strange! Why did such a good-natured young man become a terrible criminal?
People often say: There are so many geological team members flying around that it is really difficult to find a wife. What's more, Xu Zhijian has a disabled leg and is a temporary cook. However, life seemed to be particularly partial to him, and the golden arrow of Cupid accidentally hit him.
At the beginning of 1990, a female apprentice named Xiao Guo came to the canteen of the fifth team. She and Xu Zhijian worked together, learned from each other, and soon became inseparable and inseparable.
There was a lot of discussion on the team for a while. Some people say that Xu Laoer is "quite blessed", while others say that his relationship with Xiao Guo is "not safe". What people ignore about
is his personal subjective efforts. Although an accident when he was young left him with a disability in his legs and traumatized his soul, he still has a lot of energy. From the first day I came to the detachment canteen, I was determined to make a name for myself in the cooking work. At his own expense, he subscribed to four or five cooking knowledge magazines and bought more than 30 professional books; he got up early in the morning to read and study in the dark, and also sought advice from teachers in weeks, , and Xi'an. With his fiery heart and superb skills, he was named the New Long March Commando at the end of 1988. The admirable and glorious title of won the girl's heart.
The honeymoon of the young couple is romantic. In the ancient city of Xi'an, they were side by side; when they climbed Mount Lishan, they held hands; on the train to Baoji, they cuddled tightly. The 30 or 40 saved landscape photos contain beautiful images of the two of them traveling and getting married... After
returned to the team, the two were inseparable. If they didn't see each other for a while, Xiao Guo would go to the dormitory to look for her "Xu Lao Er". They were immersed in sweetness and looked forward to future happiness. In order to provide some basic construction for his family, Xu Zhijian asked people to buy wood everywhere. On the small family construction planning form, the two people's dignified signatures were left.
Who would have thought that their good times would not last long.
Xiao Guo was going home to visit relatives. Xu Zhijian gave Xiao Guo the 1,800 yuan they had saved. He also bought 20 kilograms of pork and cooked it for his father-in-law to take home. However, Xiao Guo, who was waiting for him when he came back, had a sad face. Xiao Guo told him that his father didn't know they were married yet. The elder brother was firmly opposed to their marriage. He also threatened that if he fell in love with Xu again, he would kill his sister and tell her that she would not survive next year...
Xu Zhijian looked at the threatening letter in Xiao Guo's hand and asked with concern: "Are you afraid?"
The girl raised her head and said, "I'm not afraid! I will stay with you forever and never marry anyone else!"
Looking at Xiao Guo's expression, Xu Zhijian felt reassured.
The Spring Festival is coming soon, and Xiao Guo takes advantage of the holiday to go home to visit relatives again. On the day they agreed to meet, Xu Zhijian made a special trip to the train station to pick up Xiao Guo, but failed time and time again. Later, I learned from Xiao Guo’s letter that his father-in-law was very angry about their union and imprisoned Xiao Guo at home, preventing him from returning to work in the team.
A young couple who loved each other was ruthlessly separated. Xu Zhijian missed him heartbrokenly on the team, while Xiao Guo shed tears on his clothes at home. Xu Zhijian couldn't stand the mental torture, so he mustered up the courage to knock on the door of his father-in-law's house with some snacks in hand. But who would have thought that with a rough scolding, the son-in-law who came from afar would be kicked out of the door by his old father-in-law.
is close at hand, but lovers are separated by an invisible mountain. All night long, Xu Zhijian walked around aimlessly outside the village limping. The cold wind whipped his thin body mercilessly. After returning to the team, he fell ill. If he hadn't been rescued in time, he would have died!
In extreme pain, Xu Zhijian still had a glimmer of hope. He believed that the organization would make the decision for them, that they would receive legal protection, and that no one would want to break up their happy marriage! Indeed, in order to relieve the pain and misfortune of the two people, the exploration team wrote and sent telegrams to Xiao Guo many times, urging her to come back to work. The captain of the exploration team personally went to Xiao Guo's sister's house to persuade him to return to the team. But Xiao Guo never returned to work.
ignores the organization and does not return to the team without any reason. This is not a general problem. For an ordinary employee, there may be a risk of being fired.Does Xiao Guo's father dare to risk his daughter's "job"? But it turns out that he did dare -
The reason why Xiao Guo has not returned to the team for a long time is because someone has given him the "green light" already - as the leader of the higher-level organization, a certain person in charge of the exploration team made an exception and gave Xiao Guo a long vacation in full compliance with Guo's father's request and without the consent of the grassroots.
Actually, this is not terrible. The most terrifying and heartbreaking thing is that the once loyal and passionate soul was later betrayed...
