This is the story of the 432nd real person we tell
My name is Zhu Xinyi
(I was traveling in Singapore with my mother, eldest brother and second sister)
In my memory, my father has always been strict. I am the eldest daughter in the family. Whenever a child in the family makes a mistake, my father always punishes the younger brother or sister who made the mistake first, either by pulling their ears, or by holding up a cane to stand, or by kneeling on the ground. in public.
and then punish me twice as much. sometimes kicks me with its feet, and sometimes beats me with its hands. Another time, my father kicked a table towards me, and my stomach was hit so hard that it hurt so much that I curled up on the ground but didn't dare to resist at all.
Growing up in such a family, I became timid, inferior and introverted. I didn't like talking to my classmates at school, and I was often bullied by them. Once, a female classmate taught me to learn multiplication table . Because I couldn't learn it, she scolded me and pinched me when she got anxious. I could only endure it and didn't dare to speak out.
I didn’t have any dreams when I was a child, because my father was very strict and would be punished corporally if I did something wrong. Under this restriction, I knew nothing about the outside world, and I didn't dare to explore it.
It wasn’t until I entered middle school that I had more contact with the outside world. Through learning , I also enriched my knowledge and horizons, and then I began to dream of traveling around the world.
(This is when I was a kid)
I had a dream, but my life almost died. When I was 12 years old, a serious drowning incident occurred. On the day of , my friends and I went to the waterfall to play in the water. Because I was playful, I ran to the deeper water alone. While
was playing, his foot suddenly slipped and he missed the step, and then the whole person was quickly submerged in the water. I kept struggling and shouting for help, but no one saved me. When I woke up, I was already lying on the shore.
looked around, but there was no one there. Maybe after my friends rescued me, they found that I was unconscious and they all ran away. I was so frightened that I hurriedly ran home. I feel like it's a miracle that I'm still alive, otherwise I wouldn't be able to see me now!
Coincidentally, ten years ago, my husband accidentally fell into the waterfall while taking pictures at Huangguoshu Waterfall in Guizhou and was washed away for more than 100 meters. In the end, he was saved by hugging a big rock! Therefore, sometimes I feel that all these similar experiences are destined.
After finishing high school, I began to volunteer at the church. At the same time, my new life also began. At the church, I also did administrative and cleaning work, and learned how to deal with others.
Slowly, I came out of the shadow of a family where I was violently treated as a child and lacked father's love. has always endured family pressure, abuse, bullying and disrespect. Under the guidance of the church teacher, I finally released myself, no longer depressed, no longer depressed, no longer in pain.
(On Christmas Day, I dressed up as Santa Claus)
When I was 26 years old, I got an opportunity to go abroad. went to Indonesia to be a junior Chinese training teacher, teaching local children to learn Chinese. I had a great time during that time, and the children also liked the Chinese classes I taught.
Unfortunately, I was reported because I didn’t have a visa. On the day of , many people came to the training school, including people from the local immigration office, reporters, and police, nearly 30 people. That formation scared me to tears on the spot.
I said, I didn’t do anything shameful, why would I be reported? A week later, and another Indian, under the supervision of immigration officials, had no choice but to get on the boat and leave Indonesia. We were not allowed to enter again for three years.
Since I was sent back to China, I have been looking for a job outside. From that time on, I started changing jobs constantly. When I stay in one place for a long time, I always feel restless and want to run away. I don’t know the reason. Could it be that my future life has been predetermined somehow?
I often run around alone, and it is inevitable that I will get tired sometimes. Every time at this time, I always want to find someone to rely on.I had a boyfriend before , but we had to break up because we were not suitable. Even though I still believe there will be miracles in my heart, in the process of constant searching, I am really tired and don’t want to look for it anymore.
(a kid I met while teaching Chinese in Indonesia)
may be remembered, and there must be a response. Fan Yuhu appeared when I was 30 years old. On the day of , I was wandering online and met Fan Yuhu. We briefly chatted for a few words, but we didn't expect that the conversation became more and more interesting. We both longed to live around the world, had the same goals and interests, and loved traveling around. We had so many things in common, so we made an appointment to meet.
I was very satisfied when I first met him. He was exactly the same as the boyfriend I imagined. He is 1.8 meters tall and does not smoke or drink. After meeting , we started chatting. I was a little shy at first, but soon, the uncomfortable feeling disappeared.
He has been to more than 70 countries and has a broad vision and extensive knowledge. I was quickly attracted to him. There was no language barrier between us, and we got along very comfortably afterwards. It felt like we had just met so late.
chatted more and got to know him better. It turns out that he was born in China in 1970. He has driven to 6 continents alone and successfully challenged the Guinness World Record. Along the way, he went on a blind date while continuing his journey around the world. Although he has gone on blind dates hundreds of times, he will accept everyone regardless of whether they are black, white, single, or divorced. But even so, I still haven't found the right person.
(Our fate has come, and the engagement ring is also worn)
circled the earth, but unexpectedly, he met me when he returned to Asia. Maybe this is destiny! A week after we met, we were together. In October 2020, he paid a bride price of MYR 1,000 and we wore engagement rings.
Of course, you must tell your family about important marriage events. However, my family didn't think highly of him when they found out. They read the news about Fan Yuhu on the Internet and said that he was a liar and asked me to leave him. There are also some netizens who deliberately discredit him and want to break us up. No matter what, my heart is extremely firm, I firmly believe that he is my rightful man, and I will never leave him.
Love is certainly sweet, but once it is implemented into the daily necessities of life, it is inevitable that there will be all kinds of troubles.
