text/Wu 呱呱
Hi, I am Wu 呱呱.
Last night, the long-awaited "Golden Years" starring Liu Shishi, Ni Ni and Yuan Quan finally started broadcasting. Although
only aired two episodes, while being surprised by Jiang Nansun and Zhu Suosuo, from Jiang Nansun, Zhu Suosuo, and Jiang Nansun's aunt Dai Qian, I couldn't help feeling that women must know these points, and the sooner the better.
01 Only feelings approved by parents can last long.
Jiang Nansun’s father married a good husband to give Jiang Nansun a good future and always gave her the best material within his abilities.
But what Jiang Nansun likes is a poor boy Zhang Anren, and regardless of his father's opposition, he works against his father. For Zhang Anren's willingness to fall out with his father,
even destroyed his priceless violin and cut his hair with scissors.
In Jiang Nansun's eyes, material conditions are not important, what is important is love and loyalty to each other, because sentient beings can drink enough water.
Actually, this is not the case.
In "The Age of Naked Marriage", the relationship between Liu Yiyang and Tong Jiaqian was not approved by Yao Di's parents from the beginning.
Tong Jiaqian, who can be dazzled by love, like Jiang Nansun, thinks that sentimental is full of water.
can wait for the real marriage, a family of 5 people crowded in a small house, life is not convenient everywhere.
and after giving birth, when facing the baby's milk powder and diaper money, and worrying about it, I deeply realize that my immediate life, even my own food and clothing, can hardly solve it, let alone give the child a better future.
At this time, Tong Jiaqian realized that her parents' objection was justified.
In the end, this relationship based on love, but lost to chai rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea, ended like this.
The ancients said: Poor couples are sad.
is really not based on nothing.
Because, before love, it is survival. If even the survival problem cannot be solved, how can there be extra thoughts to talk about love?
And if there is always a dispute over the issue of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, over time, it will greatly affect the relationship between the husband and wife, and love will slowly disappear.
Moreover, the reason why your parents oppose your feelings is not because they are dissatisfied with your object, nor is it because they are afraid that you will be taken away by others.
is because they will guess whether you will be happy in the future based on the status quo of the other party, and will see places you can't see.
When parents find that the gap between the other party and you is too great, they will definitely object.
is like what the author Cao Xuemin said in the book "Breakup Psychology":
"It is not your love that your parents oppose, but the life they speculate that this love will bring you, and they don't want you to experience that. I also feel that you can’t bear that kind of life.”
Moreover, the feelings that are not approved by your parents will leave a shadow in the heart of the opposing party, and will also have self-denial even if you finally get married. I can't forget it in my heart.
Therefore, it is difficult to last long without the approval of parents.
Even if you get married, love will be slowly wiped out, and it will also set the fuse for marriage.
02 No matter who you are with, you must have the confidence to leave each other at any time.
Yishu once said:
"Never underestimate the coldness of men when they break up. The stupidest thing about women is to give up work for the so-called family and want independent thinking. First of all, you must be financially independent, at least have the ability to support yourself when you are gone, so that you can continue to live with dignity."
thinks so.
Jiang Nansun's aunt Dai Qian has her own business, is a very economically independent and intellectual woman. When
and her husband were quarreling, her husband blurted out: "Divorce."
Jiang Nansun’s aunt Dai Xi said: “Divorce when divorced.”
As a result, Daisy’s husband regretted it, but Daisy was unwilling not to divorce. Up.
I would like to ask, if Daisy is not financially independent, but has a palm up, she must rely on her husband for everything.
Then when they quarreled, her husband blurted out an angry word. When they got divorced, did she react to worry and fear, fearing that she would be homeless in the future and have no support for life?, Instead of calmly saying: "Divorce when divorced."
Therefore, women must understand that no matter who you are with, how much the other person loves you, you must have the confidence to leave the other person at any time.
Don't let men think that you are a woman whose palms are up and you have to rely on yourself for everything. Without him you can't live. There is a line in the
TV series "My First Half of My Life", which is still unforgettable for me:
"No one will become what you think, the safe haven of this life and this life, only you are your last refuge."
Say no?
Women should know that no one can be your support for life.
After all, if you support the mountain, the mountain will fall, rely on people, people will run, and only you are the most reliable.
And, the one who can accompany you to the end is only you.
Therefore, be nice to yourself, have your own business, and don’t hold your palms up. When you want to leave the other party, you can pat the table and say: "Divorce."
03 Woman, want to fulfill yourself
Kim Jong-in once said:
"in the world" There is no accident, all miracles and happiness are created by ourselves." Z1z
is true.
Zhu Suosuo has been fostered in his uncle's house since he was 8 years old, but his father, a seaman, still sends money regularly.
Despite this, the feeling of being under the fence is always bad.
But fortunately, Zhu Suosuo never feels inferior because of being under the fence. On the contrary, he is full of confidence and is still working hard to change the trajectory of his life.
At first, I thought that Zhu Suosuo sent information to Ye Jinyan on behalf of Jiang Nansun in order to proactively strike up a conversation with Ye Jinyan, a senior executive of a listed company, and on the premise of betraying her own beauty, but when she looked later, she realized that she was only fighting for herself. opportunity.
It's a pity that she didn't know who the other party was, so she trusted the other party and mistakenly treated the other person as the boss.
It's right to want to find opportunities for yourself, but you must be defensive. No stranger will treat you easily.
and those strangers who have only met you soon, who treat you well, either want to pursue you or have other plans.
In life, there are quite a few women who think that the opposite sex they just met is good to them because they are attractive, so they have been enjoying the goodness of the other person to themselves, and they may be cheated of money and sex.
So, trying hard like Zhu Suosuo for what you want, right?
must be right, but remember that before fighting for an opportunity, you must first understand the other party's background and have a deep understanding of the other party in order to get a chance to negotiate.
is not like Zhu Suosuo, trusting each other without any doubt with a suit.
Carina Lau once said:
“Without financial independence, there is a lack of self-esteem; without ideological independence, there is a lack of autonomy; without personality independence, there is a lack of self-confidence.”
agrees.
So, women, you must learn from Zhu Suosuo. If you want to get something, you must actively strive for it and fulfill yourself.
Don’t think that with your palms up, you will be relaxed and happy. You will have to pay the price for what you don’t get through your own efforts. Choosing to rely on men will only make you lose yourself slowly.
The rest of your life is not long. I hope you can know the feelings of your parents against you. It is really for your good. No matter who you are with, you must maintain the confidence to be able to leave the other party at any time. Women must rely on themselves to fulfill themselves. Some pictures of
come from the Internet, and are deleted by copyright infringement.
is the original first release, infringement must be investigated.
I am Wu Gugua, a freelance writer, ten o'clock reading contract author, and multi-platform original author. I am working hard to meet a better self. If you like me, you can follow me and work hard with me to meet a better self.
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