have not fulfilled their filial piety. If ordinary people cannot fulfill their filial piety, please observe how they raise babies and their love will eventually be realized. ...
When parents see that there is the only one who is poor among their children, they often think of it, and often add mercy, food, clothing, or some private interests. If a son is rich, he may offer something, then he will turn it over to him. This is the unity of parents and parents, and the richness of children may think it is a resentment. This is a thought that has not been thought of. If I make me poor, my parents will move this heart to me.
Whether people are concerned about their descendants, even if they see that they do things against their own intentions, they should not hate them with deep feelings. Generally speaking, the children you love may not be filial, or die early, but they rely on their old age and worship behind their lives, are mostly the children you hate.
(Southern Song Dynasty) Yuan Cai's "Yuan Family Fan"
■Are all my sons or not, and those who are parents must not be favored at all. After a long time of preference, brothers do not feel the accumulation of resentment, and often fight for it when their relatives die. The entrepreneurial thinking lasts forever, and it is all clear here, so that it will not cause any disaster in the future.
(Ming Dynasty) Yao Shunmu's "Medicine Words"
■Brothers are people who are fractal and connected with energy, and they are young. Parents are holding their left and right, with their front and back skirts. They eat together when they eat, and they are sent to the same wards. When they learn, they are connected with their careers, and when they travel, they are together. Even if there are rebellious people, they cannot not love each other. It is very strong, each wife has his own wife, each child has his own son, and even if there are people with kindness, many people cannot decline.
(Northern Qi) Yan Zhitui "Yan Family Instructions"
■Brothers who are rare, and property who are easy to obtain.
(Qing Dynasty) Zhang Luxiang's "Xunzi Yu"
■Zen Master Fazhao said: "The same spirit and branches are glorious, and some words do not hurt your feelings. When will you get old when you meet again?" The meaning of the words is amiable, which is enough to enlighten the love of friends.
(Qing Dynasty) Zhang Ying's "Congxunzhai Yu"
■Confucius said: "Everyone is poor, no one is poor, no one is in peace, no one is in peace." Those who are good at doing their best can do their best and even if they are not full of food, they will not have enough clothes, and there will be no complaints. The source of grudges is selfishness and strength.
Sima Guang's "Teaching of Children and Grandchildren"
■The brothers of the father are called uncles and uncles, and his wife is called aunts and uncles. The uniforms are reduced to the first level of parents, which is probably the education of the word "fun" and has the method of parents, and is not far from their parents. The son of a brother is called a son, which is also called a flattery and filial piety. He has a way of having a son, and is not far from his parents and children. Therefore, if you have no parents in your childhood, if you have uncles and parents, you will not have nothing to support; if you have no children and grandchildren, if you have no children and children, you will not have nothing to go. This is the original intention of the Holy King's rituals and legislation.
Comment: In the past, this kind of argument was very realistic. But now this kind of family affection is almost unconvincing under the small family model. It can be foreseeable in the future. With the development of socialization of raising children, even compatriots will become increasingly weak.
As long as relatives have borrowed something, it is better to give it to them according to their strength. If I borrow the words, I hope they can return it, and I will inevitably find something. ...At the time when he borrowed, he was very respectful and had very inferior words. His gratitude could be regarded as a vow just a day. When I pay the blame in the future, I wish I could add up with weapons. Many relatives and old friends become resentful because of wealth. It is commonly said that "no filial piety and resent parents, and no debts and resents the creditors." It is better to think about poverty and follow my strength and give it to me, then I will have no thoughts of compensation and I will not blame me. ...
Man says that the past is a hundred years, and there are fewer than seventy, so it is easy to pass by in a flash. For those with poor life, the evening scene is the most difficult to pass. It is mostly before the age of fifty, twenty years pass like ten years. Fifty years later, ten years will be no less than twenty years. And women are particularly sad for being old.
(Southern Song Dynasty) Yuan Cai's "Yuan Family Style"
Friendship is once a year, very happy, so it is not restricted. You must not be too extravagant, nor should you regard poverty as thin as you are or rich as you are rich.
(Yuan) Zheng Taihe's "Zheng Family Standards"
■Do not hide from close relatives because of small dislikes, and do not forget the old kindness because of new grievances.
(Ming Dynasty) Xu Xiangqing's "Xu Yuntun Yimou"
■Your sister is a member of your compatriot. If she is rich in the future, she will be fine. If she is poor, you two must provide honest care for her. If your mother wants to have something with her, don’t you both want to violate the obstacles. If you have some obstacles, not only will you lose your brotherly feelings, but it will also make your mother angry, and you are unfriendly and unfilial. Remember it.
(Ming Dynasty) Yang Jisheng's "Only Written by Yang Zhonghangong"
■Compared with me for a long time, it is best to be close to me.
(Ming Dynasty) Yao Shunmu's "Medicine Words"
■After a woman is married, if her husband's family is poor, parents and brothers should be kind enough and should not sit idly by. If he has virtuous behavior, his children and daughters-in-law should respect him. Some may be unfortunate that the husband has no support when he dies, so he can return to his family. When relatives are rich, they will be more relatives, and when they are declining, they will become distant. This is the weakest, so it is advisable to be careful. ...
A woman is a lifelong entrusted to her husband, and she shares her sorrow and suffering, and shares her safety and danger. Therefore, it is said that "one person is successful, one person is disappointed." I will give up my parents and brothers and entrust my life to me, and love can also be remembered. If you serve your parents, serve sacrifices, and continue to be the greatest success in future generations. If you have any mistakes, you should be tolerant and not angry at all. If you don’t know, you should not be taught in detail. The Book of Songs says: "Like a guest like a friend." Guests have the meaning of respect and benefiting each other.
