Soong Ching Ling For the victory of the Chinese revolution, he puts brotherly and family affection apart. Since she chose a different path with her sister, sister and three younger brothers, Soong Ching Ling was particularly lonely both during the revolution and after the founding of New China in and her later years.
Song Ching Ling
In her later years, she was particularly eager for family affection, but her call to her family did not receive any response. But in fact, although they are thousands of miles apart, it does not mean that there is no emotion between them. After all, family affection is thicker than blood.
Among the brothers and sisters, the third brother she was most concerned about was her third brother Song Zi'an . In 1969, after Song Zi'an passed away, she specially left a will for her sister. She had not received care from her family for a long time and couldn't help but burst into tears, but she never accepted this will until her death.
"I'm not happy"
In April 1963, when the spring breeze blows into the back garden of Soong Ching Ling's home in Beijing, Soong Ching Ling was already 70 years old.
In the summer of this year, Soong Ching Ling held a reception at his new home. The first was to celebrate the 25th anniversary of the establishment of the China Welfare Association , which he founded and led, and the second was to invite friends to gather at his new home. On this day, Zhou Enlai, Deng Yingchao, Chen Yi and other national leaders came to congratulate them one after another, and everyone was chatting and laughing, and it was very lively.
In the 1950s, Soong Ching Ling often traveled between Beijing and Shanghai. At that time, her residence in Beijing was located in Fangjin Lane, where the environmental conditions were not very good and the roads were narrow. To this end, the government decided to build a new house for her.
Song Ching Ling
Song Ching Ling repeatedly refused this. She believed that now is the time when the country needs money, so she declined it many times. Until 1960, the government arranged for her to live in Xiheyan residence, but because the house was wet, she suffered joint pain.
The leaders of the Party and the state considered Soong Ching Ling's special identity and contributions to the Chinese revolution, and she also needed to meet foreign guests frequently in her residence, so the central government decided to make an exception to build a new residence for her.
So, Liu Shaoqi asked his wife to write a letter to Shanghai for Soong Ching Ling's opinion, but she still refused. In the reply, she said: "For my personal residence, increase the country's expenses, which will make me feel very uneasy." So she stated in the letter that she was unwilling to relocate her residence.
In 1962, the Party and the government decided to let Zhou Enlai open a garden in a deserted old palace in Beiyan, Houhai, Beijing, and build an apartment for Soong Ching Ling. The following spring, Soong Ching Ling moved into her new home, which became the last place for her life.
Beijing Soong Ching Ling’s former residence
Although she was very uneasy, this apartment also surprised and satisfied her.
However, Soong Ching Ling also said in a letter to an American friend, Grace Grannich, that the government assigned her an old palace to make my residence. And Puyi was born here, surrounded by a stream in the yard and a variety of trees in the back garden.
"...I am indeed enjoying the royal treatment, although I am not happy, because there are many people who are more valuable than me who still live in a simple hut."
The "unhappiness" mentioned by Soong Ching Ling here is not only the reason mentioned in the letter, but there is another reason that she is also a waste to live in such a large house by herself, but behind this is her desire for family affection and family.
Song Qingling’s former residence
Song Qingling’s family is not accompanied by her family, soong Qingling regards the staff around her as relatives. Sui Yongqing is the child of Soong Ching Ling's guard Sui Xuefang. She recalled that everyone would hug her when they had a child.
Of course, Soong Ching Ling, who had not been able to have children in her life, also liked children very much. When Sui Yongqing was carried to Soong Ching Ling, she not only did not cry but also smiled at her, which made Soong Ching Ling very happy.
In her later years, she was particularly eager for the warmth of her family. When Sui Yongqing just spoke, Soong Ching Ling would take her to the portrait of Soong Ching Ling's mother before every meal and ask her to say to the portrait: "Mother-in-law has eaten."Sui Yongqing also obediently called the old lady "Madam's mother".
Before dinner the next day, Soong Ching Ling took her to the portrait again. Sui Yongqing couldn't remember what she was called, so she blurted out, "This is Mom's wife", which made everyone laugh.
Song Ching Ling and Sui Yongqing
Song Ching Ling liked this title very much, said bluntly that this title is so cute, and children will call me Mom's wife in the future. In this way, since then, "Mom's wife" has become children like Sui Yongqing and others The name of the sons to Soong Ching Ling.
and Sui Yongqing also accompanied Soong Ching Ling for 24 years until the end of her life.
According to Sui Yongqing's recollection, In his later years, Soong Ching Ling often sat alone at the table, put his hands in the opened drawer to fiddle with something, and sat for most of the day . Until one day, Soong Ching Ling and Sui Yongqing called over and opened an album in the drawer that treasured family photos, Sui Yongqing realized that she was missing her family.
5
Song Ching Ling rarely wears jewelry in her life. She has always kept the turquoise rings, hair buns passed down by her grandmother, and the diamond pins given to her by her mother, and even the wine given to her father.
Since joining the revolution, Soong Ching Ling left the family, so in her later years she yearned for close family relations and missed her relatives far away in a foreign country.
