Eleven sisters and Gao Jiezhen
In the 1970s, families often had many children. At that time, the economic conditions were poor and food and clothing were in short supply. Under such an environment, parents could not provide all their children for school education, so the older children had to go out to work and earn money for the year. Younger siblings are studying. In order to limit population growth, my country has implemented a family planning policy, and a family can only have one child.
However, because people still adhere to the traditional conservative patriarchal thought, parents check the sex of the fetus in the hospital and choose to give birth, which has caused a serious imbalance in the ratio of men to women in my country.
In recent years, my country’s fertility has declined and the population is aging. my country has begun to implement a two-child policy to alleviate the problem of population aging. Parents have two children, so they hope that the children will support each other. However, many families still follow the traditional thinking, which causes this kind of support to "change the taste".
Gao Jiezhen and his wife
sisters pooled money to buy a house for her younger brother
When Xiao Gao was 22 years old, they married their girlfriend who had been in love for four years.
When Xiaogao was born, his mother had given birth to eleven sisters for him, so he was loved by his sisters since he was a child. Xiaogao is the only boy in the family. Z11z's mother never asked him to do any housework. Instead, his sister started working on the ground when he was 7 or 8.
Xiaogao’s family is poor, and his parents can barely fill the stomachs of the family and cannot support the children for school. Xiaogao has three sisters who have never entered school. They went out to work as an adult to subsidize the family. One of them was admitted to college after graduating from high school but the university tuition was expensive. The sister of chose to drop out in order to create better learning conditions for Xiaogao. Part-time job .
Gao Jiezhen's sisters
, but the hard work of the sisters did not pay off, Xiao Gao's grades were not enough to be admitted to the university. After graduating from high school, he began to fall in love. Four years later, his girlfriend became pregnant. Xiao Gao's parents were unable to provide the marriage expenses for their son. They were not even prepared for the gift money. Seeing that his girlfriend's belly was getting bigger and bigger, but their marriage was still undecided, Xiao Gao was very worried.
At this critical juncture, Xiaogao’s sisters put out their savings for many years and put together 320,000 yuan for his brother to buy a house for his brother’s marriage.
"Helping the Demon"
After Xiao Gao's affairs were posted on the Internet , a sharp netizen commented that Xiao Gao's sister was the Demon of Fudi, and she could only become cannon fodder.
Helping the younger brother refers to the sister's role as a mother and dedicating to her younger brother without care. Most of these girls are affected by the family. Parents tell their daughters that it is okay to let their younger brother when they are young. His mind is deeply ingrained and it is hard to change when he grows up.
is based on the traditional concept of patriarchal patriarchy in the original family from . Boys, as sons and younger brothers, have been favored since childhood and lack independence. If they grow up and get married and cannot bear the responsibilities of their own family, then they will Will choose to rely on the closest person .
Gao Jiezhen's marriage scene
If their parents are unable to support these giant babies, the responsibility will fall on the other children, so the sisters have to take on the responsibility of supporting the younger brother and become the demon.
Girls who grow up in this kind of thinking often fail to realize that becoming a helper demon is a burden to the new family and pay for the native family . They think it is natural to help their younger brother. There are a few girls who can realize that it is wrong to do this, but the idea of inferiority between men and women that she has accepted since childhood makes her unable to fight against her native family.
After a girl who grew up with this kind of thinking and started a family, it is difficult to think about the new family. Instead, she puts all her energy on her younger brother. If things go on like this, the other half will be dissatisfied, and the marriage will break down. .
Gao Jiezhen’s sisters
how to avoid the tragedy of "helping the devil"
People often say that children who grow up in doting are difficult to be independent after entering the society. are cowardly and incompetent, and may even be abandoned by the times. It’s difficult for a child who is also doted by my sister Fudimo to grow up, but the sister doesn’t know her love.It is a spoiling.
Parents and sisters are too doting on their children so that the children cannot think independently after they grow up. They are very dependent on their family members, and even the children have to rely on family members to support them after they become adults. The
siblings should really support each other, but it should be based on the equality of both sides to help each other, instead of falling to one side, only one person benefits . If sister really loves her younger brother, she should let her younger brother take on the responsibilities he should bear, instead of giving him overly superior treatment. Z10z should let her younger brother experience some setbacks so that he can grow faster.
Gao Jiezhen's family
This tragedy is also inseparable from the original family's ideological education for their children. Parents should treat two children equally when educating children. Instill the idea of equality between men and women in children so that they can feel that their status is equal in their daily lives. Promote the communication between the two children in daily life, make the children more intimate, and can help each other and discuss with each other what happens in adulthood.
The country advocates that boys and girls are the same. This is also the idea of equality between men and women advocated by the country. Parents should accept the new era and new ideas and abandon the traditional and conservative ideas, so that they can correctly educate their children and make them grow up confidently and happily.
Conclusion
Xiaogao's 11 older sisters gave up the conditions of going to school to provide for their younger brothers, but Xiaogao did not hand in a perfect academic answer sheet to his family, which shows that it is difficult for boys who grow up under doting to achieve success. Z2z
sister and brother
Xiaogao's sister collected 320,000 for him to get married, and used their savings over the years to dedicate to his younger brother, but they have not considered how they want to form a brand new family, nor have they considered their own happiness. Setting up a new family after brother
gets married does not bring benefits to the elder sisters. On the contrary, if something happens to this new family, will probably still need money to support from the elder sisters, so the elder sisters have served as Xiao Gao’s cannon fodder. .
Because of the emergence of the demon of helping the younger brother, many boys will try to avoid choosing girls with younger brothers when choosing the other half. They think that the demon of helping the younger brother is a drag. If parents give birth to a boy and a girl, they must treat their children with a good balance to avoid the wrong idea that girls are inferior to men, otherwise it will affect her life and make such girls feel inferior.
sister and brother
when they had conflicts with others to solve problems, her inferiority complex made her dare not think about herself, more about the feelings of the other party, and even hurt herself to meet the needs of others, forming a pleasing personality.
Parents’ ideological education often determines the direction of their children’s life to a certain extent. Parents must learn how to be a qualified parent, put their minds right, and will be a role model for their children to better help their children grow.
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