■The man inscribed Jin said: "If you don't say too much, you will lose more; if you don't have too many things, you will suffer more troubles." What a great precept! Those who can walk will take their wings, those who are good at flying will reduce their fingers, those who have horns will have no supreme teeth, and those who have magnification will not have front feet. The way of heaven will not allow things to be combined. The ancients said: "It is better to hold on to one person than to be good than to be good; the mole is capable of five things, but not to be a trick."
(Northern Qi) Yan Zhitui "Yan Family Instructions"
Note: ①The Jin people, that is, Confucius saw an iron caster in front of the Taimiao in Luoyang , and he kept silent, with an inscription behind it.
② Moles have five abilities, they can fly, but they cannot fly; they can climb, but they cannot climb to the top of a tree; they can swim, but they cannot swim, but they cannot swim, but they cannot hide their bodies; they can run, but they cannot run.
■A gentleman does not deceive himself in a dark house, does not penetrate evil paths, is slow to speak outside but quick to act inside, and then he will become famous.
(Northern Song Dynasty) Jia Changchao's "Checking for Descendants"
■The world changes more, but this is the law of nature. People in this world often see that they are a little prosperous now, and think that they have no thoughts in this life, and that they will destroy them without success. Generally speaking, if the Tianxu changes armor every ten years, the world will change.Now we don’t need to discuss the long-term long term. We only compare the current ten years ago, twenty years ago. How can we have a certainty in success or failure? People in the world have no far-reaching knowledge. Whenever they see others' progress and success or success, they will be jealous, and when they see others' decline and failure or success, they will be ridiculed. There are the most troubles when living together and fellow villagers. If you know that there is no fixed situation, you will be too busy to worry about yourself, so why should you be jealous and laugh at others?
(Comment: Success and failure are not fixed, how good it is to say it. Hundreds of years of poverty have made me a scholar. If I am not vigilant, I will soon lose it. How to maintain it? Educating children well is the foundation. Secondly, we must seek new development.)
Man has troubles and cannot help, have no complaints about poverty, and cannot survive on his own poverty, but the person is simple and ashamed and cannot speak to others. Although I have nothing to do, I should also help him. Even if this person cannot repay him, he will be grateful. ...There is no gratitude today, and there is no reward for virtue in the future. Just because you can ignore it, how can you not use it if you dare not use it, and don’t use it for others?
When living in the hometown and traveling, you should not accept favors from others easily. Before I could achieve this, I always receive the kindness of others. Whenever I see someone, I always feel respect and fear, and the person also regards the kindness of others as me and has always virtue. After the reign of our glory, if we pay more than anything, we will lose more than we pay for it. If we don’t pay it, it will be a loss. Therefore, even if you eat and cook, you should not accept it lightly. When the seniors saw someone serving in an official position and sought a lot of friends, they warned him, "If you receive a lot of kindness, it will be difficult to establish a court." You should consider it carefully.
Nowadays, people receive favors from others, but they don’t care about them, but they benefit others, even if they are small, they are still vivid in their hearts. The ancients said: "Do not think of giving to others, and do not forget to receive giving to others." It is really a difficult task.
(Southern Song Dynasty) Yuan Cai's "Yuan Family Fan"
■In ancient times, there were villains in Sanjia Village, so we should think about how to deal with it. Just don’t go to the sect, but gradually betray it with reason.
In ancient times, it was said that it was difficult to get a court, and it was difficult to establish a living in a hometown. You must be diligent and thrifty to avoid asking for help.
(Ming Dynasty) Xu Xiangqing's "Xu Yuntun Yimo"
I am not able to do anything hypocritical and deceitful, and I am not able to do anything. Not only heaven cannot deceive, but even man is difficult to hide.
When a husband is working hard and self-improvement, what can’t be done or what can’t be achieved? He is afraid of people’s talents, knowledge, and wealth?
The four words "arrogance, extravagance, lust, and laziness" are the same disease among children from wealthy families.
Man should have a far-reaching understanding and a broader measure.
The word "greed" is a taboo in everything. If you study, you are afraid that you will not be greedy for too many things. There are no scholars who have never been greedy for books.
(Ming Dynasty) Wang Rumei's "Wang Family Instructions"
■I have no outstanding achievements in the past world, so I will start with my official position. This is like a small island of turmeric in a big river and lake, but only cultivated in ten thousand may last forever. Otherwise, a tide will be restored to the world in the middle of the night. How fearful, how fearful!
(Comment: Almost tell me!)
When things come, you must first discuss the wrong things and the interests. If you know right and wrong, you will not be despised and do not dare to act rashly. If you know the benefits and harms, you will be able to do everything. I wonder if you don’t examine this and you will fall into danger.
Now people are scheming and trying hard to deal with others, but they have never harmed others. They just ruin their own minds and damage their vitality.
(Ming Dynasty) Yao Shunmu's "Medicine Words"
■Scholars do not join the society and become officials and do not join the party, so they have half of their responsibilities.
Birds must choose trees to live on, and those who entrust bandits will inevitably suffer danger.
The saying goes: "The body is valuable for things." Being eager for profit and being eager for fame is not a technique of respecting life.
(Ming Dynasty) Wu Linzheng's "Family Commandments"
■ Poor people do not speak big words, women do not speak Chinese, fools do not speak well, poor people do not speak full words, and professionals do not speak gossip.
Widows are not favored easily. My son is stupid, but I can't repay him if I want to repay him if I don't do anything; my son is not virtuous, but I can't repay him if I want to repay him if I want to repay him if I want to repay him if I want to repay him.
What is the most fun in the world? My mother said: It is the most rare for families who do not lend money or owe money, and the old days when they are not rich or apologized, and the places where they are not luxurious or thieves. This is the most rare for poor men who avoid hunger and cold, scholars who learn filial piety and brothers, merchants who are familiar with literary meanings, young men who know Jiafeng, and officials who have the old face.
If you are slandered, you must distinguish it, and if you are irrefutable. If it is land, money, it will be difficult to explain later, and this is necessary to argue. If the person in the boudoir is calm, it will disappear by itself. This is not arguing. If the person is related to the right and wrong of the words, it will be clear for a long time. This is not arguing.