Family affection in the background of the era
Song family As a noble family, the three sisters and three brothers of the Song family dated blindly when they were born Love, strong feelings between each other. Due to the teachings of Song Yaoru , the family has been influenced by a family affection since childhood. It is in this environment that the six children gradually grew up. Among the three sisters, Soong Ching Ling and Soong Mei-ling will have a deeper relationship. The two are about the same age, and Soong Mei-ling always followed Soong Ching Ling during her study period. Therefore, during that period, Soong Ching Ling took special care of this little girl.
Song Family
Later, Soong Mei-ling went to the United States to study with her second sister. Here, the three sisters studied together. After Song Ailing returned to China, Soong Ching Ling still took on the responsibility of taking care of Soong Mei-ling.
Until 1913, Soong Ching Ling returned to China after finishing her studies, so Soong Mei-ling served as the guardian of Song Ziwen . During the study, it can be seen that the children of the Song family helped each other and were a family no matter where they were.
Of course, Soong Ching Ling's years of care for her younger sister also paid off. When the whole family opposed her marriage, only This little girl stood up to support her, and even expressed her admiration and envy of her second sister's actions. She thought that since her second sister wanted to be Sun Yat-sen's wife, she had to show greater courage.
Song Ching Ling
Song Ching Ling's understanding and support also made Soong Ching Ling feel a little relaxed under the pressure of everyone. Therefore, after marriage, Soong Ching Ling also shared her married life with her younger sister, and she had never been so happy.
1917, with Soong Mei-ling's graduation and returning to China, Song Family suddenly became lively Come, the atmosphere became harmonious. The three sisters and three younger brothers surrounded their parents, and the family of eight took the only family photo together.
Soong Ching Ling and the three younger brothers also had deep feelings. Soong Ching-ling graduated from Harvard University . In 1923, he came to Guangzhou at the invitation of his second sister. He was valued by Sun Yat-sen and was appointed as the English secretary of the military government base camp. He was later given important tasks.
With the help of his second sister, Soong Ching-ling successfully entered the political arena and served as the Minister of Finance of the National Government , The position of the Central Bank President and Vice President of the Executive Yuan.
Song Ziwen
Song Ziliang also relied on the introduction of his second sister to enter the political arena. He successively served as director of the Shanghai Huiwen Bureau in Guangzhou National Government after the merger of Ninghan.
Although there were many disputes in the family due to Soong Ching Ling's marriage, the atmosphere at home began to ease as time went by, and everyone's love for Soong Ching Ling did not diminish at all.
Song Ailing, as the eldest sister, gave birth to her first child, she used Soong Ching Ling's pseudonym in the United States as the English name of the child. Soong Mei-ling was very happy about this. At that time, the warm moment of family affection surrounded Soong Ching Ling in this happy atmosphere.
However, this atmosphere was broken in 1927. With the turbulent situation, the Song family also had fierce conflicts, and Soong Ching Ling and the whole family stood opposite each other. This year, with Soong Mei-ling's marriage to Chiang Kai-shek, Soong Ching-ling was disappointed with this family.
Chiang Kai-shek and Soong Mei-ling
In a difficult situation, she chose to visit the Soviet Union for social inspection.
Although Soong Ching Ling and the whole family's position went against each other, during that period, she could still feel the blood-thickness of the Song brothers and sisters.
Song Zi'an went to the United States to study in 1926 and studied at Harvard University. When he graduated in 1928, it was during Soong Ching Ling's travel to Europe.
Song Zi'an was concerned about her second sister, so when she was about to return to China after graduation, she specially moved to Germany to visit her and lived in Soong Ching Ling's apartment. They went to Paris and Vienna . Song Zian accompanied his second sister for more than a month before returning to Shanghai.
In 1929, when Soong Ching Ling returned to China to attend the state funeral ceremony of Sun Yat-sen, the two younger brothers of the Song family, Song Ziliang and Song Zi'an, also took their sister back to China from abroad. Later, sisters and brothers participated in the Feng'an ceremony .
To Chiang Kai-shek, Soong Ching-ling showed her attitude of neither cooperating nor surrendering.
Although the two sisters of the past faced off in terms of road choice, as sisters, Soong Mei-ling still secretly protected her second sister and repeatedly asked Soong Ziwen: "Please tell Dai Li ... If I hear something unexpected happens to my sister, I will not follow..."
In the later Anti-Japanese War , the three sisters also abandoned their past grudges and worked together to participate in the Anti-Japanese War national rescue activity. In 1938, the three sisters of the Song family made their debut in Hong Kong, and were engraved with the memory of history.
In this way, although the Song sisters couldn't stand their face, they still had the same anti-Japanese war idea in private. When foreign enemies invade, they could also resolve past grudges, quickly unite together, and be united to the outside world. This is the most solid and simple family affection between the Song family.
Song Zi'an
However, among the brothers and sisters, the one who moved Soong Ching Ling the most was the youngest younger brother, Soong Ching Ling, and a will after his death also made Soong Ching Ling cry.
