Today, the unreliable doctor talks seriously about depression with everyone.
I have seen a lot of analysis about depression on the Internet, but to be honest, none of them shocked me as much as this article I saw. This article is written by a friend of a depressed patient, and it is also analyzed from the perspective of an ordinary bystander. I believe everyone will benefit a lot after reading it:
A good brother of mine also suffers from depression . But I once thought he was being pretentious.
One day, at 2 o'clock in the morning , he called me and said that he had a nightmare and that he was really dying, and asked me if I could accompany him to the hospital.
I said, "You're a grown man, you have a nightmare and you still need to go to the hospital?"
Then I took him to the hospital. When I saw him, I looked at the whites of his bloodshot eyes and asked him, "Have you been doing anything lately?" Didn't you sleep well? Your eyes are all bloodshot." He smiled and told me that he had not slept for more than 50 hours.
He is a person who looks very bright and has very strong professional skills .
Before he graduated from college, he could earn 50,000 yuan a month by outsourcing. He would shout "I am SB, I am proud" every day, and then do some very SB things.
For example: suddenly threw his mobile phone into the trash can, and then said "no more" with a smile.
He is very good to his friends, because he earns a lot and his family situation is also very good, so no matter who he hangs out with or eats with, he will basically rush to pay for it.
He is very friendly, very interesting, and looks very sunny. However, this is just an appearance.
He is a person who is not afraid of anything, so I am very curious about why he is frightened by nightmares.
He told me that the dream he had was not an ordinary dream, but a VR version of "Hakki Night Parade", and it was particularly depressing. The despair caused by that kind of depression was so real that he couldn't distinguish between reality and reality. Dreamland. At that time, I smiled and said, "Tsk, tsk, it's just a dream, what's so scary about it?" He also smiled and said, "Yeah, you won't understand."
He is a very smart person. He is so smart that he can get 80 points in the professional university science exams by staying up all night in one day. So I am very curious about why he doesn't study hard, work hard at ordinary times, but only rushes before the exam? He told me that he couldn't do it. He said that he had no motivation. He felt that he had no hope or motivation to do things. At that time, I smiled and said, "Tsk, you are just lazy." He also smiled and said, "Yes." Ah, you wouldn’t understand”.
He is a person who is very compatible and can adapt to various living environments, but his work and rest are always irregular. So I am very curious about why he has been having an irregular schedule.
He is dizzy with 3D, so he often plays "Touhou" for several hours - a series of barrage games similar to masturbating;
He is dizzy with 3D, so he plays rhythm games like "Rhythm Master" whenever he has nothing to do. Games, many extremely difficult videos on the Internet were recorded in by him. I asked him why he would rather play games than sleep. Is he addicted to playing games? He told me that he was not playing games at all, was just looking for something to do. He felt that there was no hope in life. One day at a time, one day at a time. At that time, I smiled and said, "Tsk, tsk, you just want to play games." He also smiled and said, "Yeah, you don't understand." .
One day, he told me very calmly "In a while, I will live broadcast my suicide." I said: "Can you stop making trouble? Why don't you live broadcast naked jumping off a building?" He said that the impact of jumping naked from a building will be No, if I want to live broadcast euthanasia by injection abroad, I will make the entire preparation process into a 5-day live broadcast
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I said: "Are you SB? Why don't you live a good life?"
He said: "I am SB.Let me ask you, if there is no hope in life, is there any meaning in living? "
I said: "Yes, living itself is meaningful."
He said: "I live not for myself, but for others."
He paused, and then continued "I hope my parents can see what I have lived. It’s not bad and then it makes them feel reassured. I wanted my friends to see that I was doing okay and tell them not to worry. In fact, I have been pretending, just to make you think that my life is not wrong."
He said these words to me at least 10 times. I said: "No matter what, live first and then say "" If you live If it makes you feel pain, will you still be alive? "He asked "It's like a patient with terminal cancer who suffers from cancer pain every day. Should you let him live a life worse than death or let him die peacefully? "He added.