One day, Xu Zhijian heard that his father-in-law had brought Xiao Guo to the exploration team. He was overjoyed and hurried back to the county town from the field where the team was working to visit. Unexpectedly, not only did his father-in-law treat him coldly, but Xiao Guo also looked like a passerby. This almost made him faint. ah! An exposé material written by someone else and signed by Xiao Guo was placed in front of him. It clearly says: Xiao Guo was "deceived" under his "temptation".
Faced with this, he really wanted to shout and accuse. The Queen Mother of the past could only separate the body of the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl, but today's "Queen Mother" can distort the soul and destroy humanity! Why is reality so cruel to this disabled young man? !
Immediately afterwards, a "complaint material" requesting "the cancellation of the daughter's marriage certificate" was also handed over to the team. Such marital disputes should have been handled by the mediation committee, but a leader of the exploration team made an exception and sent a security cadre named Zhao to handle the matter.
In the "mediation" of the marriage problem between Xu Zhijian and Xiao Guo, people became more and more clearly aware of the "magical power" of Guo's father, the retired veteran cadre.
Faced with Guo's father's "complaint", people can't help but be surprised: his daughter has been married for more than nine months, but she conjures up a "virgin virginity". Isn't this a strange story overseas?
Only Xu Zhijian and Xiao Guo knew: It was in August 1990 and . They were planning to get married and went to the team to get a certificate. The captain said: "Xiao Guo is only 18 years old!" Xiao Guo became anxious and said quickly: "The production team made a mistake when recruiting workers. My sister's age was filled in on the form."
Yes, it turned out that Guo's father was retiring at the beginning of this year and wanted his third daughter, Xiao Guo, who only had an elementary school education, to succeed him. However, when the team recruits apprentices, they must have a junior high school education or above. In order to get through, Guo's father used various connections to obtain the diplomas and files of the four girls who were in high school, and asked the four girls to come to the exploration team for a physical examination on behalf of their elder sisters. When he went to work, he asked Xiao Guo to do the "subcontract transfer plan" again. In this way, the elder sister became the younger sister (after the matter was exposed, the superiors sent people to find out the whole story, but in the end they were "covered up" due to the protection of some leaders).
is getting married now, and age is a big issue. Xiao Guo was so anxious that he came up with a trick. She returned to her hometown in Lintong and told her father that the team wanted to send young workers out for training, but she was too young to go there. Of course, her father had a way, and without much effort, through the production team and Murakami, he obtained a certificate proving that Xiao Guo was born on August 9, 1976, and Xiao Guo returned to her true age as a sister.
How dramatic things are in the world. More than 200 days after Xiao Guo's marriage, Guo's father said that his daughter was only 18 years old in order to achieve his own goal. One moment the elder sister becomes the younger sister, the next moment the younger sister becomes the older sister, and now the older sister becomes the younger sister again. Could it be that this "Taishan" really has the ability to change Sun Dasheng 72?
has it! With the cooperation of the "mediator" Zhao sent by the "organization", after a few tricks, Xiao Guo's age was determined to be 18 years old by a cadre in the Erqu Town Government Office, which was "accurate." The marriage certificate that Xu Zhijian brought for "examination" was immediately locked into a drawer in a government office and declared "confiscated" on the spot.
This is trampling on the marriage law! Xu Zhijian angrily filed a complaint with the local county court. At first, the petition office of the county court issued a note: "Guo and Xu are in a de facto marriage and are protected by law." Later, after Zhao "introduced the situation" on behalf of the organization, the conclusion of the memo was also rejected.
Xu Zhijian has only the last glimmer of hope.He hoped that Xiao Guo would not leave the exploration team. If this is the case, maybe everything can be saved. However, even this glimmer of hope was dashed. Through various connections, Guo's father had already secured a job for his daughter in Lintong and sent him a transfer letter. With the support of a certain leader of the exploration team, Xiao Guo was transferred in the name of an "unmarried" girl in May 1991.
Xu Zhijian still didn't give up and made a special trip to Lintong County to find Xiao Guo. Unexpectedly, because people who didn't know the truth listened to the Guo family's propaganda, they were extremely wary of him as a "liar" and a "cripple". No one dared to tell Xiao Guo's work unit. Only then did Xu Zhijian realize that this "Taishan" was extraordinary!
In front of this invisible "net", all Xu Zhijian's efforts failed. His soul has been shattered! He wrote in his diary: "I am a disabled person, and I am not a regular worker. Besides, I am doing cooking work. I am inferior to others in society and make people look down on me. In order to gain this reputation, I study hard on cooking skills and work hard without complaint. But no matter how hard I work, , can't change the worldly prejudices... They used various "supernatural powers" to break up my marriage and transferred my wife away. As for me, I only have a broken heart. I just hope to finish my own journey soon..."
