Attached article: " Zhuangzi : The foundation of life is how to get along with oneself!"
Zhuangzi: The foundation of life is how to get along with oneself!
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We have learned too many dogmas about how to get along with others, but we have forgotten the most fundamental point, that is, how to get along with ourselves.
A person who doesn’t get along with himself will definitely not get along with others.
We often talk about the harmony between man and nature, man and society. In fact, the most important thing is the harmony between man himself.
There are endless desires and endless contradictions in our hearts. You might as well take a look at your own heart. How many delusions are there, and how many emotions are entangled in it? In these endless thoughts, we are like a lonely boat swaying on the waves, sometimes being rushed here, sometimes being thrown that way, without any peace for a moment.
Only by learning how to get along with yourself can you maintain harmony between body and mind.
Learning how to get along with yourself is the foundation of life.
Zhuangzi said: "The unique person is the most noble."
The "unique" here refers to independence, self-harmony, and self-improvement, which means knowing how to get along with yourself.
On the one hand, people must give full play to their abilities, serve the society, and make it conducive to the development of society; on the other hand, they must be "unique" so that their lives are in a positive and harmonious state, and they become the "most precious" people.
The former is the embodiment of Confucianism , and the latter is the embodiment of Taoism .
Learning how to get along with oneself, how to reconcile with loneliness, and how to be with time is a required course for everyone, and it is like nutrients that nourish people and slowly penetrate.
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So, how do you get along with yourself?
First, realize that loneliness is inevitable!
People are social animals. It is impossible for a person to exist without others in his life, but we are lonely.
At night when no one is around, deep down in our hearts, we long to be understood and accepted by others. However, with so many acquaintances in the world, how many confidants can we have?
Huizi was a friend who often quarreled with Zhuangzi, and was criticized by Zhuangzi every time. After Huizi died, Zhuangzi told a story to describe the loneliness after losing his spiritual rival. The story is:
There was a man who had a drop of mud as small as a fly splashed on the tip of his nose. He asked a craftsman to chip it off for him. He didn't suffer any damage, and the man stood there without changing his expression.
After Song Yuanjun heard about this, he asked the craftsman Shi to try it for me. The craftsman Shi replied, I could do it before, but the partner who could match it was already dead!
No one can accompany us all the time for life. For a long time, hugging each other in the crowd, bustling and bustling, makes people mistakenly think that this is the normal state of life. In fact, loneliness is the eternal state of life.
All we can do is face loneliness and find a way to get along better with ourselves.
Secondly, accept yourself calmly and improve yourself.
Zhuangzi said: "Know that there is nothing you can do about it and just accept it as your fate."
We will all have shortcomings, disappointments, and problems. They are part of life. Just accepting these facts means a lot to us. The so-called successful learning of from likes to inculcate the view that a person's greatest enemy is himself. If anyone can defeat himself, then this person can defeat everything.
The reason why people say this is because for a long time, the idea that man can conquer nature has been at work, and man has the desire to conquer.
The so-called "fighting with heaven, the joy is endless; fighting with the earth, the joy is endless, fighting with people, the joy is endless", in the final analysis, it is also the embodiment of this idea.
In fact, there is no problem of victory in self-struggle, but a process of continuous self-exploration and continuous self-improvement.
Everyone has different potential, and success only means being able to reach your upper limit. In this sense, defeating oneself is an appropriate evaluation of one's abilities and the full expression of one's abilities.
Life is not about comparison or victory, but about acceptance and perfection.
Always go inward, reflect on yourself, understand yourself, know your own shortcomings, know your own direction and dreams, accept yourself and continue to improve, and let your life become a gift.
How a person treats his or her time is his attitude towards life. In the limited and precious time, instead of focusing on and pleasing others, it is better to cultivate and improve yourself.
Loneliness is not terrible. What is terrible is wasting time in vain, accomplishing nothing except gaining weight and a look of resentment.
Finally, learn to tolerate loneliness and enjoy being alone!
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Zhuangzi said: "Alone communicates with the spirit of heaven and earth."
Loneliness can become a kind of beauty. Therefore, when we are alone, there is no need to walk on thin ice in an abyss.
We can enjoy being alone. Being alone, there is always some loneliness, but it is precisely because of loneliness that we can do the things we like.
Being alone is related to a person's confidence. It comes from one's own energy and will give you a kind of self-confidence that does not rely on others.
Loneliness and being alone are always difficult. More free time comes and boredom becomes overwhelming.
Everyone will be bored, and it will become more and more boring, but as long as you enrich your heart and break down the boredom into days, it will disappear.
Women often long for a sense of security from men. If they have had the experience of being alone, they will know that the sense of security they give themselves is more real.
"What doesn't kill you will eventually make you stronger."
No matter how unbearable the life of loneliness and solitude is, you must persevere until you can enjoy this life and truly get its nourishment, and Only by shaking hands and making peace can we have the ability to live another lively and troubled life.
If at this moment, although you are partying in the crowd, you still feel lonely, then give yourself a chance to be alone, you don’t know how wonderful it will be!
