Night Reading丨Those who understand me don’t need to say more; those who don’t understand me cannot argue

article/Minsheng Weekly

People who understand themselves need no words; people who don’t understand themselves can’t argue. When you really understand

, being considerate becomes an easy thing.

Because of the same feeling, the same mood. Because of understanding, so tolerant, so understanding, so cherish.

Who knows me means I am worried; who does not know me means what I want.

During the Spring and Autumn Period, Qi Guoxiang, Guanzhong and Bao Shuya were very good friends. When

was young, Guan Zhong's family was very poor, and he had a sickly old mother to support him. After Bao Shuya learned about it, she took the initiative to find Guan Zhong to partner in business.

Because Guan Zhong has no money, his business capital is basically from Bao Shuya, but after making money, Guan Zhong takes more dividends than Bao Shuya.

Bao Shuya’s servant was angry and said privately, “Why is this Guan Zhong doing this? He doesn’t have any capital, but he has to take so much if he makes money.”

Bao Shuya said, “Don’t say that, Guan Zhong is not a person who is greedy for money. So I did this because he had to provide for his mother for the elderly, and he couldn’t help it. "

Later, Guan Zhong and Bao Shuya went to war together. When attacking, Guan Zhong always hid in the back. Everyone called Guan Zhong a greedy life and fear of death. People.

Bao Shuya immediately spoke for Guan Zhong, "You misunderstood Guan Zhong, he is not afraid of death, he has to save his life to take care of his old mother! "

Guan Zhong was very moved when he heard that, and said, "The parents who gave birth to me know me. Uncle Bao Ya also".

Later, Guan Zhong became the Xiangguo of Qi under the recommendation of Bao Shuya, and Guan Zhong also managed Qi very well.

Because Uncle Bao understands Guan Zhong, he has always been sympathetic to Guan Zhong’s difficulties and tolerates Guan Zhong’s faults.

In life, it is enough to meet someone who really understands oneself. This kind of friendship is purer than love and noble than friendship. His existence is a kind of peace of mind.

Because someone understands, grievances can be told, and pain can be relieved. Because someone understands, someone is lonely to accompany, someone who is lost comforts.

Understand, not language, but sincere. He can understand and even empathize with a look, an action, and an expression.

If you understand, you will not blame, but will be considerate of our chills; will not be bored, but will help us solve problems; , if you understand, you will not ask more, but understand our inexplicability.

"Qing Qing Zijin, leisurely my heart", understanding is a kind of concern.

"I live at the head of the Yangtze River, and I live at the end of the Yangtze River. I think about you every day but you don't see you. I drink the water of the Yangtze River." Because I understand, I sympathize with each other, so I never forget.

changes in the four seasons, some people are worried about cold and warm; mood changes, some people tolerant and understand.

When it rains, I worry about whether to bring an umbrella; when it is windy, I worry about whether to add clothes. Worrying, not by my side, but in my heart, thousands of miles away, but knowing each other, quietly, but very affectionate.

Someone cares about it is a kind of luck, but also a kind of happiness.

"I want to come to interrogate when I hear the Tao, and the west tower looks at the moon for a few rounds", understanding is a kind of determination.

The Northern Song Dynasty poet Fan Zhongyan angered the court because he advocated reform and was demoted to Yingzhou. When Fan Zhongyan was about to leave the capital, his usual friends fled away for fear of being implicated.

There is only one person called Wang Ji who doesn't care. He swaggers to send Fan Zhongyan out of the city, not caring about the eyes of others.

Wang Zhi knows how Fan Zhongyan is, so he can treat his friends sincerely regardless of his personal gains and losses. Compared with those who see profit and forget righteousness, it is really commendable.

For Fan Zhongyan, it is clear at this moment who is a true friend and who is a false friend.

Many emotions in the world will dissipate with time, distance and circumstances, but "understanding" will not, it is a certainty.

"Is color is for people, color is bad and loves Chi, but love is grace. "

If you make friends with beauty, you will be abandoned when you are old; you will be abandoned when you make friends with money, and you will be abandoned when your money is exhausted; you will make friends with power , Will be abandoned when the status is not preserved.

Only two people who know each other can have a long friendship.

When others misunderstand me, he will unconditionally believe me; when others look down on me, he will actively encourage me; when I encounter difficulties, he will always lend a helping hand in time.

understand, it is Li Bai's "I send my sorrow to Wang Changling and the bright moon, and follow the wind until Yelangxi."

understands, it is Gao Shi's to Dong Da's "Mo worry about the road ahead and no confidant, no one in the world knows you."

understands, it is Wang Bo's "confidant in the ocean, and the world is close to each other."

understands, it is Bai Juyi's to Pipa girl, "the same is the end of the world, why do you know each other before."

understands is the warmest in the world Language, understand, let the heart and the heart have no distance, let the lives pity each other.

If there is a person in life who understands us, whether it is a friend, lover, or confidant or family member, it is worth cherishing, and being cared and supported by them is our luck in this life.

They know us, and we must also know how to thank them. Meeting

is just the beginning; only knowing can be with you for a lifetime. Z8z

anchor: Xiaotie

media person, want to use voice to accompany those who are lonely and difficult to fall asleep late at night, and warm you with voice.

Article source: Minsheng Weekly (ID: msweekly) compiled from Beijing Bo Guoxue (ID: jingboguoxue)

Produced: Minsheng Weekly (ID: msweekly) New Media Division

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