The day before yesterday, Ai Fukuhara announced that she and Jiang Hongjie were officially divorced. Due to all the news that has been exposed before, most people sympathize with Fukuhara Ai who suffered mental violence in her marriage. Regarding her divorce, many people congratu

The day before yesterday, Ai Fukuhara announced that she and Jiang Hongjie were officially divorced.

This marriage, which was sweet at first but bloody in the end, came to an end after 5 years.

Due to all the news that has been exposed before, most people sympathize with Fukuhara Ai who was mentally abused by in her marriage. Regarding her divorce, many people congratulated her on regaining her freedom.

But if you look carefully, Fukuhara Ai really paid a lot for this divorce.

was considered cheating by Japanese netizens because he went out alone with his male friend during the separation period. No one believed him no matter how he clarified or explained.

What followed was abuse and slander from all over Japan. After the divorce was announced, there were many negative comments calling her a scumbag.

On the contrary, Jiang Hongjie received "heartache" from Japanese netizens.

In addition to the plummeting public image in Japan, she also needs to pay a considerable financial price for this divorce.

First of all, the NT$39 million mansion is going to be gone.

This house was bought by the two after their marriage. Judging from the past earning power, Fukuhara Ai also earned more.

is getting divorced now. As the joint property of husband and wife, it will most likely be shared equally with Jiang Hongjie.

Secondly, high alimony must be paid.

now has two children living with Jiang Hongjie and Fukuhara Ai in Japan.

If she cannot win the custody of her child, she will have to pay Jiang Hongjie a high amount of child support in the future.

Third, it faces a claim of over 200 million yen.

Because of the divorce turmoil, Fukuhara Ai's image in the hearts of the Japanese people has plummeted.

has changed from a top athlete written in textbooks to a "stained artist", and many previous advertising endorsements have become useless.

The advertiser's claim alone is nearly 200 million yen, and Ai Fukuhara will eventually need to pay back this part of the money.

Fourth, the business is suspended.

The Olympics were coming, and Ai Fukuhara had registered her own company, so she should be able to take advantage of the situation and get on the right track.

But because divorce is considered a scandal in Japan, her company cannot receive work and is currently suspended.

The luxury house he bought with his own efforts is gone, the career he has worked hard for for many years has been hit hard, and he is facing sky-high compensation claims.

Fukuhara Ai must know the price of divorce.

But even so, she was still determined to get a divorce.

What is she doing for?

People often say:

Marriage is for happiness, and divorce is also for happiness.

It’s just that the former is to rush towards beauty, and the latter is to end pain.

Of course people know that divorce will have a lot of impact on life.

Ordinary people fight a divorce lawsuit, fighting over the rights and wrongs of relationships, fighting over property, fighting over children...the skin will peel off from body to heart.

Celebrities like Fukuhara Ai can influence their entire lives, and their public image can be ruined if they are not careful.

can make people divorce even in the face of such a huge risk, which only means that they can no longer stay in the marriage.

A generally recognized thing is that Fukuhara Ai married Jiang Hongjie, which was a bad marriage and a lower marriage.

Before retiring, Ai Fukuhara was a top athlete who had won Olympic medals. Her annual income was as high as 5 million, which was 37 times that of Jiang Hongjie.

Jiang Hongjie, who is also a table tennis player, is ranked last in Taiwan Province and cannot even qualify for competitions most of the time.

In terms of career prospects, Jiang Hongjie is far behind Ai Fukuhara.

In terms of economic strength, Ai Fukuhara’s annual income is 37 times that of Jiang Hongjie.

It is said that marriage is about being well-matched. When the gap is too big, one party must come to make up for the other in order to achieve a balance.

In Fukuhara Ai's case, the gap between the two is bridged by her lowering herself.

More than a year after her marriage, Fukuhara Ai announced her retirement.

returned home and took care of Jiang Hongjie's food, clothing, housing and transportation like an agent, and also coached him in playing basketball.

Jiang Hongjie’s family became famous because of Fukuhara Ai, and they made a lot of money relying on this fame.

The outside world is aggrieved by Ai Fukuhara’s poverty alleviation marriage, but this is not the key reason for her divorce.

Her disappointment in marriage was accumulated bit by bit in Jiang Hongjie's mental violence.

For example, he never does housework, but criticizes Fukuhara Ai every day for not cleaning cleanly.

Fukuhara Ai had a reaction during pregnancy and couldn't eat anything. Jiang Hongjie didn't care about her, but blamed her for vomiting too much and not eating, and the child was deprived of nutrition.

