When talking about the most worthy man to marry in " Do you know ", many people's first reaction may be Sheng Minglan 's second brother Sheng Changbai .
Indeed, Sheng Changbai is a perfect man. As a man, he not only knows how to make progress, studies hard, obtains fame, and does great things, but also becomes a veteran of two dynasties who has entered the cabinet of famous ministers. He has been in the cabinet four times and paid homage to the prime minister three times. He was an important official in six ministries and thirteen provinces, with disciples and former officials all over the world. He also respected his wife. He knew that when his mother made things difficult for his wife, he tried every means to protect her, took the initiative to take care of himself, and did not take concubines at will. Haishi was indeed very lucky to marry such a man.
Actually, in "Know or Not", there is another woman who is particularly blessed. Her abilities were average, even poor, and she couldn't even suppress her own daughter-in-law, which resulted in her granddaughter being almost plotted against. However, she married a man who could be controlled both inside and outside. This man could not only do a good job and become the chief minister of the generation, but also manage the family well, take care of his unfilial son and daughter-in-law, repay the favor and never accept any kindness. concubine.
This man is Yu Yanran’s grandfather, Mr. Yu Ge, and this blessed woman is Mrs. Yu.
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The reason why Mrs. Yu is so lucky to marry a man who can grasp her inside and out and who is devoted to her is because of her father's discerning eye.
Mr. Yu Ge was originally from a poor family, with a poor background and no foundation. In that era, although such a person could change his destiny by studying and taking the imperial examination, it would be difficult for him to stand out in the officialdom if no one supported him. .
Therefore, after Sheng Changbai was in high school, Sheng Hong and Mrs. Sheng made careful arrangements to marry him to the Hai family, who was from a noble family and both his father and brother were officials in the court, to increase Sheng Changbai's career development.
Mr. Yu Ge was even more lucky. He met a mentor who appreciated him highly, that is, Mrs. Yu's father. Mrs. Yu's father not only gave Mr. Yu Ge a lot of help, but also betrothed his beloved daughter to Mr. Yu Ge, a young man from a poor family who was not yet developed.
Take Mrs. Yu as an example. She was born in a great Confucian family in Shandong in her early years. She had kind-hearted parents and strict family rules. At that time, I was appreciated by my mentor and married him, so I was very grateful. I stayed in love with Mrs. Yu all my life. Even after my official career went smoothly, I did not change the relationship between husband and wife. I stayed with my wife wholeheartedly until the end of their lives. Mrs. Yu's luck was also very good. of.
After receiving favor from others, people with different personalities will have different ways of dealing with it. Some people are white-eyed wolves, let alone repaying kindness, it is considered good to repay kindness without kindness; although some people do not know how to repay kindness with hatred, they care more about their own interests. Once their own interests are involved, they will destroy their conscience ( For example, after Mrs. Sheng was poisoned by , Sheng Hong wanted to suppress the incident for the sake of the reputation of the Sheng family). Some people will remember it in their hearts and spend their lives to repay her. Mr. Yu Ge is the last one.
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Mr. Yu Ge received the great kindness from his mentor and remembered it all his life. He was even more devoted to his mentor's beloved daughter, Mrs. Yu, and pampered her all his life.
In this case, it doesn’t matter that Mrs. Yu has zero fighting ability; it can be said that Mrs. Yu has never experienced strong winds and waves in her life, and she does not need to be a lucky person like a greenhouse flower. Well, it was because of this that she couldn't suppress Yanran and her stepmother, and sometimes it was necessary for Mr. Yu Ge to teach his daughter-in-law a lesson in person.
Take Yu Yanran's marriage as an example. In order to cling to the Ningyuan Hou Mansion, the Yu Fang family wanted a girl from the Yu family to marry Gu Tingye. Knowing that Gu Tingye had a bad reputation and was reluctant to kiss his daughter, he plotted against Yu Yanran. In order to force Yu Yanran to marry Gu Tingye, she spread the news to everyone before the two parents even nodded, which shows her vicious intentions.
As a mother-in-law, Mrs. Yu, in an era when mother-in-laws did not need to find time to trouble their daughter-in-law, could not deal with the Yu Fang family and could only sulk, which shows that her ability is indeed poor enough.
However, it doesn’t matter. Elder Yu Ge is here, and Elder Yu Ge directly said that if Yu Fangshi dared to force Yu Yanran to marry Gu Tingye again, he would divorce Yu Fangshi, which made Yu Fangshi immediately become quieter.
Later, the Yu Fang family listened to the instigation of Xiao Qin family . In order to get benefits from the Ningyuan Houfu, while Gu Tingye was away, he deceived Sheng Minglan, who did not know the true cause of Yu Yanhong's death, and tried to adopt Brother Chang into Yu Yanhong's name. , seeking the title of Marquis of Ningyuan. Fortunately, Sheng Minglan was smart and guessed the cause of Yu Yanhong's death.
How did Yu Yanhong die? She was unruly and cuckolded Gu Tingye. In order to get rid of the evil seed in her belly, she drank medicine and died. In other words, Yu Fang's daughter did something scandalous, and Yu Fang still used this matter to trick Gu Tingye. Isn't this looking for death?
You must know that Mr. Yu Ge had already become an official at that time. The next generation of the Yu family was in decline and had no hope in the court. Gu Tingye was the most respected minister of the emperor and was very popular. At this time, the Yu family provoked Gu Tingye. In case Gu Tingye took revenge on them. , the Yu family will suffer disaster.
"Thousands of miles of river embankments were destroyed by ant nests; the governance of a family lies in the children and grandchildren, and the root is in the family." Mr. Yu Ge leaned on the Taishi chair, his body became older and older, and sighed, "If you educate your children well on weekdays, you will be able to shape them." If the character is determined to be righteous, there will be no disaster today. Fortunately, the old lady of the Sheng family and Mrs. Gu Hou have a grudge. "Can you stop me?"
Faced with the daughter-in-law who almost harmed the entire Yu family, Mr. Yu couldn't stand it any longer and just gave up.
Mr. Yu Fang cried and fought for life and death, but Mr. Yu Ge showed no mercy; Mr. Yu Fang’s children wanted to plead with their mother, but Mr. Yu Ge could abandon them together; Mr. Yu Fang’s husband still wanted to talk, but his father A lesson in family law. In order to prevent the Yu Fang family from resurrecting, Mr. Yu Ge decided to live with his eldest son, watch over him, and then choose a wife for him.
Writer Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "Don't just love a good person, don't just love an excellent man, don't just love a talented man, don't just love a man who loves you and loves you, please must love A responsible man. "
It is important to marry a responsible man, but even if you meet a man like Mr. Yu Ge who can grasp both inside and outside, it is best not to be a flower in the greenhouse like Mrs. Yu. , everything depends on men. Otherwise, if something unexpected happens and he is no longer by your side, your life will be in a mess.
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