(Ming Dynasty) Wen Huang's remarks on "Wen's Mother's Training"
■Being a good man must undergo training, be born in distress, die in happiness, and be unchanged throughout the ages.
(Qing Dynasty) Sun Qifeng's "Family Instructions of Xiaoyoutang"
■The rise and fall of a family is not all about wealth, poverty, or humbleness, but about whether a person is virtuous or not. To be poor and humble but likes to practice and be prosperous; to be rich and unyielding and unyielding is the way to be defeated.
Zhengmeng says: "The descendants are virtuous, and the clan is great. No descendants are virtuous, and the family will not be overthrown."
(Qing Dynasty) Zhang Luxiang's "Shunting the Son"
■ There are three things that are suitable for life, namely noble, wealth, and many descendants. However, these are the three things. If you treat it well, it will be a blessing, and if you treat it bad, it will be a burden. Those who seek so-called blessings for the most burden cannot be seen. What? A high position is a place of blame, a door of jealousy, a palace of resentment, a gate of interests, a cave of worries, a watershed of hardship, a place of slander, a place of attack. The ancient wise men were often discouraged.
The wife accumulates business arrangements and lives in peace and defense, and her work is beyond words. Then there must be requests from relatives, resentment from poverty, cheating from servants, robbers from big, robbers from thieves, small, robbers from wrecks, losses from business, failures from losing their way, disasters from farmland, disputes from fighting, wastes from robberies, wastes from children, and all kinds of sufferings. The poor do not know, but the rich and rich are both.
I have no more words to say, but I only have four words: those who read books are not humble, those who keep the fields are not hungry, those who accumulate virtue are not inclined, and those who choose friendships are not defeated.
Although people are extremely cold and painful, they must be respected by their own books and not dare to ignore them. Their virtues must be gentle, and they will never be confused in their actions. They will not be in the gains and losses of fame and fortune, or in the slowness of encountering cooperation.
When a person lives at home, he should not be curious about it. The Doctrine of the Mean is extremely plain, but extremely magical. If a person can be free from moral integrity, keep his daily life, manage his family and behave in a stable manner, and be in line with the rules of everything, without any eccentricity, he will be a person on the road of sages. Isn’t that strange?
You are all young and strong, full of food and warm clothes, and your blood and energy are not yet settled. How can you have nothing to do with? The ancients said that if ordinary people want to drink and play, they must find a partner to do it. They can read the happy book alone and enjoy the mountains and rivers alone. Anything that benefits all desires and desires is favored. If you like it, you will suffer if you have fun. Only when reading and dealing with mountains and rivers can you stop having fun without suffering. Now Cao is intimate with his friends who are useless, listen to their helpless talks and go to their helpless social engagements. How can you care about the rare years and even read the rare poetry and books, and quickly face the rare landscape?
(Qing Dynasty) Zhang Ying's "Congxunzhai Yu"
■In the world, we should seek joy, and there will be auspicious scenes everywhere. If you are happy, you will have good thoughts, and if you are angry, you will have bad thoughts. Therefore, the old saying goes: "A good thought in life, even if you have not done good, the good will be followed; if you have bad thoughts in life, even if you have not done evil, the evil spirit will be followed." This is true!
A mortals should be in a state of conscientiousness, and when they see people having good luck, they should feel compassion when they see people having bad luck, and when they see people having good luck, they should feel compassion when they work. This is all real benefit to them. If you are afraid of others' success and happy about others' failure, what does it have to do with people's affairs? It's just a traitor. An old saying goes: "When seeing others' gains, it is like your own gains; when seeing others' losses, it is like your own losses." If you have such a intention, God will bless it.
Everything is easy for a while, but it is difficult for a long time. Therefore, if ordinary people talk about strange things, I say, "Let's wait and see again." Since I reached the top of my 8th, I have been in charge of all things for more than fifty years, so why haven't I experienced it? Many people who are illegitimate at the moment will reveal their ugly behavior in the future. I will not announce such delicate falsehood immediately, and it will be exposed over time. A temporary deception is really useless.
A person’s life is mostly made of habits. From childhood to more than ten years old, these years were in line with the principles of nature and knowledge had not been judged. Once learning, there were differences between close to red and ink. When it became adults, scholars, farmers, industry and commerce followed their habits and became a trend. Even fathers and brothers could not make their habits and likes the same as their children. Therefore, Confucius said: "The natures are similar, and the habits are different." There is a necessity.
(Qing Dynasty) Aijusila Xuanye's "The Maxim of the Holy Ancestral Court"
■Relatives are unhappy and dare not make diplomatic relations; those who are close are not close, and dare not seek far away; those who are small are not careful and dare not speak out big.
Be careful as the beginning. The Book of Songs says: "Everyone has a beginning, but few have an end.”
（Spring and Autumn Ann Zeng Shen’s “Gaozi’s Words”
■Poverty is not a human problem, but harmony is the most important.
（Shu Han Dynasty）Xiang Lang’s “The Last Words of the Lord”
■Absolute and taciturn, be cautious and self-righteous, and then the path of resentment and blame will be resolved.
（Wei) Ji Kang’s “Family Instructions”
■The words of a gentleman are long, thick and polite. The words of villains are more mean and vanity.
（Southern Song Dynasty）Yuan Cai’s “The World of Yuan Family”
■Hidden the faults of a person, and the goodness of an adult… Every step is virtue, and every step can be accumulated.
(Qing Dynasty) Zhu Bailu's "Persuading"
■Sun Shuao is the imperial magistrate, and an old father taught him: "The higher the position, the lower the will, the higher the official position, the smaller the heart. "Yuan Ziyun: "When poor and humble, I hope others will accept you, and when you are rich and noble, I hope others will accept you. ”
(Tang Dynasty) Li Shu's "Jing Zi Shi Yi"
■ "The Book of Changes" says: "The chaos comes from the origin, and words are the steps. If the king is not secret, he will lose his ministers; if the ministers are not secret, he will lose his body. ”
(Southern Song Dynasty) Ye Mengde "Shilin Family Instructions"
■The rise and fall of others depends only on how people later. Whether people are virtuous or not is not necessarily born to be determined, and it is also not only for people to learn or not.
