The focus of the plot of the Korean drama "My Runaway Diary" revolves around the three siblings in the drama. The seemingly incompatible relationship between the three siblings allows us to see another kind of family that is different from "sunny, lively and cheerful". Appearance is not so much a misanthropic and dark interaction as it is an "honest to each other" sibling relationship.
Figure 1: Douban score.
mentioned the Korean drama "My Runaway Diary". The focus was on the three siblings in the drama. The eldest sister Yeom Ji is a person who longs for love and has a straightforward personality, but the long commute from the suburbs to Seoul every day makes her think that "youth is wasted by time"; the second son Yeom Changxi is a person who desperately wants to keep up with "Seoul (Phoenix Man)" )" thinking people, even if they are often rejected by their parents and disliked by their siblings for their white-eyed words at home, their nonsensical ideas are often loved by people; compared to her elder sisters and brothers, the youngest daughter Lian Meizhen has an introverted and calm personality, and is not interested in her parents Generally speaking, they all think that their younger daughters are more reassuring, but they don’t know that when they encounter grievances in making friends or at work, they often choose to tolerate it instead of asking for help.
"Reality" is the biggest feature of this Korean drama. There is no love-at-first-sight idol drama plot, nor is there overly ambitious or over-the-top character development. The seemingly incompatible relationship between the three siblings allows us to see that it is different from "sunshine, Another kind of family appearance that is "lively and cheerful" is not so much a world-weary and dark interaction, but rather an "honest to each other" sibling relationship.
Don’t pretend to be happy, don’t pretend to be unhappy! "Sunny and cheerful" is not the only ideal appearance
Compared with "running away", perhaps "liberation" is more appropriate, and can better explain the process of the three siblings breaking away from the boring life and hoping to obtain "joy and happiness". The entire series has a gentle pace and solidly reveals the reality. "Don't pretend to be happy, don't pretend to be unhappy" is the best comment for this series.
The common social convoy theory in sociology mentions that everyone has a team to accompany us throughout our life journey, and this team is the social convoy team. Team members include: close friends, parents, spouses, children, siblings, etc. As part of a team, siblings can still provide resources and support when they need each other, even if they have zero interaction.
Figure 2: “Don’t pretend to be happy, don’t pretend to be unhappy, and be honest” – the purpose of the Liberation Association of Douban’s “My Runaway Diary”.
In the play, the three siblings are different from coming forward. Instead, they take into account the thoughts or secrets of the three of them, and protect each other in a subtle way, such as: they can always tacitly care about each other. Parents hide each other's secrets before they find out, and when the other person is falling out of love, they will vaguely mention it in their words, instead of comforting, handing toilet paper, and hugging each other. The death of their mother and the remarriage of their father are all major events for them, and they just keep quiet. After dealing with these things quietly together, the complicated emotions were diluted by time and siblings.
Through the protagonist in the play, we see that maybe it is not a big deal to be "world-weary and have little interaction". It also lets us know the diverse looks of siblings getting along. On the one hand, they do not judge other people's interactions and look at them differently; Accept and affirm your own sibling interactions. In short, everyone has a way of dealing with siblings, and as long as both parties are comfortable, it is a good way!
Figure 3: "I think human beings are all puppets. They don't know who they are, they are just puppets who have been acting." Douban - "My Runaway Diary" Lian Meizhen.
It’s okay to be world-weary! Sibling Relationship Test
We are often the most outspoken when it comes to the people closest to us. In particular, the interaction between siblings is a relationship where they can have fun like friends and rely on each other like family. After adulthood, in order to prevent parents from worrying or dictating their lives, they occasionally hide their grievances and hardships.
Siblings are often the ones who are best able to share secrets among family members. When facing them, we don’t have to pretend to live a good life or be happy. Instead, we can talk more freely, whether it’s laughing at each other’s embarrassments or Together, they can curse people and things they hate, and they can do so frankly and without reservation.
As shown in the preface, the "honest and honest" sibling relationship model in the play may seem to others to be a "world-weary interactive relationship", but it also reminds us: there is not only one type of good or bad sibling relationship. If you, like the three siblings in the play, belong to the calm side, you might as well take the sibling relationship test "It's okay to be world-weary"!
Level of Intimacy
Generally speaking, intimacy comes from feeling the degree to which both parties enter each other's hearts through caring and talking. However, there are many siblings who still maintain a good relationship without the need for close interaction. These people do not express their affection through body or words, but mostly through practical actions, such as taking the initiative to take care of each other when the other is sick. wait.
Degree of indifference
The "indifference" here does not mean "neglect or alienation". Usually this type of siblings will learn about the current situation of the siblings through their parents, social updates, etc. Therefore, it will not be because they have not had one-on-one for a long time. Contact with siblings and feel a lack of emotional connection with siblings.
Degree of Reluctance
Compared with parents, children, spouses, friends, etc., the sibling relationship is really the emotional relationship that accompanies each other the longest in life. Although it is said that they are reluctant, it is actually because the siblings are bound by blood, which makes the relationship more reliable and loyal.
Because you are here, I have power!
Figure 4: "Instead of feeling tired and tired because you are not around, isn't it more valuable to gain strength from thinking about you?" - Lian Meizhen, Douban's "My Runaway Diary".
Numerous previous studies have pointed out that sibling relationships have positive functions such as learning socialization and helping interpersonal interactions in childhood. However, in adulthood, due to changes in life stages such as leaving home, graduation, employment, marriage, and childcare, sibling relationships This has caused changes in the sibling relationship. For example, although the time spent together and the number of contacts have decreased, the frequency of quarrels/complaints has also decreased. Therefore, in fact, the sibling relationship in adulthood has become more and more positive.
In addition, sibling affection also has the power of "feeling at ease". In many issues, the presence of siblings will add a lot of courage, such as: quarrels between parents in childhood, homesickness when leaving home for the first time, issues of caring for parents after they grow old, etc., all because of the company of siblings. You don’t have to face it alone.
If you are a person with siblings, try to appreciate your sibling relationship, because sibling relationships do not have just one look! It doesn’t matter if you don’t have one. You might as well take advantage of the summer vacation and the opportunity of family reunions to contact a few familiar relatives (such as cousins/cousins, etc.) and briefly experience the “sibling-like” emotional connection!
Author: Zhang Baiyang
Editor: Qian Wenhan Proofreading: Chen Shanwen