Fukuhara Ai went to the dentist, and Jiang Hongjie scolded her for the way she opened her mouth. "It looks like she is trying to seduce someone, you whore!"

Not to mention that Jiang Hongjie's mother said that she is the chicken that lays golden eggs in the family, and she also likes to show off. Be a blessing.

Even if it is inconvenient for Ai Fukuhara to have a pregnant belly, she must be allowed to cook again.

If she made Jiang Hongjie's mother and sister unhappy, Jiang Hongjie would blame her:

"It's all because of you that the atmosphere in our family has become so bad."

Details defeat love.

When Ai Fukuhara got married, she didn't care about whether the other party had money, they were just together for the sake of love.

is divorced now because the relationship has deteriorated, so he doesn't care about the financial price he will pay for it.

Anyway, life is long. If you don’t waste your time and energy endlessly in a bad marriage, you will always get better one day in the future.

However, it is not entirely Jiang Hongjie’s fault that Fukuhara Ai has come to this day. She and her mother both have to bear some responsibility.

Fukuhara Ai’s childhood dream was not to be an Olympic champion but to be a good wife and mother. This was most likely shaped by her family environment.

Fukuhara Ai’s mother is a very typical traditional Japanese woman who is willing to give.

From diet to daily training, she arranges everything herself.

And her father basically doesn’t care about family affairs, and Fukuhara Ai also has very low expectations for boys in the family.

But while her mother took good care of her, she was also very strict.

never allowed Ai Fukuhara to act coquettishly with her. No matter how hard she cried, she would always wipe away her tears and continue practicing.

Her father is absent and her mother is very strict, which has led to Ai Fukuhara having a somewhat pleaser personality since she was a child.

When she fails to get good grades, her parents will be very unhappy, and she will feel ashamed of her parents.

Compared with Jiang Hongjie, his grades were mediocre, but he always received encouragement and recognition from his family. Fukuhara Ai's childhood was too hard.

Under the training of her mother, Fukuhara Ai not only had to learn table tennis, but she also had to learn all the housework such as washing, cooking and cooking that traditional women would learn.

After marrying Jiang Hongjie, Fukuhara Ai’s mother saw Jiang Hongjie helping Fukuhara Ai barbecue, and would teach her a lesson:

"Little Ai, how can you let your husband do these things? You should be the one to do it!"

Mother's strictness, Traditional concepts and the absence of her father are shaping Fukuhara Ai in the direction of a good wife and mother.

Therefore, after getting married, she took care of Jiang Hongjie so meticulously that sometimes it even surprised Jiang Hongjie.

For example, whenever Jiang Hongjie comes home, Fukuhara Ai will wait for him at the door, and will help him take off his shoes and clothes as soon as he enters the door.

When he goes out, she will definitely say goodbye at the door.

Not to mention cooking for Jiang Hongjie and my mother-in-law, "I will help Xiaojie peel shrimps when he eats them."

In fact, if she had not put herself so low at the beginning and not pursued being a perfect wife, maybe Jiang Hongjie would not have started hurting her with verbal violence so easily.

The fortunate thing is that Fukuhara Ai is a naive person about marriage, but she is also a strong person.

After the longing for a beautiful love was shattered, he was able to adjust himself in time and free himself from it.

Just like when she was a child, although she faced all kinds of pressure, she could always get through it and find her own happiness after crying and gritting her teeth.

Fukuhara Ai’s family education is worthy of everyone’s deep thought.

She wants to have her own family through marriage, be pampered by her husband, and act coquettishly with her husband, which to a certain extent makes up for the missing parts of her childhood.

On the other hand, her mother's example made Fukuhara Ai believe that being a housewife is a mission for women, and that it is normal for women to put down themselves and take care of their families.

However, when you voluntarily put yourself so low, others will naturally look down on you.

When you deliberately weaken yourself to set off the other person's tallness, you will be easily used and controlled by others.

Moreover, pursuing the image of a perfect wife is the same as pursuing a morally perfect person.

When you have high self-responsibility and regard your children and husband as your sole responsibility, even if you do 99% of the things right, if you do one wrong thing, you will be criticized.

Just like Ai Fukuhara, it is no longer possible to restore her image in Japan.

However, life is still very long, and you cannot just live in other people's expectations.

Do you want to be an impeccable wife and mother, or do you want to be a flawed but more relaxed and happy version of yourself?

Maybe different people have different choices.

33-year-old Fukuhara Ai made her choice through a costly divorce.

I hope that after this experience, Fukuhara Ai can wake up from the innocent dream of marriage.

Love yourself well and face the next self and life well.