(Ming Dynasty) Zhou Yi's "Saying to the Son"
■ Do not speak all words, be smart and not reveal all the things, and be good things should not be taken away. It is not only difficult to enjoy strange blessings, but create evil things will be full. If these three things are not left, people will look at each other. ...
In the past, Guo Jin was the first to build a craftsman and sat on his children's right, saying "This is the one who builds a house", referring to his children, saying "This is the one who sells a house". Those who know it are famous sayings. Nowadays, people are humble officials, and they wish they can't enjoy a great position, and they are distorted when they are high and distorted. When you look at the danger, recall the blessing of being humble and being calm, you will be in heaven. If you have a common man and a wife protect you, you will be in heaven. If you have a common man and a wife protect you, you will be in heaven. If you have a smart and strong man, you will be in heaven. If you have a smart and strong man, you will be in heaven. If you have a smart and strong man, you will be in heaven. If you have a thorn in your illness, you will be in groaning and painful. If you have a smart and strong man, you will be in heaven. From ancient times to the present, everyone has suffered from this disease. If you can see a step first and take a step early, you will be a wise man.
(Qing Dynasty) Sun Qifeng's "Family Instructions of Xiaoyoutang"
■The children of aristocratic families have difficulty in establishing their reputations, which is a hundred times more famous than those of poor people. Why? People treat them in person in person, must not be as good as the ancient ways of poor people. If there is a small mistake, who is willing to denounce them in person? If there is a slight arrogance, who is willing to make a deep rule of his mistakes? If there is a spoiled young, he is favored by relatives; if there is a long history, he is forgiven by friends.
(Qing Dynasty) Zhang Ying's "Congxun Zhai Yu"
■I do not value empty words, but only practice, and I am not willing to criticize others. It is because people have their own strengths and strengths. Only by abandoning their weaknesses and taking advantage of their strengths can we achieve the best of others. If we must be blamed for everything, we will criticize them if we have any shortcomings. This is not a way of loyalty and forgiveness. …
Do our people and things will be done to the destiny…
Zhuangzi said: "Who can be a person who is in vain and wandering around the world, who can harm him? "This is good.
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(Northern Qi) Yan Zhituo "Yan Family Instructions"
■The young generation has the most talented people. If there is such a thing, father and brother should think that they are worried and not happy. We must always add simplicity and keep reading the scriptures carefully, and teach them to be generous and respectful, and do not let those who are frivolous and weak. In this case, their ambitions will be achieved by themselves. Otherwise, the things that can be considered are not one end. This is what I say, the medicine for future generations, and everyone should be careful and not regret it.
Lu You's "Fang Weng Family Instructions"
■In ancient times, it was called the holy merit. It will be easy to nourish later generations.
(Ming Dynasty) Yao Shunmu's "Medicine Words"
■Although the children are wise, foolish, virtuous, and unfilial, they have a destiny, but their fathers and brothers must teach them to study, and they must not be abandoned. Even if you are stupid and stubborn, if you know the truth and meaning very little, you will not dare to act recklessly and do not argue.
(Ming Dynasty) Xu Sanchong "Family Instructions"
■Understanding of miscarriage, I will wait until my habits become a reality and think about remedies. It is too late. ... Maintenance is the first priority for the family. ...The literati and officials teach their children the most important thing. If children are not a human being, wealth and honor will help them to gain evil. If children can be independent, poverty and humbleness will help them to strengthen their integrity.
(Qing Dynasty) Sun Qifeng's "Family Instructions of Xiaoyoutang"
■If you have land and acres of bento, try to cultivate the bento of bento of children and grandchildren to teach them. If the fields are not cultivated, wouldn’t you avoid hunger and cold? If the descendants do not teach, can they be defeated without defeat? ...
If you have a child, you will not be alone in giving birth to his descendants. You will also make the daughter of others not the other person and suffer for life. If a woman loses her education, it will not only cause trouble for others, but also cause the marriage of other people's sons to be the same as her family. ...
The son of the emperor attaches great importance to the choice of a master, and it is fundamental to the country. From the ministers and officials to capture scholars and common people, they are different from the rich and poor, and they are just the fundamentals of the wealth. Even though there is beauty and quality, don’t you teach Hu Cheng? Even if you are foolish, how can your parents not be satisfied? For middle-aged people, if they get teaching, they will go up, and if they lose teaching, they will go down. The descendants are virtuous, the descendants are also virtuous, and the descendants are not frightened, and they are immediately overthrown. ...If you think about being a parent, will you leave your son with money and leave him or her? To put it in a lot of money and money, it is worthwhile to lose one's body, which is better than to put it in a place where virtue and righteousness can last forever.
(Qing Dynasty) Zhang Luxiang's "Shunting the Son"
■The most joy of life is nothing like reading; the most important thing is nothing like teaching the children. Father and son should not be addicted to small kindness. If you have to discipline them with power and politeness from a young age, you will regret them all. ... Raising children is like raising zhilan orchids. They can cultivate them by learning them, and they can accumulate good deeds to nourish them. ...The rich should teach their children to value the Tao, and the poor should teach their children to maintain their integrity. The wise and filial piety of children is all people, and the wealth and wealth are all the great and humble. Isn’t it a mistake for people in the world to worry about people in others, but to worry about people in heaven?
(Song Dynasty) Jiayi's "Teaching the Son"
■It is a great talent to tolerate people. As a human being, it is in the heart. A good heart is a good scholar. If the heart is evil, it is a bad person.