Obviously, he was desperate. But even so, he still thought about Xiao Guo. In the desperate letter written to his brother, he also said good things for Xiao Guo: "No matter where she goes from now on, don't have a bad influence on her, and don't ask for anything from her. I can forgive everything about her. Because I love her..."
It was in this desperate letter that Xu Zhijian threatened to hurt Guo's father's only son, Xiao Guo's brother (after Xiao Guo was transferred, Xiao Guo's brother came to work in the exploration team), and to make the Guo family extinct. In confusion, he mistakenly sent this letter to Guo's father. Father Guo read the letter and quickly forwarded it to his old subordinate Zhao, hoping that Zhao could ensure the safety of his son. However, all these "alarm" signals did not arouse the attention of those who knew about it. Xu Zhijian's suicide note was suppressed by Zhao for several months.
The long-awaited revenge murder finally happened. Xiao Guo's brother died unexpectedly. Xu Zhijian, the new Long March commando, suddenly turned into a murderer, and finally went to the trial stand and disappeared from the world with the sound of a gunshot.
Now, the "smoke" of this case has long dissipated. However, can the intangible things that contributed to this tragedy also disappear naturally? !
This case is a typical tragedy caused by parents violently interfering with their children's freedom of marriage. Freedom of marriage is a basic principle of our country's marriage system and a basic right protected by the Constitution, Criminal Law and Marriage Law. Our country requires that marriage be a completely voluntary union between a man and a woman based on love, gives both parties the right to complete autonomy, and does not allow anyone to interfere with the freedom of marriage under any pretext. Father Guo's behavior actually constitutes the crime of interference with the freedom of marriage.
So what should the children do if their parents interfere in their children’s marriage?
Parents' interference in their children's marriage is an ancient and current issue - how do the parties win the right to freedom of marriage in the face of interference from others.
As we all know, freedom of marriage means that unmarried men and women can freely enter into marriage relationships with the opposite sex according to their own wishes based on love and for the purpose of establishing a family. Parents and anyone else have no right to interfere. Freedom to marry is the main content of freedom of marriage, the basic guarantee for establishing an ideal marriage based on love, and a basic right granted to citizens by our country's laws. However, due to the influence of backward traditional ideas, violations of legal provisions and interference with freedom of marriage often occur in real life. Here, the so-called interference with the freedom of marriage refers to the behavior of a third party other than the parties to the marriage (including parents) who violates the principle of marital autonomy stipulated in the law and interferes with the freedom of marriage of others in the form of arrangements, sales, violence, coercion, deception, etc.
When children encounter such problems, they must safeguard their right to freedom of marriage. As for what to do, I think the most important thing is to be determined to defend their rights and never give in or compromise. Of course, when dealing with specific issues, because the other person is your biological parent after all, you must be reasonable and restrained and try not to hurt them. To this end, some methods are proposed for your reference only.
First, resolve conflicts internally as much as possible. First of all, your parents may not realize that their behavior has violated your rights and is illegal. Therefore, you should talk to your parents calmly and rationally, explain the relevant legal provisions to them, and let them know that you are free to choose a partner, and you have every right to marry your sweetheart. If they insist on breaking up, it will be a gross interference with your freedom of marriage, which is illegal and subject to legal sanctions. After hearing this, your parents may suddenly realize the nature of their behavior, correct their mistakes, and stop interfering with you. Even if your parents are aware of the legal provisions regarding the freedom to marry, it will be effective if you understand the pros and cons. The biggest benefit of using this method is to resolve conflicts internally without hurting feelings or intensifying the situation.
Secondly, if the above method does not work, it means that it is still difficult to rely on your own personal strength. You may wish to find relevant organizations such as the Women's Federation to come forward. Among them, shameful associations, as the natal families of the vast majority of women, have the obligation to solve women's problems and protect women's legitimate rights and interests, especially to speak up for women in trouble or victimized women and to seek justice.
Third, if neither of the above methods works, that is, your parents’ illegal behavior cannot be stopped after all efforts, then in order to protect your own rights and defend the dignity of the law, you can also resort to judicial organs and force your parents to stop illegal behavior through judicial procedures. There are usually two results after the case is brought to court. First, after the court trial, your parents' interference with the freedom of marriage is not enough to constitute a crime, and they will be criticized and educated to stop their illegal behavior. Second, after the court trial, the facts of your parents' violent interference with the freedom of marriage are clear and the evidence is conclusive, and it has constituted a crime, and you will be subject to legal sanctions. Solving the problem in this way means that you will go to court with your parents, so proceed with caution and do not use it unless absolutely necessary.
Dear friends, in order to protect the right to freedom of marriage, you must learn to use legal weapons!
(For understandable reasons, the names of people and some actual place names in the article are pseudonyms)
