Foreword: "Hope your child will become a dragon, and your daughter will become a phoenix." Almost all parents expect their children to be excellent and outstanding, and to become powerful people when they grow up. It is not wrong for parents to have such hope, and it is understandable. However, if you want to let your children become more promising when they grow up, you will always put pressure on your children, which is not right.
I don’t know if my friends have noticed that some parents are too concerned about their children’s "unsuccessful", so they have arranged various itineraries for him since childhood, and arranged various interest classes. .
There are many parents who want their children to learn more and master more skills when they are young. This is beneficial to the future, so there are many children who have little childhood joy, and only have to go to class, class and then class. . Is this really good? Have parents ever thought about it? Recently, after watching "Man Doing Housework", the editor got some insights from the words of Nie Yuan .
Qin Ziyue Nie Yuan takes his daughter to a calligraphy class
The latest episode of "The Man Doing Housework" aired the episode of Nie Yuan and his wife taking his daughter to a calligraphy class. Qin Ziyue enrolled her daughter for a calligraphy class in order to make her daughter less active and calm down.
However, Qin Ziyue's calligraphy interest class for his daughter is completely "passionate" because her daughter does not actually like it. After coming to the classroom, the daughter obviously resisted this. She didn't want to learn, but only wanted to play. When her parents were dragged to the class, she was amused by her reluctance. After seeing Nie Yuan's daughter's expression, the observers in the studio all laughed.
is not interested in this matter, so naturally it is not serious in class. When the teacher asked her to write calligraphy, she picked up the pen to write, and she "did off" at the same time. Sometimes she watched left and right, sometimes yawned, and sometimes her thoughts drifted, and she was always inattentive in class.Nie Yuan’s daughter is in class like a lot of people were forced to go to class when they were young.
Qin Ziyue Nie Yuan met the "tiger mother" type parents, and chatted with him. Who knew she couldn't stop when she chatted with this parent. What can be learned from the chat is that the student’s parent is a "tiger mother" and she is very strict with her son. How harsh is she? come and see.
(1) When she talked about the child crying while practicing the piano, she didn't compromise. She said that even if the child cried, she had to cry and finish the piano practice. She shouldn't be too relaxed with the child, so she should take care of it.
She said that the child is now in elementary school. This stage is too important. You must develop a good habit. If you go to junior high school, you will be relieved. If you don't manage your child well in elementary school, he will always play and play in junior high school, and he will not be able to manage it at that time.
(2) She enrolled her child in interest classes since he was three and a half years old, and now she learns four courses a week. In addition to attending school, she also has extra tuition for a week. class.
This parent insists on nurturing this point of view on interest from an early age, so she has asked her child to go to a lot of things when she was very young. Now she has arrangements every week, and there are extracurricular interest classes from Tuesday to Friday. When I heard this parent talk about so many courses, the editor hurt his children a little bit. There is no extracurricular entertainment time at all.
n The parents chatted, and he shared his thoughts. He said that he still has to let the children learn what he is interested in. Don’t arrange so many lessons for the children. One point Nie Yuan insists on is that children want to play and be happy in childhood. One of his philosophy is "stocking growth", don't put too much pressure on children.
Why does Nie Yuan always insist on "stocking growth"? Let's hear what he said. He gave several reasons. come and see.
(1) Many times, children learn it while playing.
Nie Yuan feels that it is useless to enroll so many interest classes for children. If the children are not interested, it will be useless. If they are not interested, they don't bother to learn anything. It is a waste of time for him to go to interest classes without much gain.
If you want to report, you have to see what the child likes and what he is interested in. He learns the skills while having fun, which is better. Many times children learn things just by playing, and being forced to learn has no effect.
(2) There is only one childhood, so you shouldn't put so much pressure on your children.
Every child’s childhood is very precious, and his whole life is only a few years carefree, and he can play happily without any pressure or restraint. It is because childhood is too precious to give the child so much burden and pressure. If he arranges his spare time to the full, isn’t this depriving him of a happy childhood?
(3) There is no winning or losing in the growth of children, and you should not be afraid of losing at the starting line.
In Nie Yuan’s view, many parents are influenced by one sentence, "Don’t let their children lose on the starting line." The children at home can't lose, so they must also arrange these lessons for the children. But they often overlook one point. Every child has his own trajectory. How can there be any so-called winning or losing along the way?
Personal opinion:
Nie Yuan’s rebuttal is simply too good, he put himself in his position for the happiness of his children, from the perspective of his daughter, not from the perspective of his parents. , Is a very enlightened father! Nie Yuan’s relationship with her daughter can be so good,Presumably because he often puts his daughter's happiness first and respects her daughter's ideas.
Many parents should learn from Nie Yuan and listen to their children's aspirations. You can't always think that it is good to arrange everything for your children and ignore the children's feelings.
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