Should I persist in falling in love with a man 15 years older than me? I feel like no one will love me like him anymore

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Text: Shili

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Xiao Ai is a very quiet and gentle girl. After graduating from college, like many other girls, she became a North drifter. Because she looks very beautiful, Xiao Ai’s job It is also very good. The monthly salary is above 15,000. Although it is not very high, living in the city of Beijing can be regarded as worry-free.

According to reason, for a girl like Xiao Ai, it should be very popular in the city of Beijing. In fact, it is true that Xiao Ai has no shortage of suitors around him again, but Xiao Ai prefers to fall in love with a man who is 15 years older than him. From a rational level, Xiao Ai is also very clear that he is not suitable for marrying the other party, because the other party is still a divorced person with a child who is only 5 years old.

Faced with such a situation, Xiao Ai was in a dilemma. She didn't know whether she should insist on such a relationship and marry the other party, or should resolutely choose to leave.

To some extent, the reason why Xiao Ai is reluctant to choose to leave is because the man has taken care of Xiao Ai to the extent that he has taken care of him. Xiao Ai said that the man treated herself even more than her father. He was not only very careful and considerate, but also very patient.

1. Why do you fall in love with the uncle?

I don’t know when it started. Uncles, who seem to be solidified in the future in the eyes of ordinary people, can hardly make big changes in life or career, and began to become the target of many girls. What is the reason behind

? Is it because of the social status and strength that the uncles already have? Obviously, the uncles who can be recognized by young girls must be people with a certain amount of money or social status. But obviously this is not the main reason, because it will only take another 5 to 10 years before those young people who are still young people will become uncles, and they will also have a certain amount of money and social status. So the reason why a girl falls in love with an uncle may not only be because of these.

So what is the reason behind this? In fact, the most critical point is that most girls today are insecure. Obviously this is something that most boys of the same age cannot satisfy them, because from the perspective of maturity, boys generally mature later than girls. Therefore, many insecure girls often come to this after experiencing several loves. My experience is that if you want to get enough security and the feeling of being held in the palm of your hand, you can only find men who are much older than yourself, because such men are mature enough and know how to care more. And considerate.

So the reason why mature uncles are so attractive to young girls is not only because of their money and status, but also because of their maturity.

2. Personality has nothing to do with age. The uncles who fall in love with loli easily are mostly selfish

So mature uncles deserve to be loved? What kind of person was the uncle Xiao Ai met? Obviously, he took care of Xiao Ai in every possible way, and he was very patient. So the problem is that no one will be good to another for no reason, and their contributions must be purposeful.

So, for the mature uncle of Xiao Ai, what is he paying for? Is it to find a stepmother for your child? Obviously this is not the case, the reason is very simple, because as a mature uncle, he can't help but know that a girl like Xiao Ai is incapable of taking on the role of a stepmother, and it's impossible not to know that a loli like Xiao Ai even herself Can't take care of it. So there is no doubt that this mature uncle takes care of Xiao Ai in every possible way. He definitely doesn't want to find a stepmother for his child. If he wants to, he will never find Xiao Ai like this.

So what does this mature uncle want from Xiao Ai? In fact, the answer to this question is very simple, that is, he just wants to possess Xiao Ai's youth. In the end, will he really be with Xiao Ai? Will he really continue to give for Xiao Ai wholeheartedly, like a husband to a husbandObviously this is a big question mark like the wife's contribution. Why does

say this? The reason is simple, because women’s youth is limited. If they do not choose to marry before the age of 30, it will be very difficult to meet their favorite objects. If they are 35 years old She didn't have a baby in a few moments, and she was already an elderly woman if she wanted to have a baby.

So no matter from what kind of perspective? A mature uncle, especially those who are divorced and have children, if they easily possess the youth of a young girl, whether they are true or false, they are essentially selfish. Such a person is inevitable in character. There are also problems.

So, from the perspective of a girl, if you want to be a person who is really responsible to yourself and a real winner in life, you must not easily fall in love with those uncles who are 10 years older than yourself. Especially when the other party is still divorced with a child, don't easily regard the other party as your own destiny, because the other party may never want to marry you.

is such a mature uncle, why should he be so good to girls? That is, they actually know that they can't be responsible for the girl in front of them, so they will inevitably become more patient and take good care of you, because only in this way, they can get a little peace of mind.

But as a girl, if you are obsessed with this feeling of being cared for and taken care of, you will plunge yourself into a boundless abyss, because one day, the man who once took care of you like a father will choose to leave.

3. There is only one kind of uncle who can marry

. To a certain extent, the reason why a young girl falls in love with an uncle who is 10 years older than herself is simply because they lack a sense of security and the existence is very serious Electra episode. It is not difficult to imagine that such a girl would not get enough fatherly love in her childhood, so they would easily fall in love with an uncle who is much older than them. Are uncles like

really not worth marrying? Or can't you marry?

Obviously, from the perspective of love, love really does not distinguish age. But no matter what reason we get married, we need to consider many practical issues, such as the health, ability, character and so on. If there is a problem with the other party’s health, then there is no doubt that when you marry him, you are likely to face serious financial problems; if the other party’s ability is not enough, then there is no doubt that if you marry the other party, the other party may even There is no ability to support a family. Not to mention the character, no matter who we marry, no matter how old the other person is, if the character is not good, we cannot easily choose to marry the other person.

From a realistic point of view, or from a marriage point of view, there is only one kind of uncle worthy of marrying, that is, they have a very healthy body, have certain abilities, and must have no problems in character people. Obviously, if the uncle we meet is such a person, and the other party has not had any marriage history, then there is no problem with marrying such an uncle, and such an uncle will definitely cherish you even more.

So when we fall in love with an uncle, we must keep ourselves fully rational, because only in this way can we know that we are reluctant to give up to the uncle, whether it is because we really love them or because we can’t do without them The way we treat us. Therefore, if you really decide to marry an uncle, you need to become rational, because marriage is not love, marriage needs to face many cruel and very real problems, otherwise your life may be affected by such an experience. A fundamental change has taken place.

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