For men, no matter how old they are, if they can find a relatively young and beautiful woman to associate or enter a marriage, that is the most proud and decent thing in their hearts!
But a man who really fulfills this wish will definitely live a happy life?
Please listen to the cry of a middle-aged man: Being with a girl in her twenties is not necessarily a good thing. After reading his experience, I believe everyone will know the reason.
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Chang Zhijiang is 42 years old this year. Four years ago, he divorced with his ex-wife because of his personality.
A year later, he met 25-year-old Zhang Weiyi at a gathering of friends. At that time, he had a good impression of him and pursued him.
His appearance and financial conditions are not bad. When his daughter divorced, he was also awarded to his ex-wife to support him. Although he needs to bear a part of the support every month, it is not a burden for him.
Compared with a man in his twenties who matches Zhang Weiyi's age, Chang Zhijiang is obviously more mature and economically more dominant. Therefore, with his own charm and fierce pursuit, he successfully touched the other's heart.
Because Zhang Weiyi has reached the age of marriage, the two have been dating for less than a year, because Chang Zhijiang promised to pay Zhang Weiyi’s 300,000 gift, and his own house and car are ready-made, so the parents did not care about him. Having a history of marriage, he quickly agreed to the marriage of two people.
It was only after living together for two years after marriage that Chang Zhijiang discovered that there are still many gaps and huge differences between the two people.
is like him, people in middle age, most of their thoughts tend to be family, but when young women face the choice of marriage and the outside world, they always prefer a colorful life, and it is difficult to really settle down and live the ordinary marriage with him Life, this makes him very uncomfortable.
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Moreover, Chang Zhijiang pays more attention to career. At his age,
made a lot of money, but it didn't fall from the sky to just hit him, but because of the hard work and struggle in front of him, he gradually reached his current height and held his current position.
In order to keep everything he has, he can only go all out, there is no way to always pay attention to his wife's needs every minute, and it is impossible to always be by her side. But it is precisely because of this that Zhang Weiyi always has emotions and tantrums with him! After all,
has never experienced the polishing of time. Most women have relatively naive ideas. They focus on romance, but they don't understand that men are already exhausted under the pressure of life.
will not consciously be a good internal helper, just because a man does not do everything he wants like before marriage, and his life after marriage is not as good as she thought before, and gradually becomes dissatisfied.
It is only a trivial matter to have trouble with men at home, but young girls are rarely willing to stay at home alone and do housework in front of the walls.
Therefore, Zhang Weiyi often ran out with the excuse that "I stayed alone in the house by myself, it was too deserted, and I went back to my natal house to accompany my parents." In fact, most of them were to go happy with the friends of the men and women before marriage.
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Chang Zhijiang, on the one hand, he can't worry about his young wife, but he has no skills. On the other hand, he has to deal with the two new parents-in-laws who have great appetites and always find all kinds of excuses to reach out to him. .
Because in the eyes of these two men and women who are only ten years older than him, his young, beautiful, and no-married daughter married a divorced man of such an old age, so he has to pay more for money and material. In order to make up.
Therefore, there is no mercy to raise money, let alone feel embarrassed. At first, the amount of
was not large, and he would probably agree to it, until the other party asked him to support his brother-in-law in buying a house, he rationally refused.
But because of this incident, Zhang Weiyi quarreled with him again, did not cook, did not clean, all day long, he was either buying madly to vent his anger, or ran out to have dinner and drinks with his friends as revenge... every time
When he went home, he either faced his wife's unhappy face and quarrels, or faced a messy and empty house, where he couldn't even eat hot water or food.
have to say that marriage is not only a combination of two people, but alsoIt is two families. If a woman's family wants too much, it will be a disaster in the marriage!
If this woman doesn't know how to prioritize and doesn't know her current identity, it will be even worse. Can a marriage like
be called happy? I'm afraid he can't tell such a lie no matter how much he can deceive himself. This is also the key reason why he now thinks that marrying a young woman is not necessarily a good thing!
Conclusion: The happy marriage of
is not the beauty on the surface; it is not the dignity of a young and beautiful wife by his side, but a couple who knows and fits well in all aspects.
can manage the relationship between two people in the ordinary years, and guard the serious and prudent decision that he made in his life!
It is not difficult for a middle-aged man to marry a young woman, but if there is no way to effectively communicate and break-in with each other, there will be considerable differences and estrangements between the two parties in terms of three views, personalities, and their understanding of marriage and life. If the girl’s family is too greedy.
So for men, I am afraid that such a marriage will be a disaster!
Therefore, in the face of love and marriage, it is necessary to consider all aspects, especially cautious and careful.
Otherwise, all the indiscretions and negligence will be the reason for regret in the future.
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