Before a person goes out for a banquet, his wife will usually explain: "Drink less, eat more vegetables, belt, tightly hold it." The banquets from ancient times to the present may have started with such advice. Generally speaking, don’t drink too much. Eat more food. It’s a gift. When you see a romantic and handsome girl and a little wife, don’t look at it. The belt is important and your character is strong.
It is not clear whether the customer's character is strong or not, but the owner's character must be strong, and the dishes must be even more tough. Therefore, formal banquets are not casual, because the boss is not casual, and there are some rules. If birth, old age, sickness and death are important matters involving life customs in the process of life, then the boss will post it. What posts are released? Please post, you haven't received the post? That's too young.
In the early days, due to material scarcity, the preparations for treating guests were all long and long in advance. If it is a more important life custom, you have to invite a gentleman, calculate the eight characters, choose auspicious day, and invite an elder in the village to come to the director, and list the invitation list of five-serving , neighbors and relatives and friends, and then write the invitation one by one, and then the home sends the family to deliver the posts one by one. If the person invited is too respectful, the home may also come to deliver the posts in person. Those who receive the invitation will respond to going or not going, or the etiquette will be received at the same time, or the etiquette will be received at the same time, and there will be a saying. Some guests will make some polite refusals to show that they are "not worthy of the respect of the host family." The host family will repeatedly ask for the guests because of the importance of the guest, and the people call it "three urges and four requests" to show respect. If the guest agrees, the host will go to the village entrance road to greet him on the day of the treat. Some of the guests are unspeakable. The host will also send monks to the guest's house to pick him up, which the people in the Tings call "the upper and the lower the invitation."
There were many banquets in the past, and the guests who crossed mountains and rivers could still return home before sunset after dinner, and they often had to set off in the early morning to arrive before the banquet. When guests arrive, there will be a full-time lisheng from the village at the door (Tingzhou Hakka Zhi is the ji sound, which is the same as Cantonese , which is an ancient sound), and he will sing loudly to tell the guests' identity and gifts he brought. For example, the axes, candles and tents and cloths in red events, and gold and silver jewelry in red events, will be sung in the sound of a loud bell and hung in the appropriate position. For example, even if the rituals between mother and wife are of great importance, the order of the rituals still need to be sorted in the order of the elderly.
Knowing guests and students must be the responsible and respected people in the village, and at the same time they must be clear-headed and well-known, and familiar with all the kinship relationships of the host family, that is, know the identity of each visitor and can arrange each guest properly. If there are special guests, he must discuss with the host in advance. If the host family does not expect the future and uninvited guests, the wisdom of the knowing guests and students will be tested. Therefore, after the banquet, the host family will give the students an extra gift to them for replies, and the students who make mistakes may have a bad reputation and the village will no longer be tolerant.
So who should sit in the upper hall? This is a rigid rule. If you don’t have the “qualification” and don’t know the qualifying, you will have direct education from elders. The student of Li will also guide him to sit in a suitable place, and even who should sit on the upper side of each seat. The student of Li will not make mistakes. If you make mistakes, it will be “rude” and it will be a trampling and challenge to rural order, which is a very serious matter. If there are guests who are ignorant and do not follow the guidance, there are also owners who can let their homes go their own way, but the guests will be educated by their parents afterwards, and their family will become jokes about neighbors, relatives and friends in the village. Today, people call it "social death", that is, social death .
Of course, if Lisheng and the host mistakenly arrange the distinguished guest's position, if the guest is too high, the guest knows that he should not "receive" and will make suggestions. Lisheng can correct the mistake and the host can still clean up his face. But I was afraid that the guests were weird and kept silent in the lower rankings. For example, if the seniority was arranged to sit with the juniors, he would not tell him in person, and after he went back, he told others that even if the face of the master was lost, the professionalism of Lisheng would be questioned.Some important relatives may stop coming and going because the guests have an emotion called "Sad Sauvignon" towards the host's home. The emotion of "Sad Chishu" is not a good thing. If guests generally have such emotions, then the host's guest will not only be in vain, but may also offend too many people to "turn the stove". You can understand it as the collapse of social relations in villages and communities, and you can also understand what the new generation of human beings said about the collapse of the character.
Then under what circumstances will the guests "sad to the stove"? In addition to the random seats mentioned earlier, it is a relatively small situation after all, and it also happens to a few people. A more common situation is that the chef you hire is not strong in character, resulting in poor dishes. The guests will be dissatisfied with half-cooked meat. There are also people who are really stingy. They serve more than a dozen vegetarian dishes all the time, and they eat the noodles and are angry. A generous customer would be treated as a vegetarian meal and as a health preservation. A stingy customer would be lengthened on the spot, while a stingy person would start to tell jokes at the table. I just heard a joke, learn it.