(Ming Dynasty) Pang Shangpeng "Pang Family Instructions"
■Far away from evil and slander is the first righteousness of the children of the official family. To be distant from shame is the first righteousness of poor children. As for the subject, I always have my own skills.
(Ming Dynasty) Wen Huang's remarks on "Wen's Mother's Secret"
■ Those who love their children say that "it is not suitable for labor in young people", which is a very fallacy. No matter what ancient wise men, famous officials, and famous generals, there is no cowardly and impatience. Among the four people in the village, who can be independent, is there anyone who is not diligent and not working hard? I have been cursed since I was young, and I will never be able to do anything, and I will eventually abandon my talents. If a wealthy family says that you can sit for food, how many people in the world can enjoy eating for a lifetime? If you don’t get used to it, you will never understand the truth. The word "Lao" should be very broad, but the teaching of young children to learn masterpieces and etiquette first.
(Qing Dynasty) Wang Huizu's "Shuangjietang Meaning"
■In ancient times, those who taught Taoism were important, but now they should start with prenatal education. For pregnant women, avoid excessive fullness, sleep more often, or anger, or desire for a child, avoid lameness, and eat spicy and heat and wild game. It is advisable to listen to ancient poems, listen to the piano, be presumptuous and generous, be kind and good, read the pictures of wise, filial piety, filial piety, righteousness, righteousness, and righteousness. It is advisable to work and rest with integrity and stop with etiquette. Then giving birth to a child describes elegant and neutral temperament. When you embrace the baby, don’t be too full and warm. It’s better to have a little hunger and cold, as the ribs will be firm and the qi shore will be refreshed.
(Ming Dynasty) Xu Xiangqing's "Xu Yuncun's Scheme"
■There is no other way to nourish me, but the filial piety and brotherhood of teaching, the scrupulous faith of teaching, and the sensible love of the people and the kindness of the kindness of teaching. I have a little spare time and teach literature. If you are not quick or slow, you will not let go for a moment, and do it with one thought, keep it true and pure, so that it will not be damaged, then the holy power will be in this way. This is called cultivating the right way.
(Ming Dynasty) Yao Shunmu's "Medicine Words"
■The poor scholar condemned his subordinates, and he was extremely whipped. He was temporarily aware of the police, and he would play with it if he used it frequently, and he would teach his son the same.
(Ming Dynasty) Wen Huang's remarks on "Wen's Mother's Secret"
■When children are young, those whose parents are strict will be more virtuous in the future; those who are lenient will be more unfilial. ...If you are strict, you will be punished and beaten with a gentle way, restrain your body and mind, and know what you are concerned about in your actions, but you will not dare to take any scruples. If you are lenient, you will tolerate and indulge indulge in your heart, and you will be arrogant and unrestrained in all kinds of evil things from this life.
(Qing Dynasty) Zhang Luxiang's "Shunting the Son"
■Who doesn't love parents to their children? However, you should not be too spoiled. If a child is too flirted with care, not only will he lose his diet, but he will not be able to withstand the invasion of cold and heat, he will grow up and become a man, either stupid or stupid. I once saw that every dementia and weak among the princes and ministers was caused by their parents' excessive spoilingness.
Aijussixla Xuanye "The Maximum of the Holy Ancestral Court"
■Uncarved jade, it will not become a tool, and people will not learn, and they will not know. However, jade has an unchanging virtue of being a thing. Even if it is not carved as a tool, it is still not harmful to jade. A person’s nature will be moved by things, and if he does not learn, he will move; if he does not learn, he will give up a gentleman and become a villain, so how can he not remember it!
Ouyang Xiu's "Speaking to My Son"
■Study is in me, and wealth is in my time. Those who are in me must not help, and those who are in the time must wait for it.
(Southern Song Dynasty) He Geng's "Speaking to My Son"
Comment: Opportunities cannot be waited, we must seize opportunities, and sometimes create opportunities.
■Day starts and you must first read three or five volumes, correct your intentions, and then you can get to know other things. It’s the same when I see the candle at night. If there is nothing wrong, I will never leave a few cases all day long. If you can do this, you will never be inferior to others in your life. If you see other things, you will naturally not be reckless. ...If you manage civil affairs in the early morning, sit in silence or sit quietly, and get farther away from the books day after day, how can you think about learning more? If this does not flow into ordinary people, they will be idle with clothes and food. Not to mention, I play games, drink, chase and play well, seek to make friends, and do whatever I want. There is one thing, in the past two or three years, and in the past five or six years, there has been no one who has lost his life and lost his family.
(Southern Song Dynasty) Ye Mengde "Shilin Family Instructions"
■A mortals improve their morals and practice their careers, and everything starts from studying. Read more will make you less desires, and if you are more inclined, you will save money. If you are less inclined, you will find less incest, and if you are less incest, you will find a high quality. The method of reading is mainly based on classics. If the classics are profound and arduous, then you can observe history. If you observe history, you can know the wise and stupid people, and it will be easy to understand the gains and losses when encountering things. Therefore, everything can be discussed in terms of the noble and low-prime age, but reading is different. If the noble and low-prime age are reading a volume, one volume will be beneficial; if reading a day, one day will be beneficial. This is why the Master is struggling and forgets to eat and cannot learn.
Aijussixla Xuanye's "The Maxim of the Holy Ancestral Court"
■Proverbs say: "It is better to have a small trick than to accumulate wealth."
Scholars, so seek to gain more. When you see people reading dozens of books, it is easy to work, and when you are arrogant, you will be despised by the elders; when you are sick, you will be like enemies, and you will be as evil as owls. It is better not to learn without learning than to lose yourself by learning. ...
Scholars are just planting trees, playing with their flowers in spring, and climbing in autumn; talking about articles is spring, cultivating one's own benefit, and making a living in autumn is fruitful.
(Northern Qi) Yan Zhitui "Yan Family Instructions"
■The courageous desires to be big, the heart desires to be small; the wisdom desires to be round, and the action needs to be square. Great ambitions cannot be achieved without talent, and great talent cannot be achieved without learning.
