Many women feel that their husbands cheated because they are rich, and they should respond to the old saying "When a man is rich, he becomes bad."
The reality is that men don’t become bad when they have money, and whether a man cheats or not is not determined by money.
I have dealt with a case like this before. When
Sister Li and her husband just got married, they had a very difficult life. When the two of them were young, they worked hard at the construction site and later saved some money,
40 When they were many years old, the two of them couldn't do anything on the construction site, so they started a small business, but
unexpectedly made a fortune. The two people who were over half a hundred years old began to become rich, and
had spare money. Sister Li Husband became restless, and she raised a mistress outside with her understanding behind her back. Z1z
Li found out that she went to find the mistress as soon as she found out. This mistress was the money, and
Li was also willing to spend money. The two reached an agreement, one Give money, one takes the money and leaves.
But I didn’t expect to drive away the first junior in less than a month, and then there was a second junior. Z1z
also had a minor fourth in sync with this junior. Although Li would have trouble with her husband, she never mentioned divorce. Know how to deal with P3,
solves the new P3 and P4, and then P5 again. About a year or so, Sister Li has found six P3s raised by her husband. Some of them coincide with time, and some of them are her. After solving the others, her husband secretly raised a new one.
Sister Li is bothered, but she doesn’t want to get divorced. Z1z
thinks that divorce is a very embarrassing thing. If
gets divorced, she will be laughed at by a group of relatives in the family,
and a lot of age. , I don’t want any love, I just want a wife to spend the rest of my life together. When the two people were young, the friendship of sharing joys and sorrows together was the main reason why Sister Li could not let go of this marriage.
Sister Li felt that her husband became bad because he was rich. The essence was okay. Z1z
was only exposed to too many temptations because he was rich. He did not resist the temptation to become like this.
may not understand this kind of thinking. In fact, when Lan Fang first started in the emotional industry, he came into contact with many cases.
also disagrees with the students’ thinking and attitudes when dealing with matters.
is a case that has been exposed to. It's a lot, and I slowly learned that everyone at
has their own last resort, everyone has their own difficulties,
bystanders can indeed see clearly than the authorities, that is because they are not among them and cannot feel their suffering.
As an emotional mentor, what I want to do is not to deny other people's values. Z4z
has developed the values of a person for decades. I think I have no ability to change, and no one can change.
What I can do is to solve the most urgent problem when she finds me.
is like the sister Li in this case. She just wants to solve the problem that her husband is always cheating. Then I will help her analyze the problem, solve the problem, and help her maintain the marriage she doesn't want to give up.
First, analyze why Sister Li’s husband cheated. Is it really like Sister Li thinks that money only goes bad?
is not. Actually, Sister Li’s husband didn’t have money to start cheating,
because Sister Li had always focused on separating the third party, one after another, she was overwhelmed by the third party, and
had no time at all. Calm down, think about and understand your husband's psychology sensibly.
The suggestion I give is to have a positive conversation between two people to understand the psychology of this man's derailment. At the same time,
starts with his friends who are often with alcohol and meat to understand the process and reason of his derailment.
Of course, there are other ways to understand a person's true psychology in many ways. After
got to know Sister Li, she knew that her husband’s first cheating was during her pregnancy. At that time,
had a very difficult life for the two of them, but her husband had carried her on his back many times to find a young lady, and
later had better financial conditions. After that, he is no longer satisfied with these, openBegin to spend money to raise a junior,
and the reason is actually very simple, sexual demand.
When the two of them were young, Sister Li was only interested in making money, and her husband had other needs,
waited until Sister Li’s mind could not be put on making money, and the two of them were getting older,
Sister Li refused to satisfy The needs of men are the root cause of derailment.
But other than that, Sister Li’s attitude towards her husband’s derailment,
is the main reason that makes this man more unscrupulous,
because the first time Sister Li simply deals with the third party, never To deal with the problems between two people,
only asked her husband to converge after processing. There is no punishment without mentioning divorce. Z1z
caused sister Li’s husband to derail her to raise a junior. From the initial cautiousness to later, she had no scruples.
In fact, the husband of Sister Li is not a very tough personality. He has no real love for Xiaosan and has no idea of divorce at all.
In essence, two people can have today’s savings, relying on Sister Li’s motivated character and always fighting with her husband. In the bones of
, Sister Li’s husband is very dependent on his wife, so neither of them wants to solve the problem of derailment through divorce. .
Then the key point of the remaining problem is to separate the current third party and prevent the possibility of men derailing again.
Some people think that to forgive a person for derailment requires complete forgiveness. If you mention the past mistakes, the two will never be able to reconcile as before.
But in fact, after many men derailed and return to the family, it is necessary for the wife to give the necessary punishment,
It is also an effective way to maintain marriage. Of course, it needs to be decided according to each person's situation, what kind of punishment is
, what kind of punishment does not hurt the couple's feelings, and can also play an effective role in restraining.
For example, economic constraints, such as some psychological pressure,
many people may think that cheating people are shameless, this kind of thinking is wrong, most of
is because you are too concerned about face, so they have no fear of rascals.
or you don't leave any emotions, so they have nowhere to go, so they can only die.
So your punishment needs to be strong, and you need to leave room for it, not only to make them afraid, but also to make them feel that they have a chance to be forgiven. The specific punishment method of
needs to be formulated according to the specific situation. The blue party does not give specific examples because it does not want to mislead people who do not understand their true situation.
In addition, the attitude towards a woman who cheats is very important. It is not wise to threaten divorce if you don’t want to divorce. Z1z
will be passive if the cheating party agrees to the divorce. , Z1z
, but indifferent, blindly whitewashing peace is tantamount to helping you abuse,
what you need is to express your anger about the derailment, let the other party understand the harm her betrayal has brought you.
Many women will hide their pain after being cheated. I don’t care if you cheat.
may not express their anger and true thoughts, thinking that they can gain the upper hand. In fact, most of the cheating Wife and family are affectionate,
appropriately expresses his anger and let him see your pain is also helpful for him to return to the family.
All the methods mentioned in the last blue article are based on the real situation in the case.
Even if you have many similarities with the case, it does not mean it is suitable for you. If you have similar things,
Emotional issues, private messages, let me explain your situation, let’s talk.
I am Lan Fang, an emotional mentor who tells the truth and does things.
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