The cousin of the Lai family was so delicious: "Does the uncle of the Zhang family know that I came up from Laifang today and passed by the front of the Tianhou Palace and saw a pig!" The uncle of the Zhang family would make a fuss and cheer him up: "Oh, have you chased me?"
The cousin of the Lai family: "Chasing, why don't you chase me! Eight of us carry sixteen poles, chased the pig, and entered the carrot field." Eight people sat on the Eight Immortals table, with sixteen chopsticks, which clearly pointed out. The uncle of the Zhang family: "Hahaha, did you catch up?" The cousin of the Lai family also laughed: "Of course, what kind of kung fu!" After speaking, he pulled out a piece of lard residue from the whole plate of shredded radish, and the whole table laughed loudly. When the host came over to toast with a smile, he said politely: "The family is poor and has no food. Everyone drinks two more glasses of water wine ." The guests said together: "I'm full and drunk." The host and the guest looked at each other and smiled, and they were aware of it.
When the people are in short supply, the banquet is the "Five Insect Temple Sacrifice" that many people have been waiting for for a long time. There is wine and meat soup. The villagers used to say that they would support the wall and go out, just like eating today's buffet, which is of course a joke. But in the early days, I had to bring a basket to the banquet. One was that the host usually returned the gifts, and the other was that although there was only one person who came to the banquet, this person was often the representative of the whole family. He ate one on the spot and would "carry" the meat and vegetables on the table home. Sometimes there was only one person on the table doing this, and sometimes the whole table did this, especially the female guest would put down his pride and try his best to bring back the meat and vegetables. The young and old at home also tasted the delicious food, which was far better than "face". The male guest took care of his identity and refused to do this. Therefore, many children will have expectations when female parents go out for a banquet. Before the female guest returns home, many hosts will politely give a serving of "tea ingredients and fruits" for the female guest to go home and "wait" for the child to "respect" the elderly.
If the owner does not have enough supplies, the person who was eating the banquet was shameless and said on the spot, and he consciously took the gift in vain. He was not satisfied with eating or drinking, and he was not satisfied with the gift, and he went home in a depressed mood. Many banquets are long and the probability of raining is very high, so they will hold an umbrella around them. In ancient times, the umbrella was covered with wood bones, and it was big and heavy. They walked alone with their backs. It was too late to get home. I remembered that this day was boring, so I took the umbrella handle alone in front of the door and "shushed" the behavior. The people in the Tings called this "shushed umbrella handle".
The allusion of "Shut Umbrella Handle" is widely circulated, and the host will joke about it at the banquet. It usually says: "Drink more glasses, don't go home to have an umbrella handle." This time the guest may be blushing and sincerely saying: "I'm drunk and full." You have to say this, otherwise the host's bartender comes out and don't leave. He gets drunk for a while and has no umbrella handle.
Of course, the host drinks more without persuading the guests, so there is no danger of "stopping the umbrella handle", while the guests have to find a balance between the wife's explanation and "full and drunk", so they all have to do their best, but this is the case. The host said, "The hospitality is not good." Some guests said, "No." They still have to "stopping the umbrella handle" when they go back. That's called a home game.
Many modern Tingren’s banquets are no longer chosen at noon, but mostly at night, especially in Chengguan, which is rich in material resources. Many times, people don’t go to eat that bite of meat and vegetables, but maybe more for that bite of wine. Of course, you can't go and "invite" the guests after five o'clock in the afternoon. Even if the guests come, they will think that you are making up the numbers and call him. You have to treat them one day and a half days in advance. Although you don't have to "come the upper and the lower", you have to "invite three and four urging" to show your sincerity. The customer's situation must be found out in advance. What kind of wine does he like to drink? What kind of wine you tend to eat is he tormented all night. You are also very guilty. He will inevitably "pause the umbrella" when he goes back.
As the host, you are not familiar with the guests and you are a "dumb pig" yourself. You are not able to speak or do things. If you can accompany them, you have to invite a guest in advance. If you can do things, it is best to be familiar with your guests, so as not to be unwilling to drink too much and not even get a little drunk. You still have to "pause an umbrella" when you go home. Therefore, the banquets of ancient and modern people have a lot of attention and knowledge. They cannot "ask the guests late for chickens" or "ask the guests to start wine". Don't stop the wine if the guests don't say they leave, and the host does not send the guests away, so that the host can show the host's enthusiasm.
has said so much, I am actually a little afraid of treating guests. Drinking capacity may generally be the main reason. If you can't cover everything, it's the secondary reason. The main reason is that the customer's "umbrella handle" will be broken.
actually has many seats that don’t have “stop umbrella”.
may be a friend I haven't seen for many years calling you in the middle of the night. You force your body to match it with a weak body and go to a temporary appointment that has nothing to do with wine, sex and wealth. You may not even be able to cook a decent dish. Then two ugly cups and a pot of wine, there may be only friendship in the middle, and only friendship. Remember, you can't bring an umbrella.
, and the belt is important, and the character must be strong.
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