(Ming Dynasty) Zheng Xiao "Xunzi Yu"
■When reading a good thing, I will think that I will do it in the future. When seeing a bad thing, I will think that I will definitely be rude in the future. When seeing a good person, I will think that I will be like him in the future. When seeing a bad person, I will think that I will not learn from him in the future. Then my heart will naturally be bright and upright, and I will naturally not be able to act in a miserable way, and I will be the best person in the world.
(Ming Dynasty) Yang Jisheng's "Only Writing of Yang Zhonghangong"
■Read more, the qi will be clear, and the qi will be clear, and the spirit will be upright. If the spirit is correct, the good fortune will come out, and God will bless it. If you study less, you will be free, and if you are free, you will be in the evil world. If you are in the evil world, you will be in the evil world and do evil things, and you will be in trouble. ...
Scholars, etc., should only study secretly, and after their studies are completed, they will be in line with each other. ...
Scholars value classics and history, and classics and history are the most suitable for familiarity. If you work hard one after another, you will be able to achieve success.
Inappropriate and anger when encountering things, this is also a disease. If you read more, you can get rid of it.
(Ming Dynasty) Wu Linzheng's "Family Instructions"
■The ancients studied and the second thing to be the second thing to be aware of the truth and be a good person.
(Qing Dynasty) Sun Qifeng's "Family Instructions of Xiaoyoutang"
■The ancestors said that people today have never read books. If you read "The Analects of Confucius", you are such a person before you read it, but after you read it, you are only such person, but you have never read it. This is the way to teach people to understand the principles of reading. You should know that the books of sages are not designed for later generations of scholars and scholars, but are to teach people to be good people for thousands of generations, even to great sages. So reading a book will lead to the opposite of the body. Can I do this? If you do something, you must integrate it into books. What did the ancients do? This is reading. If it is just a superficial and general, remember a few ancient books and a few elegant words in your heart, it is not good enough.
(Qing Dynasty) Zhu Bolu's "Persuading"
■All the world's skills and skills are difficult to learn at first, and it seems that it is impossible to achieve it. If you don't learn it because of your disposal, you will never achieve it. Therefore, when you beginners, you should have the ambition to be determined and unswerving, and you should be brave and diligent, and be loyal and forever. How can you fail to succeed in any skill!
Aijussixla·Xuanye "The Maxim of the Holy Ancestral Court"
■Life is young and has a spiritual patent. After growing up, your thoughts are gone. You must educate early and do not miss the opportunity. When I was seven years old, I recited the "Fu of Lingguang Palace". As for today, I still don't forget it every ten years. Twenty years later, the scriptures I recited were abandoned in one month, and they were abandoned.
(Northern Qi) Yan Zhitui's "Yan Family Instructions"
■About young people should learn from it, and they must establish courses strictly and should not be slowed down in one day. You must read general scriptures every day, and there must be many general scriptures, as long as you are familiar with them. You must sit in a quiet room and read it two or three hundred times, and every word and sentence must be clear. You must also teach and read five or seven times in the first three or five days a day, and you must recite it thoroughly and not let a word go. History books must read more than one or more volumes a day before they can achieve success.
(Southern Song Dynasty) Lu Zuqian "Bianzhilu"
■A writing is not as good as quality, and it can surpass the flower in reality. This is the method of writing.
(Ming Dynasty) Yuan Zhong and others recorded "Miscellaneous Records of the Courtyard"
■Regular script is like sitting and standing, running script is like running, and cursive script is like running.
Any books you read before the age of twenty are very different from those you read after the age of twenty. The knowledge in childhood has not been opened, and it is innocent and pure. Although readers have not reviewed it for a long time, they can still recite it in several ways. If you read in your prime, you will forget your periods and months, and it will not last long. Therefore, the six classics and the Qin and Han dynasties have ancient and profound words. They must be read in childhood. After they grow stronger, even if they have more achievements, they will eventually be of influence. From the age of eight to twenty, there are not many years in the middle, how can we abandon it? Or a book that is not urgent? At this time, you must read the text at the moment. You must also choose those who are elegant, mellow, pure, and rich in words, and can last for twenty or thirty years without any harm. If flowers fall in the morning and evening, shallow, unconscious, indifferent, and lose their body, please a moment, how can you read this useless text in the years when pearls and jade are difficult to change? How could I recite one or two articles of "Zuo" and "Guo" and several articles of the noble and luxurious texts of the East and the Han Dynasty, which are a treasure that will benefit you for life? ...I wish that you will regard the scriptures you read in the past as if you were to be sacred and you will be able to review them within one month. How can I read all the books of the ancients? But what I have read must not give up easily. If you get a ruler, you will get a ruler. If you get an inch, you will not be greedy for too many things or fame. If you read an article, you must be able to recite it, then you will understand its meaning and apply it under your wrist. In this way, your talent will naturally develop. If you have read this book but cannot mention the words at all, it is called painting cakes to satisfy your hunger; if you can recommend the words but cannot use them, it is called eating without transformation. ...It is very annoying that people are tired of reading the articles, but they do not know how to learn them, which is of no benefit to their body and mind. If you can understand it, dozens of articles are enough, so how can you use so many? If you cannot read the lesson, you will read thousands of articles, or not. ... When you are young, you should specialize in career development and think that you are the foundation of your life.
(Qing Dynasty) Zhang Ying's "Congxun Zhai Yu"
■As a person is childish, he is dedicated and vigorous, and after he grows up, his thoughts will be scattered and out of the way. Therefore, he should learn early and not miss the opportunity. The scriptures I read at the age of seven or eight have not been forgotten for fifty or sixty years. As for the scriptures I read outside twenty years, it has become so deserted that it has not been warm for several months.
