1. Most of the people who become influential and rampant have a false name
Recently I was reading the book " mundane stranger". The clay figure Zhang mentioned in the book is very interesting. As the name suggests, his unique skill is to pinch a clay figure. , No matter who it is, he can use mud to make it come alive.
He usually has a habit. He likes to go to large restaurants to collect the wind, observe sentient beings, accumulate materials, and practice internal skills.
On this day, he met the famous and domineering Zhang Wuye. Zhang Wuye started his business by selling salt. He has a big background. The local political and business circles respected him three points.
is just clay figurine Zhang makes a living by craftsmanship, so I don't need to ask anyone, so I don't care about Zhang Wuye very much, completely assuming he doesn't exist.
At this time Zhang Wuye began to make fun of the clay figure Zhang in front of everyone: "Where to pinch the clay figure? In the sleeve or in the crotch?"
is indeed too much and too humiliating. And the clay figurine Zhang Ting was calm, not noisy, drinking with his right hand, squeezing it with his left hand a few times, and squeezing a mud ball, putting it on the table, turning around to check out and leave.
Zhang Wuye looked at it from a distance, and this mud ball was clearly himself, more like him than him, but only the size of a walnut. He cursed, "I want to make money with this shit, and no one wants to sell it cheaply."
What Zhang Wuye didn't expect was that in a few days, 200 small clay figures of himself appeared on the market. The words "Selling Hai Zhang Wu for a Low Price" were written on the stalls, and passers-by were regarded as jokes.
Zhang Wuye finally admitted and paid a lot of money to buy back these clay figures, including the clay mold.
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In the whole story, Zhang Wuye should not be arrogant and bully. He used to belittle others to expose his superiority, and finally he was humiliated.
There are people outside of people and people outside of heaven. Don't think that you are the best. When you raise your tail, you fall into the ditch.
Second, show superiority,It just proves that low self-esteem
famous psychologist Adler said this sentence: Inferiority complex and the pursuit of superiority are two sides of the same basic fact of life, and they are inseparable.
agrees. Simply put, the more a person likes to expose, the more inferior he is . He needs to conceal his sense of inferiority through superiority.
In today's society, there are a small number of people who are too superior and like to cherish themselves and make many jokes.
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The most famous is the actor Liu Lu, who is called "My 5000 yuan shoes can not afford my feet", but she is arrogant. Not working.
He clearly violated the law first, but made a noise in Yichang Railway Station. He even declared: "I am a public figure, you are done."
Have filmed a few online dramas, and regard yourself as a role? Laughing and generous.
Looks uneducated, revealing the word inferiority everywhere.
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3. High-level people leave their sense of superiority to others
If you want to observe a person’s true character, it depends on how he treats people who are inferior to him. .
The real upbringing is not to easily dismantle the embarrassment of others, and even secretly help others round the field.
Singer Li Jian is not only good at singing, he is known for his academic dominance, and his emotional intelligence is also very high.
When he was on a variety show, Li Jian, as a tutor, asked the contestant Hao Yaqing : "What is an event singer?"
Yu Chengqing, who was sitting next to Li Jian, replied that he was the singer who sang during the opening of the building and the ribbon cutting.
Li Jian understood immediately, and immediately replied: "Oh, it's similar to us."
put himself and the player in the same position in one sentence, so as to avoid the other party's possible embarrassment.
In fact, the audience all understand that the event singer is far from a singer of Li Jian's level, but Li Jianyi said that everyone gave a heart-to-heart praise, demeanor and quick response.
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Someone on Zhihu asked: What are the things that young people must not touch?
Netizen @QI凉’s answer is eye-catching:
"Illusive and self-righteous superiority can’t be touched. I don’t object to people who say that they are very powerful. I dislike those who use suppressing others to show that they are very powerful. And such people often don’t deserve their names.”
Speaking of the point, when you use superiority as a fig leaf that hinders growth, life is only a piece of feathers, meaningless.
Finally, I want to end with Maugham’s words, " What you have to overcome is your vanity and your desire to show off. What you have to deal with is the smartness that you want to show up all the time. _Strong2strong
Really powerful people have long since given up their superiority.
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