In 1976, Chairman Mao, a great man of the generation, passed away. As a legendary figure who had a huge impact on Chinese history, Chairman Mao left many legacies: the big aspects include the independent New China and Mao Zedong Thought; the small aspects also include Chairman Mao’s personal literary works and the unique construction of family style.
We are very familiar with other aspects of Chairman Mao, but we don’t know much about Chairman Mao’s construction of family style, and this aspect just reflects Chairman Mao’s alternative wisdom.
Generally speaking, Chairman Mao has about four aspects of family style construction. means: in learning, encourage children to read more, improve their cultural literacy, and be a person who is useful to the country and the people; in terms of thought, do not be proud, do not talk about privileges, and be a person with a tail between them; in terms of politics, you should pay attention to current affairs, serve the country, and do more careers for society; in terms of emotions, you should have lofty ideals, noble sentiments, and strong will.
When these four principles are guaranteed, Chairman Mao’s children are all very motivated and have a high level of ideological awareness. As for the performance, we can see from Chairman Mao’s education on Mao Anying.
At that time, Mao Anying went back to his hometown to visit the villagers. Chairman Mao gave him a bag and said, "Some of the money here is my savings for many years. I sponsor you. When you see the villagers in real difficulties, you should act according to the opportunity."
There are many such actions, which can be seen from it: Chairman Mao lets the children do good deeds in detail and taste life. But then again, in terms of education, there will be differences in sons and daughters.
For example, fathers are often more strict with naughty sons, but they are a little restrained in their education. So how did Chairman Mao treat his two daughters? In fact, looking back at the history of Chairman Mao and his daughters, the experiences of Chairman Mao and his daughters can also be described as "ups and downs".
First of all, Chairman Mao’s first daughter Li Min. As her daughter and He Zizhen, her birth itself represents extraordinary. She was born in northern Shaanxi in 1937, and Chairman Mao and He Zizhen loved her very much at that time.
And she herself recalled: although the conditions were difficult at that time, she had the care of her parents, which was an unparalleled happy memory for her.
But in 1940, she was sent to the Soviet Union by Chairman Mao to visit her mother, and then she accompanied her mother through a very difficult period. It was this time that due to the long separation, her impression of her father began to become blurred.
When he returned to his father in 1947, Li Min actually wrote a letter like this: "Chairman Mao, everyone says you are my father, but I have never seen you in the Soviet Union and you don't know this. Is you my dear father? Please write to me quickly."
I have to say that this slightly tender letter is so sad to read, which shows the ups and downs between Chairman Mao and Li Min and his daughter. Fortunately, this girl, who was intimately called "Jiaojiao" by Chairman Mao, was lucky to fall into her father's arms later. After
, she lived a very warm life. At that time, Chairman Mao always told him the rise and fall of history and talked about interesting stories in history.
According to "My Dad Mao Zedong" written by Li Min, in the 30 years since her father passed away, she missed those days every day, recalling that majestic but real father, Chairman Mao. Therefore, Chairman Mao loved this daughter very much, and this love even brought a hint of guilt.
In addition to Li Min, another daughter, Li Na, is the daughter of Chairman Mao and Jiang Qing. She was born in Yan'an Cave in 1940. When she was just born, Zhou Enlai, Liu Shaoqi, Zhu De, Zhang Wentian and others often came to Chairman Mao for meetings, but she always made trouble and always robbed the pen in Chairman Mao's hand, which caused laughter from everyone...
At that time, she was really like a "little princess". In fact, as he grows older, Chairman Mao does love this daughter very much.In the early 1960s, the country was relatively scarce, and Li Ne often went hungry.
So every time I go home, Li Na always eats voraciously regardless of her image. Whenever I see this scene, Chairman Mao would put down his chopsticks with distress and gently tell his daughter to eat slowly.
In 1958, Li Na suffered from acute appendicitis . As a result, due to complex surgery, Li Na's body deteriorated sharply, which in turn caused serious wound infection and high fever.
At that time, Chairman Mao was with her and did not sleep all night. It was not until the second day that the medical staff took sleeping pills that Chairman Mao felt sleepy. Therefore, there is no doubt about Chairman Mao’s love for this daughter.
So the question is, in the face of two daughters that he feels so distressed, how should Chairman Mao deal with the education issues of his daughters? This has to be mentioned about the conflict between the two sisters and how Chairman Mao handled it.
As mentioned above, Chairman Mao’s eldest daughter Li Min has experienced ups and downs and lacks fatherly love, especially when Li Min almost died in the morgue, so she has an alternative persistence towards fatherly love.
But similarly, Li Na has had a princess-like love, and her love for Chairman Mao also has a "exclusive" mentality.
Before Li Na was 9 years old, she had always enjoyed fatherly love alone, but when her sister Li Min returned from the Soviet Union, the two sisters felt a little distance. Faced with the sisters' discord, Chairman Mao could naturally tell at a glance, but he did not accuse the two sisters of doing something wrong, but adopted the strategy of "not asking whether they are right or wrong, and enlightening both ends."
When the two have conflicts about washing clothes, Chairman Mao will always find his sister Li Min first and tell her: As an older sister, you have to take care of her younger sister. Then he turned around and told Li Na: As a sister, you must listen to your sister.
Chairman Mao did not tell them right or wrong, but just patiently told them that in everything, the sister should be considerate of her younger sister's youth and dissatisfaction with sharing fatherly love. My sister should also understand the difficulties of her sister leaving her father for a long time.
Under the maintenance of family affection, we understand each other. Chairman Mao was strongly disgusted with scolding each person with right or wrong, because he knew that the people who scolded him were convinced orally, and this would only further intensify the conflict.
In addition, Chairman Mao is constantly creating opportunities for the two, and using external influence to eliminate the gap between the two.
For example, when Li Min was in school, Chairman Mao would ask his sister to visit her. Maybe at the beginning it was to listen to his father, but as time went by, the two sisters slowly resolved the previous estrangement and became more and more intimate.
This behavior of acting as a messenger has continued from childhood to growth. For example, Li Ne recalled: While greeting her father, she also reported her sister’s current situation to her father. And after her sister gave birth, she rushed to her side to take care of her.
is like this, the original sense of exclusiveness towards fatherly love and hostility towards strange sisters are gradually replaced by intimacy and understanding.
Once, Li Min brought her husband Kong Linghua to visit Chairman Mao, so the family had a meal. During this period, Li Na talked about some things about her brother-in-law, which made Kong Linghua very unhappy and then left the dining table.
Regarding his daughter's behavior, Chairman Mao naturally knew that she had done something wrong, but he did not scold his daughter because he knew that his daughter wanted face and would only backfire.
just found an opportunity to hint to him privately. Li Na, who suddenly realized, went to find her sister and husband to apologize. In this way, the atmosphere returned to its original state.
When Chairman Mao was alive, the two sisters were close and strictly restrained themselves. Even though Chairman Mao passed away for decades, their relationship was still very good and they deeply practiced Chairman Mao’s family style and tutoring. It has to be said that Chairman Mao also has his own unique features in family education .