Aijussila·Xuanye Art of Aijussixo Xuanye � It is not that you don’t have to do more. If you accumulate less or more, you will have no trouble of forgetting even if you accumulate more or not. This way is like the benefit of a long day, but people are quite unaware of it. Therefore, from a small amount to a large amount, the essence is in it. In a nutshell: uninterrupted. The harm of interruption is more than not learning....Check the order of time, regard yourself as the middle and lower-level resources, and is limited to a few books a day. During the year of one year, apart from the commemoration, commemoration, handover and banquets, the majority of them were cut off on 270 days. The courses must be established strictly on these 270 days, and the way is followed without any change. In ten years, the scriptures can be completed. Moreover, if you keep using ropes, the dullness of the resources will also be sensitive, and the writing can gradually increase. In another ten years, all the ancient Chinese and historical articles can be completed gradually.
(Qing Dynasty) Wang Weixian's "Whispers in the Cold Lamp"
■Is there any difficulty in the world? If you do it, it will be easy to do it; if you don’t do it, it will be difficult to do it. Is it difficult for people to learn? If you learn it, it will be difficult to learn it. My talent is not as stupid as others, and my talent is not as mediocre as others. I learn it all day long and never slacked off. Until I succeed, I don’t know whether it is stupid or mediocre. My talent is more intelligent than others, and my talent is more intelligent than others. I will reject it and not use it. It is nothing different from being stupid or mediocre. The way of the sage died in Lu. However, how can the use of being stupid and smart?
There are two monks in Shu, one is poor and the other is rich. The poor said to the rich, "What do I want to go to the South China Sea?" The rich said, "Why do you rely on me to go?" He said, "I am enough for a bottle and a bowl." The rich said, "I have wanted to buy a boat and go down for several years, but I still haven't been able to do it. Why do you rely on me to go?" The next year, the poor returned from the South China Sea to tell the rich. The rich are ashamed. When Western Shu goes to the South China Sea, I don’t know how many thousands of miles it is. The rich monks cannot come, but the poor ones come. A person’s ambition is not as good as a monk in Shu!
So those who are smart and quick can rely on but cannot rely on; those who are smart and quick but do not learn are those who are defeated. The stupidity and mediocrity can be limited but not limited; those who do not limit themselves to the stupidity and mediocrity but do not tire of mechanics are self-reliant.
(Qing Dynasty) Peng Duanshu "To learn from children and nephews"
■A person has a son, he must have a karma. If you have karma with poor and humbleness, you will not be hungry or cold; if you have karma with wealth and honor, you will not be wrong.
(Southern Song Dynasty) Yuan Cai's "Yuan Family Fan"
■The ancients acted. Consider right and wrong, regardless of interests. People today do not care about their interests. The country rules say that you can escape for luck, but hell says that you have never seen it. The name of the present world and the responsibility of the future generations are not considered, and most of them are just to benefit from it.
(Qing Dynasty) Xie Qikun "Study for the Children and Nephews"
■The main affairs of agriculture, culture, business, calligraphy, painting, medicine and divination can all be used to provide food and resources. If a person has constant karma, he will have no time to do anything wrong with his wealth and will not lose his integrity.
(Ming Dynasty) Xu Xiangqing's "Xu Yuncun Yishu"
■All children and nephews are avoided in farming. If you don’t know how to do agriculture in your childhood, you will know that millet will become difficult and not be extravagant; if you do agriculture in your childhood, you will always be honest and not be evil; if you do agriculture in your childhood, you will be diligent and hard, and you will be able to develop good intentions to avoid sin, so your sons and nephews must work hard to farm.
(Ming Dynasty) Huo Tao's "Family Instructions"
■ "Zhuangzi Dasheng" records: Confucius came to Chu State and met an old man with a hunchbacked cicada sticking to cicadas in the forest. He saw that he was very skillful and never made mistakes in catching cicadas from the tree. Confucius asked him how he could do this. The old man said: Although the world is big, and even if all things are numerous, there are only cicadas in my eyes. I concentrate on catching cicadas and never distracted. How could I not be able to handle it? Confucius said to his disciples: "If you use your will, you will be condensed into the spirit. Is it the hunch that is the one who is a man?"
■The law of officialdom is the best, honesty is the best.
(Northern Song Dynasty) Jia Changchao's "Checking for Descendants"
■The only way to be an official is to be a three-thing, namely qing, be cautious, and be diligent. If you know these three things, you will know why you will maintain your body. Knowing these three things can help you protect your position, stay away from shame, gain the best knowledge, and gain the help of the lower. However, officials in the world cannot defeat themselves when they are in financial affairs, and often think that they do not have to be defeated. If you hold the intention of not having to fail, you will do everything, but things will always be defeated and you cannot control yourself. Therefore, when you act in your mind, you must observe it in the beginning. ...Being an official is both honest and must be guarded against villains. ...If you are an official, you will not be in trouble, and you will not be in trouble. ...A thing that endures is the door to all wonders. ... "Tolerate the enemy and the disaster star".
(Southern Song Dynasty) Lv Benzhong's "Tong Meng Xu"
■The official road is the place for the gathering of poisonous snakes.
(Ming Dynasty) Yuan Zhong and others recorded "Miscellaneous Records of the Courtyard"
■House to good people is like entering a room of orchids. After a long time, they do not know their fragrance, and they will be transformed with it. If you live with a bad person, it is like entering a trunk of abalone. After a long time, you will not know its smell, and you will change it with it.
■You two young and slick people will coax you, invite you to dinner, lure you to gamble, send you to your beloved things, or send you to your beauty. Once you fall into his trap, you will suffer losses. Not only will you lose all your family business, but you will also become a person. If there is such a person coaxing you, then I will think of me. It is bad to see if he is good to you, and I will leave him far away. If you choose a person who is honest, honest, willing to study, and willing to learn well, you will be loyal to him and have a trust in his language. If you get along with him every day, you will naturally become a good person and will not become a vulgar person.