"Do you know cancer pain? The pain was deep into the bone marrow, but it was not enough. The physical pain is fine, but can you feel the psychological pain? There is nothing I want to do, no idea of living at all, there is no hope every day, I can only let myself complete tasks one by one like a machine, and I am painfully entangled every day because of some things I can’t let go...I The only reason for living now is not to make friends and parents uncomfortable," he said calmly.
I said, "Isn't this the reason why you are lazy?"
He still smiled and said, "I'm not lazy. You don't feel this way. got it. Every day I can live, I have exhausted all my strength." We will not understand the world of patients with depression. Every time he said he wanted to commit suicide, I tried to persuade him, enlighten him, and try to Convince him and then every time he would say "You won't understand this feeling" . Until September 16, 2016, a singer named Qiao Renliang left us. . I had heard the name Qiao Renliang before. Unfortunately, all I knew about him was that he was very handsome and his name was Kimi. But when I learned that he died of depression on the 17th, I was completely stunned. .
I thought of my good brother . He told me countless times that he felt tired of living and wanted to commit suicide. At this moment, I seemed to see my good brother's future. I looked through Qiao Renliang crazily. I looked at his former Weibo and found a lot of words and the content conveyed by these words was exactly the same as what my good brother said: "Living is really tiring"
In addition to these words, I I also saw many netizens trolling without thinking. They even used topics like SM to slander him. They teased him jokingly. They ruthlessly insulted a beautiful soul who just left us. At this moment, . I seemed to see myself.
My good friends said a lot of negative things to me, but I once regarded them as hypocritical and lazy. They told their own pain, but we couldn't understand . We don't understand because we can't imagine their pain. Their world is dark, because their lives are like a hard-coded program, getting up every day to perform tasks, often ends. They are all - suicide.
The only motivation for them to live is not to cheat their teammates. Because there is no hope in their world.
Because of Qiao Renliang, I realized the seriousness of depression. , I found that the brightest person around me is the person who is tortured to death by depression. It is difficult for me to pass , it is very painful. Thank you, Qiao Renliang .
The day before yesterday, he came to tell me about his "live broadcast suicide" plan again, this time, I didn't tease him I listened to every word he said seriously, and then discussed it with him seriously. After a lot of details, I will never think of ways to stop him again. As a brother, I hope you can make the decision that is best for you . If living really makes you feel extremely painful, then I will not stop you . I will help you take good care of your parents. I will create a depression prevention fund after your death and personally invest my energy in it. The cause of depression prevention on .
Maybe I will never be able to empathize with you in my life, Maybe I will never be able to understand these negative thoughts in my life, But I have learned to accept these thoughts . If it weren't for Qiao Renliang, I might not be able to realize the seriousness of depression in my life. Whether it is Qiao Renliang or my good brother, they all love to laugh so much and look so sunny, , but who can imagine how painful they are tormented by depression in private?
I seemed to see the tortured and painful hearts under each smiling face. There may be countless friends around us who are suffering from depression like Qiao Renliang. They behave very brightly, because they don’t want to pass negative energy to their friends around them, they don’t want to affect their friends around them. , they try their best to disguise just so that we don’t worry about ...
Thank you, has been working hard during this period of life!
If there is a next life, promises me that everyone will laugh out loud with real joy. Is good?
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In fact, depression is actually very similar to psychological cancer, does It can be prevented if treated well, and it can also be cured in the early stages. But once it reaches the advanced stage, doctors and pills are basically in vain. Everyone has tried hard, and everyone has struggled, but how many people have succeeded in the end?
Here, Mr. Unreliable has summarized several typical symptoms of depression to help you analyze, If you appear:
1) "Feeling depressed, empty, and worthless every day", or
2) "You are right "I have lost interest in everything around me" and lasts for more than two weeks;
The World Health Organization reminds you: if you add
3) fatigue and slow thinking, and
any two of these three appear, and last for more than two weeks, you are at high risk for depression. Please go to a professional hospital for diagnosis and help.
Regarding the more important topic of "how to care for the depressed patients around you", Mr. Unreliable will explain it to you in detail tomorrow.