A will by Soong Zi'an made Soong Ching Ling not accept it until her death
Compared with Soong Ziwen, Soong Zi'an had no political ambitions, but instead paid more attention to the unity between families. Even Chiang Kai-shek once said that he was "he was a naive and innocent person." For Chiang Kai-shek, this was not a word of praise, but it was obvious that Song Zi'an did not pose any threat to Chiang Kai-shek.
Song Zian is the most heartbroken about the division of the family, but he is powerless.
Song Ching Ling and Soong Zi'an
1938, Li Yun came to Soong Ching Ling's home as a guest. Soong Ching Ling told him that when his third brother went to see her yesterday, she revealed to her that Soong Mei-ling came to Hong Kong and told them not to tell Soong Ching Ling anything.
Of course, Soong Ching Ling was also very angry after hearing this, so she said to his younger brother, "Don't say anything to me, and I don't listen." Later, Soong Ching Ling also said, "Zi'an is better than me, and he will tell me some news."
Song Ching Ling, Soong Ching-ling, and Chiang Kai-shek
In the second half of 1949, Soong Ching-an began to settle in San Francisco, USA, but still traveled between San Francisco and Hong Kong. From 1954 to 1966, Song Zi'an visited Soong Mei-ling and Chiang Kai-shek 11 times. He was also warmly received by Soong Mei-ling, and he also led to Soong's visit to Taiwan in 1963.
For Song Zi'an, family harmony is the most important thing, so he also acts as a regulator among family members.
Although Soong Ching Ling rarely saw his family after the founding of New China, he always thought about this youngest but most caring younger brother.
Former Bank of China Hong Kong branch manager Zheng Tieru met Soong Ching Ling many times, and Soong Ching Ling always asked him about Song Zi'an's situation and asked him to bring a message to Song Zi'an: "His second sister misses him very much and hopes to meet him in her lifetime."
Due to the international situation at that time, Soong Ching Ling was inconvenient to go to the United States, so she hoped that Song Zi'an could come back to see her. But unexpectedly, we waited for news of my brother's death.
On February 25, 1969, Song Zi'an came to Hong Kong to participate in the opening of Guangdong Bank , but died of a sudden cerebral hemorrhage that day, at the age of 62. Soong Ailing and Soong Mei-ling also came to San Francisco to attend his memorial service.
, but Soong Ching Ling accidentally learned of the death of her third brother in a foreign magazine, and later she personally drafted a telegram and sent it out.
Because the international situation was quite tense at that time, when Soong Ching Ling sent the telegram, he also asked Zhou Enlai and Deng Yingchao to help him.
Later, Soong Ching Ling also received an airmail from his lawyer, telling him that Soong Zi'an left him a will: accepts her inheritance.
This inheritance is the inheritance left to brothers and sisters by Mrs. Ni after her death, and there is also one of Soong Ching Ling. At that time, due to differences with her brothers and sisters, Soong Ching Ling did not accept the inheritance, and in the end she had to keep it by her third brother.
Song Zi'an's family
The inheritance allocated by the Song family is about 600,000 US dollars. However, when Soong Ching Ling learned of his third brother's will, she cried bitterly, feeling heartbroken and cried and refused to accept it. And Soong Ching Ling did not accept this inheritance in the end and left it all to Soong Zi'an's children.
When China-US diplomatic relations were established , Soong Ching Ling took the initiative to contact Soong Zi'an's wife Hu Qiying, hoping to get photos of her younger brother.
, and Hu Qiying naturally knew that his sister missed her younger brother's friendship. He wrote a photo description with a pen on the ten photos he sent. At the same time, he also explained to his sister the life and work situation of their son to comfort Soong Ching Ling's thoughts on their hearts.
When Soong Ching Ling received this letter, it was ten years since her younger brother passed away. She held these photos and felt deeply moved. While missing her younger brother, she was also heartbroken that she did not see his last time.
Song Zi'an
After seeing the photos, she immediately wrote to Yang Mengdong , explaining her longing for her third brother:
"Tingting finally sent me Zi'an's photo. I really can't believe that he has left us! He is my good brother. He never hurt anyone. I can't stop crying for his sudden death."
can't cut the deep love of his brother and feet, and the blood is connected. While missing her younger brother, Soong Ching Ling put his photo on the head of the bed and looked over and over again. She placed all her feelings for her family on Soong Zi'an, and her continuous longing also made her physical condition suddenly change.
A year later, Soong Ching Ling passed away in Beijing. Hu Qiying, who was thinking about Soong Ching Ling, also sent a condolence message from San Francisco: "I would like to express my sincere condolences for the death of my husband's sister."
In the Song family, we see what true family affection is. Family affection is the instruction of "meeting immediately without paper and pen, and relying on your slogan to report safety", the concern of "before leaving, I am afraid of returning late", the thought of "being leaned against the window, the cold plum blossoms come with flowers", but it is the waiting of "the yellow-leaf tree in the rain, the white-headed man under the lamp". Even if they have all passed away, this affection will remain forever.