(Ming Dynasty) Yang Jisheng's "Only Writing of Yang Zhonghangong"
■The most important words should be cautious, and the most important things should be chosen. It is better to say less than to say more. It is better to know less than to know more than to know more. If you are a virtuous friend, the more you are, the better. You are only afraid that talents will be rare, but it is really difficult to know people. The saying goes: "To be a good person, you must find good friends. If you take fermentation, how can you get sweet wine?" It also says: "If you lose your life and lose your family, your words account for eight parts." These are mottos.
(Ming Dynasty) Gao Panlong's "Gao Family Instructions"
■There are few honest people who can trust their relationships. Once you read, you will be far away from this generation. It will save trouble and sin, and the benefits will be endless.
Live in this world and be the people of this world. Take care of yourself and plan for yourself. There is no one good friend in the thousands.
(Ming Dynasty) Wu Linzheng's "Family Instructions"
■The wise must be upright, and those who are unfilial must be gentle and flattery; the wise must be flattery, and those who are unfilial must be remote; the wise must be vain and public, and those who are unfilial must be private; the wise must be humble and respectful, and those who are unfilial must be arrogant and arrogant; the wise must be respectful and cautious, and those who are unfilial must be unrestrained; the wise must be honest, and those who are unfilial must be cautious; the wise must be honest, and those who are unfilial must be scheming; the wise must be unique, and those who are unfilial must agree; the wise must be respectful, and those who are unfilial must be quick; the wise must be successful, and those who are unfilial must be happy to defeat; the wise must keep a low profile, and those who are unfilial must be low-key; the wise must be vigilant, and those who are unfilial must be despicable; the wise must keep a low profile, and those who are unfilial must be despicable; the wise must be vigilant, and those who are unfilial must be happy to defeat; the wise must keep a low profile, and those who are unfilial must be low-minded; the wise must keep a low profile, and those who are unfilial must be obsessed; the wise must keep a low profile, and those who are unfilial must be unfair; the wise must keep a low profile, and those who are unfilial must be vigilant; the wise must be successful, and those who are unfilial must be happy to defeat; the wise must keep a low profile, and those who are unfilial must be low; the wise must keep a low profile, and those who are unfilial must be obsessed; the wise must keep a low profile, and those who are unfilial must be obsessed; the It must be violent; the wise must be generous, kind, and the unfilial must be harsh and cruel; the wise must be calm and constant, and the unfilial must change suddenly; the wise must see the lofty, and the unfilial must see the small, and the wise must be generous; the wise must be generous, and the unfilial must be weak; the wise must be superficial, and the unfilial must be indecent and small; the wise must be superficial, and the unfilial must be indecent and disrespectful; the wise must be gentle before others, and the unfilial must be spoiled before others; the wise must see goodness as if they were not enough, and they like to tell others good, and they are not jealous of others, and they are good at saying goodness, and they are good at calling others evil; the wise must not be cruel and unscrupulous, and they are not afraid of strong control; the unfilial must be gentle and compassionate, and they are strong. If such types are like white, black, ice and charcoal, they are obviously different, and they are endless, but they are just private interests. The world says that one should not learn the wisdom of others. I say that even if one cannot learn, one should not learn it. ...Friends are all in harmony with each other, so it is said: "Friends are friendships, and their virtues are friendships."
(Ming Dynasty) Zhang Luxiang's "Xunzi Yu"
■In the past, people had a precept that they could swallow their food without chewing, they could not walk without looking at the road, they could say things without thinking, and they did things without thinking. This is indeed a motto. I said: Friends do not choose to communicate with each other, they can’t bear to move their anger, they can’t take money, and they can take off their clothes if they are not careful.
(Qing Dynasty) Zhang Ying's "Congxunzhai Yu"
■The world is mostly blinded, and the ears are precious and the eyes are cheap, and the distance is more important than the distance is more important than close. When a young man is circling, if there are wise men, they will always be intimate and not respect each other; when a foreign county is in a foreign country, it will be slightly rumored to the wind, and it will be more hungry and thirsty. If you examine the length and thickness of the body, you may not be able to do this. Therefore, the people of Lu called Confucius the Dongjiaqiu. In the past, the strangeness of the Yu State Palace was that he was young and good at the king. The king was obsessed with him and did not accept his advice, and even if the country was destroyed, he must leave room for his own place.
(Northern Qi) Yan Zhitui "Yan Family Instructions"
■A person's nature, even if he has shortcomings, he must have strengths. If you interact with others, if you are often short but not long, you cannot stay together in the same time. If you always think about your strengths and ignore your weaknesses, you can have a relationship with them for life.
If you always have arrogance, falsehood, jealousy, and suspiciousness, you will all take lightly and humiliate others, and it is a gentleman who is virtuous and virtuous.
(Southern Song Dynasty) Yuan Cai's "Yuan Family Style"
■The first way to get along with others is to be humble and honest. Do not avoid hard work when doing things together, do not be greedy for sweetness when eating together, do not choose a good way when walking together, and do not take up a bed seat when sleeping together. I would rather let someone give me a favor than let others give me; I would rather let others tolerate me; I would rather let others suffer from the loss of others than let others suffer from my loss; I would rather bear the aura of others than let others suffer from my aura. If a person has kindness to me, he will never forget it for life; if a person has grudges to me, he will lose it immediately. If you see others' goodness, you will praise others; if you hear others' faults, you will never speak to others.If someone tells you that someone is grateful to you, he will say that he has kindness to me, and if I have no kindness to him, then those who are grateful will hear it, and the feelings will be deeper. Someone told you that if someone is annoyed you and slander you, he will say that he is the most in common. How can he be annoyed to me and slander me? If he is angry, I will hear it, and his grievance will be resolved. If a person is worse than you, he respects him and should not be arrogant or jealous; if a person is worse than you, he should be humble and should not be humble. If you interact with others, it will become more and more dense over time, and then your country will be free of complaints.
(Ming Dynasty) Yang Jisheng's "Only Writing of Yang Zhonggong Hangong"
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