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Text: Shili
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"Why do you work so hard every day? Isn't it the same as how much you do? Why do you work so hard?" Whenever you hear your boyfriend right When she said these words, Xiaolan felt a little uncomfortable. After all, she worked hard every day in the company to get a promotion as soon as possible and earn a little more. But her boyfriend always has this cynical attitude and hopes I have also become such a mediocre person.
Nowadays, there is a term on the Internet called the philosophy of fishing. Many people have this attitude to life. Xiaolan’s boyfriend actually believes in the philosophy of fishing, both at work and in life. A philosophical principle. Xiao Lan didn't want to talk more about things at work, but in the process of getting along between the two, Xiao Lan's boyfriend always believed in the fishing philosophy, which was vividly reflected in some things.
For example, let’s take a simple little thing. You need to wash your clothes clean to make them comfortable. However, when Xiaolan’s boyfriend washes clothes, he always washes sloppyly. According to his Logically speaking, if the clothes are dirty, they need to be washed again.
Maybe there are many young people who are very following the philosophy of fishing, and even take the philosophy of fishing as the norm in life, but the attitude of this philosophy is whether it is at work or in the process of love between men and women. There will be huge obstacles, after all, fishing in troubled waters is actually just letting one linger in the current state of life.
Why do so many people believe in Moyu's philosophy?
Talking about why boyfriends believe in the philosophy of fishing? Xiaolan said that we should start from the emotional experience of a previous failure. Xiaolan’s boyfriend and his ex-girlfriend, between the two men chasing girls, when her boyfriend chases her ex-girlfriend, every time They worked very hard once, and in the end the two were also successful together, but after the two got along, no matter how hard Xiaolan's boyfriend worked hard, his ex-girlfriend was always indifferent to him.
made Xiaolan's boyfriend lose his confidence this time, thinking that no matter how hard he worked, he would not get more rewards. In the end, Xiaolan's boyfriend broke up with his ex-girlfriend. Later, Xiaolan’s boyfriend found Xiaolan, because Xiaolan herself is a carefree girl, in her life she did not have high demands on her marriage partner, and she never asked her boyfriend after they were together. Some harsh things make Xiaolan's boyfriend feel very comfortable.
did not expect that it was precisely because of this state that Xiaolan's boyfriend believed in the philosophy of fishing. After all, he felt that more and more were the same, and he also let Xiaolan's boyfriend gradually develop this attitude from marriage and love. In work and life.
In fact, the reason why many young people now believe in the philosophy of fish fishing, more importantly, they may have encountered some problems in emotion or life, and the things they have struggled for have not received more rewards. Therefore, It is discouraged, especially after the blow of a failed relationship, some young people may feel that no matter how hard they work, they will not get the perfect love they want. It is better to go fishing in troubled waters instead of working hard. Live in a hurry.
There are many young people who have been defeated by this kind of failed emotional experience. Some of them may have experienced one failure, some may have experienced many times. After experiencing several blows, even the most powerful people will There are some waves, and those who are slightly weak in their hearts lose confidence in the next relationship, and even break the pot and let it develop randomly. What are the benefits of
fishing philosophy?
Xiaoli’s boyfriend and Xiaolan’s boyfriend also had the same experience. Later, this belief in the philosophy of fish-fishing also emerged in her heart, and it was also vividly reflected in the process of getting along between the two. Unlike Xiaolan’s boyfriend, Xiaoli’s boyfriend, in the process of maintaining the relationship between the two people, is more to make yourself a little more comfortable. For example, if two people do housework together, Xiaoli’s boyfriend always It's sneak rape.
likeSuch small things abound, so why is Xiaoli’s boyfriend unwilling to pay too much during the process of maintaining the relationship between the two, and even unwilling to do some small things? Doesn't he know that this relationship will not get better and better?
Like these people who believe in the philosophy of fishing, they want to make themselves more comfortable in an emotional experience. If they don’t do more things, they may not make more mistakes, or say themselves. I don't want to pay too much, because I won't get a return after all.
It is precisely because of this kind of thinking that these people who believe in the philosophy of fishing fish, in their emotional experience, only want to get, and are not willing to give at all, because even if they give more in their brains Will not get more, and may even have the opposite effect.
No matter how Xiaoli and Xiaolan advise their boyfriends, how they explain the truth to them, they can't turn the corner, always think that what they want to do is right, and they even persuade Xiaoli and Xiaolan to stay Don't make too much effort during the two people getting along, as long as the two people maintain the current relationship in a confused way, and don't even think about what the two people will do in the future?
Not surprisingly, Xiaoli and Xiaolan will definitely break up with their boyfriends in the end, because the object of the perfunctory treatment of affection like this is not worth getting along with, let alone discussing marriage in the future, and Xiaoli and Xiaolan will also You will not entrust yourself to such a perfunctory object. If you still maintain this state after marriage, how can the family maintain life and maintain development?
Take the relationship seriously and work hard, happiness will eventually come
Maybe we can’t change our lives, we can’t change others, but we can change ourselves, in every emotional experience, whether it is the active or passive , We must take every relationship seriously. When a relationship comes to us, our goal is to manage the relationship and cultivate it into a positive result.
If you blindly convey some negative emotions in your relationship, you will always feel that you will not be rewarded for your efforts, or that you are afraid that you will not be rewarded for your efforts. If this negative emotion is gradually expanded, you will lose yourself in the relationship. , I don't know what kind of feelings I will look for, what kind of other half I will look for.
We should be positive and serious about feelings, and we should work hard. No matter how many times we have experienced failures and how many times we have suffered, we always believe that one day we will meet a satisfied partner. Don't let us have confidence because of our failed emotional experiences. After being hit and devastated, I couldn't bring up confidence ever since.
But if you think about it in reverse, the emotional shock you have been hit can better avoid the tortuous road ahead and let us embark on a smooth road. The so-called succumbing to one's strength and losing one's horse is not a blessing. The past emotional experience does not represent the present, let alone the future. As long as everyone is actively working hard to treat each relationship seriously, they will definitely be able to cultivate a positive result.
Beautiful emotional experience requires everyone to work hard to spread their arms and embrace, even if the front is full of thorns, just step over it, and more importantly, have a positive attitude, everyone should say goodbye to fishing Philosophy, face life positively and optimistically, face every emotional experience. The beautiful emotional experience of
allows everyone to face life positively, every love affair, every marriage, not only something on the surface, but more importantly, a sense of happiness from the heart. This kind of happiness is achieved by my own efforts, not by others, nor by treating every relationship in a perfunctory manner.
Be positive, work hard, and sunny. Life is always better. Only when you work hard with your partner, your relationship experience will get better and better, and your emotions will become more and more abundant, and one day you will have a happy life. family.
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