(My single photo under the Petronas Twin Towers in Kuala Lumpur)
He and I are both the eldest in the family, we have our own opinions and naturally have quite a temper. We also had a lot of quarrels when we first got along. They almost broke up many times, but in the end they couldn't bear to part with each other, and they quickly reconciled.
Our age difference is nearly 20 years, so it is inevitable that our living habits and routines will conflict. One night, he was watching videos too loudly, which affected my sleep. He didn't listen to what he said, so I had no choice but to pick up my phone and watch the video.
But he said he was going to bed and asked me to turn down my voice. I turned down the volume, but he was still angry and said that I turned it up loud and it made him unable to sleep. In this way, we two started a war in the middle of the night. Neither of us would admit defeat, quarreling and throwing things. In the end, he was so angry that he rushed out of the door, and I chased him out.
Actually, I still don’t want him to leave me. I chased him while crying, and soon my body began to gasp. He looked distressed and had to run back. Finally we returned to the room, no one spoke, and fell asleep back to back.
This was the most violent quarrel we had. Afterwards, I also figured out that two people need to get along with each other when they are together. There is no such thing as a natural pairing, they are just accommodating and tolerating each other.
(In life, there are tears but also joy)
Another time, after I went to the toilet, I touched him with my left hand and gave him something to eat. He suddenly asked me, have you washed your hands? Actually, I understand what he means. He felt that I wiped my butt with my left hand and that my hands were unclean with bacteria and viruses. He felt disgusted and had a quarrel with me because of this.
I felt it hurt my self-esteem and was so angry that I cried. Later, he lost his temper and came over to apologize and reason with me.He said that when he was a child, his family was very poor and his awareness of hygiene was poor. He didn't know how to wash his hands after using the toilet. But now that living conditions have improved, we all need to be civilized, hygienic, and be clean people.
I am a relatively sensitive person. If we disagree and cannot communicate with him, I will leave his sight and walk away alone to let each other calm down. After thinking about what he said carefully, he was actually right. I also realize that quarrels are really harmful to peace. People still have to be open-minded, manage their own emotions first, and then communicate well with the other party.
Now we quarrel less and less. Because in the process of getting along, we have learned to consider each other, learn to tolerate and understand.
(My white dragon horse and I travel around the world together)
His surname is Fan, which is really annoying sometimes. However, I have gotten used to it now that I have been with him for more than a year. During our global journey, the division of labor between the two of us was relatively clear. I can speak fluent English and act as his translator. He will also take good care of his diet and daily life. I also tidy up the car, and change clothes and sheets frequently. He also often praises me for my ability.
However, no one is perfect. In life, I have difficulty choosing and . When I was shopping for clothes, I often couldn't find anything suitable after shopping for an hour, so in the end I asked him to come over and help me choose. His taste is better than mine, and the clothes I choose are more old-fashioned.
When it comes to buying clothes, he can go two to three years without buying any clothes. And I get itchy hands every month and I have to buy it. Later I figured it out, after all, we have a lot of expenses and little income, so as long as we have clothes to wear, we don’t have to spend money to buy them. Only buy what you need, don’t buy what you don’t need, and save the money for other emergencies.
also had an argument with him at the beginning because he stopped me from buying clothes. I said, I don’t drink, smoke, or wear makeup, but I just love buying clothes, so I won’t let him. I felt wronged and ignored him.
As time goes by, our expenses outside, including accommodation, food, gas expenses, visa fees, fines, and monthly household expenses for my mother, see that the money in the bank account is getting less and less, and I will control it. Now I mainly want him to make money alone, and I have a lot of worries. I will try my best to cooperate with him.
(You will encounter various scenery during the journey)
Our personalities are also different. I take everything very lightly, but he is used to preparing for the worst in everything. He is responsible and responsible, so I can follow him with confidence. He can also feel confident that I can cook, speak English, and handle things independently.
In fact, I belong to the life of hard work. I'm not very interested in writing. At the beginning, my husband let me use the computer and I typed a lot, so I fell asleep easily. Although I was able to use computers, make invoices, and make PPT before, I also learned simple design and online promotion. But I didn’t expect that the work experience I accumulated in the past could be used in our work today.
In order to better record our journey around the world, I also overcame various difficulties, typing, recording, shooting videos, and organizing materials every day... After unremitting efforts, our live-action version of "The Wandering Earth" was finally published. I am no longer the person who takes a nap when reading words.
(We are always on the road, leaving at any time)
It can be said that since I met him, my life seems to have experienced a transformation. It turned out that Zhu Xinyi, who was timid, had low self-esteem and did not dare to live for herself, disappeared. What replaced me is a brand new me, sunny, confident, brave and progressive, working hard to blossom myself!
Now we have entered Thailand together, and we will continue to challenge the Guinness World Record for couples driving around the world. We don’t know what will happen in tomorrow, but if we do a good job today, there will be no regrets. This is also a lesson I have been learning throughout my life.
The only drawback is that we don’t have kids yet. We have been preparing to have a baby for more than a year, but due to my polycystic ovary syndrome, I have been unable to get pregnant. We have seen many doctors and spent a lot of money, but the doctors always said that it would be difficult for me to get pregnant in this situation.
I have also been disappointed and discouraged because of this, and I even thought about letting him find someone else to live with. He didn't want me to have too much pressure and often comforted me in return. Now, we don’t care so much and just let nature take its course.
(After meeting my husband, I love to laugh more and more)
Finally, I want to say that marrying a Chinese man, Fan Yuhu, is my happiness and luck. Life is short, do the important things and don't waste time on meaningless things. Now that you have made your choice, go ahead!
[Oral: Zhu Xinyi]
[Editor: Xiaoguan]
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