Text/Dahui
"The Besieged City" is a book covering all aspects of the world. It has a deep depiction of human nature. In each of them, you can see the shadow of many people in real life.
The book portrays Mrs. Sun in few figures, but it outlines in our hearts the image of a poor and mean life-stricken woman.
Mrs. Sun described it like this: 30 years away, wearing a half-old black gauze cheongsam, tired and tired, and with her natural upside-down eyebrows, she felt more sad and miserable.
As the saying goes, "Mother is born from the heart." If you want to know whether a woman is happy or not, you don't need to look at her life, just look at her face. Mrs. Sun’s face has exposed all her misfortunes.
Mark Twain said: A large part of the civilized girl is her costume-as it should be. Some civilized and polite women will lose half of their charm if they do not have clothing, and some will lose all of their charm. A modern and civilized girl dressed to the utmost is a miracle created by exquisite art and money. All countries, all regions and all arts have been contributed, let her dress herself.
The dress of a woman determines the charm of a woman. A woman with a delicate dress will feel completely different from a woman with a shabby dress. Of course, the dress of a woman is determined by the family conditions, but the life of a woman is It's up to you.
Mrs. Sun’s hard life has already been exposed in her body, and it also reveals the characteristics of many women who have suffered.
A woman whose life is suffering, her face is full of sadness
A woman's face is a woman's facade, this facade is a reflection of a woman's life, a woman who lives unhappy, she is crushed by life Now, it is difficult to show a knowing smile, this is determined by a person's life.
But if a woman often puts the suffering of life on her face, over time your whole person will exude an aura of mourning. When you put mourning throughout your life, it will also scare away good luck and make you The more we live, the more weary.
There is a neighbor next to me who is the kind of person who often puts the suffering of life on his face,Her life is not very rich, and she makes a living by hard work. It stands to reason that the couple worked hard together, and the child is about to graduate from college, and his life will be easy.
But there is no hope for life at all on her face, she always looks bitter and bitter, and she rarely smiles.
If your aura is very depressing, it will make the atmosphere of the whole family depressive and make people unwilling to get close.
I have been to her house before, and there is no warm breath, and the house is lifeless. Her daughter once told me that she didn't want to go home at all, it was too depressing.
A person’s life is good, he knows his own warmth, there is no need to show it on his face, most of us actually have the same conditions at home, although it is not rich, it can support our lives.
However, you have to find fun on your own. If you always put your unhappiness on your face, your life will be no fun, and you will be stuck in the quagmire. Learn to hide your sorrows and put a smile on your face On the face, over time you will find that even if life is difficult, you can still bloom.
Women who have a bitter life, complain and are mean
Women who have a bitter life, they also have a characteristic, that is, they have a lot of complaints, and they put all the pain and worry about life on their lips. , Chattering about their own suffering.
Do you still remember Mr. Lu Xun’s wife Xianglin? Wife Xianglin experienced the death of her two husbands and the tragic death of her child. Her experience was indeed bumpy and painful enough to get everyone's care and sympathy.
She talked about her son's death and her tragic experience when she met people. At first, the villagers came to listen to the tragic story of Xianglin's wife, and gradually became disgusted by the villagers.
Don’t expect a person to have the sympathy of others in his own life. Even if he can sympathize for a while, he is destined to live his own life. No one can help you solve it.
Women who have a hard life, generally they are easy to complain, and show their pain in life. In addition to complaining about themselves, they also deliberately give pointers to other people's lives and make harsh comments.
Mrs. Sun said in a bitter tone when evaluating Fang Hongjian and Miss Bao,No mercy, Qian Zhongshu's evaluation of her is "The viciousness of loyal and honest people, like the gravel in the rice or the unclean thorns in the fish fillet, will give people an unexpected pain."
Women who are struggling for life will have an imbalance in their hearts. They have no hope of their own lives, but they are willing to criticize other people's lives, wanting to find a momentary pleasure in their mouths. But he has never made a change in his life.
You must know that complaining cannot change your life, and the imbalance of your heart cannot change your life. Instead of complaining and being mean, it is better to spend your mind on your life.
To avoid contradictions and dare not face it
Mr. Sun is a good gamble. The time on the boat is nothing but eating and sleeping. Mrs. Sun has some opinions on this, but she just complained about it, but there was no stop. .
She wanted to see how much money Mr. Sun had lost, but she was afraid that the man would lose too much, so she vented herself when she asked. She went back to the cabin and quarreled for a long time, so she did not dare to get up.
When he was about to disembark, Mr. Sun had to gamble all night. Mrs. Sun actually intended to stop him, but she just said cowardly, "I will disembark tomorrow, aren’t you afraid of getting tired?"
Mrs. Sun is the kind who has something to say but dare not. Those who don't want to say, would rather hide the contradiction, obviously reject him playing mahjong in their hearts, and fear that he will lose money, but they just slap on the side and dare not say it in person.
Because I was afraid of quarreling, I let my grievances accumulate and did not solve the problem.
Mrs. Sun’s behavior represents the state of many women. They do not express their ideas in marriage, but let the other party guess or hide them, but there is no way to eliminate the hidden contradictions. They will only accumulate. deep.
On the one hand, there is magnanimity on the surface, but on the other, it will be caressed in the heart. It will burst out one day unpreparedly. Such women will not deal with conflicts, dare not face the hardships in life, and let men make them dissatisfied Acting, and then sending this dissatisfaction to the outside world or hiding it in my heart will only make myself look more bitter and hatred, and eventually bitter and bitter.
Many women attribute their suffering to bad life,It comes down to not marrying a good man, but in fact a person is the master of his own destiny.
A person's life is destined for good and bad. Just like Fang Hongjian, he clearly has good resources, but he doesn't work hard, which ultimately leads to his career in trouble.
If a person does not find reasons for himself, he always blames others. Even if such a person gives her the best resources and the best family background, it is difficult to be happy.
I hope you can find your own happiness without taking up the traits of a woman.
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